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It took many years for her to reach this stage. Does not happen overnight. In the beginning after I came out, it was the polite, denial thing where we don't really discuss that aspect of my life. Over the years she realised that she can either learn to accept it and be involved in my life or forever be shut out. It is a choice that parents have to make for themselves. As children who happened to be gay, I think it is our job to be honest and truthful to them about who we are, and it is their responsibility to process and deal with the reality. By denying or lying to them I think causes more issues, especially if you bow down to their pressure and get married. At some point, especially the gay men on this forum who had married because of such pressure, you got to ask yourself can you live your life for your parents? As an adult, only you and you alone are responsible for your happiness. Never make others happy at the expense of your own happiness. Sure, being altruistic sounds really tempting, so that you can be saint. But at the end of it, when your parents are deceased what then? Do you get to live your life as your own at that point? Or by then, would the pressures of raising your own family deny you of your happiness again? When traditional families pressure you to get married, ask what is the objective? Getting married is not about procreation. It is not about having a fabulous wedding. It is not because your HDB flat is ready. It is not about family pressure. Getting married is about being in love and wanting to spend the rest of your lives together. It is about honesty.

anyone was at the exercise corner (next to the roundabout which was very dark previously) just now abt 11pm+ (10 Oct)? the exercise corner is also just opposite the big canal. i noticed something at the exercise corner direction which spooked me & my hair immediately stood. i quickly drove off w/o a 2nd glance.