boybelow Posted September 13, 2011 Report Share Posted September 13, 2011 Is it considered rape when I was initially unwilling but during the instance, I feel I am enjoying it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest passingthru Posted September 14, 2011 Report Share Posted September 14, 2011 I refuse at first but I give in in the end. So I wasn't raped but got fxxk reluctantly! M I been raped? Yes you were because it wasn't consensual since you were reluctant. Your partner also took it for granted that you were either cheap or adventurous or both. This is highly condescending not to mention disrespectful and says a lot about him and how he regards you. You may think you were persuaded into it but the fact is, you had to give in because you were outnumbered. Your survival instinct kicked in and you made a quick calculation of the pros and cons of resisting.Based on this analysis, it's up to you henceforth if you want to continue with such a partner. You may end up either treating this as a lifestyle or loaded with validation and self esteem issues. It's a slippery slope, so choose well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted September 17, 2011 Report Share Posted September 17, 2011 http://www.lep.co.uk/news/male_rape_victim_speaks_about_his_ordeal_1_117690Published on Monday 4 December 2006 22:22 formatPubDate("Mon Dec 04 14:22:27 GMT 2006"); Read Aasma Day's full and frank interview with a man who was raped and deliberately infected with HIV.The 49-year-old Preston man says his life has been wrecked after he was raped by a man he trusted who drugged his drink.Peter Robinson, whose name has been changed to protect his identity, admits that if it were not for the support he received from the Sexual Assault and Forensic Examination (SAFE) centre based at the Royal Preston Hospital, he would have taken his own life.He has described the harrowing experience which left his life in tatters.Peter recalled: "It was a 45-year-old man who I had met through my work and I had been out for a drink with him on three occasions."We had mutual interests, such as cycling and walking, and seemed to get on well."It was on the fourth occasion when we arranged to meet up for a drink and he changed the arrangements and said that he would come to my house instead."We had a few drinks, watched a film and were planning to order a takeaway. I went into the kitchen to get the takeaway menus and came back and topped up our drinks."I suddenly began feeling dizzy and sick, and the feelings began to intensify. I became alarmed and told him that I thought I needed to ring for a doctor or go to A&E."He just looked at me and smiled and said: 'Don't fight it. Just go with it.' It was then that I realised he had drugged my drink."As Peter drifted into unconsciousness, his final thoughts were that the man planned to rob him and ransack his home.It was only when he came back round that he realised the true horror of what had happened.Unable to hold back his tears, Peter said: "My head felt like it had an axe in it and I felt very nauseous."I knew immediately then that he had raped me."The pain was incredible and it felt like I had a burning poker inside me."For several hours, Peter lay slumped on the floor unable to come to terms with the horrifying attack.Peter said: "I was utterly devastated and I knew I should call the police as this man should not be able to get away with this brutal physical violation."But I realised I had nothing on him as he had been amazingly clever and planned everything carefully with military precision."I had trusted him and it was the ultimate betrayal."I had no way of identifying him to the police as I did not know where he was from or even his real name. He had been very evasive with all his answers."Peter did not confide in anyone but bottled his emotions. He spent the next few months hiding away from the world.But just when he thought things could not get any worse, he was dealt a devastating blow.He said: "A few months later, I became very ill with food poisoning and was put on a course of antiobiotics which gave me thrush."I went to a clinic to get it checked that it was thrush and I was offered others tests."When the results came back, they confirmed the man had given me HIV."My world just collapsed. He had left me with a permanent reminder of what he had done."At that moment, I just wanted to die."Peter went through some very dark days and spent hours of each day sobbing.His HIV consultant realised Peter could no longer suffer alone and put him in touch with the SAFE Centre based at Royal Preston Hospital.The centre provides a service for forensic medical examination as well as comprehensive counselling and support for women, men and children who make a complaint of rape or sexual assault.Facilities at the centre include a police interview suite.The centre serves the whole of Lancashire and is a joint venture between Lancashire Constabulary, Lancashire Teaching Hospitals NHS Foundation Trust and was initially supported financially by the TJH Foundation, a major local charity.Peter said: "I spoke to a counsellor and released some of that awful burden. She was just so lovely, understanding and non-judgmental."I felt such a feeling of relief that there was someone who understood and cared as the mental strain had got too much for me to bear."Peter has continued to receive counselling and support from the SAFE Centre and has slowly built his life back.He has since reported the rape to Lancashire Police who believe the man deliberately infected him with HIV.Peter said: "Without the SAFE Centre, I would certainly have ended my life. I was right on the edge and they brought me back."I wish I had known about the SAFE Centre when the rape happened, instead of a few months after."I have now told my family and my closest friends about the rape. They have been very supportive, but people do not know how to react when they hear a man has been raped."Men are supposed to be the protectors and providers and when you are raped, you feel you have failed."For ages, I kept asking myself what I had done wrong to make this man rape me."But the fact that he drugged me gave him the power to do it."I have recently discovered that as well as HIV, he gave me hepatitis C and I will now have to have treatment for that too."I feel a lot of hatred, anger and bitterness towards this man. I want him to die a slow and painful death. He put me through so much physical and mental suffering."No human being has the right to violate another human being in such a way."Men are less likely than women to report rape to the police and are too afraid to even tell other people.The SAFE Centre dealt with 673 referrals of people who had been raped or sexually assaulted from 2005 to 2006 - and only 54 of these were men.But the Lancashire Male Rape Association hears from around 30 calls from men every month - and around 10 of these are from Preston alone.DCI Kath Thundercloud from Lancashire Police said: "Very few men report rape or sexual assault to the police and we do know there are a lot more offences taking place than we know about."We encourage anyone who has been raped or sexually assaulted to come forward to the police and they will be looked after and listened to."But if people do not want to report it to the police at the moment, they can self refer themselves to the SAFE Centre and do not have to tell the police at all as everything is confidential." 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northernboi Posted September 17, 2011 Report Share Posted September 17, 2011 i was raped by my own elder brother at the age of 12... he pinned me down. kept rubbing himself against me. and force his dick into my mouth. I was young and naive and don't know what to do. he warned me not to tell mummy coz if i would tell, he will whack me and make me die.i was scared.he did this to me almost every night. soon. i began to be numb and let it be. it became a habit for him.for me, i began to like it.after he left the house (coz he's married).it feels awkward.to see him at festivals.haix.hmm now.. my fetish is like to be raped.. but whenever someone 'rapes' me... and start kissing neck la and all the parts and pinned me down..my tears automatically flow down... dunnoe sad or not... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Albatross Posted September 20, 2011 Report Share Posted September 20, 2011 I have met this guy a few years ago...he was then in his early 20s, someone very boi next door and very my type... He also quite like me as we dated a few times... But eventually he told me that he will not go into any relationship no matter how much he likes the guy...Upon my probing, he finally told me that he was being gang raped by his 1st BF and his BF's friends when he was only 19.He was still serving his NS and would go over to his BF's place on weekends where his bf stayed alone. One night his BF and few of his bf's friends were drinking when he was asked to join them at his BF place...Suddenly he felt sleepy thinking it must be due to his NS, his BF asked him to sleep in his room which he did...When he woke up the next morning, he found himself total naked lying in bed and felt a terrible pain in the arse! To his horror he saw his BF and his 3 other friends totally nude still sleeping in the room. He could not even get up to walk properly due to the pain in the arse... When he finally got up to his feet, he realized something was flowing out of his arse!!! As he looked down he saw some white & red mixture liquid kept flowing out... It was then that he realized that it was a mixture of his blood and their sperm!!! And that he must have been gang raped by his BF and friends!He was devastated and lost! He immediately called his good friend who went over in no time! By the time his friend reached, the other guys had just woke up... They confronted his BF and his BF admitted thatvthey took turn to fxxk him last night... When asked how can he allows his other friends to fxxk his own BF, his reply was that his BF was too cute to resist by his friends and there is nothing wrong to share good things with his friends. He even confessed that they all fxxked him raw and came inside him!!!!My friend and his friend were so angry and helpless that they decided to leave the house and seek medical help.When they arrived at the clinic the doctor refused to treat him and asked if he was being rape? As if was rape the doctor will have to refer it to the police 1st before treating him... In order not to create any futher problem for himself my friend just said that he was a willing party and things got too wild that he got wounded... It was then the doctor warned him of such dangerous activity and as him to go for a proper check invluding HIV test and eventually treated him.From then onward my friend has lost faith in relationship and no longer trust anyone....I felt so sorry for him and donno what to say at the end of it as he simply refused to listen no matter what i say....Shortly after he went overseas to work as he just cant get over the incident and just wanna hide away from all his friends and relatives as he felt himself so dirty and cheap... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest JJ Posted September 20, 2011 Report Share Posted September 20, 2011 did he get drunk in first place? if he was sleeping, he will feel the pain when they f*** him... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Albatross Posted September 20, 2011 Report Share Posted September 20, 2011 Apparently his BF and friends had it planned as his BF later admitted that they actually drugged his drink so that they can gang rape him after knocked out! I can still see his agony and pain when he relate the incident to me that night even though a few years have passed.... He kept saying that he felt so used, so dirty and cheap that he is not fit to be anyone's BF and its not for to that guy. At the same time he fear that history may repeat itself again....I have lost touch with him since he went abroad... Hope he find peace wherever he is right now.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wildfireboy Posted September 20, 2011 Report Share Posted September 20, 2011 I feel sorry for the guy and I am sure his ex as well as those 猪朋狗友 will get their bad karma someday...somehow...somewhere!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Newbie29 Posted September 20, 2011 Report Share Posted September 20, 2011 bastard, hope his ex b/f and friends will do self soul searching of what they had done.Hope your friend can forget about the whole thing after many years . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Albatross Posted September 20, 2011 Report Share Posted September 20, 2011 Though I have lost contact with him, I would still like to thank you on his behalf!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Foreign Talent Posted September 20, 2011 Report Share Posted September 20, 2011 Oh man, there are some heartbreaking stories here in this thread. One common theme is the role of alcohol though, so please guys - behave responsibly and take care of yourself when consuming alcohol. Yas1950 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
drifter Posted September 20, 2011 Report Share Posted September 20, 2011 Well when I was very young I stayed with my grandma, my uncle and my cousins. The youngest cousin of mine was probably 16 17 years old then and I was about 4 5 years old. I was forced to blow him and his elder brother whom was 1 or 2 years older than him. This incident last for about a year til I move back TP stay with my parents. Nobody knows about it, only myself and the 2 of them. They were married and have kids now.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whitetiger Posted October 3, 2011 Report Share Posted October 3, 2011 Should u need a counselor to talk to, you can approach DSC counselor for help.. They are gay friendly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Serve Him Posted November 3, 2011 Report Share Posted November 3, 2011 Well some people do deserve to be taken seeing that they love to sprout nonsense ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gz69 Posted November 3, 2011 Report Share Posted November 3, 2011 Getting drunk or having a spiked drink can lead to trouble. Met a nice looking Canadian HK guy in Beijing. Told me that he was drunk one night in Canada and woke up naked next to a Canadian. I asked if he was raped but he said no. He said one will know it when one has been penetrated. I was not into anal then but accepted his version. He was zonked out and did not know how he was molested. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jonlim Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 I shared a room with a room mate (who i think he is str8, we nv talk about Gay stuff before). I wanted to rent a room but i looking for someone to share. so manage to get this landlord who can help me. THere was a night i was drinking quite a bit after my frens bd party, i went str8 to sleep the night. I felt someone sleeping beside me but was too tired and drunk so decided to sleep. The next morning, i felt watery stuff from my anal. and my anal was very pain the moment i wake up. Should i confront my room mate? i felt so scare now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest window7197 Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 U should lodge a police report! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4evaboring Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 go to the police also go get a dna test... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NielKlient Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 Is it possible to be drunk to the extend that you have no physical feeling? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4evaboring Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 Is it possible to be drunk to the extend that you have no physical feeling? Actually yes.. i was able to sleep until the the fact that my mum was unable to wake me up for lunch by shaking me after a few days of intensive revision for exam.. i can't even feel anyone shaking me or hear anything.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ramrod Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 Think you can still lodge a police report but not sure about the DNA testing..Depends on when it happened. Seems it happened quite a while back.You can't say for sure its the roommate since the landlord is also there and he can have access to the room. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
youngpunk Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 Really sorry to hear about...Lodge a police report if you want the matter officially handled. Highlight to them your need for privacy. If u need a friend to follow you down to lodge the report by all means confide in someone you can trust. In the mean time I hope you are protecting yourself well from something like this happening again. Confronting the person now may not be the best option unless you're protected from further harms. And these are just physical n legal actions/options u can take...emotionally I would really suggest u talk to someone if it's affecting you...All the very best, really hope you're ok! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Magicerife Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 i would be concerned about hiv exposure if i were you. go for PEP if you think you're at risk. if i were you i would get a medical examination first before going to the police. Quote ---Dignity is a facade we wear to hide our ignorance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ohlala Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 There's a window period before you can accurately take the test for HIV. A test taken 12 weeks(3 months) after exposure might yield a more accurate result. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jonlim Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 I have washed everything and its been 1 week before i disclose it to my fren. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jonlim Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 he is much more bigger size den me and i dont think i will confront. as its been a week plus. He seems to purposely sleep naked every night. and i am not comfortable about it. Blacque 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest sportsathletic Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 Washing is not enough. Better to get a check-up. Be safe rather than sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NielKlient Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 Hmmm i think best would be like what most suggested, lodge a police report, go for HIV test and be prepared to look for a new place to stay. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jonlim Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 Actually yes.. i was able to sleep until the the fact that my mum was unable to wake me up for lunch by shaking me after a few days of intensive revision for exam.. i can't even feel anyone shaking me or hear anything..i suspect its the bottled of water i left on the table. we usually buy water back coz we r not allow to drink landlord's water. I now remember there was a time i wake up with sticky stain on my face. (happened 2 weeks before i was drunk) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NielKlient Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 i suspect its the bottled of water i left on the table. we usually buy water back coz we r not allow to drink landlord's water. I now remember there was a time i wake up with sticky stain on my face. (happened 2 weeks before i was drunk) So what you're saying is, water spilled on your ass when you were asleep and you dont think your room mate raped you? SeannyShortcake and Xyleneo Mon 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xyleneo Mon Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 !@#$%^&*:;_-…。§¥¤£€ :-C ! ? "\··/" ? Quote wishy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
funkykiddo Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 Can it be any better? Go on..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ah_fung Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 How sticky can a bottle of water be? U have to be sure abt the diff between cum and some other drinks ya?Anyway, we can only give u advice as feasible as it can be, whether what really happened or not, only u will know... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NielKlient Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 Ok i'm really not trollng you, but could be diarrhea or smth? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
natleinad Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 I read and interpret as his drink might have been spiked, instead of him being drunk. ...under influence of alcohol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TYRtan Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 (edited) story sounds like maybe he was drunk, the room mate came back and slept beside him. after that maybe while he was drunk, perhaps he was unconsciously horny, and done something with his straight room mate and end up being analed, woke up and forgot what happen the night before. it's highly possible that one cant actually remember what happen when you are totally drunk, but yet physically did something like having sex. just a point of view. and if its watery at his anus may not be semen, it could be lube as well, since his description is not clear, stating whether its clear liquid or those milky yellow ones. (V) Edited April 16, 2014 by TYRtan BigGiant91 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jonlim Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 I meant it might be the bottled of water that caused me drowsy and unconscious. It wasnt the first time.First it was i feel drowsy after drinking the bottled of water. without thinking much i went to sleep. I wake up with sticky stain on my face. it looks like dried cum. I nv tot much about it. Then weeks later it happened after i went drinking. again i drank some water before i slept. Now i know what's happening. gosh... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jonlim Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 story sounds like maybe he was drunk, the room mate came back and slept beside him. after that maybe while he was drunk, perhaps he was unconsciously horny, and done something with his straight room mate and end up being analed, woke up and forgot what happen the night before. it's highly possible that one cant actually remember what happen when you are totally drunk, but yet physically did something like having sex. just a point of view. and if its watery at his anus may not be semen, it could be lube as well, since his description is not clear, stating whether its clear liquid or those milky yellow ones. (V)It wasnt sticky, and its watery with blood stain. It hurts when i shit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wolfyboy Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 sorry to hear that, but for now if possible place a camera in a location that it can be recording but not obvious, just record when u sleep....when u wake up and if u think something happened, just check the video. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NiceGuy Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 Well, you can set him up. Place a hidden cam some where that have a direct view and shot the scene. Then, at night, prevent that you drink the some bottle of drink. Then pretend to go to sleep. But wait to see what he is up to. Then if he does it again. There you are, caught him on the spot. question him and have everything shot in the video. But don't disclose anything. The next morning just go to the police station with the video. You will have your case being pursued. By the way, is the guy hot? ryoryo75 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Angelix Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 Seriously, this is messed up. This will definitely happen again if you don't do anything about it. Quote http://instagram.com/franciscwh90/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Pretend Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 Well, you can set him up. Place a hidden cam some where that have a direct view and shot the scene. Then, at night, prevent that you drink the some bottle of drink. Then pretend to go to sleep. But wait to see what he is up to. Then if he does it again. There you are, caught him on the spot. question him and have everything shot in the video. But don't disclose anything. The next morning just go to the police station with the video. You will have your case being pursued. By the way, is the guy hot?Pretending to drink the water but not drinking then going to sleep is good idea and see what happens when you pretend to sleepWhen's room mate who is straight goes to sleep naked while sharing the same bed seems strange and he might suspect you're gay and know that you'll not reveal what happened as maybe he thinks you'll enjoy it anywayNevertheless, having sex with someone without their knowledge and unconscious is already a criminal activityBetter go for testing in time to come Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GachiMuchi Posted April 16, 2014 Report Share Posted April 16, 2014 The thing about people is that they will be worried if you tell them that you want to make a police report. The guilty person would be worried if you do that. Then again. If you are going to threaten without actually going to the police will means that you have no guts to carry out what you said. and if he knew that, he may be more daring and take advantage of your weakness. So, unless you want to keep getting drug raped, then I suggest that you move out immediately. Alternatively, you can get one of those spy camera and secretly record what happened. Anyway, its all up to you, how you want to handle this. Quote http://gachimuchi2008.blogspot.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted April 17, 2014 Report Share Posted April 17, 2014 Really sorry that you always encountered this kind of roommates http://www.blowingwind.org/forum/index.php?showtopic=45993 Lucas L 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest mediacorpactress Posted April 17, 2014 Report Share Posted April 17, 2014 Wah lau oei. U all go n read jonlims previous kenna fucked by supposed roommate story. His luck fucking gd, literally, always kenna str8 lookig fuckers in the nite issit? Mediacork show also not so 夸张laIn tt previous story, also kenna fucked. Now rerun nia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
upshot Posted April 17, 2014 Report Share Posted April 17, 2014 Wah lau oei. U all go n read jonlims previous kenna fucked by supposed roommate story. His luck fucking gd, literally, always kenna str8 lookig fuckers in the nite issit? Mediacork show also not so 夸张laIn tt previous story, also kenna fucked. Now rerun nia hahahah.... so lightning do strike more than once in the mind of a story teller. Quote ** Comments are my opinions, same as yours. It's not a 'Be-All-and-End-All' view. Intent's to thought-provoke, validate, reiterate and yes, even correct. Opinion to consider but agree to disagree. I don't enjoy conflicted exchanges, empty bravado or egoistical chest pounding. It's never personal, tribalistic or with malice. Frank by nature, means, I never bend the truth. Views are to broaden understanding - Updated: Nov 2021. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted April 17, 2014 Report Share Posted April 17, 2014 hahahah.... so lightning do strike more than once in the mind of a story teller.Jonlim deserved to be gang raped by everyone here, he's making fun of other's sympathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gongtang Posted April 17, 2014 Report Share Posted April 17, 2014 Dis thread is like so fake lah. How can the semen still be watery after the whole night. Maybe u lao sai in the morning. BigGiant91 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Magicerife Posted April 18, 2014 Report Share Posted April 18, 2014 (edited) There's a window period before you can accurately take the test for HIV. A test taken 12 weeks(3 months) after exposure might yield a more accurate result. you dont need to wait to take PEP if you think you've been exposed. it needs to be taken within 48 hours for effectiveness. and a medical examination is more than just to test for antibodies against hiv. if you aint sure if you've been raped/sodomised, a medical examination can help to rule stuff off. Edited April 18, 2014 by Magicerife Quote ---Dignity is a facade we wear to hide our ignorance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted April 18, 2014 Report Share Posted April 18, 2014 males cannot be raped under sg statutes... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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