Well, being there smooth bear, I am sure you will have your own market who can appreciate you. Work towards those who appreciate who, instead of focusing on the "lacks" others think about you, just you dont suit their cup of tea. Eg . I give you my own example. During the month of Dec, I changed my exercise regime entirely, so I lost about 6-7 kg. My waist lost another 3-3.5 inches. So overall, people have commented I look more lean, tight with my veins popping along my arms, chest and legs etc. 2 weeks ago, I met a friend's friend whom I found, yes cute and lean fit, but he is a chaser. Over dinner, he can tell me, he likes my face, but not my bod. If I put on another 15kg for him, he will sure date me out. But the back of my head was saying " Yeah right, over my dead body will I do that for you. Last night, by chance I met a friend who put on so much weight (about 15 at least) He used to be pretty dashing, the fit kind that most peple will find appealling. I was surprised with this sudden change. A year ago, he met a muscular chap that he fell for , but the chap is only into chubs and bears. Thus to gain his affection, my friend actually forgo his fit image , stopped exercising, ate and ate and put on about 16kg within 5months. Sadly, that guy dumped him for another chub. At 29, he has so much of health complications he imposed upon himself through the weight he gained. So my point is, if you ever want to change your image, do it for yourself, but not for fickle people who don't appreciate who you really are.