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The mods have discussed about the various type of Posters on BW. There are several who are Particularly Mean. Well it seems that such people are not unique in our BlowingWind Forum but quite common in LGBT sites. The author's advise: "You can’t cure crazy with a comment reply. Don’t try. Ignore mean people, and they’re likely to go away." ----------------------------------------------------------- The Nine Worst Kinds of Online Commenters By CHARLES PURDY, NOV 23, 2011 http://www.queerty.com/the-nine-worst-kind-of-online-commenters-20111123/ If you want to write for the Web, you have to have a thick skin: people get nasty. And if you want to write for a gay site, you need a Kevlar bodysuit. In my long career of putting things on the Internet, many readers have taken advantage of comments sections to threaten me with death—for offenses as serious as offering etiquette advice (which was asked for!) and writing about my enjoyment of Kylie Minogue‘s music. It’s an Internet thing. Go to any site where people can have online discussions, and you’re sure to find a lot of people saying a lot of nasty things. I just wish we LGBT brothers and sisters treated one another better than that. After I publish something, I skim comments looking for readers who have thoughtful rebuttals, interesting points, and error corrections to share— and I truly value those comments. But they’re often outnumbered by these folks, the worst commenters on Queerty: 1. One-track-mind crazies This includes the homophobic nuts who apparently receive alerts when certain topics appear on our site, just so they can come here and call us names before scurrying away like cockroaches. If you’ve come to this post to write a comment about something that someone told you appears in the Bible, this is you. Go away. 2. The person who reads only the first sentence I realize I’ve already lost this person to the comments section: He’s down there now, clickety-clacketing away with profane insults or raising points that are dealt with in this piece’s sixth paragraph. 3. The person who writes “Why are we wasting time on ____ when there are dying/oppressed people in _____?” I get this person a lot, because I write about lifestyle issues. His holier-than-thou attitude is based on a fallacy. He’s really saying, “This doesn’t interest me.” Which is fine, but it’s nothing he needs to tell the world about. That is, it’s not as though he spends all his time working to resolve world crises—he also, I assume, finds time to watch TV, listen to music, go to work, socialize with friends, eat corn chips, masturbate, troll the Internet looking for text boxes to write in, and so on. These activities, too, do not directly help end world hunger or disease. So it’s settled—we all occasionally engage in activities that other people find frivolous. 4. The person who “can’t believe” [insert writer's name] gets paid to write for the Internet Believe it. If it makes you feel any better, writing for the Internet doesn’t pay well at all. Go ahead and try it. 5. The person who is “shocked and appalled” 6. The person who is shocked and appalled about a typo Listen—typos are a fact of life, especially in the fast-paced world of the Web. I’m grateful when people point mine out, so I can fix them. But let’s agree that typos are not indicators of subpar intelligence or a failure to grasp the basics of the English language. They are the result writers writing too fast, and of having too few copy editors — and sometimes of a glass of wine at lunch. 7. The misinformed grammar expert This person thinks that you can’t end a sentence with a preposition (you can) or that you can’t split an infinitive (you can) — because Miss Higginbotham told him so in fifth grade (and everyone knows she’s the last word on the subject). As with typos, I appreciate having grammar errors pointed out, but I suggest that people do so with caution. First, do the necessary research (if you haven’t cracked a grammar or usage book in more than ten years, then you may need to refresh your notions about grammar). Second, be polite; self-appointed “grammar police” who are rude and insulting always end up making grammar errors in their comments. 8. Mean people They suck, as the popular bumper sticker of the 1990s put it. Now, good writers welcome healthy debate and differences of opinion. But mean people often mistake their opinions for facts (admittedly, there are some gray areas there), and fail to recognize that a difference of opinion does not require threats of bodily harm. Also, using nastiness and foul language (and/or all caps) makes the mean person seem insane — it does not convince anyone of the validity of his opinion (in fact, it does the opposite). I am saying this in an effort to help all readers make themselves better understood. Anonymity, of course, is one reason for the mean person’s stridency: a certain type of coward will say anything when he doesn’t have to attach his real name to it. And writing an anonymous attack screed on the Web is one way, I guess, for angry-at-the-world people to release some frustration. We should pity them. 9. People who engage with mean people You can’t cure crazy with a comment reply. Don’t try. Ignore mean people, and they’re likely to go away.

As you grow older , you will start to change and have a different and better perceptions and visions for what you have being doing religiously for years. In my teens and younger days, It was more like a male ego, who wants to have a stand for himself against the other males. I cannot deny, gymming, besides about sport and health, it was prioritized to sculpture a body desired by many. Then when you do competitive sports, it was about winnig and victory. But now looking back, if u want to Build a phyique, do it because you want to have a healthy life style. Do it because you want to feel good about yourself Do itself because you want to look good in the clothes you would like to wear to enhance your image and personality. Do it because you love yourself and want to have fun while you sweat to detox and destress yourself Anything, but to please others, or to put others down , just because you know you have a body that many are dying to have ps it is not a must to have a gymbod just because you are gay. If you are happy and can accept how you look like, you don't have to force yourself to conform to please others. For everyone of us, has our own self worth and admirers

A gay male friend had actually visited a female prostitue. He is very proud to announce after the visit "Now I know I am 100% gay and I have done my best towards my parents".

1. I was reading one of our reader, Foreign Talent's blog http://limpehft.blogspot.com/ Very interesting read. 2. His article has a linkto Kumar's Stand Up Comedy on Youtube. Very funny and Very Politically Incorrect. Go check it up.

SITEX 2011 24 Nov 2011 - 27 Nov 2011 Singapore Expo Halls 4B, 5 & 6 - 11am to 9pm Last IT show for 2011 And also the new shopping center beside expo mrt. It should be a good place to spend this weekend.

I wanted a gym bod too but I'm too lazy to discipline myself to stick to a diet or a gym routine, so my body is neither too fit nor too fat, which makes me neither here or there. But I do feel that I also want a life outside just spending my time gyming and worrying about my diet and induldge in some of the guilty pleasure of good food without having to worry about my weight. So I spend just enough time exercising and gives myself leeways to eat the food I like without having to feel guilty. Luckily, I hv enough confident and charm to get the attention I want when I want. So I am not complaining much given that I am already an uncle nearing the 50 mark. I am counting my blessing that young guys still find me attractive.

Doesn't apply to gays or at least gays from developed countries. We are guys we can feed ourselves, we don't need a rich husband to tell us off when we are old. But thanks for your input FT.

327 here

You forgot about chargers.

First thing is can u even get steamed-up with a female onot...

Why is it easier for you to tell strangers here your problems than to say sorry to a friend? Are you nuts? Sorry is not the hardest word. You are just vain and shallow and trying to act like a prima donna who knows the title of a song and try to drum up some interest here. fxxk, perhaps you don't even have this tiff with a friend. fxxk! Perhaps you are a TROLL. OK, sorry for that momentary lapse of rudeness. Oh shit, did I just said "sorry." Hmmm, that was not so difficult right? So, swallow your horse shit and go say sorry to your friend. Now. Right away. Pronto. Atta boy. Be Happy.

Mercutio says in a very eloquent way what many more discerning BWers think. While I do agree with Mercutio's insight of the roots of the present tone of BW, I don't think that it is "game over". There are still things that can be tried to improve the tone. There can be sub-forums so that the younger set can write the way that appeals to them, and other sub-forums where the more serious minded can discuss what is on their minds. When I say "serious minded", I do not mean older. There are many clear thinking and knowledge/wisdom seeking younger men out there who do not take to the "emo/attention seeking/air-headed" tone either. What concerns me is that BW is going the way of the lowest common denominator if we maintain a homogeneous forum structure. I might be wrong, but I have a hunch the Mods already tried to mitigate the problem by having a Main Forum and a Member's Lounge. But I think the distinction is not clear enough, and the Member's Lounge is treated more as a more chummy place than the Main Forum. What is needed is a clear sub-forum where more serious minded posters will congregate. Having said this, I do not want to belittle the important avenue that BW can give the younger set to communicate and grow. We have all been there before. Don't you wish that you had a forum with older brothers who could give you advice when you were in your teens/twenties? Mercutio, you are too kind. How do you know my nick is appropriate? You must have met me in TMC ? But seriously we can look at the forum as a live creature which responds to our different methods of interaction. If one method does not get a desired result, another method can work. But I do think an amount of tweaking is required. Just a few interesting observations I have made of the demographics of BW. The figures come from the couple of polls I made recently. Do you know that: 75% of the respondents are in their teens / 20s? 50% of the respondents are malay? Of course these are stats of the respondents of those particular polls only and probably not reflect the actual population of BW, but it is surprising, no?

i do not what to be first to throw the stone, but it really saddens and disgust me when someone who says he's christian, and is indulging in sexual lavish. i'm not talking about being gay. Gay and Christianity is a non-conclusive debate, as with anything with religion. but being in this circle for sometime, i have noticed so many people claim to be christian, but indulges in orgies - have sex with their cell group mates - write on their profiles things like i would f**k anyone - or have the loosest sexual behavior. there are just so many famous ajs who have questionable sexual morals who are extremely active in church; cell-group leaders, worship leaders and all. i know i'm a sinner too, and i have no rights to judge. i'm not judging, i'm just sadden by what i see - and i would like to voice it. from what i see, the majority of those i know whom believe in more traditional sexual ideals, tend to be free thinkers, where as those with religion indulge more guiltlessly. i'm only speaking on the focus of christians cos i'm one too. am i the only one to notice this? i know next someone is just gonna reply & scold me and say sex is sex, love is love, and that i'm a looser and should go f**k myself for judging. but i don't care.

2. The Brotherhood (Tag: 20 Chapter ongoing, College, Fraternity, Romance, Fiction, High quality) shared by playfulsg is super good as well, but it seems like u are stopped while u are about to climax Finished 20 chapthers in less than 2 days haha, with 4 hours of sleep at night of cos

HAHA i used to read Nifty, but stop after awhile. not sure why. But "Dumb" is a good story! hahaha! so interesting (and unusual) that there was an antagonist in it! A very nice love story.

http://www.nifty.org...ids-initiation/ David's Initiation A very LONG story about a guy name David (nicknamed Dave) as he grows up from a kid, to highschool, experience life, trying his best, till the end of his life. I am a bad summariser but this story is very heart-wrenching and heart-warming. It's very long but it is in parts. I hope you guys can enjoy it, I have enjoyed it a lot. Cried a lot, and ahemed a lot. I would produce it as a drama if I could. Enjoy (: P.S. You can at least read the front part, it's pretty jerkable at first as it wasn't meant to be such a long story. But it became one, and I am so very glad.

I only read the story "dumb" and it reminded me so much of my own love. Thanks for the intro.

playfulsg u should not have posted this tread. It's all your fault that I am hooked on reading the stories (Hugs). I never knew that they can be so romantic haha although I am not the romantic sort of guy.

Dear Members, Please sound out to the Moderators if you come across any youngsters <Banned Words> posing as above 18. We take a serious stand against underage activities and hope that fellow members will abide to our rules and regulations. See: http://www.blowingwind.org/forum/index.php?showtopic=909