Gaydar - How Good Are You at telling if someone is Gay? + How To Develop It? + What Are The Signals? (Compiled)

[evianguy]

TS, what is the objective of knowing?

[Guest GetSomeKicks]

Totally understand how TS feels! Infatuated with a colleague and we shared glances many times. Dying to know too

[Guest Terry Chan]

Respect him and give him his own time to come out to you

[header69]

Try touching his thighs. No straight guys will let you rub his thighs. 

[Guest Guest]

Let him notice you surfing Blowing Wind on your handphone and check his reaction. 

[Guest Fatty]

Just be direct and ask him “oui, you ah qua?”

[abgsam001]

On 10/21/2019 at 10:49 AM, Guest catcher said:

Try not to fish for personal info too blatantly. Some people are by nature more reserved, value their privacy, or just shy. Especially when it comes to sensitive topics like sexual orientation, which not everyone is comfortable discussing. Or the person might still be grappling with the issue himself. If your object of interest happens to be like that, and you come across as being too prying, you’ll get his guard up and chase him away rather than attract him. 

 

Instead, you can get him comfortable with you by talking about neutral stuff first. Find some common ground, like work (since you are colleagues); or make some other light small talk (the latest food fads, currently trending entertainment, etc).

 

Then subtly reveal your inclinations and interests, for example by commenting casually about some hot guys at the gym you ‘admire’, and complimenting your object of interest on some relevant traits of his. If he’s not straight and clueless, he should start catching the drift at some point and can choose to respond accordingly when you then invite him to get a drink together one day after work, just the two of you. 

 

Just remember one thing, even if he does turn out to be gay, it doesn’t mean he’ll be interested in you. So for your own sake, just keep your expectations minimal. If things go well, bonus; if not, you can move on with minimum heartache. 

Agree

[Guest Guest]

I usually peek at handsome guy phone if he  got download grindr app.

[Innocentguy]

Show him yr water.n see whether he produce water after seeing yr cock. That's the way to test the water.

[Guest infatuation]

same here... i am suspecting a colleague being PLU for a long time... have been taking time to find out more about him and his interest... do not wish to jeopardize current working relationship with him...

[Guest Lauvly]

find out his interests

im sure there is a loophole somewhere

[Guest Guest]

1 tip i used is to check out his instagram to see who he follows. If he follows alot of fit models but they are not known for posting workout video just pics and pics of their hot bod there is a slight chance he is gay. Also, if u click on the model, u can see what kind of pics he has like so u roughly will know if he is liking those underwear only pics XD. u must add him first in order to see who he follows.

[lean n mean]

Tell him you came across this acronym PLU in an article. Ask him if he knows what it stands for. 

[Guest Neh Neh]

Invite him to attend next year pink dot event.

[Guest same same lah]

Look into the eyes. Gays usually have hazel eyes

[repressednerd]

On 10/25/2019 at 12:32 PM, Guest Guest said:

1 tip i used is to check out his instagram to see who he follows. If he follows alot of fit models but they are not known for posting workout video just pics and pics of their hot bod there is a slight chance he is gay. Also, if u click on the model, u can see what kind of pics he has like so u roughly will know if he is liking those underwear only pics XD. u must add him first in order to see who he follows.

 

I had a colleague like that. He was buff and look a bit mixed (he's Malaysian Chinese). He helped me with my work, although I keep telling him no need. He also asks very lame questions like if Marina Square has XX outlet etc. One day he probably forgot to see his phone secretly, so I saw muscular models as his phone wallpaper. Next day he changed the phone wallpaper.

 

Back then I was still attached. I think if he took any bolder steps, I would tell him, "I have a boyfriend".

[begleitung]

On 10/25/2019 at 3:03 PM, lean n mean said:

Tell him you came across this acronym PLU in an article. Ask him if he knows what it stands for. 

Actually without googling, i would not know what it stands for. I have seen that term here many times though. 
 

people love unit? polyamourous lesbian unisex? Party life united? Please lets unbutton?  Haha

[begleitung]

18 hours ago, repressednerd said:

 

I had a colleague like that. He was buff and look a bit mixed (he's Malaysian Chinese). He helped me with my work, although I keep telling him no need. He also asks very lame questions like if Marina Square has XX outlet etc. One day he probably forgot to see his phone secretly, so I saw muscular models as his phone wallpaper. Next day he changed the phone wallpaper.

 

Back then I was still attached. I think if he took any bolder steps, I would tell him, "I have a boyfriend".

If u were not attached, would u have gone for him?

[begleitung]

On 10/21/2019 at 6:10 AM, Guest Try Try said:

its been  months, we meet only 1 time,  but he remembers my name . gaydar hes one of us. how to check it out. ?

I went thru another colleague to get his contact...I got it...what next ?

 

So what happened in the end?

[phewphew]

On 10/23/2019 at 2:55 PM, header69 said:

Try touching his thighs. No straight guys will let you rub his thighs. 

NO GO XD please do not do this

[repressednerd]

9 hours ago, begleitung said:

Actually without googling, i would not know what it stands for. I have seen that term here many times though. 
 

people love unit? polyamourous lesbian unisex? Party life united? Please lets unbutton?  Haha

 

People Like Us

 

Used frequently in 90s and 00s, but not popular anymore in Singapore. Still popular in Malaysia.

 

9 hours ago, begleitung said:

If u were not attached, would u have gone for him?

 

Maybe not? Probably it was just lust. I can't deny I fantasized about hugging him and having sex with him though.

[begleitung]

46 minutes ago, repressednerd said:

 

People Like Us

 

Used frequently in 90s and 00s, but not popular anymore in Singapore. Still popular in Malaysia.

 

 

Maybe not? Probably it was just lust. I can't deny I fantasized about hugging him and having sex with him though.

Thks. That term made some people like they have some plagues or diseases.....

 

that guy must have been hot. 

[GachiMuchi]

 

[Dart]

All gay men have natural inbuilt Gaydar in us. It's an intrinsic part of us to connect with one another. The eye stare, facial expression, body language and even a subtle body scent are all part and parcel of the attributes of Gaydar. Tell me this is not a gift of nature!

 

Scientists have been baffled over this natural instinct. Today, this intrinsic value among gay men is well distributed among the straights. Be careful, Gaydar has also been immitated to set as a trap to lure gay men.

[Guest Sparkle]

On 10/21/2019 at 5:04 PM, evianguy said:

TS, what is the objective of knowing?

i know right. Why the ask

[GachiMuchi]

 

[GachiMuchi]

 

[Guest Guest]

1 : you and his eyes met when walking past each other.

 

2 : you both will continue a long stare until the electric from your eyes and the electric from his eyes connect.

 

3 : after you both parted in different directions, you both will turn head at same time continue looking at each other. 

 

4 : confirm can give signal to him and proceed toilet liao. 

[derryfawne]

The gaydar is a grading system. 

 

If there are only 1 or 2 signs, it is hard to tell for sure. But when there are many signs pointing at it, the grading is high enough to lend certainty that someone is gay. 

 

The best tell-tale sign is if the person has a lot of mutual gay friends on Facebook or Instagram. Note that this is more effective to identify the outgoing gays.

Edited July 15, 2022 by derryfawne

[Guest Guest]

On 7/14/2022 at 12:16 AM, Guest Guest said:

1 : you and his eyes met when walking past each other.

 

2 : you both will continue a long stare until the electric from your eyes and the electric from his eyes connect.

 

3 : after you both parted in different directions, you both will turn head at same time continue looking at each other. 

 

4 : confirm can give signal to him and proceed toilet liao. 

 

I do get stared at quite often when I go out, usually by guys. Not sure if it is because they are attracted to me, or they just want to beat me up. Because I can never tell based on their expression.

Hence I tend to get nervous and look away whenever I get stared at.

 

Even one time when I went out with a colleague, he said, "Do you know that a lot of guys look at you when they walk past you?"

 

It's overall not a nice feeling, because you feel like you have no privacy when you go out.

[mate69]

On 7/15/2022 at 10:06 PM, Guest Guest said:

 

I do get stared at quite often when I go out, usually by guys. Not sure if it is because they are attracted to me, or they just want to beat me up. Because I can never tell based on their expression.

Hence I tend to get nervous and look away whenever I get stared at.

 

Even one time when I went out with a colleague, he said, "Do you know that a lot of guys look at you when they walk past you?"

 

It's overall not a nice feeling, because you feel like you have no privacy when you go out.

Npnt

[Guest hidoshi]

How do you know if someone ia gay?

[Guest Guest]

On 9/29/2022 at 2:55 AM, Guest hidoshi said:

How do you know if someone ia gay?

Seduce him?

[Guest Eng]

On 7/16/2022 at 10:06 AM, Guest Guest said:

 

I do get stared at quite often when I go out, usually by guys. Not sure if it is because they are attracted to me, or they just want to beat me up. Because I can never tell based on their expression.

Hence I tend to get nervous and look away whenever I get stared at.

 

Even one time when I went out with a colleague, he said, "Do you know that a lot of guys look at you when they walk past you?"

 

It's overall not a nice feeling, because you feel like you have no privacy when you go out.

the advantage (or disadvantage) of having above average good looking face lol

but to spot if he is straight or gay even if they stare at you, the straight one will only stare at you for the first 2-3 seconds after that he bo chup liao, the gay one will keep going back to chekc you out, you can easily caught them stealing glance at you

 

[Kay Boy]

How to check if the other guy is also a gay/bi in public places other than eye contact? I can be looking at him, and he is looking at me, but he might be straight. Maybe I look like his friend that's why he look at me? Lol.

 

What are the signs we can use to check if he is also one? Other than app and also not into sissy biting lips. 😂

[Steve5380]

You walk towards him with confidence and a smile,  you stretch out your arm and shake hands,  then you ask him:  "Hi, nice to meet you, are you a top or a bottom?" 

[Kay Boy]

16 minutes ago, Steve5380 said:

You walk towards him with confidence and a smile,  you stretch out your arm and shake hands,  then you ask him:  "Hi, nice to meet you, are you a top or a bottom?" 

 

Then his wife comes over after that and ...?

[Steve5380]

9 hours ago, Kay Boy said:

 

Then his wife comes over after that and ...?

 

Comes over, slaps him in the face, and says:  "I...I already suspected that you are gay!"   Then she turns to you and sys: "He is all yours.  Fuck him, like he didn't fuck.. me"

[Jeremy Lim]

10 hours ago, Kay Boy said:

How to check if the other guy is also a gay/bi in public places other than eye contact? I can be looking at him, and he is looking at me, but he might be straight. Maybe I look like his friend that's why he look at me? Lol.

 

What are the signs we can use to check if he is also one? Other than app and also not into sissy biting lips. 😂

Maybe see if he follows you to the toilet or something? But sometimes gotta adjust your expectations, he might be looking at you cus you look familiar or he felt that you were looking at him kinda thing. 
Could perhaps see the way he behaves, does he keep taking glances at you? Maybe its something, maybe its not. Best not to act on it tho. Check your apps maybe he's there. 

[blueduck]

Once I am on a train and I heard grindr notification sound. I know there is gay in the car

[Kay Boy]

4 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

 

Comes over, slaps him in the face, and says:  "I...I already suspected that you are gay!"   Then she turns to you and sys: "He is all yours.  Fuck him, like he didn't fuck.. me"

 

You watch too many soap opera lol

[Kay Boy]

3 hours ago, Jeremy Lim said:

Maybe see if he follows you to the toilet or something? But sometimes gotta adjust your expectations, he might be looking at you cus you look familiar or he felt that you were looking at him kinda thing. 
Could perhaps see the way he behaves, does he keep taking glances at you? Maybe its something, maybe its not. Best not to act on it tho. Check your apps maybe he's there. 

 

I had a few colleagues whom I thought they are. They are also damn cute. And after we got much closer, they told me they are married and they started talking about girls to me .... lol 

 

My gaydar is not functioning well lol

[Kay Boy]

2 hours ago, blueduck said:

Once I am on a train and I heard grindr notification sound. I know there is gay in the car

 

Lol I had that same experience too. And I started looking around and see who has that most gay look in that car

[radiusulnar]

I don't think there is any discernable sign from appearance, mannerism, expression, physical attributes, accessories etc. that can reliably identify another person's sexuality.

 

But I admit notification sounds might be a good indication.

[Guest Can tell?]

Whenever a straight person said I am gay and I asked how they knew, Their answer is always:  "Can tell."  even though I have never do any deliberate acting nor hinting about my identity.  If straight person "can tell" I am gay, then there is no need for other gay people to do anymore guessing about me.

[Guest If gaydar spoiled use eyes]

Gays usually got those cute, girly or sexy feminine looking eyes like those sweet, innocent kitty cat eyes on those cute or sexy female models or celebrities or they will have those thin, bitchy looking curled lips like those Taiwanese TV hosts lol it's true 😆 

 

If don't have those features then usually their biceps and chests will be abnormally bigger than those gym trained straight guys but their calves may be thin and sexy like those female models and their wardrobe will be very particularly thought out with obvious branded items.

 

At least one of the above features will tell you he may be gay. Lol

 

Otherwise, see if he dyes his hair, apply makeup or moisturiser to make his face shinier and brighter or do eyebrow shaping or there is work done to plum up or smoothen his face.

 

If got nothing above, then you have to see if he deliberately makes eye contact or avoid eye contact with you but look like he is trying very hard not to make eye contact with you.

 

 

 

[mate69]

44 minutes ago, Guest If gaydar spoiled use eyes said:

Gays usually got those cute, girly or sexy feminine looking eyes like those sweet, innocent kitty cat eyes on those cute or sexy female models or celebrities or they will have those thin, bitchy looking curled lips like those Taiwanese TV hosts lol it's true 😆 

 

If don't have those features then usually their biceps and chests will be abnormally bigger than those gym trained straight guys but their calves may be thin and sexy like those female models and their wardrobe will be very particularly thought out with obvious branded items.

 

At least one of the above features will tell you he may be gay. Lol

 

Otherwise, see if he dyes his hair, apply makeup or moisturiser to make his face shinier and brighter or do eyebrow shaping or there is work done to plum up or smoothen his face.

 

If got nothing above, then you have to see if he deliberately makes eye contact or avoid eye contact with you but look like he is trying very hard not to make eye contact with you.

 

 

 

 

LOL! What astute observations

[Guest guest]

If you see a hard erected dick is pointing fxxking straight, confirm he is straight. 

If you see a hard erected dick is curved or pointing side way, confirm he is gay.

[radiusulnar]

What's the logic?