Do u ever think of committing suicide

[Guest Depressed]

What to do ?

[darkchinesedick]

please consider talking to someone. anyone.

[fab]

6221 4444

[chaowamushi]

If you are suicidal or have difficulties coping and need to talk, please call the helplines for help:

 

SOS (Samaritans of Singapore) - 1800 221 4444 - Daily - 24 Hours

 

Emergency Helpline (IMH) - 6389 2222 - Daily - 24 Hours

Or go to the nearest hospital A&E and let them know that you are feeling unsafe due to suicidal thoughts

 

Below are a list of other helplines that may help you with your situation:

https://www.healthhub.sg/a-z/support-groups-and-others/20/call-on-these-when-you-need-help

[VanillaSalt]

If you're in depression, it's good to confide in someone you trust. Bearing such a burden alone can draw you deeper into depression without you even realizing it....

 

If there is no one you trust, then I think there are many kind hearted people here willing to hear you out, and there's a certain charm in chatting with strangers about your life and problems:'). 

 

Take time to tell your story and don't do anything impulsive >.<. 

[Kimochi]

29 minutes ago, Guest Depressed said:

What to do ?

Talk to somebody you are close to and you can share your heart problems to, if you do not want help line. 

[Guest Blank]

Someone put up a post earlier that gays will use grindr to talk to someone if they have suicide tendency.

 

Either way, you didn't say why must suicide. I know in the teenage days, I feel like leaping off the window to end it all. But thinking how sad my parents will be make me think I can be too selfish. I can die and not afraid of death, but just can't be too selfish to let others suffer while I'm dead. Dying is too easy

[Rohanpune]

If it’s hard talking to people u know and if you feel that they won’t understand. Sometimes talking to stranger helps and someone who has professional insights might help u better please seek professional help. always remember u deserve better u just don’t know it... get some professional help  who will make u realise that. 

[epic_fail]

whatever it is. 

it WILL pass.

hang in there.

💪

[Guest Daddy's Princess]

2 hours ago, epic_fail said:

whatever it is. 

it WILL pass.

hang in there.

💪

Probaly a troll,

3 hours ago, Guest Depressed said:

What to do ?

No head no tail. 

[fab]

Suicide is not a solution nor an end.

 

It's the beginning of another worse experience. 

Edited August 21, 2019 by fab

[Chinster]

Forget about the SOS helpline as I called them before years ago and they are of no help at all.

It is best to get professional help.. someone who is experienced and knows how to deal with different suicidal situations.

I don't know what stage you are at in this thought and/or if you have loved ones but do allow yourself time and lets say... 3 months .. and you will see things differently.

 

[Fit4Masc]

There are plenty of ups and downs in life.  Many people will have down periods throughout their lives, and even suicidal thoughts including myself!.  Be it financial, relationships, self esteem, loneliness etc etc.  But bear in mind, these dark moments will pass like a bad thunder storm.  The Sky will clear up again.  Just ride through them. The more we ride through them, the easier it is to get over them in future. Yes,  life can be a bitch most times.  But there are many great moments too.  Anyhow we are here only for a very short period,  just hang in there and make good use of every moment.

Edited August 21, 2019 by Fit4Masc

[Guest Neh Neh]

Suicider will go to ethernal hell both western and eastern believe the same.

[Guest Depressed]

Thanks guys 

[Guest Sad]

5 hours ago, Guest Depressed said:

What to do ?

I have a few serious thoughts to end my life. I have even try to cut my finger with pen knife to have a feel of it. Not even dare to cut my wrist. I feel so useless even not dare to kill myself. Cause feel people will think that I'm stupid n judge me for being a coward and not brave enough to face my fear. Also afraid what happen after die. Really no turning back. And dun want family to feel sad. And If I die who will take care when they old. 

 

It really depends on what are you facing? Just hang on there, it will pass. Have to thicken a bit of our face and act silly or act blur blur. I'm acting like I dun care but deep down I feel like dying. And its been like this for dunno how long already. Kind of numb already. When things repeat by itself again, the same things happen, I will ask question from forum in search for comfort n what to do. N then have sleepless night. Then act like dun care n isolate myself. Do not talk with ppl. Bad brain fog. Want to cry but act strong. After few days, no brain fog. Back to normal. But have to face gossips from ppl for my previous annoying behaviour. 

 

Then I'll go sauna to have sex to destress n forget the problems. After sex, problem comes back again. Then will go sleep early to stop thinking. Tomorrow wake up remember back the problem. Feel like not going to work. And this things repeat again n again. 

 

Just go with the flow. Have protected wild sex. Do something wild. Do something that you really wanted to do like if you are the only one here n no family or relatives or friends going to shame you. 

[auscent]

Every màn fights his own war. Let what is happening test ur patience not ur faith.

[Guest Sad]

40 minutes ago, auscent said:

Every màn fights his own war. Let what is happening test ur patience not ur faith.

There are ppl who will provoke and push you until your ugly side comes out. Then they will sit down n blame you n watch you being judged n smirking victoriously. Patience is very true. Whoever can persevere will win. It makes me trust no one.

[Steve5380]

6 hours ago, Guest Blank said:

 

Either way, you didn't say why must suicide. I know in the teenage days, I feel like leaping off the window to end it all. But thinking how sad my parents will be make me think I can be too selfish. I can die and not afraid of death, but just can't be too selfish to let others suffer while I'm dead. Dying is too easy

 

 

My thoughts too.  Every once in a while I have the wish to be dead, but this thought is strongly pushed away as a not an option.  I also think that dying is easy and it ends all suffering, it is the complete end of us, a return to the non existence before birth, so problem solved.  Except for one thing:  during our life we make contact with people we love.   There is no bigger harm we can do to these people than committing suicide.  Our natural death is bad for our survivors, but our suicide is much, much worse.  

 

We may have people we love for which we would die to save their life.  It could be our parents, spouse, boyfriend, children.  And the completely opposite would be to intentionally die and make their lives miserable.  No, there must be other solutions!  And if there are no solutions,  then let's be so and keep living without solutions.

[Guest Dicking]

Go cruising.  I find it very thereuptic. 

[Magenta_Lilies]

I have attempted suicide before. It was the darkest of times.

 

But actually, I didn't want the suicide to be successful. I guess it was a way out to tell my family of the difficulties I'm facing as I was too embarrassed to do so.

 

The act itself was more of a cry for help.

 

But yea, do seek the required help you need.

 

Hang in there.

[Guest Bboy0241]

What should you do if someone tells you they are thinking about suicide?

[Guest Going]

I’m thinking should I get rid of all possessions first, erase as much as possible all online presence, then disappear. And then the how, best is leave no traces of the body even.

[Guest Blank]

4 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

 

My thoughts too.  Every once in a while I have the wish to be dead, but this thought is strongly pushed away as a not an option.  I also think that dying is easy and it ends all suffering, it is the complete end of us, a return to the non existence before birth, so problem solved.  Except for one thing:  during our life we make contact with people we love.   There is no bigger harm we can do to these people than committing suicide.  Our natural death is bad for our survivors, but our suicide is much, much worse.  

 

We may have people we love for which we would die to save their life.  It could be our parents, spouse, boyfriend, children.  And the completely opposite would be to intentionally die and make their lives miserable.  No, there must be other solutions!  And if there are no solutions,  then let's be so and keep living without solutions.

 

Exactly. Many times I hope the plane would crash while I'm taking it so that this could at least be an accident. Feel very tired to live. 

 

But I'm living for my parents and bf now. Sometimes I'm thinking of breaking up with my bf so he can know a better man out there. And that I'm a useless person not worthy for him. 

 

Death is very easy for me. Many people fear it but i don't. Even if tomorrow is my last day, I am ready for it. Anytime. Hope never would I ever need to reincarnate anymore to withstand all the sufferings

[doncoin]

You re going through a depression. It is ok and it is normal to feel that way every so often. However, you need to know that this depression will end and life will get better. 

 

It can be challenging to wake up every morning, and wondering why did you wake up and have to face another day? You wish you could be left alone and everything gone. You may think that you won't be missed after you are gone, but you re wrong. There will be people who will miss you, and grieve at your passing. Some will feel hurt by what you have done, and feel guilty for not reaching out to you, and wish they had. 

 

Your sense of worth may be shitty now, but it will get better. It is hard to see the light, and believe in hope when everything is so bleak at the moment. You have a support system, and even if you don't there are organizations like SOS out there who will be there with you as you go through this dark period. 

 

 

[Guest]

i do have the attempts but fail - now i look back, so silly of me with embarrassment to talk about it.

 

at that time, my mind is blank,numb and meaningless just want to stop , to end it and to get over it.

 

i can't think, can't breath, can't cry, can't bother to talk about it nor seek help...worst can't sleep.

 

just stupid tired,restless, weak and numb - i see grey colour all the time.

 

 

well, i can only advise it ////take a walk , perspire sweat, and try to rest plenty with water.

 

 

 

[Steve5380]

1 hour ago, Guest Blank said:

 

But I'm living for my parents and bf now. Sometimes I'm thinking of breaking up with my bf so he can know a better man out there. And that I'm a useless person not worthy for him. 

 

 

Please don't break up.  Put yourself in the shoes of your bf.  Maybe I can give you an idea, since I was in this position.

For many, many years my bf suffered an illness that finally lead to his passing away, and I was at his side caring  for him.   Several times he told me he wished we would break up so I did not have to put up with him.  I always replied that I needed him to get better and stay with me so he could take care of me when I am old  (he was 20 years younger than me, although I doubted that he would survive me.)  Shortly before his death he told me again "please let me go",  and I replied with the same, without knowing how soon he would be gone. Now I see the times I cared for him as some of my happiest ones, although I was unaware of this.  I would do everything imaginable to go back to care for him.

 

Love is something strange that can bond us with people "who are not worthy for us".  We cannot know what is "useless" for others.  Maybe you are essential for your bf like my bf was for me.  Stop seeing yourself as worthless, give that negative thought a break,  and instead try to make your bf's life as good as possible.

[Guest Fit Uncle]

I have to confess that I don't understand why people can have suicidal thoughts.

Life is always so interesting with so many people in this world, there's always something new happening. Just avoid the nasty people since this is a free society, you can.

 

No matter what happened, at worse you lose everything. Then you don't need much to live on anyway. Old clothes are free, meals can be as cheap as $1. Sleep wherever you can since there's no winter here, at worse if it's too hot just go topless & wear the cheapest shorts, less clothes to wash.

 

I've been to the sauna where an 80+ yo old man was merrily cruising for sex. People were avoiding him and giving him the nasty looks. He don't care and merrily enjoy his life looking for fun where he can. He valued every minute that he still has. He can barely even walk properly, has health problems, yet his cheeky eyes were still full of life, albeit from seeing me naked and showering before him. This little thing was enough for him to be happy.

Are you worse off than him? How much do you need to be happy?

 

[Guest sadness love]

I'm mostly depressed too and on medication, but please don't think of killing yourself, there's still a lot to explore in this world.

 

Don't be afraid to see a doctor if condition worsen.

 

 

[BJason18]

I almost drink that baygon before the daddy hit my room door, it was like a few seconds of miracle in my life. I was heart broken to see my daddy's wife visited him in our apartment (we got shared kitchen apartment from the office). 

 

I did not think about life, family, career, etc anymore, what I thought was only "I lost the love of my life, I have useless life" that time. But look now, I have a very colorful and positive career. God saved me, or my ex daddy saved me that time. Thank God.

[Guest Disclosed Yourself]

Is it possible to predict suicide?

[Guest Korean]

Now I have more understanding and empathy as to why Leslie, Linkin park n Korean celebrities attempted suicide. Not that I encourage suicide. Or ppl will say its not comparable to the misery of third world country, famined ppl, or war country. Just because it is not apple to apple comparison, we can put it lightly. Until you are hit by it, then u will truly understand.

[FattChoy]

1) The fact is,  Life is a Journey 

 

2) I was taught to see Suicide as a no-no.  It's even against the law.

 

3) As I grow older, I began to understand why some rich celebrities like Chris Connell, Chester Bennington and Robin Williams pull the plug on their lives.  And that's because they chose not to continue their journey anymore.  In a way I can see how they have the (can I say courage and guts?) determination to do what they feel rather than what everyone else is telling them.

 

4) Life is a Journey, but not THE journey that you idealised in your head.  When someone doesn't like their journey anymore, they have a number of options to change that.  They choose one, most will do nothing to change their journey and that's just a fact of life.

 

6) So that's my thoughts on suicide.  I certainly hope my friends and family don't commit that, cos it probably will be very traumatic to ME.  (Yes, ME!)  Heck, even listening to my brother saying he doesn't want to live anymore is stressful to me.  I wish he'll just tell his wife and daughter instead of disturbing my inner peace.  (After a while I told him I want nothing to do with his death.  If he wants to die, I told him his teenage daughter will have to go ID his body and pick the bones from his ashes in the funeral.  That sorta changed his mind)

 

Edited August 23, 2019 by FattChoy

[Guest Blank]

On 8/22/2019 at 3:54 AM, Steve5380 said:

 

Please don't break up.  Put yourself in the shoes of your bf.  Maybe I can give you an idea, since I was in this position.

For many, many years my bf suffered an illness that finally lead to his passing away, and I was at his side caring  for him.   Several times he told me he wished we would break up so I did not have to put up with him.  I always replied that I needed him to get better and stay with me so he could take care of me when I am old  (he was 20 years younger than me, although I doubted that he would survive me.)  Shortly before his death he told me again "please let me go",  and I replied with the same, without knowing how soon he would be gone. Now I see the times I cared for him as some of my happiest ones, although I was unaware of this.  I would do everything imaginable to go back to care for him.

 

Love is something strange that can bond us with people "who are not worthy for us".  We cannot know what is "useless" for others.  Maybe you are essential for your bf like my bf was for me.  Stop seeing yourself as worthless, give that negative thought a break,  and instead try to make your bf's life as good as possible.

But my bf may not think exactly the same as you. Sigh... I think he deserves someone better really 

[Steve5380]

2 hours ago, Guest Blank said:

But my bf may not think exactly the same as you. Sigh... I think he deserves someone better really 

 

Are you not underestimating your bf's judgment?  If he deserves someone better, wouldn't he be seeking this someone?

Maybe you put yourself excessively down, instead of he holding you excessively high.

[Guest Baf]

Why do people attempt suicide?

[BranLim]

Originally, I wanted to share my story as a guest but decided against it. Personally, I wanted to be as authentic as possible.

 

Over the past eight days, the thoughts of suicide intrude my mind several times a day. I wondered what if I jump in front of a large moving truck, leap off that overhead bridge into that oncoming traffic, drink bleach, or take five times the amount of Panadol. There's just so many ways for me to die. 



Every setback, mistake or error I faced, be it work, at home or out with friends, send me down a very dark path. I feel like it's hopeless. Nothing ever seem to work. I blame myself for every single thing that went wrong. There were times when I could barely hold it together and almost broke down in front of all my colleagues. Hell, even just writing this make me want to cry...



And today, despite managing to achieve something and got compliment by my excessively demanding boss, I still feel like a failure at times. I constantly ask myself questions about why nothing I do ever seem to go right or that I allow work to pile up.


I also lost count of how often I woke up in the middle of the night just to cry in bed.


The only thing that kept me going was the thought of wanting to give my parents something to thank them for trying their very best to raise me.


I knew I needed help and have already made the call to visit the psychologist. My appointment is in three weeks time and I swore to myself I will find a way to survive these three weeks. One step, one day at a time.

 

Also, just do whatever you feel like it in the moment but safety should always come first.

 

And the best way to do what you want to do is by counting down 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 in your mind after you get the desire. Then go do it.



Edited August 23, 2019 by BranLim

[Guest nogayloveme]

every gay i confessed my love to rejected and ignored me totally

every gay blocked me after I shared my photos

every gay rejected me in sauna locally and overseas

most of the time I hope to reborn and restart my live

[Fit4Masc]

33 minutes ago, Guest nogayloveme said:

every gay i confessed my love to rejected and ignored me totally

every gay blocked me after I shared my photos

every gay rejected me in sauna locally and overseas

most of the time I hope to reborn and restart my live

I use to think like you too.  Think all good looking gays can meet people easily.  But I spoke to a friend of mine who look like Bruce Willis.  I say you are so lucky, have so many men chasing after you.  But his reply really make me think twice.  He said initially he was on top of the world when he first came out as a gay man, getting all those attention.  But he now find it very difficult, because he have to reject people all the time, people that he is not attracted to. Because of that, he tends not to go out to bars and clubs and chose to hang around with the few good friends he got.  He even stopped going to the gym, so that he won't get too much unwanted attention..  He is a very nice person and he always feel bad after he rejected someone, because he don't like to hurt peoples feelings.  See we all have our own problems, not everybody is problem free. Just be happy with whom you are, but put effort into making yourself feel better about yourself.  If you feel like a nice body will get you more attention and happier, go to the gym.  If you think plastic surgery will help, go do it.  Just be happy that you are born fully functioning, both mentally and physically, which not everybody have.  Looks fade and people grows old.  Just focus and enjoy other aspect of life e.g. Travel, social with friends, hobbies etc etc

 

 

 

Edited August 23, 2019 by Fit4Masc

[Guest Guest]

Actually, the best way to get rid of suicidal thoughts is to take a nice long holiday. And then think of what is the most toxic things that is making you feeling so bad about yourself, and move away from them, even if that will mean for you to become financially independent more quickly.

 

Trust me: You will feel better. 

 

https://headsupguys.org/five-steps-overcoming-suicidal-thoughts/ 

 

 

[Marineboy]

On 8/21/2019 at 6:09 PM, Guest Neh Neh said:

Suicider will go to ethernal hell both western and eastern believe the same.

Believe does not make it true....you think sobelieve so  only ....

[Steve5380]

On 8/23/2019 at 8:20 AM, BranLim said:

Originally, I wanted to share my story as a guest but decided against it. Personally, I wanted to be as authentic as possible.

 

Over the past eight days, the thoughts of suicide intrude my mind several times a day. I wondered what if I jump in front of a large moving truck, leap off that overhead bridge into that oncoming traffic, drink bleach, or take five times the amount of Panadol. There's just so many ways for me to die. 



Every setback, mistake or error I faced, be it work, at home or out with friends, send me down a very dark path. I feel like it's hopeless. Nothing ever seem to work. I blame myself for every single thing that went wrong. There were times when I could barely hold it together and almost broke down in front of all my colleagues. Hell, even just writing this make me want to cry...



And today, despite managing to achieve something and got compliment by my excessively demanding boss, I still feel like a failure at times. I constantly ask myself questions about why nothing I do ever seem to go right or that I allow work to pile up.


I also lost count of how often I woke up in the middle of the night just to cry in bed.


The only thing that kept me going was the thought of wanting to give my parents something to thank them for trying their very best to raise me.


I knew I needed help and have already made the call to visit the psychologist. My appointment is in three weeks time and I swore to myself I will find a way to survive these three weeks. One step, one day at a time.

 

Also, just do whatever you feel like it in the moment but safety should always come first.

 

And the best way to do what you want to do is by counting down 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 in your mind after you get the desire. Then go do it.



 

You must be a very intelligent and rational person.  Therefore, you may be able to see things from a different perspective.

 

Today, every setback, mistake, error sends you down a very dark path.   But our evolutionary nature should take these (apparent) negatives as the path to improvement.  Since we are born we LEARN by mistakes, errors, setbacks.  How many times we fall before we are able to walk, ride a bicycle? How many mistakes we make before we speak correctly?  

 

Your (apparent) negatives must not be so critical,  since you are still employed by an excessively demanding boss.  A fortunate change in perspective could make you see your mistakes as life lessons,  and change your feelings to "thanks, nature for teaching me this lesson".  With this new feelings you could even assimilate these lessons to positively evolve into an increasingly valuable person.  I am in my 70s,  and I keep learning from my mistakes, hopefully until my last breath  

 

Good that you love your parents.  You are NOT going to give them such a terrible harm as taking your life.  

 

Dead bodies don't make mistakes.  Be HAPPY that you are strong and healthy to be able to make the biggest mistakes.

[BranLim]

10 minutes ago, Steve5380 said:

 

You must be a very intelligent and rational person.  Therefore, you may be able to see things from a different perspective.

 

Today, every setback, mistake, error sends you down a very dark path.   But our evolutionary nature should take these (apparent) negatives as the path to improvement.  Since we are born we LEARN by mistakes, errors, setbacks.  How many times we fall before we are able to walk, ride a bicycle? How many mistakes we make before we speak correctly?  

 

Your (apparent) negatives must not be so critical,  since you are still employed by an excessively demanding boss.  A fortunate change in perspective could make you see your mistakes as life lessons,  and change your feelings to "thanks, nature for teaching me this lesson".  With this new feelings you could even assimilate these lessons to positively evolve into an increasingly valuable person.  I am in my 70s,  and I keep learning from my mistakes, hopefully until my last breath  

 

Good that you love your parents.  You are NOT going to give them such a terrible harm as taking your life.  

 

Dead bodies don't make mistakes.  Be HAPPY that you are strong and healthy to be able to make the biggest mistakes.

 

Thanks for the compliment, kind comments and support. I'm also highly emotive and is a HSP.

 

Yes, in hindsight, the negatives aren't that critical that would warrant getting me fired. Some of the setbacks aren't even due to my actions. The rational mind knows whatever you mentioned makes perfect sense. It's part of life and growth. And I'm really grateful that I do have friends who care and offer to help in whatever way they can.

 

Yet, I just couldn't help myself with the thoughts: what if I done it that way or this way, etc. I just feel like it's all my fault. Generally, I just feel trapped, overwhelmed and lost.

 

Today...those suicidal thoughts continue to intrude despite finishing a thirty minute workout. I felt good for a brief ten minutes and then I start seeing the world darkly, feeling really tired.

 

I forgot to mention that during my visit to a doctor two weeks ago (before I'm allowed to have an appointment with the psychologist), she thought I may have severe depression, one that may need medication to manage. But she couldn't give it to me without an official psychiatric evaluation. Right now, I do know I have symptoms of anxiety disorder and aspects of PTSD.

 

[Steve5380]

1 hour ago, BranLim said:

 

Thanks for the compliment, kind comments and support. I'm also highly emotive and is a HSP.

 

Yes, in hindsight, the negatives aren't that critical that would warrant getting me fired. Some of the setbacks aren't even due to my actions. The rational mind knows whatever you mentioned makes perfect sense. It's part of life and growth. And I'm really grateful that I do have friends who care and offer to help in whatever way they can.

 

Yet, I just couldn't help myself with the thoughts: what if I done it that way or this way, etc. I just feel like it's all my fault. Generally, I just feel trapped, overwhelmed and lost.

 

Today...those suicidal thoughts continue to intrude despite finishing a thirty minute workout. I felt good for a brief ten minutes and then I start seeing the world darkly, feeling really tired.

 

I forgot to mention that during my visit to a doctor two weeks ago (before I'm allowed to have an appointment with the psychologist), she thought I may have severe depression, one that may need medication to manage. But she couldn't give it to me without an official psychiatric evaluation. Right now, I do know I have symptoms of anxiety disorder and aspects of PTSD.

 

 

Also intelligent is that you seek help from mental health professionals.  Taken with caution, this help can be very positive.  Anxiety disorder and PTSD are treatable,  and these may be the only obstacles for you to live a happy and fulfilled life.

 

I got some help from a video "How to practice emotional first aid" that @G_M posted in the thread "Cheer me up please".  Especially the way of escaping ruminations

 

 

Another interesting info I found in the thread "Ten Simple Principles of Spiritual Awakening" started by @IkuTube

 

 

All this good information may not be a substitute for good mental health care,  but it could reduce the needs for medication.

[Guest Eleben]

What are the most common methods of suicide?

[Guest Guest]

1 hour ago, Guest Eleben said:

What are the most common methods of suicide?

Get married loh

[mate69]

Yes.

[Guest Dirty Auntie]

Why do men complete suicide more often than women do?

[fab]

34 minutes ago, Guest Dirty Auntie said:

Why do men complete suicide more often than women do?

 

What makes say this?

[Guest Cleanly Teacher]

On 8/21/2019 at 1:42 PM, Guest Blank said:

Someone put up a post earlier that gays will use grindr to talk to someone if they have suicide tendency.

 

Either way, you didn't say why must suicide. I know in the teenage days, I feel like leaping off the window to end it all. But thinking how sad my parents will be make me think I can be too selfish. I can die and not afraid of death, but just can't be too selfish to let others suffer while I'm dead. Dying is too easy

 

It is a sin to take suicide. Long time ago i had such tendency because i was needing love and attention from my parents.When i got bf, it changed everything. I became religious and always visit temple now. My life has become positive and joyful. If you are thinking about doing it, find someone to talk first.