Singapore Gay Bars / Pub / Clubbing Places To Recommend? + Where To Club & Chillout? (Compiled)

[kh87]

I stop going alone to Gay bar/club in Singapore one year ago

It is so boring, people just look at you ... do nothing ...

If I try to talk first then they think I want to sleep with him :yuk:

If I don't talk, just look then may be they think I am arrogant

so funny, better to stay at home and putting comments in this forum with a glass of wine :whistle:

it feels much better

Ha! totally Agree!

[Guest go Go GO!!]

Ha! totally Agree!

Has this idea, hope it works ...... We set a venue, date and time here. Maybe says, 30 Apr09 bt (8 - 10p.m) at Backstage. Bring along either two or more of the items listed here; a Yellow wrist band, A montblanc pen in the pocket, putting a ring on the index finger, A brown pant/jean (Black is too common), A Rado watch and etc ......

I suppose most of us doesn't know each others here. We can walk into the bar and sit close to the bar counter.

The purposes :

1.) Hope you don't feel alone and that everyone is looking at you because there are few people you have communicated with in the forum are there.

2.) Hope is easier for you to strike a conversation with people in the BW's forum. We are from the same family here ....... :whistle:

3.) As there are more and more BWers there, we become a GROUP and no longer the lone ranger......... :smokin:

4.) With some alcohol to go along with, you might become ......... :twisted:

5.) There will be more single and alone people that day and U will not be spoted as the odd one. Even if it does, it will only be a short period of time as more BWers will be joining you that Day!!!!

----> Btw, when and where we are going ....? Please vote. Maybe we can start from imchaser, rado980d, tennis_uncle and so on .....

[Guest Prince_A]

Has this idea, hope it works ...... We set a venue, date and time here. Maybe says, 30 Apr09 bt (8 - 10p.m) at Backstage. Bring along either two or more of the items listed here; a Yellow wrist band, A montblanc pen in the pocket, putting a ring on the index finger, A brown pant/jean (Black is too common), A Rado watch and etc ......

I suppose most of us doesn't know each others here. We can walk into the bar and sit close to the bar counter.

The purposes :

1.) Hope you don't feel alone and that everyone is looking at you because there are few people you have communicated with in the forum are there.

2.) Hope is easier for you to strike a conversation with people in the BW's forum. We are from the same family here ....... :whistle:

3.) As there are more and more BWers there, we become a GROUP and no longer the lone ranger......... :smokin:

4.) With some alcohol to go along with, you might become ......... :twisted:

5.) There will be more single and alone people that day and U will not be spoted as the odd one. Even if it does, it will only be a short period of time as more BWers will be joining you that Day!!!!

----> Btw, when and where we are going ....? Please vote. Maybe we can start from imchaser, rado980d, tennis_uncle and so on .....

Haha... Sounds like a really fun idea! But I only have the yellow wrist band and ring siah.. No MtBlanc and Rado yet.. Hahahaha... Any chance that it will be this weekend? Sat?

I have been a silent follower of BW. This is my first post. Hope can meet some of you great ppl out here!

[GachiMuchi]

If you really want to stand out from the crowd, a better suggestion for you is to dress with gold bracelet, Rolex watch, Pink Montague Polo T, black baggy pants and black Bata shoe and permed afro with dyed blond hairdo with thick gold chain.

Let's hope it not official dummy guide to gay bar for Dummies getting duped by anonymous guest.

[imchaser]

Dear lone rangers out there, theres nothing wrong to go to gay bar alone, in facts, there r more advantages if u r alone than with a group. There r two kind of lone rangers here, some that wants to go but couldnt find any friends to accompany, and the other kind is those who just prefer to go alone by choice.

Heres some real tips on how to go to gay bars alone:

1. Dont judge yourself. You are not a loser, a loner or desperate. You just wanna go to gay bars alone.
   
2. If a guy is interested in you, then you being alone can sometimes make him feel less intimidated.
   
3. Dont give the impression that u r alone by circumstance, but u choose to come alone.
   
4. Dont distract yourself by pretending to being busy on the phone or reading magazines when u r feeling awkward, cos it makes u seems like not open to a conversation to others.
   
5. Dont talk to yourself, or to your imaginary friends.
   
6. More times than not someone will see you and start a conversation with you, if u r hot. Dont afraid to say hello or smile to a stranger, esp those who r alone.
   
7. Being alone can boost your chance to meet more friends. Many are intimidated by groups. Some people would rather approach a guy that’s alone than one that’s with a group of friends!
   

Good luck. Although i sounds like an expect, i still havent been to a gay bar alone, as much and as frequent as i wanted to. Haha.

Edited April 15, 2009 by imchaser

[Prince_A]

Erm.. Does it mean that the outing is off?

[Riko]

I can't say for any other clubs/bars, but Tantric and Backstage are usually patronised by the same people week in and out (excluding the passing traveler/tourist).

My tip is: If you're ever there for hookups, do not reject people immediately based on your preference. If they're the ones initiating the conversation, just talk for a bit and if they make their move, just tell them politely that he's not your type/you're not there for hook ups. If you come off as an ass, chances are... he's going to talk about it.

[imchaser]

I have to admit, after so long, i still havent successfully step in a gay bar alone...

[Guest boyish_gen-yer]

I have to admit, after so long, i still havent successfully step in a gay bar alone...

i have a suggestion...if u have no guts, why dont u loosen ur inhibitions by getting one of those alcopops u can find at 7-eleven? after 2-3 bottles, guarantee u have the balls to walk into a bar and not care if anyone looks at u.

[imchaser]

Here some pick up line u can use when u r in a gay pub... good luck. Feel free to add in...

fxxk me if I'm wrong but is your name Suphachad?

I'll blow you if you buy me a drink.

I think we should have breakfast in the morning.

Can you go to the bathroom with me and help me do something?

We need to talk. (In serious manner)

Hi, can i buy u a drink and fxxk u?

Nice pants... they'll look great tossed in the corner of my bedroom.

I lost my bolster, will you sleep with me instead?

Have you ever kissed a rabbit between the ears? (Pull your pockets inside out....)

Can I help you with that hard-on in your pants?

Nice shoes... wanna fxxk?

Do you want to come to my place for a fxxk and some pizza?...

NO! .....

Why, don't you like pizza?

You might as well sleep with me because I’m going to tell everyone we did anyway!

I lost my puppy. Can you help me find him? I believe he went into hotel 81.

Nice ass. What time does it open?

Roses are red, violets are blue. . . let's go suck and fxxk.

You know, if I were you, I would have sex with me.

[legoboy]

This post realli bring back memories...Several yrs back when I 1st started out in this circle...exploring places alone..

I learnt many stuffs bout AJs and seen many ugly sides of humans through these experiences ...

It is not wrong to go and chill out alone... I do go to pub alone occasionally to chill out and relax.... I enjoy singing and listening to others sings... Didnt made much frenz except with the staffs there. However, I admired a few guys who could sing pretty well...

[Guest Ben J]

DISAPPOINTMENT NIGTH IN BACKSTAGE BAR

I was happen to be in Chinatown on one of the saturday and being introduce by a friend about Backstage so i plan to meet my friend there.

When i enter and was serve with a big nice smile by one of the chinese waiter(chan)and feeling was good.

I can say the place is nice and cozy, well play in music BUT this malay guy (Sambry) spoil my night.

At first i saw Sambry smiling and hugging around so i thought he is a very nice guy and he happen to by pass me and ask me for another drink, And i told him i'm waiting for a friend, Than to my surprise he give me a NASTY LOOK and walk away, I felt so insulted, so in few minute i order from him again as i felt bad and he reply with NO SMILE and Pulling a long bitchy face and glare at me in a nasty way and ask me to WAIT than he ask the chinese guy who is busy attending to other customer to serve me. (WHAT THE F..K)

To my SURPRISE again when my friend reach and out of sudden he is so nice to us and kept flirting with my friend and my friend feel so uncomfortable and uneasy and offended.

So i check with the staff there and notice he is a manager.

well is this what a MANAGER should do? or because i'm not good looking enough.

After than i notice he only hug and flirt with people HE LIKE and the rest will be serve by others.

To my BIG SURPRISE again, my friend told me Sambry did touch his(Pvt Area) so my friend ask him is it OK for the staff to touch customer?

he say to my friend he is the BOSS/MANAGER, HE CAN DO ANYTHING HE WANT in a soft tone.

Than we had talk to some friendly customer there and heard he had BANNED a few customer without a valid reason.

What I feel is, if this still goes ON. the crowd will be lesser as words of mouth is very POWERFUL.

We did not stay long as my friend don't like the way to be serve and we left with disappointment. Think we will not go there again. There are other pub with better service in Singapore.

Hopefully they will improve.

Ben J

[Guest voxierock]

IMO, if you're really there for a drink then just go in.

Sometimes you've gotta step out of your comfort zone and try, especially after so many failures.

When people look at you with weird expressions, just don't give a damn about what they think.

All they can do is think whatever they want to think and just sit there quietly doing whatever they're doing.

Like you said earlier, you're just there for a drink, unless you want something extra, then that's a different matter

[LoveKun]

That's it! I'm going alone this coming August to one Singapore plu bar. I'd never dare to been one in KL, i'll be in one in Singapore. Gud luck to me... hah!

[briax]

That's it! I'm going alone this coming August to one Singapore plu bar. I'd never dare to been one in KL, i'll be in one in Singapore. Gud luck to me... hah!

Hi LoveKun, have fun. Dun worry. Most Singaporean guys just look cold. We are slow to cook and when hot, most of the time we are piping hot.

[castaway]

When I used to go to Tantric bar alone by myself, the first thing after entering bar is always going straight to .... toilet . So on the way, I can see how things is ... :hat:

But now, no more , only going there with friends. It is much better, more fun than being alone

For oversea, the only bar I feel confident going alone is DJ in Bangkok :smokin:

For other bars in other countries, I am chicken too. Remember when I was in Hongkong, I went to a bar with a friend on one night and my friend left the next day so he encouraged me to go there alone again the day after instead of staying in hotel alone , but when I reached the same bar, I didn't feel confident to go inside by myself ... so I decided to go back after walking around :oops:

IMO, Backstage bar is more difficult to start conversation with others ... everyone sit @ 1 place or corners ...

[Guest Kimball]

It's a shame, and I do not mean to put people down.

Singaporeans are such wimps, u just can'y help but find many dudes afraid of doing things, especially alone. It's like little girls afraid to goto the toilet alone, and ask innocent questions of how to do things, whether in a bar or a sauna.

[Eragon]

I always go DYMK or Backstage alone. Drink liao then go home n sleep...

Yet to explore Iluvia, since so near office.

Edited July 8, 2010 by Eragon

[Guest slinkYcaT]

It's a shame, and I do not mean to put people down.

Singaporeans are such wimps, u just can'y help but find many dudes afraid of doing things, especially alone. It's like little girls afraid to goto the toilet alone, and ask innocent questions of how to do things, whether in a bar or a sauna.

Hey babe, have you ever considered that it could be just a personal preference? And you can call me ultra-wimpy all you want, but i don't go clubbing alone. I just don't. That would be too weird. I am more of a groupie, not exactly a loner, so prancing all alone by myself in a packed dancefloor or sipping marguerita solo in some obscure corner is out. Like they say, the more the merrier - it's just not fun to go clubbing alone.

And you can call me ultra-wimpy all you want, but when it comes to sauna, i don't go with friends. I just don't. That would competition. I prefer going alone. Already i have hot competition with other guys - i dun need the extra stress of dealing with my own posse. It's just not worth it to embroil in a catfight with your own friends over some men - no matter how hot and naked the men are. Going sauna alone is so much fun. I have fun when i want, how i want.

xoxo.

[Guest Butted]

Some pepple just like to be left alone (sort of being aloof) sitting by the corner of a g-haunt/pub to observe g-behaviours as if they are creatures in a zoo. Sometime laugh or got fascinated by it. I'm one. Sorry. I meant no offend.

I used to hang out in str8 cowboy (country music) pubs during my youth, now i preferred to be entertained by sissy/ko-nian behaviours but not in close contact. Funny. Thats me. I cant speak for anybody else. Then again, i've this low-esteem/shy guy wanting a low-profile enviroment to hang out. I cant stand people going around introducing themselves or shaking hands. I dont like to be approcahed nor want to chat with anybody trying to get fresh with me. Sex nor making friends is in my mind. Just want a quiet time being alone with myself enjoying the scene. Nothing beat that as far as i'm concerned.

[castaway]

Hey babe, have you ever considered that it could be just a personal preference?

Agreed. I prefer going to clubs with my friends but sauna, prefer alone, better nobody knows me :thumb: .

I really dislike those going to sauna in group and talking loudly :swear:

[LoveKun]

Hi LoveKun, have fun. Dun worry. Most Singaporean guys just look cold. We are slow to cook and when hot, most of the time we are piping hot.

Thx dude. I'll be over Singpore real soon. Hope could meet someone to have a chit chat... hahah... looking forward though.

[Tachyons]

Depending on your scene ... Just pop yourself into any bar and chill ... After a few drinks ... Lose that inhibition and make friends ... :whistle:

[Guest Guest]

I guess Monday's are usually pretty empty in most bars

I've been to Tantric last Tuesday night and it was pretty empty

Any recommendations guys? Bars for PLU

Planning to go tonight

[zan23]

Bored.. Need to get some drinks but dunno where to go. Any recommendation??

[zan23]

Anyone wanna accompany me out for a drink?? Didn't know where to go.

[Guest Hiro]

Anyone wanna accompany me out for a drink?? Didn't know where to go.

You want? I can accompany you...

[zan23]

You want? I can accompany you...

Where to??

[Guest Hiro]

Where to??

You said you want club? It can be play or taboo....

[zan23]

You said you want club? It can be play or taboo....

How to meet u?? Where is it??

Edited June 18, 2011 by zan23

[Guest junjun93]

hm .. was wondering go alone tomorrow will there be people in monday or friday sat and sun is best time ?

[Tachyons]

hm .. was wondering go alone tomorrow will there be people in monday or friday sat and sun is best time ?

You could go to either Zirca or Avalon tonight.

[sum1outhere_03]

I just feel awkward when the first step i step in, everyone will be looking at me.

Actually, that's a myth... I dun think anyone will care... lol.

[alien]

Seems like most pple always like to go to gay pub/bar in a gp?! Tht's y pple who is alone dun dare to step into the bar?! It is really true in reality tht pple like to go to such places in gp?

[Tachyons]

Seems like most pple always like to go to gay pub/bar in a gp?! Tht's y pple who is alone dun dare to step into the bar?! It is really true in reality tht pple like to go to such places in gp?

I guess going in a group means cheaper to split the bill for drinks and/or more fun to dance in a group?

I just came back from Zirca. Went there alone to check out the crowd. Pretty decent numbers tonight I must say.

[Guest Sauna tic-tac-to]

There are cons and pros of going in group. Going in group deprive you of the privacy you need or it may be seen by other users that these gang are so irritatingly noisy and prefer to enclave themselves in their group that others felt there is no room to cruise them, or mistaken their friends as their partner thus presumed untouchable for the night.

Also does that meant arriving together and MUST leave together as group? This seemed like an invisible curfew imposed on a supposedly free and easy day at own time own target.

The only pros is if you have no taker, at least there is someone to keep you company until you found your target, like having a ready chewing cum to fight your boredom away.

I also do not want to have sex with someone and later he joined back his group to "relate the happenings behind closed door".

[Guest barbamama]

I can't believe it's almost 4 years since imchaser started this thread and no one has told him where to sit yet.

If you go to a bar alone and want to meet and talk to strangers sit at the bar. If it's not too busy you can try to chat with the bar tender. Depending on how desirable you are to the bar's crowd someone might say hi to you. You decide how to respond. But bear in mind someone else might be watching you. Do take time to dress and groom well. But don't worry about being mistaken for a money boy. Ppl wil judge you but money boys are relatively easy to spot.

If you sit alone at a small table ppl will assume you are waiting for your date and will mostly leave you alone.

If you sit alone at a big table ppl will assume you are waiting for a group of friends. However if space is short someone will come to ask if they (yes plural, never singular) can share with you. Again depending on how hot or friendly you look, they may or may not chat with you after they sit down next to you.

A lot of ppl have said not to play with your phone. This is generally good advice if you want to appear approachable. But since 2008 there has been a new app which you can fire up when alone at a bar. Try it to see if there is anyone that you like actually in the same bar as you. Of course if they turn out to be in the bar down the road or across the street you can always change location!

I would suggest the first time you go you go with a small group of trusted friends. That way if one of you gets lucky the rest still can carry on. Also with friends it might turn out that someone you like is known to someone in your group. This is useful for the short biography as well as the introduction. Even if no one knows your target they can give you moral support or otherwise help you not make too much of a fool of yourself.

Once you've been once or twice with friends it's much less intimidating to go to the same alone.

Having said all that I would echo one of the earlier posters and say the bar scene in Singapore is not so much about hooking up for sex later but more about making and meeting friends for a drink. It does happen and more frequently in some bars than others but don't expect sauna style hit rates. And yes if you are successful too often ppl will notice ... And talk.

[Guest Veeeen]

Hey guys! I just turned 18 this May, and I was just wondering if anyone could tell me what the legal age to enter gay bars in Singapore! I know the legal age to drink is 18, but does this apply to the entrance to gay bars? Thank you in advance!

[Guest ongwsjackson]

Legal is 18.

Clubs may have their own age restrictions. Play, Taboo, Zirca, and Avalon - normally as long as you're 18 or above.

For pubs, they don't check your ID when you enter. Buying drinks, however, is a separate issue.

Edited September 5, 2015 by jacksonongws

[azimuth]

Happy 18! Enjoy yourself. :-)

[sum1outhere_03]

(I'm) 10 years older than u. omgz.

Edited June 30, 2012 by sum1outhere_03

[Blacque]

Yeah it's 18 in Singapore.

[Guest Veeeen]

Oh thanks guys! does anyone know what I can expect there? I was at pinkdot today, and it was a great experience but I didn't meet anyone like I thought I would :/

[Guest ongwsjackson]

Unless you're drunk and slutty enough, I'd assume you'll prefer to bring someone or some friends along to the clubs

Edit: For the first few times. Eventually you'll know enough people.

Edited January 1, 2016 by jacksonongws

[Guest Veeeen]

Hahaha ._. I've never gotten drunk before actually haha yeah I'm bringing someone! Though I'd actually more of just wanna meet someone/make friends haha

[Guest Birds]

what can we do/see in club? i never been to one before

is there boy stripping dance club or something like that?

[stitchme]

Which bars do you guess preferred? And why? Tantric, DYMK, nirvana and ebar.

[Leonblowing]

DYMK cos the waiters are hot n cute. Tantric is juz overwhelmed with guys, too crowded

[Poseidon89]

Dymk. Cause it's the only place that sells my favorite drink

[stitchme]

Dymk. Cause it's the only place that sells my favorite drink

what drinks?