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Cruising places: Parks 1. Tasik Kelana Jaya (HAPPENING!) 2. Tasik Permaisuri HUKM side (HAPPENING!) 3. Bukit Kommanwel hill top Swimming Pools 1. Kelana Jaya Swimming Pool (HAPPENING!) 2. Chin Woo Swimming Pool (HAPPENING!) 3. Bandar Tun Razak Malls 1. KL Sentral toilet besides KFC (HAPPENING!) 2. Nu Sentral toilet besides HM (HAPPENING!) 3. Sunway Pyramid toilet below TGV 4. Avenue K toilet Level C & next to Tealive 5. Empire gallery Toilet beside popular / uniqlo. (Once in the blue moon) RnR 1. LDP towards Kepong besides Caltex (HAPPENING!) 2. LDP towards Puchong from Sunway McDonald (HAPPENING!) 3. Shell toilet at kesas highway towards kota kemuning also got. (Depends lucks, mostly taxi driver or lorry driver) 4. Shell toilet USJ Hicom (Happening) Gym 1. CF Sunway Pyramid (HAPPENING!) 2. CF Mid Valley 3. CF 1 Utama (HAPPENING!) 4. FF Avenue K (HAPPENING!) 5. FF The Curve 6. FF Empire (HAPPENING!) 7. FF Paradigm Mall (Happening)

The moderating team wishes all our Hindu members and guests a Happy Diwali. May the festival of lights be filled with victory of light over darkness, good over evil, and knowledge over ignorance. Have a good Thursday holidays. Stay safe. Stay healthy. Be Happy! The Moderating Team

Telegram for Married Daddies Bears + Chasers ♂️ Click the above link to join the private telegram group for bears and married daddies and their admirers and chasers Rules: Cum in and give a short self intro. Be respectful. Be polite. Be considered. ...Or be thrown out! link: SG Martied Daddy Bears

Hello! We have started our very own Telegram Group for BW, you can join us here: BW (Official) The Blowing Wind Telegram Group Chat https://bit.ly/frmbw Join Group

Here wishing all our Buddhist members and guests a very 'Happy Vesak Day'. May the day have the hearts filled with compassion that it leads to a better journey onwards. From The Moderating Team of BW.

To me this was pretty surprising as Japan is pretty conservative country. What you guys think?

BW Moderating Team would like to wish all our Muslim members and guests a joyous 'Selamat Hari Raya Aidil Fitri' 2024. May the day mark the end of a good blessed one month of fasting. Have a great time celebrating Hari Raya with your family and all your loved ones. Stay healthy, stay safe.

The BW Moderating Team wishes all our Members and Guests a 'Happy Dragon Year, 2024'. Wishing all of you abundance of continuous good fortune, good health and boundless joy. Stay healthy and stay safe. Enjoy the long festive weekend.

The Moderating Team would like to wish : In Gratitude of 2023 " Thank You " to all our Members and Guests for a wonderful 2023. We would also like to express our gratitude to our advertisers whom had helped this Forum to stay alive. Welcome 2024 Let's walk into 2️⃣0️⃣2️⃣4️⃣ with our heads up, with our hearts open and with faith of hopes. For we shall only see potential and lots of it. May there be light to guide and brighten each day, May there be all things good to put a smile on our faces, May there be joy, love, peace to lift our spirits. May you and I greet January 1st 2️⃣0️⃣2️⃣4️⃣ and the 365 days with greater inspiration and resolute determination to write more good stories, with pleasant adventures and good fortunes and in good health. May the blessings be! Happy New Year, guys!

Yes! we have started the snow to make your Christmas filled with joy, love and peace. Yes! we are a little early to wish but since it is going to be a long weekend, why not. The Moderating Team wishes all our members and guests - and in particular, all our Christian brothers - "A Merry Christmas, 2023". May your Christmas be filled with only good things. May your Christmas be a gift of love. May your Christmas be a gift of peace. Do stay safe, stay healthy. Enjoy the long weekend.

Happy Diwali/Deepawali/Tihar to all inside and outside Singapore, celebrating the festivities....🪔🪔🪔🪔🪔🎆🎇🎆🎇

The Moderating Team wishes all our Hindu Members and Guests, "A Happy Diwali / Deepavali". Enjoy the festival of lights 2023 and the long weekend.

Hello guys! Gayhealth.sg would like to thank YOU, our community members, for the ongoing support to our programme. You have made our HIV prevention/education more effective by getting yourself tested regularly at our bars/clubs/sauna outreach as well as at the testing sites. We want to return the favor by offering this free complimentary HIV testing coupon to you. Please come down during the Anonymous Testing Site hours with a printed copy of the coupon and request for the Pink Carpet Service. We are a group of dedicated counsellors who are committed to providing you with the care and support you need to maintain a healthy lifestyle throughout your testing experiences. 31 Kelantan Lane, #01-16, 200031 Tuesday & Wednesday: 6.30-8.15pm Saturday: 1.30-3.15pm Visit: www.gayhealth.sg for the coupon *This coupon is subjected to an expiration date until March 31st, 2016

The Moderating Team wishes all our Muslim Members and Guests Selamat Hari Raya Aidil Fitri. May the day be blessed with peace, love and happiness. Have a joyful and blessed Hari Raya.

When things get hard… We’ve #GotYouCovered A Wingman is somebody who looks out for you and is there for you through all your ups and downs in life: Be it on social events, sexual encounters, mental matters or even other areas. A Wingman is someone whom you can confide in about your sexual experiences, without fear of judgment because you know they have your best interests at heart. You also know that they will be able to help you make the best decision for your sexual health. A Wingman is someone who guides you through the good & bad days. They are, after all, your pillar of support and you know you can depend on them because they love you for go to the link to claim your free test coupon for your friend(s)! http://www.gayhealth.sg/wingman/

Hey guys, we will be on Duxton and Neil road for street outreach to provide free HIV testing to our community from 1030pm till 1230am. If you have any question, email us at pinkcarpet@gayhealth.sg

This open letter is addressed to all the gay men seeking quality connections outside of the gay clubs, bars and apps: It was a Friday, eight months into my first year in Singapore. Work was done for the week, but the weekend ahead wasn’t much to look forward to. Gym? TV? Most probably a couple of hook ups; not because I was particularly into it, but because it filled the hours and my empty apartment. The physical intimacy was a predictable quick fix for validation and affirmation – a personal connection, no matter how fleeting or transactional, was still a connection…I guess? So there I was, propped up at the bar when I heard those words spill out of my mouth – ‘I’m here because I’m fucking lonely’ – knowing full well that it was simultaneously the least sexy and most brutally honest phrase I have every spoken in that open-air courtyard. Maybe it was the months of desperately trying to fit in, or the attempts (and failures) at turning hook-ups into friendships? But I knew that it was probably the gnawing hypothesis that somewhere in this country, just out of reach, were some great guys who wanted to connect and maybe, just maybe, find a supportive and genuine friend or two. So if superficial, witty and flirty banter hadn’t worked for me so far, why not try a truth bomb or two instead? Dear Straight People, My first ‘coming out’ would be what most would call a ‘success’ – an (eventually) incredibly supportive family and a number of (slightly) older mentors who tucked me under their wing when I was a fresh gaybie. I was grateful for these formative relationships that shaped my identity and helped me believe in community. I began to feel proud of who I was and was affirmed by those around me. But when I moved to Singapore, my second ‘coming out’ was surprisingly stressful, frustrating and exhausting. As I aimlessly twirled my straw in my Blue Spin cocktail on that Friday, I reflected truthfully – I had found very few affirming gay friends and had no genuine relationships of any significance to reach out to. The rude shock of having to start from square one on a solo perilous journey where there were only two well-worn paths (turn left for the clubs and bars of Neil Road, turn right for Grindr) was confusing and stripped me of confidence. Walking the gauntlet up the stone steps felt like entering the arena in the Hunger Gay-mes. May the odds be forever in your favour, lah. Revealing a full picture of myself didn’t happen on the dance floor at Taboo at 2am and it wasn’t affirmed or carefully considered while flicking through Grindr. Instead of being able to share who I was, I was only able to share what I was, and be judged rapidly, efficiently and constantly for those elements. Suddenly, it was my age (Mid 30’s? You’re kidding right?), body type (Athletic? What sport, Mahjong?) and ethnicity (Generic Potato) that mattered far more than the parts of me that had previously been affirmed and celebrated (a vegetarian long distance runner who loves apocalyptic science fiction novels and K-Pop). I know I’m not the only gay in the village to ever feel alone or lonely. With ingrained homophobia and very limited public societal or cultural support, being gay can be an extrordinarily isolating experience, no matter which country or city you live in. While globally there are slightly sunnier skies ahead for many LGBTQ+ people, the lived weather forecast for many in our community is a constant shitstormof ignorance, discrimination, shame and persecution. Singapore has its own complex clusterfuck of challenges; anyone here who takes a vulnerable leap into the unknown to live their truth is OK by me. They deserve as much respect, support and affirmation that we can possibly give. But sometimes, I don’t think we are very good at providing this at all. When your personal ‘value’ is primarily determined by superficial criteria, it’s not hard to see why ‘minority stress’ is experienced by many LGBT communities around the world, causing anxiety, depression and increased suicideattempts. In an excellent essay, John Pachankis tells it like it is – gay men cause significant stress for other gay men due to ‘in-group discrimination’, often more harmful than being rejected by members of the hetero-majority. It’s relatively easy to roll your eyes at obnoxious homophobes or online trolls – you don’t need their approval. But rejection, shade and shame games from other gays? Excluded minorities within a minority? Hell no. It’s often said that gay people are lucky to ‘choose’ their family – but what if that choice is limited, absent or cut off? Being pushed away from your own community is the most painful because we need them the most for friendship, love or whatever in between – and that truly sucks. Despite this pain, we keep going back, finding it hard to imagine or connect to community beyond apps, booze and bars. But recently it has been exciting and pleasing to see unique communities withinour community taking shape, with specific passions, interests and values being celebrated through the Facebook group Out in SG. Out In SG is a group of like-minded and open-minded Singaporean residents who are interested in building community through participation in a wide range of fitness and social activities based on common interests and passions. With over 1,100 active members, it is rapidly becoming an effective and non-threatening way of connecting people through participation in social gatherings and events. Recent activities have included working up a sweat at bootcamp, riding bikes in the park, running around the bay, playing board games, tennis and bonding with Mother Nature on a morning trail hike. Apart from having fun, Out in SG is, consciously or unconsciously, equally about affirming identity, celebrating diversity and strengthening community. A recent social BBQ event was attended by a really diverse group of guys who, while individually very unique, seemed to have one thing in common – they ‘get it’; they understood that everyone appreciates a friendly face, a decent conversation, a few laughs and feeling seen and celebrated for who they are. Connecting on more than a superficial level requires a certain amount of vulnerability, empathy and understanding. It seems to be easier to do that when achieving something collaboratively away from a noisy, crowded bar – the many smiling, slightly shy new faces at recent events would attest to this. Is Out in SG the only way to find great people, feel good about yourself and pursue your personal interests? Of course not. I could happily list the amazing people, social groups and community organisations in Singapore that do far more on a daily basis over a much longer period of time to build connections and celebrate diversity in this country. They continue to inspire and motivate many of us. But the best bit about community is that it’s like a really good laksa; too much is never enough. There is enough toxic noise in the world; actively supporting each other on our little island home needs to be intentional and frequent, no matter who we are or where we are from. You never know when your little act of kindness will have a lasting impact. So for anyone who is looking for some quality connections, join the Out in SG group on Facebook, come along to an event or two and become an important part of our community. We can’t wait to see you there soon – nice guys guaranteed Join Out In SG Here Source: https://dearstraightpeople.com/2019/08/25/quality-connections/

There are real-life stories for you to read on the blog: "I Will Survive: Personal gay, lesbian, bisexual & transgender stories in Singapore"You can also read the full version of all the stories here in the e-book. And the book review HERE.

The Moderating Team wishes all our Members and Guests a rewarding, bountiful and abundant opportunities in the Year of the Rabbit 2023. Let it be a year of happiness, prosperity, good health and success. Have a wonderful long weekend. Stay safe, be safe.

BW moderating team wishes all our Members and Guests a joyful Christmas blessing. May its true spirit be full of love and light that shines in your heart. Enjoy the long Christmas weekend. Be safe. Be healthy.

Hello. I’ve started a petition to repeal 156 which prevents same sex couples from getting marriage rights, housing rights and equal rights in general. Same sex couples deserve equal rights and the petition also exists to challenge the parliament to allow accurate information about the LGBTQIA+ community to be shared to students all over Singapore, instead of banning it(eg. banning LGBTQIA+ shows from being shown in theatres). petition link: https://www.change.org/p/repeal-article-156?recruiter=919409420&recruited_by_id=fde4a310-f764-11e8-9911-39d0f4e37572&utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=copylink&utm_campaign=petition_dashboard “Blood does not family make. Those are relatives. Family are those with whom you share your good, bad, and ugly, and still love one another in the end. Those are the ones you select.” - Hector Xtravaganza

Should just stick to their mother tongue. Egs. Want a not? U cry u stop.

Dear All: We are proud to partner with Oogachaga to publicize their newest website, Precious SG via our community banner. https://www.sgprecious.life/ It's a one-stop information portal for mature LGBTQ+ people age 50 & above, especially gay & bisexual men, & other men who have sex with men, to find out more about HIV, and lots of useful tips on living with HIV as an older person. It's specially developed for people living with HIV (PLHIV) who are older gay & bisexual men, & also transgender people. The resources are currently in English & Chinese, & there are plans to translate into Malay & Tamil. (should you know of anyone that can help with the Malay/ Tamil translation, do reach out to them.) Oogachaga mentioned that it's the only online resource of its kind in Singapore! Oogachaga is a community-based, non-profit professional organization working with lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, questioning, queer & gender-diverse (LGBTQ+) individuals, couples & families in Singapore since 1999. You can contact them at: · CARE Email counselling: https://oogachaga.com/email-counselling · WhatsApp counselling: 8592-0609 (Sat: 2pm - 5pm, Tue - Thu: 7pm - 10pm) · Professional counselling: counselling@oogachaga.com However, if you need to talk to someone urgently because you're in emotional crisis, feeling suicidal or affected by suicide, please consider: · Samaritans of Singapore (SOS) 24hr suicide prevention hotline: 1-767 (1-SOS)

Hello all, I am looking for a full time finance and admin personnel who knows bookkeeping and xero. However, through this search, also saw maybe we can have a group to match different hirers and job seekers, strengthening our community. If you are open to this, probably can pm me your telegram and let me know about your business or yourself, once I have enough ppl I will start one. Ps: of cuz, this wouldn't be for higher level of mnc roles, I believe for ppl who are more open to sme roles and for sme owners. Thanks!

firstly, HAPPY 56th Birthday SINGAPORE!!! The theme for NDP 2021 is(1) Together, (2) Our Singapore Spirit. here is a Gay Perspective... ...& a social satire ENTIRELY INSPIRED by real life events i witnessed, during covid... ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ from the Website: (1) ‘Together’ evokes our common Singapore identity and Singaporeans coming together as one united people. during Circuit Breaker, Saunas were closed, we could not have sex... for the 1st time in Singapore's history, Gay Men was stuck in a "Sex Drought". the Pandemic caused us to have less sex. But did the Pandemic change our sex lives? so (1) 'Together' ... some guys still managed to have O.N.S. !!! & this goes to show... our common Singapore identity to pick up guys & get laid, brings us (1) Together. naturally, when the above-mentioned is achieved... (1) some Singaporeans love to come together as 1 United People... this could mean Nationalism... or being patriotic towards the LGBTQ Community... so that's my definition of TOGETHER. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ i thought i am "Cheong Hei"... but our dear Gahmen is worse... they define (2) OUR SINGAPORE SPIRIT into 5 parts... can't they reduce it to 3 ?!? 'Our Singapore Spirit’ calls on Singaporeans to [1] draw new strength from our “can-do” spirit amidst challenging circumstances from COVID-19 & [2] potential disruptions in the new decade. [3] We look to reinvigorate the Singapore Spirit - - [4] encouraging Singaporeans to embrace a “dare-to-try” attitude &, [5] encouraging Singaporeans to reinvent to overturn our natural and geographical constraints. for [1], when the Gahmen served me a Quarantine Order for standing next to an infected-person... i had no choice but to draw strength from this challenging circumstance... i don't know can this apply to [2], i found it strange some guys on Grindr would put their profile as: "UNDER QUARANTINE"... so sad rite? They want to "Grind", but they are being [2] disrupted by this new decade where Quarantined is legit. the word "Quarantine" never existed in the Singapore Vocabulary/Dictionary from 1965 to 2019, LOL how can we [3] reinvigorate the SINGAPORE SPIRIT? simple! Let the young ones EXPRESS MORE, Let the middle-aged-ones get MORE EXCITED ABOUT LIFE, & for our "Merdeka Gen" & "Pioneer Generation"... EMPLOY MORE OF THEM... so here's my WISH LIST: the young ones, who will settle them? Ministry for Culture, Community & Youth. for those my age? maybe give gay men "Free VPN" to make their nights happier? maybe they can help: Ministry for Communications & Information. Lastly, for our Seniors... supposed to give to the [Ministry for Health]... but they are busy managing covid, so "bo bian", we let "Ministry for Manpower" keep them busy 😃 ------------------------------------- this is too "Cheem" for me... i don't understand what it means so i better not comment on it: [5] encouraging Singaporeans to reinvent to overturn our natural and geographical constraints. -------------------------------------- Lastly, [4] encouraging Singaporeans to embrace a “dare-to-try” attitude: Some Singaporean-Drivers dare to take risk to drive on bus lane... are we enc this "Dare-to-Try" Attitude? Some Singapore-Husbands want to break out of the monotony of marriage... so are we gonna enc them to "Dare-to_Try" XXX ? maybe not... last year, we "Dare-to-Try" & we won an Olympic Medal... sadly this year, we dared & we tried, but no medal =( last Election, some Voters "Dare-to-Try" to vote for Jamus...& he won!!! shall we enc Singaporeans to "Dare-to-Try" at the next polls? if u have time, my post on the NDP thread last week, helps u understand why i don't like Singapore's annual event. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ In conclusion, the 557 words above, is a result of me living here all my life, & the shared-experience of a nation facing covid, Sorry if u were offended by any of my statements above, i will be 40 soon, & i SINCERELY hope Singapore will be more inclusive, & that means the G don't need to give us a [Theme] that has 73 words or 525 characters... just condense it into 1 Line: 'Our Singapore Spirit’ calls on Singaporeans to [1] be more obedient, [2] during gd & bad times, we must... ...always[3] Reinvigorate the Singapore Spirit by allowing FREE ENTRY TO CASINO, ...always[4] enc Singaporeans to be more active so we build more swimming pools... but if u are Gay... we(the Gahmen) won't let u enter... unless u promise not to Cruise... ...always[5] forget the fact that we are 728.6 km². ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Editor's Note: i hope u had a gd laugh, & a gd read, i enjoyed writing it, even though i hope i don't get an sms from the Gahmen... On a serious note, as a Singaporean, i like to thank anyone reading this who is non-Singaporean, (1) thank u for migrating from ur home-country to be with us, (2) i know u miss ur family back home so thank u for the economic contributions u have made over the years, & for the rest of us... enjoy the public holiday 😃