Dear Married Homosexual men of Singapore, I have been on this site for the better half of a year now, usually just lurking around the corners of topics and posts, finding it an interesting mix of erotic and curious at the inner thoughts and discussions of a Singaporean Gay Community. This forum has seen much in its activity. Sexual tips, fetish discussions, cruising spot areas, news adverts, hot people, the occasional pxxnography exchange, love advice, hook-ups, meet-ups and more. Some of them are new to me, others are obvious things and some are just plainly erotic and horny to read. But there is one thing that is a common and absolute running theme in this forum is the use of it by married men to get hookups. I may be gay, I may be young at 18 years of age, I may be inexperienced in life and boast no real authority or credentials to my name or rank. I do not know or understand the reasons or issues of the other people in life and thus I may be in no position to say what I want to say. But I just cannot stand it. Married Men of this site, please stop abusing the vows of your marriage. Please stop using this site as a tool to cheat on your wife and betray your family. Please stop proudly claiming your marriage status and using it as some sort of fetish to get hook ups and sexual favours. I don't care if you were pressured into marriage or that you no longer loved your wife or never loved your wife in the first place. I don't care if you discover halfway through your marriage that you are gay or that you married out of convenience. I don't care. Just stop abusing your spouses. Stop lying to them and betraying them. I'm not religious. I share no faith with any church or temple or mosque. But I believe that you should never lie, cheat or betray the person you have married, in most circumstances, gay or straight. You are being selfish and unfair to them. They do not deserve such brazen behaviour. If you want to have sex with other men, go ahead. But accept the consequences first and come clean with your spouse first. Thank you. Aronnax