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I have now experienced this twice in my life. Situation: You have a good friend who you seem on a semi regular basis. Quite friendly, happy go lucky, enjoyable times. There's just one problem: they're straight. Yes, you know this unnatural affliction will one day morph into this unfortunate illness called "marriage" which will engulf them. Then that day comes-- you get the wedding invitation. You think to yourself, "well, we're close, I should go, how exciting for them, I am going to be happy for them and help them celebrate their big day." You attend the ceremony, dress up all nice, bring ang bao, take pictures, put up with the usual shenanigans and small talk with whoever you get lumped at a table with. And then, it happens: Married Disappearing Syndrome, or "MDS" for short, kicks in. The friend you once had now disappears out of your life as fast as the suitcases are back in the closet from their honeymoon. Their communication skills suffer first. No messages, no word, no catch ups, no closeness anymore. Any attempt to try and catch up with them even on the usual social media are greeted with non-committal replies and generalities, as of they have become zombified and have lost all use of their calendar and time management skills. This syndrome eventually morphs into pregnancy, fatness, and inability to leave the house for periods longer than a few hours at a time. Medical professionals are still searching for a cure for MDS and are currently seeking volunteers to share their experiences as part of a research study. Please detail your history in dealing with those afflicted by MDS below.

anybody who wanted to have kids but being gay has stopped u? how to have offspring without being straight and marriage. has this affected any plu here?

So do we need to get married and have children to fulfill the optimum life image? How bout if we are gay?

After a few years of being together with my significant other, we are planning to make it official. Since we live in the US where marriage is legal, we plan to get it done here with friends and his family. We are also thinking of celebrating in Singapore with my family, relatives and friends. We are not looking for something big, but perhaps about 30-40 people. What restaurants do you guys recommend? So many things to decide, sit down dinner or buffet? Location? i was thinking of traditional sit down dinner since my grandmother and the older relatives probably prefer that with the rounds of yum seng from table to table but my cousins will probably roll their eyes and demand for my gay card. Anyway I welcome any suggestions and thoughts to celebrate our big day in Singapore. We have yet to finalise a date, but probably will be in Singapore to celebrate then head off somewhere in the region for honeymoon