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I met you before and you told me your grievances. And I told you before, to upmarket , enlarge your circles of chasers, or to even widen your options, all you need to do is 3-4 months in the gym, to strip off all those excessive weight and to let go all the unnecessary and unhealthy emotional baggages you were hoarding for so long. 3-4 months will be a very tedious process. But the vibes I got from you not wanting to proceed any further, was that you were very conscious of your looks and weight, and you were afraid how the other fitter boys will look at you. You were afraid to be laughed and mocked at. Maybe I could be wrong, but observing you from a distance, even from the back of my head, I can tell whats in your mind. Shortly, you told me how glad you managed to lose 3kgs with 7-10 days via dieting and exercising. I was catually happy for you. But somehow, I just knew and was afraid, your inferiority complex with take the grip over you, and you will just give up hope on yourself. And you know that I knew you did. There is nothing wrong born a chub, because no one can blame your genetic programming. Now Life is very fair to everyone. All of us were given our own unique form of body. But how are we, as an individual, are going to improvise it for our feeling of well -being and health, or do we abuse and neglect it, then let it slowly deteriorate, bringing with it other health complications....the ultimate the choice , is still yours. There is a very limited market for chubs. There are even more limited types of clothes and styling you can spoil yourselves, because of your body form cannot carry out the clothes an ordinary guy can. It looks totally incongruous on you. That also includes the type of hairstyle and hair colour you would like to adopt. Have I not often told you, not to dream too far, not to worry what you do not have, but rather, look at the bits of resources you have in hand, then be abit creative, but honest with yourself, to proceed improving what other aspects of your life, you should prioritize, what needs your immediate attention, and what can you create and mould yourself with all that you are left with? They should be your studies, issues with your immediate people/families and your health. Not a wild futile search for love and relationship because emotionally, you swing terribly and you don't even know what you really want, where are you heading and who you are. You failed to look into the inside of you , in areas that needs to be addressed. You rely on the illusionary outside world for a shoulder to lean on, and more often, you get so much disappointment. You often think too much, dream of the most ridiculous, conjuring up some of the most negative thoughts, which you didn't realize it is an aura shield you create, repelling people away from you. Now do you know why you have being facing a strings of rejections? You simply repell people by the negative energy you don upon yourself. Now sit and think the numbers of remarks people have given you ( I mean people you have met from chatlines, facebook etc) Weight the balance, of how many REAL compliments you have VS the numbers of negative remarks and snidings you received so far. Take all those little bits and pieces of jigsaws, and form them into a larger picture, and you will see what I mean. Many times, for anyone, even me, we all just want to look good in a certain fashion style, hairstyle or colour, but unfortunately, they don't suit us, no matter how much we force ourselves to carry it. The results and feedbacks are often the reverse. You just have to learn to forgo them, sometimes, by learning through the hard way. One good form of way of improving your personal grooming outlook? Firstly you need to look healthy and hygienic. Then ask friends and people whom have known you well enough, their opinions on what suits your grooming presentation. This is one of the most reliable way, you can source and to improve yourself, instead of being insulted by strangers who dont like you or don't know you , or even don't want to know you, in the first place.

You guys think thats bad? Wait till you hear this real incident. Last year around July, my HK collegue was complaining to me what the PRC did to the crabs they sold to the Hkgers, beacuse it was reported in the HK papers. Apparently to bluff up the crabs to make them look more big and fleshy, what they did was to inject some kind of chemicals into the crusteans. Then the HKers ate those crabs... What happened next was the chemical was absorbed into the human system, causing an adverse reaction. The chemicals actually degenerated the muscle tissues and cells, causing the muscles to waste away quite quickly, which was like a sudden sacropenia/dystrophy. The effect was irreversible and most of the victims ended up wheelchair-ridden. Just a few days ago eating in a foodcourt with some friends, never had I ever flared my temper in public. But to this fxxking stupid PRC girl, she deserve it from me 100%. I ordered Ice Kachang, she gave me Cheng Teng, and asked me to pay up. I refused to because I said I never ordered any Cheng teng. And she insisted it was my mistake but I must take what was given to me and pay up I showed her their differences by pointing the pictures above the stall. Rising her voice a little, she insisted she never made any mistake. The mistake was mine, so pay up. Suddenly I just flared up rising my voice at her In Chinese, this is what I said... " Ni Ta Ma de Chow Chee Bye !! Are you fxxking tired of living? What my mistake? Youare so fxxking blind stupid and rude ! You might as well go work at Geylang and open your legs for all the Men ! Some one should just give you a tight slap and send you back where you should belong !" At this point, she was so shocked and was near to tears. Then some manager came over and I explained to her what happened. Not only she got a scolding from the manager, I got a free Ice Kachang as a compensation. Haha !

From one of the Snowball's thread: ◎想要强调自己，等於暴露自身的无能；想要別人肯定，等於对自己的否定。 ◎在意自己，就会表现不好；在意別人，就会受到设限。 ◎面对自己的內在，是自我改变的开始。 I guess is time for self-reflection A recent radio caller, samantha said “I live in Holland Village, and I just can’t understand why people from the heartlands want to come here. We people are cultured, and you heartlanders are definitely not cultured,” she had originally said on radio. She defined heartlanders as being “people from Ang Mo Kio, Yishun, Toa Payoh and the nearby Bukit Batok” who “have no manners”, “talk loudly” and wear “cheap clothes from Bugis Street”. Here's are some questions for you consider, 1. From the headline, YOU already classified yourself as OA (regardless what your ex and current friends said about "you are too good for them". Do you feel the same? 2. Some of the replies mentioned, relationship is a strike of balance between two parties. Did you do it? how you did it? The no. of attempts on assurance that you love him, what did you do wrong here? I've known this couple for ten years, never did I see the higher income party make a sacarstic remark or shows superiority infront of his partner. Occassionally, they might have remarks like: "really, there are so many poor people in Singapore?" but he is very generous to the poor by making large sum of donation to the needy charities. His partner loves him not because of his earning power, OA status or posh gifts (actually not many that I knew). Is your relationship based on mutual respect, loving each other and with open discussion? Or you are the dictator and made all decisions ..... 3. I am sure you have a lot of OA friends? how do you feel when you are surrounded by them? If you blend well with them, go find partner in that circle and you will feel better off. However, just to cautious you that no two parties will have the same materialistic status. If you think highly of yourself, find yourself a twin to love. Even twins have different characteristics and behaviour. So learn how to love not by the measurement of material but care and passion. All the best to you!!!

Same here. I will get turned off by ladies. Lol. Dunno why. I feel like guys-girls intimacy is disgusting. Even if you give me pics of miss world or miss universe or miss whatever, I wont get turned on. Haven't test it tho. Haha.

btw, I hope everyone realize that at the end of the day everyone will lose their "handsome-ness", will get illnesses, diseases etc. When we all lose that "greatness" of physical appeal etc, that's the real test for our partner whether he loves us for whatever we are or because of our appearance. If he only love the appearance, some day he will leave us because the thing he's looking for is already disappeared. Everytime I remember this, I become less judgemental to person based on only his appearance.

i think you just left your humor behind

SomeGuyInSg, you did kinda ride into this one on your high horse a bit lah. Language has the singular purpose of communicating with others - for the purpose of emoting, convincing, describing and what have you. Some have a better grasp and are more efficient in articulating, others less so. It's not for upmanship; there'll always be greater and lesser persons (Desiderata?) We do infinitely better face-to-face because our brains are equipped to process erroneous grammar and pronunciation, while spelling is a non-starter; body language fills in for much of the rest of the message. It's all about the degree of tolerance - this is why you're getting a roasting, I suppose. If you like a guy and he shows a sincerity towards you, there would be a natural forgiveness and we relent our harsher stance. Written and spoken communication give way to more primitive forms perhaps - like touch, care, smiles, tears. I've communicated often with a guy who writes without an iota of punctuation. Couldn't understand him and spent lots of time deciphering his messages ... but he was a beautiful soul and we got on famously and I was much richer for the experience. "Tai hoi" a bit lah as my mother would admonish. (... uh, tai hoi = see open ?! sorry lor! )

How come you can pick on people's grammer, and others cannot pick on yours? If you don't want others to regard your posting as cheap thrill, then don't behave like one...... :P

I spent $3.80 for my haircut at Snip Avenue. My hair is short...makes no difference whether good stylist or not...

Hey all, i wanna ask if u'll mind that someone who chats u up have bad english. Would u point it out, or would u just keep quiet and avoid chatting with the person in the future? Personally i'll mind bad english and avoid chatting with the person, so now i'm curious if it's just me or if others do the same. I use short forms n msn lingo too, but someone ppl does it really extremely. A random example is a guy whom i've chatted with who doesnt use question marks (or basically all punctuations). So he would say "had dinner" and i'd have to ask if that was a question. Accompanied by many other grammar problems everywhere, i got tired talking to him. So my question is, Bad Grammar = Turn Off?