When u reach 50. Are u running out of time + What would you expect when you reached 50 (compiled)

[begleitung]

On 8/23/2020 at 1:43 AM, Guest Occulust said:

I'm 55 this yr (yes same age as SG) but can pass off as 35 or 39 max anytime. Thanks to my good genes so that I remain lean without needing to watch my diet or gobble up vitamins. Having a head full of black hair helps too.

 

Having worked for decades, I've saved and invested enuf to purchase 2 condos. A 2 BR which I rented out for passive income and another 1 BR studio wch I lived in now. I zipped arnd in a 6 yrs old Jap SUV and have 2 faithful westies as my companion. As both my condo units have been fully paid up. I intend to retire soon from my engineering job and live out the rest of my life confortably frm my passive income. 

 

To the young guys out there, save and invest early and wisely. Dun splurge and travel unnecc so you can post nice pics on insta. Its not worth it. Heed my advice and u will thank me when u hit your 50s.

But did u travel much?  U must have as u cld afford both, properties n travel. 

[Steve5380]

17 minutes ago, begleitung said:

Y not both gym n book

 

Because it is hard to keep the sight fixed on the book while lifting weights.  Maybe it works for the stationary bike if doing aerobics,  but drops of sweat falling on the book does not make it more appealing. 

 

So any reasonable person will put his book aside and grab his gym gear when it is time to head there.

This does not preclude taking up the book again after returning from the gym and having showered and eaten some food.

[begleitung]

47 minutes ago, Steve5380 said:

 

Because it is hard to keep the sight fixed on the book while lifting weights.  Maybe it works for the stationary bike if doing aerobics,  but drops of sweat falling on the book does not make it more appealing. 

 

So any reasonable person will put his book aside and grab his gym gear when it is time to head there.

This does not preclude taking up the book again after returning from the gym and having showered and eaten some food.

Who said nething bout doin them the same time

[Steve5380]

54 minutes ago, begleitung said:

Who said nething bout doin them the same time

 

Who said anything about not doing it at different times?

[Guest Armpits]

On 8/25/2020 at 4:09 AM, Steve5380 said:

 

Who said anything about not doing it at different times?

What's wrong with the big 5-0? so many posts related to ageing uncles re reaching 50. I think 60 and above is even more critical. Erectile dysfunction era...

[Guest Nightmarish]

1 hour ago, Guest Armpits said:

What's wrong with the big 5-0? so many posts related to ageing uncles re reaching 50. I think 60 and above is even more critical. Erectile dysfunction era...

Does that mean once you reached 70+ it is completely not functioning?  This is so scary to think about.

[Steve5380]

16 minutes ago, Guest Nightmarish said:

Does that mean once you reached 70+ it is completely not functioning?  This is so scary to think about.

 

In my personal experience, it can still be functional in the later 70s.  I hope it still functions at 80 and maybe beyond. 

 

But this is nothing to be scared about. In life, there are specific times for certain needs.

In childhood there is no need for sex until puberty.  In old age, there is no need for sex beyond 80 or so. 

So there is no problem if it does not work beyond 80.  What still should work of it is the urinary function, to be able to pee well.

There are more interesting things than sex to do in old age  

[LeanMature]

9 minutes ago, Steve5380 said:

 

In my personal experience, it can still be functional in the later 70s.  I hope it still functions at 80 and maybe beyond. 

 

But this is nothing to be scared about. In life, there are specific times for certain needs.

In childhood there is no need for sex until puberty.  In old age, there is no need for sex beyond 80 or so. 

So there is no problem if it does not work beyond 80.  What still should work of it is the urinary function, to be able to pee well.

There are more interesting things than sex to do in old age  

 

Right, every stage in life has its own functionality.  What is more important is the final stage in life.  Will one just sleep and passed on or will one has to suffer for many years before he breaths his last breathe.

[Steve5380]

2 minutes ago, LeanMature said:

 

Right, every stage in life has its own functionality.  What is more important is the final stage in life.  Will one just sleep and passed on or will one has to suffer for many years before he breaths his last breathe.

 

It seems that the final stage is better when we remain healthy.  But no completely healthy person passes on suddenly in his sleep.  There is always a period of physical decay,  but this is short in a healthy and very old person.  And today there is good palliative care, so we don't have to suffer much. 

[Guest Sleeplessness]

2 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

 

 

So there is no problem if it does not work beyond 80.

2 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

 

  There is always a period of physical decay, 

  

Oh no!!!! Talking from someone who is at that age, mean it is real. I can't sleep well hearing all these. 

We need to stop the process of ageing.  NOW!!!!

[Steve5380]

1 hour ago, Guest Sleeplessness said:

Oh no!!!! Talking from someone who is at that age, mean it is real. I can't sleep well hearing all these. 

We need to stop the process of ageing.  NOW!!!!

 

Since you are sleepless,  make some use of your time by reading the book "All Men Are Mortal",  by Simone de Beauvoir.

 

After this, you will be pleased that we age!  

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Edited August 29, 2020 by Steve5380

[Guest Armpits]

3 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

 

Since you are sleepless,  make some use of your time by reading the book "All Men Are Mortal",  by Simone de Beauvoir.

 

After this, you will be pleased that we age!  

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My uncle now 80s and tied to the bed in a hospice wearing diapers all day. He's rich as hell. Has many wealthy children and grandchildren galore. So what! He now lives like a leashed and unwanted dog. I used to admire his hot hairy bod and monster banana when he was young prime

[Steve5380]

29 minutes ago, Guest Armpits said:

My uncle now 80s and tied to the bed in a hospice wearing diapers all day. He's rich as hell. Has many wealthy children and grandchildren galore. So what! He now lives like a leashed and unwanted dog. I used to admire his hot hairy bod and monster banana when he was young prime

 

My aunt died less than a year ago at 94 y.o.  Until about two years before her death, like at 92,  she was an independent women in good health living alone in her home of over 50 years,  with her sons and other family members and a bunch of friends visiting her often and checking on her needs, which were very few.  She had a pension that allowed her to live modestly. She was one of the kindest persons I have known,  and her whole life was a success!  She is one of several role models that taught me how to live smartly to complete a successful life.

[Guest Blank]

On 8/23/2020 at 1:43 AM, Guest Occulust said:

I'm 55 this yr (yes same age as SG) but can pass off as 35 or 39 max anytime. Thanks to my good genes so that I remain lean without needing to watch my diet or gobble up vitamins. Having a head full of black hair helps too.

 

Having worked for decades, I've saved and invested enuf to purchase 2 condos. A 2 BR which I rented out for passive income and another 1 BR studio wch I lived in now. I zipped arnd in a 6 yrs old Jap SUV and have 2 faithful westies as my companion. As both my condo units have been fully paid up. I intend to retire soon from my engineering job and live out the rest of my life confortably frm my passive income. 

 

To the young guys out there, save and invest early and wisely. Dun splurge and travel unnecc so you can post nice pics on insta. Its not worth it. Heed my advice and u will thank me when u hit your 50s.

55 looks like 35? That's 20yrs younger omg. Even chuando work out so hard to maintain and he's really the extreme rare exception. Many many many men at 55yo look really haggard. If 45yo I still believe. 

 

Many men 35yo already looked like 45yo with round belly, balding, face sagging, oily looking, wrinkled skin... 

 

If 90% of your friends really say you're 35ish looking then I believe, and very happy for you. Maybe you can be my bf 😳 I don't really care if you're rich or poor 

[Guest Lao uncle]

https://gentlemen2742.tumblr.com/post/627806206236540928/handsome-muscle-dad-demonstrates-how-to-stay-fit

 

 

[Guest Lao uncle]

[mate69]

Lol

[InBangkok]

On 8/23/2020 at 12:43 AM, Guest Occulust said:

I'm 55 this yr (yes same age as SG) but can pass off as 35 or 39 max anytime. Thanks to my good genes so that I remain lean without needing to watch my diet or gobble up vitamins. Having a head full of black hair helps too.

 

Having worked for decades, I've saved and invested enuf to purchase 2 condos. A 2 BR which I rented out for passive income and another 1 BR studio wch I lived in now. I zipped arnd in a 6 yrs old Jap SUV and have 2 faithful westies as my companion. As both my condo units have been fully paid up. I intend to retire soon from my engineering job and live out the rest of my life confortably frm my passive income. 

 

To the young guys out there, save and invest early and wisely. Dun splurge and travel unnecc so you can post nice pics on insta. Its not worth it. Heed my advice and u will thank me when u hit your 50s.

 

"Dun Splurge and travel unnecc" There is only one problem with that. I agree that everyone should save and invest wisely starting as early as possible. But life can throw little unpleasantries. What if at 56 you are retired with a good income and you discover you have cancer? What if you are run over by a bus? That could be the end of travel.

 

When I  attended a 30 year uni class reunion, everyone said they envied all the travelling I had done. They all said they were waiting for retirement and then they would start travelling. Problem is, a lot of the exciting world travel is a lot more difficult when you are in your late 60s or 70s than it is in your 30s, 40s and 50s. Life is a balance. Do what you want to do when you an afford it and don't leave it all till retirement.

Edited August 30, 2020 by InBangkok

[Guest Blank]

20 minutes ago, InBangkok said:

 

"Dun Splurge and travel unnecc" There is only one problem with that. I agree that everyone should save and invest wisely starting as early as possible. But life can throw little unpleasantries. What if at 56 you are retired with a good income and you discover you have cancer? What if you are run over by a bus? That could be the end of travel.

 

When I  attended a 30 year uni class reunion, everyone said they envied all the travelling I had done. They all said they were waiting for retirement and then they would start travelling. Problem is, a lot of the exciting world travel is a lot more difficult when you are in your late 60s or 70s than it is in your 30s, 40s and 50s. Life is a balance. Do what you want to do when you an afford it and don't leave it all till retirement.

Fully agree, my mom said now she's old and traveling also cannot go those long walking places.

 

For a gay man with no children, I think our disposable incomes are bigger than say a man with a family of 1 to 2 kids and they don't have personal time too

 

6 hours ago, Guest Lao uncle said:

This one is 75yo?

 

If he's 50, then really need to do a lot of improvement 

[Steve5380]

49 minutes ago, InBangkok said:

 

"Dun Splurge and travel unnecc" There is only one problem with that. I agree that everyone should save and invest wisely starting as early as possible. But life can throw little unpleasantries. What if at 56 you are retired with a good income and you discover you have cancer? What if you are run over by a bus? That could be the end of travel.

 

When I  attended a 30 year uni class reunion, everyone said they envied all the travelling I had done. They all said they were waiting for retirement and then they would start travelling. Problem is, a lot of the exciting world travel is a lot more difficult when you are in your late 60s or 70s than it is in your 30s, 40s and 50s. Life is a balance. Do what you want to do when you an afford it and don't leave it all till retirement.

 

You were wise to do what you liked to do at an age that was optimum to do it.   And having done it,  you prove the saying in Spanish:  "Quién te quita lo bailado?"  (who will take away that what you have danced?).  

[Steve5380]

4 minutes ago, Guest Blank said:

 

This one is 75yo?

 

If he's 50, then really need to do a lot of improvement 

 

If he is 75 y.o.,  he could also need some improvement,  because he looks like a 75 y.o. although he may be younger.

[Guest wahahahaha]

On 8/30/2020 at 11:55 AM, Steve5380 said:

 

 he looks like a 75 y.o. although he may be younger.

Probably due to the mishap of too much botox.  ...wahahahaha

[Guest sian sian]

a few are well preserved.

personally, 呂良偉 at 51seconds.... wow 63yo?? is that him at age 63?

[Guest Golden Goose]

Few days more and I'll be 50yo. How can I enjoy life at 50? What will be the changes? Is it more exciting? I'm single. Can I meet more men,plu? Is sex better at that age?

[Steve5380]

6 hours ago, Guest Golden Goose said:

Few days more and I'll be 50yo. How can I enjoy life at 50? What will be the changes? Is it more exciting? I'm single. Can I meet more men,plu? Is sex better at that age?

 

The best that can happen to you is that you don't notice when you pass the 50.  Then life continues about the same, and before you can remember you will be 60.  

[Guest Papaya]

On 8/23/2020 at 1:43 AM, Guest Occulust said:

I'm 55 this yr (yes same age as SG) but can pass off as 35 or 39 max anytime. Thanks to my good genes so that I remain lean without needing to watch my diet or gobble up vitamins. Having a head full of black hair helps too.

 

Having worked for decades, I've saved and invested enuf to purchase 2 condos. A 2 BR which I rented out for passive income and another 1 BR studio wch I lived in now. I zipped arnd in a 6 yrs old Jap SUV and have 2 faithful westies as my companion. As both my condo units have been fully paid up. I intend to retire soon from my engineering job and live out the rest of my life confortably frm my passive income. 

 

To the young guys out there, save and invest early and wisely. Dun splurge and travel unnecc so you can post nice pics on insta. Its not worth it. Heed my advice and u will thank me when u hit your 50s.

How much of pass income and savings  can consider retired

[Guest Tomato]

5 hours ago, Guest Papaya said:

How much of pass income and savings  can consider retired

 In Spore, from 55, one would need $4m (excluding housing but including CPF) to retire comfortably.

One can exclude $1.5m (for housing).  One can adjust this amount if you prefer to retire in a HDB (coz to some, HDB is not exactly comfortable, with a lot of noise from neighbours and low ceiling (feels cramped)).

[Guest Uncle]

On 4/26/2021 at 9:14 AM, Guest Tomato said:

 In Spore, from 55, one would need $4m (excluding housing but including CPF) to retire comfortably.

One can exclude $1.5m (for housing).  One can adjust this amount if you prefer to retire in a HDB (coz to some, HDB is not exactly comfortable, with a lot of noise from neighbours and low ceiling (feels cramped)).

Running out of time for what? Sex appeal? Money? Travel? Insurance? 

[Steve5380]

1 hour ago, Guest Uncle said:

Running out of time for what? Sex appeal? Money? Travel? Insurance? 

 

Some run out of all this at 30,  others at 70+...

[InBangkok]

16 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

 

Some run out of all this at 30,  others at 70+...

And some as they approach 80!

[Steve5380]

8 hours ago, InBangkok said:

And some as they approach 80!

 

Aside of making some concessions about "sex appeal",  there is no need to run out of any of that throughout the 80s, 90s.

[Guest Fatty]

On 8/30/2020 at 3:12 AM, Guest Armpits said:

My uncle now 80s and tied to the bed in a hospice wearing diapers all day. He's rich as hell. Has many wealthy children and grandchildren galore. So what! He now lives like a leashed and unwanted dog. I used to admire his hot hairy bod and monster banana when he was young prime

Did you have a chance to play with it?

[practease]

 

You are the master of your life. If you limit yourself, that's where you'll stay. If you don't, the sky is the limit.

[Guest Bill]

I'm 50 today. I don't feel that I'm running out of time. Just ageing graciously. Seizing every moment. Stop overhinking.

[Steve5380]

When I was 50 I never felt like I was running out of time.   Now 30 years later, I don't feel this either.  

 

What is time anyway?   It is always running,  but not "running out".   Even when we have long-term goals and ambitions, we should pursue them like we will live forever,  and then if they are truncated by death, it won't matter anyway.

[Guest Dreamer]

24 minutes ago, Steve5380 said:

When I was 50 I never felt like I was running out of time.   Now 30 years later, I don't feel this either.  

 

 we have long-term goals and ambitions, we should pursue them like we will live forever

At 80, what is your goal and ambition?

[Steve5380]

8 hours ago, Guest Dreamer said:

At 80, what is your goal and ambition?

 

My goals today are to resume the practice of Aikido, which was suspended during the pandemic, and reach the degree of black belt.   In addition, practice and perfect my playing of piano so I can master most of the music of Chopin.  Then, when my sister soon comes to live with me,  to have a good household where we will convive and share intellectual interests and activities, while being in closer contact with my son's family,  my grandchildren.

[drektster]

my ideal age of death is 60. meaning i have already done almost what i need to do. no need to wait till the chronic illness and their complication to set in for the next 20 years. So, 50 will mark the last 10 years of my life.

[Steve5380]

2 minutes ago, drektster said:

my ideal age of death is 60. meaning i have already done almost what i need to do. no need to wait till the chronic illness and their complication to set in for the next 20 years. So, 50 will mark the last 10 years of my life.

 

You don't think that you can live past 60 without chronic illnesses and their complications setting in?   Or have you some illnesses already?   Even if you do,  they often can be managed well today.

[drektster]

2 minutes ago, Steve5380 said:

 

You don't think that you can live past 60 without chronic illnesses and their complications setting in?   Or have you some illnesses already?   Even if you do,  they often can be managed well today.

wahlao eh, you look that all the old folks suffer from mental illness, life becomes meaningless, goes to coffee shop sing praise for CCP. some of them so old liao still act lao beng, fought over small matters. some even worse gamble all day in and out. (that is the reason i dun like to play in casino with asians). i wants to die at 60 as i wants to enjoy my life till the end. let the youngsters create a better future, do not wants to burden the next generation. no point sueing children over maintenance, they have their own problems and stress.

look at many of the politicians, so old liao still suck so much juice and so greedy. what for?

[Guest Motive]

34 minutes ago, Steve5380 said:

 

My goals today are to resume the practice of Aikido, which was suspended during the pandemic, and reach the degree of black belt.   In addition, practice and perfect my playing of piano so I can master most of the music of Chopin.  Then, when my sister soon comes to live with me,  to have a good household where we will convive and share intellectual interests and activities, while being in closer contact with my son's family,  my grandchildren.

After the pandemic, many people will resume their ordinary daily activities. in your case.  Why does your sister continue to avoid or stay away from you. We assumed that you two had been living together for at least a year by this point. Are you attempting to buy time in order to experience freedom?

[Steve5380]

2 hours ago, drektster said:

wahlao eh, you look that all the old folks suffer from mental illness, life becomes meaningless, goes to coffee shop sing praise for CCP. some of them so old liao still act lao beng, fought over small matters. some even worse gamble all day in and out. (that is the reason i dun like to play in casino with asians). i wants to die at 60 as i wants to enjoy my life till the end. let the youngsters create a better future, do not wants to burden the next generation. no point sueing children over maintenance, they have their own problems and stress.

look at many of the politicians, so old liao still suck so much juice and so greedy. what for?

 

You may be excessively focusing on the seniors who have problems and are unhappy.  There are such people of all ages.

 

Haven't you noticed some very old people who are so friendly and are always smiling?   Perhaps you had some old grand aunts and other family elders who were so nice to you as a child, spoiling you with love and presents? 

 

If you live your life correctly, there is a good chance that you will experience old age as the happiest time in your life.  Beyond the economical, relational, social daily struggles of life, still with some health left and no pains, detached from the ambitions and pressing goals of youth, unconcerned about as little as 20 years in the future,  we older folks should be happy to be alive.   There are no wars in Singapore, no economic crises, no racial upheavals, no looming natural disasters.  So why cannot you look forwards to a peaceful life as a

senior?   You should be sufficiently smart to be able to get there. And then you should be able to find better entertainment than sitting on a bench feeding the pigeons.  

[Steve5380]

1 hour ago, Guest Motive said:

After the pandemic, many people will resume their ordinary daily activities. in your case.  Why does your sister continue to avoid or stay away from you. We assumed that you two had been living together for at least a year by this point. Are you attempting to buy time in order to experience freedom?

 

It is not that I am buying time to experience freedom,  I am free already and so is she.  Living with a sister is not the same as being married to a girl or boy.  My sister's husband died a short time ago and she is now living alone in her big house.  She needs time to liquidate everything there and come to Houston.   Plus, she has some medical problems that need treatment which she does not want to interrupt. My bf died a short time ago and now I am living alone in my big house. We are not in a rush, but our plan to live together is good for both of us.

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Edited December 11, 2022 by Steve5380

[lohwpr]

I am 54 now and I qualify to lean into this discussion. 

 

Perhaps my view is bias as I am semi-retired and financially sustainable. I don't not represent the majority of those who are in their 50s. 

 

@54, I gym 5 days weekly. Lifting weights and challenge myself over the pass 3 years. Though my heart feels young but my body keeps reminding me of my age.

 

I have more arch and pain. I recover significantly slower.

 

My sleep is shallower. I go to bed @ 1030pm but wakes up @ 4-5am daily.  I would be lucky to have a good 6 hours sleep. I can't remember the last time I sleep beyond 8am. 

 

I have difficult maintain my hard on and some days, getting a hard on is already a bonus; even though I feel horny all the time. I am thankful that I still get my daily morning wood. 

 

I know how fast is 25 years. By extension, I know the end is not too far away as the life expectancy in Singapore is about 82 years old.

 

My life has been an exciting journey. I went thru many ups and downs resulting me into building a successful business. And yet, I wish for 20 years younger so that I have more time to build a bigger empire. It is not just about the money. It is the fun and satisfaction of growing your baby. For some, it is like leveling up when you are playing a computer games. To me, my business is my game. 

 

I no longer seeing a need to hide my sexuality but I do not outright proclaim with a rainbow flag. I learn years ago many around me already knew that I am gay anyway. The secret is not to talk about it to maintain a perfect balance. But if someone were to ask me if I am gay, I would answer it with a resounding "YES".

 

I am as happy as I can be because I am seeing my peers still fighting daily for a living. 

 

Oh yes... There is one more good thing that happens to me when I turned 50. I have getting more hit from men now that I became a desirable daddy bear. Never had I gotten such attention before. 

 

To end off, as Spock says, live long and prosper..

 

 

 

 

[Ryuki]

Why you care how other think and do, just be yourself everybody is different

[radiusulnar]

50s is the new 30s. live it to the max!