Do You Embrace Your Body Type?

[Guest Xyz123]

I’ve been gaining weight lately despite of doing exercise. Some people are saying that I’m getting lazy. That hurts. They don’t know the effort I’m doing to stay fit. Do you think that being fat means being lazy?

[Guest Fatty]

No, we are just big boned

[Guest Guest]

11 minutes ago, Guest Xyz123 said:

I’ve been gaining weight lately despite of doing exercise. Some people are saying that I’m getting lazy. That hurts. They don’t know the effort I’m doing to stay fit. Do you think that being fat means being lazy?

 

Yes, you are lazy. You don't even go onto the internet to find out the fact that weight loss is more about 80% diet control and 20% exercising. So yes, you are lazy. 

[Steve5380]

2 hours ago, Guest Xyz123 said:

I’ve been gaining weight lately despite of doing exercise. Some people are saying that I’m getting lazy. That hurts. They don’t know the effort I’m doing to stay fit. Do you think that being fat means being lazy?

 

No. People can be very active and still be fat.   It is ignorance to blame people for being fat,  like it is to blame gays for being gay.

 

But you got a good suggestion to research the ways to lose weight. Eating less fattening foods is much more effective than exercising.  This does not mean that one should give up on exercising, since it is important to be in good shape once the fat disappears.

[Guest hello-boys]

21 minutes ago, Steve5380 said:

 

No. People can be very active and still be fat.   It is ignorance to blame people for being fat,  like it is to blame gays for being gay.

 

But you got a good suggestion to research the ways to lose weight. Eating less fattening foods is much more effective than exercising.  This does not mean that one should give up on exercising, since it is important to be in good shape once the fat disappears.

 

yes like my situation now, i dont lose weight even i dont eat carbs and sugar and eat less but im not losing any weight

[Steve5380]

13 minutes ago, Guest hello-boys said:

 

yes like my situation now, i dont lose weight even i dont eat carbs and sugar and eat less but im not losing any weight

 

It is good that you don't eat sugar. But complex carbohydrates like legumes, vegetables, fruits can help in losing weight.   My favorite dish is lentils cooked in a pot with different cruciferous vegetables, onions, tomatoes, beets, carrots,  and I eat this every day.  Fruits that are in season make good desserts. Lean chicken breasts are good protein, the same as whey protein isolate if cost is not a problem. Eating many small meals throughout the day is better than the three traditional big meals.  Eat little for dinner and long before going to bed.   There is so much healthy eating advice on the web that it can become overwhelming.  Some prestigious books about good nutrition can be helpful.

[Guest Guest]

22 minutes ago, Guest hello-boys said:

 

yes like my situation now, i dont lose weight even i dont eat carbs and sugar and eat less but im not losing any weight

 

yeah ... right ..... 

 

[Kimochi]

Firstly which body type are you?? 

 

https://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/becker3.htm

 

Then plan your LIFESTYLE, diet and exercise accordingly . Need willpower and dedication and discipline. 🙃

[sam8899]

Go see a doctor for check up, especially check your thyroid.

 

If you eat sensibly and exercise, the weight should gradually come down

[anxiousfriedtofu]

You should embrace what genetics have given to you, i.e. aspects of yourself that you can't change. This could be your fat distribution, skinny limbs, narrow shoulders or wide hips.

 

Body fat level is very much controllable. Lazy isn't the word, its just that everyone is presented with different circumstances and what they chose to proritize on a day to day basis.

[thatsamore]

Even thou I am the weight according to my height I still think there is always room to make my physique better, we all dream of having the perfect body. It does take alot of discipline in terms of what we eat and ofcourse I rather not exercise and rest my butt and watch TV, but I try to push myself where exercise is concern. Food is always too tempting but I know that if I want to eat sweet stuff I have to be willing to do the exercise or end up with a flabby belly 😅

 

My weight is like yoyo -  fluctuates up and down but I find that my best progress was when I had a calendar to indicate days I worked out. I would use a highlighter to mark down all the dates that I had some form of exercise and that gave me a visual idea of how much or how little I did. And if I did not see much highlights - yeah I was lazy that month! Lol. And ofcouse you will need a weighing scale, when you see the numbers going the wrong direction you will need to scale down the feeding and pump up the exercising.

 

But our reason for doing it all should not be for appearance but simply to be healthy.   

 

 

Edited November 11 by thatsamore

[Steve5380]

On 10/10/2019 at 8:48 PM, Guest hello-boys said:

 

yes like my situation now, i dont lose weight even i dont eat carbs and sugar and eat less but im not losing any weight

 

On 10/10/2019 at 9:11 PM, Steve5380 said:

 

It is good that you don't eat sugar. But complex carbohydrates like legumes, vegetables, fruits can help in losing weight.   My favorite dish is lentils cooked in a pot with different cruciferous vegetables, onions, tomatoes, beets, carrots,  and I eat this every day.  Fruits that are in season make good desserts. Lean chicken breasts are good protein, the same as whey protein isolate if cost is not a problem. Eating many small meals throughout the day is better than the three traditional big meals.  Eat little for dinner and long before going to bed.   There is so much healthy eating advice on the web that it can become overwhelming.  Some prestigious books about good nutrition can be helpful.

 

In the last years I have found an ideal way to lose weight:  intermittent fasting.  I have been doing this every day for the last two years.

 

And rather than to "lose" weight, it is a good method to reach the ideal weight the body wants to have.  Now I want to GAIN weight, but I'm not successful.  Perhaps I should accept that my body wants to weight less with my advancing age... 

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Edited November 12 by Steve5380

[Steve5380]

On 11/11/2024 at 5:45 AM, thatsamore said:

Even thou I am the weight according to my height I still think there is always room to make my physique better, we all dream of having the perfect body. It does take alot of discipline in terms of what we eat and ofcourse I rather not exercise and rest my butt and watch TV, but I try to push myself where exercise is concern. Food is always too tempting but I know that if I want to eat sweet stuff I have to be willing to do the exercise or end up with a flabby belly 😅

 

My weight is like yoyo -  fluctuates up and down but I find that my best progress was when I had a calendar to indicate days I worked out. I would use a highlighter to mark down all the dates that I had some form of exercise and that gave me a visual idea of how much or how little I did. And if I did not see much highlights - yeah I was lazy that month! Lol. And ofcouse you will need a weighing scale, when you see the numbers going the wrong direction you will need to scale down the feeding and pump up the exercising.

 

But our reason for doing it all should not be for appearance but simply to be healthy.   

 

 

You are right in general.  In the last decades there have been some findings that provide more ways to attain good health.  And this also comes with with good appearance and beauty!

 

One finding is that we should adjust our nutrition to attain optimum metabolism, good insulin sensitivity:  reduce  to the maximum the sugars and starches, starting by avoiding processed foods and vegetable oils ( junk food ).  Another good finding is to do "the opposite of nutrition":  fasting,  in particular the intermittent fasting.   Instead of a yoyo, adapt slowly to these findings and you won't have to worry anymore when they become habits forever.

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Edited December 14 by Steve5380

[Sweetie Pie]

On 10/11/2019 at 6:46 AM, Guest Xyz123 said:

I’ve been gaining weight lately despite of doing exercise. Some people are saying that I’m getting lazy. That hurts. They don’t know the effort I’m doing to stay fit. Do you think that being fat means being lazy?

It is impossible to judge a book by its cover.  Despite being overweight (visuallly fat looking), my campmate was the quickest runner during IPPT and had remarkable alertness and mental acuity during nighttime outdoor exercises.  Those who are thin frequently complain of occasional discomfort or aching. 

 

I observed that his stomach was very proportionate to his chest as he was taking a shower.  Imagine a nicely protruding curve that resembles the belly of a well-fed shark, rather than a swollen, loopy tire-like stomach, resembling pregnancy.

 

I am absolutely sure, he has market value in the gay circle based on the description I just mentioned.  However, some people may not find those well-muscled, chiseled, meatless bodies, such as skinny Bak Kut Teh types, appealing.

Edited November 14 by Sweetie Pie

[radiusulnar]

On 11/14/2024 at 7:06 PM, Sweetie Pie said:

well-muscled, chiseled, meatless bodies, such as skinny Bak Kut Teh types,

 

Skinny BKT means those with exposed ribcage POW look? 

[single42]

If u wanna talk abt proper diet

 

Morning breakfast:

 

Whole grain bread with cheese, lettuce & tomatoes

 

And a big cup of milk

 

Lunch:

 

Steam brown rice with steam chicken breasts without skin and seasonal vegetables / salad

 

Lots of water

 

Dinner: 

 

Fruits only

[single42]

Or u can go for 1 meal a day. Super heavy ( brunch) the rest of the day u dun eat

 

Or intermittent fasting 

[thatsamore]

2 hours ago, single42 said:

If u wanna talk abt proper diet

 

Morning breakfast:

 

Whole grain bread with cheese, lettuce & tomatoes

 

And a big cup of milk

 

Lunch:

 

Steam brown rice with steam chicken breasts without skin and seasonal vegetables / salad

 

Lots of water

 

Dinner: 

 

Fruits only

This is a very sad diet. I feel that angmo diets always say eat chicken breast - how to sustain eating like that every day! Here in SG most of the working folks eat at hawkers centre or coffee shop. One needs to figure out healthier hawker fare. Maybe eat clear fish soup or Yong Tau Foo or Spinach Soup with little or no rice. For chinese food still can find healthy options. For Indian and Muslim food the healthy options are unfortunately very limited.  

Edited November 18 by thatsamore

[yoyo74]

On 10/11/2019 at 6:46 AM, Guest Xyz123 said:

I’ve been gaining weight lately despite of doing exercise. Some people are saying that I’m getting lazy. That hurts. They don’t know the effort I’m doing to stay fit. Do you think that being fat means being lazy?

Exercise alone never able to lose weight for me. Diet is the thing that helps me lose weight fast

[yoyo74]

On 10/11/2019 at 9:48 AM, Guest hello-boys said:

 

yes like my situation now, i dont lose weight even i dont eat carbs and sugar and eat less but im not losing any weight

I believe you got your food wrong. Many food items are very high carbs and you need to read a lot to know which food will make you fat and which food will not make you fat.

There are some people saying water will make you fat but that is very wrong. Plain water is 0 calories and you need to drink lots of it to prevent your body from mistaken thirst to be hunger. You body may become temporary bloated for a short while but in the long run it will help you slim down. Eat more leaf vegetables that grows above ground as those are very low in calories. Those vegetables that grow underground like potatoes are high carb too

[single42]

1 hour ago, thatsamore said:

This is a very sad diet. I feel that angmo diets always say eat chicken breast - how to sustain eating like that every day! Here in SG most of the working folks eat at hawkers centre or coffee shop. One needs to figure out healthier hawker fare. Maybe eat clear fish soup or Yong Tau Foo or Spinach Soup with little or no rice. For chinese food still can find healthy options. For Indian and Muslim food the healthy options are unfortunately very limited.  

 

 

Actually, my diet is pretty simple..

 

if i were to go to MacDonald, i will still go for a burger, no mayonnaise, more greens, fries without salt, throw in a salad to the meal, get mineral water instead o fthe usual shitty soft drinks. 

 

or i go to buy sushi straight from NTUC Finest

 

alternative is, if i have rice for lunch, dinner, i skip all forms of carbs

[Blue-Eyes W.Dragon]

I don't. I hate my nipples.

[radiusulnar]

no. embracing means giving up. i want to keep working on it.

[ERFAbangBear]

100% need me some similarly thicc boys on my side. 

[Thatguy642]

I have a lot of insecurities I’m trying to work on, but I’ve learned to no longer hate myself for not looking a certain way!

[egal]

i wish i had the bods of some guys here

[Steve5380]

10 hours ago, egal said:

i wish i had the bods of some guys here

 

No point in wishing other persons' bods.  Nature gave you yours!   It might have its problems.  I disliked mine, because I was born with a caved in chest, and I hated its looks!  BUT... the earlier you start caring for YOUR body,  embracing it and seeing also the good things in it,  the better.  I overcame my defect of birth, which motivated me to exercise in a gym, and after all these years my bod is much, much better than those I admired at the time.  They are also seniors, if they are still alive,  and I had the opportunity to see many of them when we had a 50+ years reunion after graduation from high school.  Oh my God!,  did some of them look old and ruinous!  I could have spend years giving them advice, helping them to improve...  But I had to return back to the US from my visit to Argentina...

[egal]

true

[doncoin]

I think part of the problem with social media is that they are designed to make us feel less than adequate with our own lives. I don't look like my profile pic everyday. There will be times when I am less defined, like right now with all the holiday feasting. Also as you realised al lot of how a photo appears has to do with flexing, angle of the pose, and lighting. So focus on being the best version of you. 

[EastSgDad]

5 hours ago, doncoin said:

I think part of the problem with social media is that they are designed to make us feel less than adequate with our own lives. I don't look like my profile pic everyday. There will be times when I am less defined, like right now with all the holiday feasting. Also as you realised al lot of how a photo appears has to do with flexing, angle of the pose, and lighting. So focus on being the best version of you. 

Well said!

Cannot agree more. 

 

I uses to compare with others when I was much much younger. Feeling inferior. 

When older, I am contented with what I have. Treasure and take good care of me, myself and mine.

Edited 11 hours ago by EastSgDad

[Sweetie Pie]

If I may break your bubble of good body shape.  You will encounter 60% of people in life who are in excellent body shape but have bad personality.   It is blatantly shortsighted to consider your body shape your greatest advantage.  Furthermore, it makes no difference what shape your body is as you get old and older.  When you go to an interview, people love your age more than your figure.  Gay matching or chatting room applies similarly.