Have you liked a straight guy before...?

[Guest Howwasit]

How was it? Did you manage to do anything with him?

[BudakFit]

Yup he been always curious about my dick so I told him why not we go for a jog and hit shower together he is okay with it and he when he saw his big n mouth wah etc touch me and start all the curiousity he had. He is now happily married and thanks me for the experience for his curiousity. We still keep in touch and sometimes ask me go swim with him at his condo. 😜

[Guest Guest]

Nope, not at all. Its asking for trouble.

 

And many gays are hotter than str8 guys anw

[FlippantMount]

I did have infatuation with some straight  guys (friends and colleague) but never proceed with anything because there's a risk of ruining whatever relationship we already have. Unless the other guy initiated it, I won't do anything more.

[Guest Derelict]

Don't invest your emotions in them.

[l4dcivious]

I managed to make a str8 guy caught feelings for me. We were together for 1 year+ and the s*x was amazing. We’re taking a break from the r/a cuz he’s busy with school and I’m busy with work.

 

a sweet guy.

[Guest Ambience]

TS, I’d suggest not to fall too deep in love before things are too late. It’s just infatuation, and straight guys are always straight (unless they turn LGBT on their own). Leave before it’s too late, save before you get hurt. Speaking from my own experience. All the best!

[Pubic01]

Omg, if only there’s a pill to rid infatuation. 

[Guest shyboy]

always! and it really sucked... :(( sometimes i wish he's gay.

 

jared, i really love you.

[Guest Like guy]

I see a man. I like.

Whether they straight or gay or bi or trans don't matter. 

 

Just like porn, I see a man whether he in gay porn or straight porn or bi porn. 

 

I see what I like. 

 

I like. 

 

 

[Guest Guest]

14 minutes ago, Guest Like guy said:

I see a man. I like.

Whether they straight or gay or bi or trans don't matter. 

 

Just like porn, I see a man whether he in gay porn or straight porn or bi porn. 

 

I see what I like. 

 

I like. 

 

 

But this one is different leh. This is because you aren’t emotionally attached to them (just for lust or first-sight love). So if it’s on another level aka emotional attachment, then things will be different. 

[singalion]

It is good to "still" mingle with straight guys and not getting into a gay only enclave.

 

But for Asia or South East Asia I don't see this danger because of this family oriented way of living, first you're not living in your own flats and having plenty of these family outings.

In Europe, US or South America you can find plenty of gays who don't mingle much into the straight world, mostly just for work but their life is centered on gay and family bonding is not that strong. It creates an illusion that you can live but can cause loneliness or the feeling of being left behind. So to speak a self chosen exile.

 

We might find a straight guy attractive but getting him in bed could be a dangerous path.

On the other hand, be ready if you have a straight guy as a friend, there might be time where you need to come out because if not things could start becoming embarrassing for you, unless you are a good actor or deceiver.

 

Important is not to fall for a straight guy. don't waste your time chasing something which never will come true or will happen.

 

[Guest Confession]

I’ve loved a straight guy once; even if we aren’t together, I can only miss the good moments with him. It hurts but that’s life. I love you Tian Heng

[lonely57]

6 minutes ago, Guest Confession said:

I’ve loved a straight guy once; even if we aren’t together, I can only miss the good moments with him. It hurts but that’s life. I love you Tian Heng

 

man that sucks.

 

i've always had crushes on straight guys. didnt know how to find guys like us last time. and when i finally fell for a gay man.. guess what? its one sided. feels like we have  2 barriers to get through. to make sure he likes men and for him to actually like us. 

[Guest Confession]

2 minutes ago, lonely57 said:

 

man that sucks.

 

i've always had crushes on straight guys. didnt know how to find guys like us last time. and when i finally fell for a gay man.. guess what? its one sided. feels like we have  2 barriers to get through. to make sure he likes men and for him to actually like us. 

I’m sorry you’ve got to go through this too lonely57. I’ve encountered a gay man too (I think he was and is closeted); he told me he loved me when I confronted him, and as time progressed, when I indirectly tested him, he always mentioned that we were best friends (not something else...). Until one day he decided to spread gossips about me saying that I didn’t let go of him in the office. Stay strong hun ❤️

[exapicol]

Falling for straight guys? Been there a few times. I chose to keep it inside and it's very damaging to me in the end since I'm still in the closet and didn't have anyone to talk about my feelings.

 

Then there's this one time when I fall for a straight guy and I spend 3 months with him alongside our circle of friends until one time, I just popped. I confessed to him when I got the chance to drive him home but it became so awkward that it's just silence between us. He explained that he only go for girls and I said "I know". Did I ruin whatever relationship we had? No idea. 

 

So to move forward from the awkwardness and save what's left between us, I told him that we can still be bros. He agrees to this term and we go for a fist bump while I sent him home. We became closer ever since and I began coming out to some of my friends almost as easy. I'm not sure if it's me but most of my straight friend already knows that I'm into guys (because I just creatively come out to them when I feel comfortable around them) and they can't do the "F... you" joke to me because they know what's coming. Some of them are even religious and hates gays, but could give me a leeway to befriend them

[Guest Confession]

5 minutes ago, exapicol said:

Falling for straight guys? Been there a few times. I chose to keep it inside and it's very damaging to me in the end since I'm still in the closet and didn't have anyone to talk about my feelings.

 

Then there's this one time when I fall for a straight guy and I spend 3 months with him alongside our circle of friends until one time, I just popped. I confessed to him when I got the chance to drive him home but it became so awkward that it's just silence between us. He explained that he only go for girls and I said "I know". Did I ruin whatever relationship we had? No idea. 

 

So to move forward from the awkwardness and save what's left between us, I told him that we can still be bros. He agrees to this term and we go for a fist bump while I sent him home. We became closer ever since and I began coming out to some of my friends almost as easy. I'm not sure if it's me but most of my straight friend already knows that I'm into guys (because I just creatively come out to them when I feel comfortable around them) and they can't do the "F... you" joke to me because they know what's coming. Some of them are even religious and hates gays, but could give me a leeway to befriend them

Thanks for sharing with us exapicol 🙏🏻 

[Yeryk]

Straight but curious 

[Yeryk]

Very discreet please 

[Guest Derelict]

Aiyoh, straight guys, sluts all of them. Like to flirt and indulge in suggestive banter laced with innuendoes. 

 

Toy with their dicks not with their hearts.

[Guest Gurl please]

If straight guys know you are gay. They will think you're after their cock. 

 

Like gurl please. 

 

Anyway very long never fall in love. 

Don't plan to start. Love hurt. 

 

Pain pain. 

[Guest Yesh]

I have fallen for a few str guys before at different stages of my life. Two of them were my best buddies. Somehow with the time spent together, love just grew, and it was really hard to even try to surprises the feelings. Eventually, things got awkward when the other party felt that I was too nice, or I withdrew myself so that I would not dive too deep in something that wouldn’t work out.

 

Only once, things crossed the line between me and a buddy. We went for holiday together. Long story short, we got drunk and got intimate, but he cut off all contact with me after that. So, it is best to just stick to plu. You will be happier.

[begleitung]

38 minutes ago, Guest Yesh said:

I have fallen for a few str guys before at different stages of my life. Two of them were my best buddies. Somehow with the time spent together, love just grew, and it was really hard to even try to surprises the feelings. Eventually, things got awkward when the other party felt that I was too nice, or I withdrew myself so that I would not dive too deep in something that wouldn’t work out.

 

Only once, things crossed the line between me and a buddy. We went for holiday together. Long story short, we got drunk and got intimate, but he cut off all contact with me after that. So, it is best to just stick to plu. You will be happier.

He was in denial 

[Guest Asking for it]

58 minutes ago, Guest Yesh said:

I have fallen for a few str guys before at different stages of my life. Two of them were my best buddies. Somehow with the time spent together, love just grew, and it was really hard to even try to surprises the feelings. Eventually, things got awkward when the other party felt that I was too nice, or I withdrew myself so that I would not dive too deep in something that wouldn’t work out.

 

Only once, things crossed the line between me and a buddy. We went for holiday together. Long story short, we got drunk and got intimate, but he cut off all contact with me after that. So, it is best to just stick to plu. You will be happier.

your are dumb to risk and forego a friendship between str8 bros.

 

its just like your female friends wanting to seduce and have sex with you. will you do it? 

[Guest Guest]

1 hour ago, Guest Yesh said:

I have fallen for a few str guys before at different stages of my life. Two of them were my best buddies. Somehow with the time spent together, love just grew, and it was really hard to even try to surprises the feelings. Eventually, things got awkward when the other party felt that I was too nice, or I withdrew myself so that I would not dive too deep in something that wouldn’t work out.

 

Only once, things crossed the line between me and a buddy. We went for holiday together. Long story short, we got drunk and got intimate, but he cut off all contact with me after that. So, it is best to just stick to plu. You will be happier.

Ugh I hate this. He kept testing me and see if I was gay. I was like bruh, wasn’t it obvious enough. We ended up becoming strangers at the end

[thatbrownmusxle]

I think every gay guy will at least fall for a straight guy. And it’s heartbreaking because you know how gross they are and still your heart wants them. And when you finally tell them how you feel, they make it seem as if they’re too good aka too straight for you and that you’re just too attracted to how hot they are and that’s when you see their true colours — Straight guys just want our attention and to be worshipped by us. But we deserve better. Because we are better. And over time, straight guys just no longer do it for me. I’d rather be in a relationship with a gay average guy (hard to find cause us gays are awesome) than an above average straight guy.

 

And yes I’ve fucked and been fucked by straight guys — Let’s just say they weren’t very straight that day.

[sg89ailikesi]

21 hours ago, lonely57 said:

 

man that sucks.

 

i've always had crushes on straight guys. didnt know how to find guys like us last time. and when i finally fell for a gay man.. guess what? its one sided. feels like we have  2 barriers to get through. to make sure he likes men and for him to actually like us. 

Almost the same as u. 

[fetish69]

I ever sucked straight guys when they say how can a guy and guy i just push on wall and suck him deep throat all i see is his eye close shut and he shot load after load and he shock i swallow his cum all. He just this not right and just walk off.

[cutejack]

5 minutes ago, fetish69 said:

I ever sucked straight guys when they say how can a guy and guy i just push on wall and suck him deep throat all i see is his eye close shut and he shot load after load and he shock i swallow his cum all. He just this not right and just walk off.

Only god knows whether in their heart its right or wrong. Surely shiok feeling.

[Guest Baby]

I think we’re attracted to straight guys because of their manliness? Regardless if they’re muscular or not, as long as Okok can tahan looking lah. 
 

I think it’s the same concept as most of us are attracted to older guys like uncles or bears, maybe it’s the same thing? 

[Guest Huh]

Some of you guys are hopeless. Why go like a straight guy?? Its impossible for them to reciprocate. Will you like a woman? 
 

There are so many gay men out there, they are the ones that you should get emotionally attached to.

[Guest sadsadsad]

For 25 years I was in love with a straight guy and still is. Its been so long I forgot how we started having sex. We were platoon mates initiailly but moved on to me sucking him off. Happened for like a year before all the rimming and fingering that he allow me to fuck him And each step took years but he progressed to sucking me too and then swallowing my cum and while we fucked for years with condom, one day he just sat on me and rode me without the condom. Eventually one day while we were doing missionary, he whispered in my ear, he wanted it. Took me awhile to realized what he meant and it was the sweetest thing and best climaxed ever! And for the first time, feeling my sperm shooting into him, he grabbed my head and kissed me. First kiss ever and it was straight to my mouth and tongue fight. I never imagined it would ever happen. It was almost like he's so in love. We snuggled to sleep with my sperm in him through the night.

 

He was a dashing guy, all manly and with girls clamoring all over him even though he's 45 now. One close female friend even told me how good he was in bed and he's slept with quite a few of her group of friends. He and me never talked about feelings, though through the years he got increasingly intimate and lovely while doing it. He's still single at 45 and had many on/off relationships with girls and I was always here for him. We made love almost weekly, sometimes 2 or 3 times a week. Gone on several holidays together just he and me. Even stayed at a gay airbnb once in perth and fucked in the presence of the host by the poolside when he unexpectantly came back. He didn't care and asked me to continue.

 

I never knew if he had any feelings for me or he was just using me for sex. Neither have I told him my feelings despite being "together" for 25 years. Even when at that perth airbnb the host asked if us if he could fuck him. I was ok with it but he said no, in his words, his hole belongs to me and only me. I couldn't have loved him more hearing that. Although he later said he was so horny he wanted to try sucking the host's impressive 8incher. Till today I've always been his only guy. Sometimes I suggest he could try another guy if he finds him interesting but he always says he's my exclusive. But should I be that kinky I want to watch him get fucked, then he said I choose the guy, whichever guy and he'll do it for me.

 

But now he is attached and it seems like he may settle down finally. I jokingly asked if we should stop and was surprised he said yes. I graciously agreed. I can't possibly force him to stay with me. Been feeling so heartbroken for the last 2 years. Masturbating to the thought of his lovely asshole and how he moans when we made love. I've since had other guys and the sad part is when I fucked the rest, I sometimes imagine its him I'm fucking. I was so desperate to forget him and start a new relationship I even tried bottoming for someone. 2 years already and he's not getting married yet, I don't know if I should wish he breaks up and come back to me or have the best wishes for his relationship. He had many relationships with girls but with the rest, he could fuck them and then still do it with me, allowing me to shoot inside him without him even coming. The first few times I ask why he's not horny to cum he would whisper in my ear.. "just for you"

 

Sad sad sad sad..I never told him my feelings though I think he suspect I'm gay cause I've never gone for any girls. Despite being together so many years, I never knew his true feelings either. Is he half gay? Can he convert to full gay? Seems like he had feelings for me, and until this current relationships, his past relationships were loose and mainly focused around sex. We still have lunch or dinner together, sometimes in intimate settings and he's just so sweet still. He accepts a peck on the cheek and a hug for goodbyes but didn't dare to try anything more since he never offered to kiss me back.

 

Should I confess and risk losing both sex and friendship? Can someone please advice??? Argh. I totally broken.

[Pubic01]

46 minutes ago, Guest Huh said:

Some of you guys are hopeless. Why go like a straight guy?? Its impossible for them to reciprocate. Will you like a woman? 
 

There are so many gay men out there, they are the ones that you should get emotionally attached to.

I wonder if being attracted to straight good looking guys (emotionally) might be a form of denial .. A subconscious level self-sabotage. 

[Guest Real Six]

Never. Why would I want to fall for someone who will never reciprocate back? 

 

Life as a gay is hard enough, why do you want to make it so complicated and difficult to live

 

Fall for someone who loves you back, not chasing after and thinking about a never lasting moment. Tonnes of hot gays out there, why burn the whole forest for a mere tree 

[wilfgene]

2 hours ago, Pubic01 said:

I wonder if being attracted to straight good looking guys (emotionally) might be a form of denial .. A subconscious level self-sabotage. 

Self-destruction is quite common within the community.

[lonely57]

7 hours ago, Guest Baby said:

I think we’re attracted to straight guys because of their manliness? Regardless if they’re muscular or not, as long as Okok can tahan looking lah. 
 

I think it’s the same concept as most of us are attracted to older guys like uncles or bears, maybe it’s the same thing? 

 

I think there are plu who are manly, muscular and good looking. But the chances of them even glancing at us.. unless we are as muscular and good looking as they are la. Which then just ends up as a ok physical sex relationship .

4 hours ago, Pubic01 said:

I wonder if being attracted to straight good looking guys (emotionally) might be a form of denial .. A subconscious level self-sabotage. 

What about being attracted to the average looking straight guy?

[HC-B]

9 hours ago, Guest sadsadsad said:

For 25 years I was in love with a straight guy and still is. Its been so long I forgot how we started having sex. We were platoon mates initiailly but moved on to me sucking him off. Happened for like a year before all the rimming and fingering that he allow me to fuck him And each step took years but he progressed to sucking me too and then swallowing my cum and while we fucked for years with condom, one day he just sat on me and rode me without the condom. Eventually one day while we were doing missionary, he whispered in my ear, he wanted it. Took me awhile to realized what he meant and it was the sweetest thing and best climaxed ever! And for the first time, feeling my sperm shooting into him, he grabbed my head and kissed me. First kiss ever and it was straight to my mouth and tongue fight. I never imagined it would ever happen. It was almost like he's so in love. We snuggled to sleep with my sperm in him through the night.

 

He was a dashing guy, all manly and with girls clamoring all over him even though he's 45 now. One close female friend even told me how good he was in bed and he's slept with quite a few of her group of friends. He and me never talked about feelings, though through the years he got increasingly intimate and lovely while doing it. He's still single at 45 and had many on/off relationships with girls and I was always here for him. We made love almost weekly, sometimes 2 or 3 times a week. Gone on several holidays together just he and me. Even stayed at a gay airbnb once in perth and fucked in the presence of the host by the poolside when he unexpectantly came back. He didn't care and asked me to continue.

 

I never knew if he had any feelings for me or he was just using me for sex. Neither have I told him my feelings despite being "together" for 25 years. Even when at that perth airbnb the host asked if us if he could fuck him. I was ok with it but he said no, in his words, his hole belongs to me and only me. I couldn't have loved him more hearing that. Although he later said he was so horny he wanted to try sucking the host's impressive 8incher. Till today I've always been his only guy. Sometimes I suggest he could try another guy if he finds him interesting but he always says he's my exclusive. But should I be that kinky I want to watch him get fucked, then he said I choose the guy, whichever guy and he'll do it for me.

 

But now he is attached and it seems like he may settle down finally. I jokingly asked if we should stop and was surprised he said yes. I graciously agreed. I can't possibly force him to stay with me. Been feeling so heartbroken for the last 2 years. Masturbating to the thought of his lovely asshole and how he moans when we made love. I've since had other guys and the sad part is when I fucked the rest, I sometimes imagine its him I'm fucking. I was so desperate to forget him and start a new relationship I even tried bottoming for someone. 2 years already and he's not getting married yet, I don't know if I should wish he breaks up and come back to me or have the best wishes for his relationship. He had many relationships with girls but with the rest, he could fuck them and then still do it with me, allowing me to shoot inside him without him even coming. The first few times I ask why he's not horny to cum he would whisper in my ear.. "just for you"

 

Sad sad sad sad..I never told him my feelings though I think he suspect I'm gay cause I've never gone for any girls. Despite being together so many years, I never knew his true feelings either. Is he half gay? Can he convert to full gay? Seems like he had feelings for me, and until this current relationships, his past relationships were loose and mainly focused around sex. We still have lunch or dinner together, sometimes in intimate settings and he's just so sweet still. He accepts a peck on the cheek and a hug for goodbyes but didn't dare to try anything more since he never offered to kiss me back.

 

Should I confess and risk losing both sex and friendship? Can someone please advice??? Argh. I totally broken.

An interesting read.

[GachiMuchi]

14 hours ago, Guest sadsadsad said:

For 25 years I was in love with a straight guy and still is. Its been so long I forgot how we started having sex. We were platoon mates initiailly but moved on to me sucking him off. Happened for like a year before all the rimming and fingering that he allow me to fuck him And each step took years but he progressed to sucking me too and then swallowing my cum and while we fucked for years with condom, one day he just sat on me and rode me without the condom. Eventually one day while we were doing missionary, he whispered in my ear, he wanted it. Took me awhile to realized what he meant and it was the sweetest thing and best climaxed ever! And for the first time, feeling my sperm shooting into him, he grabbed my head and kissed me. First kiss ever and it was straight to my mouth and tongue fight. I never imagined it would ever happen. It was almost like he's so in love. We snuggled to sleep with my sperm in him through the night.

 

He was a dashing guy, all manly and with girls clamoring all over him even though he's 45 now. One close female friend even told me how good he was in bed and he's slept with quite a few of her group of friends. He and me never talked about feelings, though through the years he got increasingly intimate and lovely while doing it. He's still single at 45 and had many on/off relationships with girls and I was always here for him. We made love almost weekly, sometimes 2 or 3 times a week. Gone on several holidays together just he and me. Even stayed at a gay airbnb once in perth and fucked in the presence of the host by the poolside when he unexpectantly came back. He didn't care and asked me to continue.

 

I never knew if he had any feelings for me or he was just using me for sex. Neither have I told him my feelings despite being "together" for 25 years. Even when at that perth airbnb the host asked if us if he could fuck him. I was ok with it but he said no, in his words, his hole belongs to me and only me. I couldn't have loved him more hearing that. Although he later said he was so horny he wanted to try sucking the host's impressive 8incher. Till today I've always been his only guy. Sometimes I suggest he could try another guy if he finds him interesting but he always says he's my exclusive. But should I be that kinky I want to watch him get fucked, then he said I choose the guy, whichever guy and he'll do it for me.

 

But now he is attached and it seems like he may settle down finally. I jokingly asked if we should stop and was surprised he said yes. I graciously agreed. I can't possibly force him to stay with me. Been feeling so heartbroken for the last 2 years. Masturbating to the thought of his lovely asshole and how he moans when we made love. I've since had other guys and the sad part is when I fucked the rest, I sometimes imagine its him I'm fucking. I was so desperate to forget him and start a new relationship I even tried bottoming for someone. 2 years already and he's not getting married yet, I don't know if I should wish he breaks up and come back to me or have the best wishes for his relationship. He had many relationships with girls but with the rest, he could fuck them and then still do it with me, allowing me to shoot inside him without him even coming. The first few times I ask why he's not horny to cum he would whisper in my ear.. "just for you"

 

Sad sad sad sad..I never told him my feelings though I think he suspect I'm gay cause I've never gone for any girls. Despite being together so many years, I never knew his true feelings either. Is he half gay? Can he convert to full gay? Seems like he had feelings for me, and until this current relationships, his past relationships were loose and mainly focused around sex. We still have lunch or dinner together, sometimes in intimate settings and he's just so sweet still. He accepts a peck on the cheek and a hug for goodbyes but didn't dare to try anything more since he never offered to kiss me back.

 

Should I confess and risk losing both sex and friendship? Can someone please advice??? Argh. I totally broken.

 

I think you are blessed. Blessed by the fact that someone is willing to give himself to you and to you one. Personally, I thought he might be bisexual and usually it is such people that confused the gays, because they play both camps and it's hard to know definitely if they are straight or gay? I thought if you had, at that time of him giving himself to you, asked him, if both of you can try to be together, I am sure the answer would have been yes. But after 25 years and now that he has found someone, it would be foolish to bring back the past as I think he might had moved on and are planning for the rest of his life to settle down and start a family at 45.

Moreover, his emotion is occupied by another. I am sure he will still enjoy sex with you for old time sake, but I doubt he will want to settle down with you. If it can happen, it would had happened years ago. If it is not going to happen it never will.

Yes, there will be regrets, but sometimes, such regrets are the sweetest because, one can reminiscence it as sweet memories. I think it's time to let go and move on with your life and find your own happiness. I am sure you are no longer young and should be about 45. Time waits for no one and I think, you should think about yourself now.

 

I felt you should not risk your friendship to pursue him because he had already made his choice and I think deep down inside you know that and I am sure you know for a fact that you rather see him happy. If you are a possessive person, you would had possessed him long ago.

Loving someone is not holding on to them but to let them go and find their happiness.

 

I am sure, your friendship with him will stand the test of time. Who knows, you might be the godfather of his son.

 

Hope it helps.

[Guest sadsadsad]

On 4/9/2021 at 12:07 PM, GachiMuchi said:

 

I think you are blessed. Blessed by the fact that someone is willing to give himself to you and to you one. Personally, I thought he might be bisexual and usually it is such people that confused the gays, because they play both camps and it's hard to know definitely if they are straight or gay? I thought if you had, at that time of him giving himself to you, asked him, if both of you can try to be together, I am sure the answer would have been yes. But after 25 years and now that he has found someone, it would be foolish to bring back the past as I think he might had moved on and are planning for the rest of his life to settle down and start a family at 45.

Moreover, his emotion is occupied by another. I am sure he will still enjoy sex with you for old time sake, but I doubt he will want to settle down with you. If it can happen, it would had happened years ago. If it is not going to happen it never will.

Yes, there will be regrets, but sometimes, such regrets are the sweetest because, one can reminiscence it as sweet memories. I think it's time to let go and move on with your life and find your own happiness. I am sure you are no longer young and should be about 45. Time waits for no one and I think, you should think about yourself now.

 

I felt you should not risk your friendship to pursue him because he had already made his choice and I think deep down inside you know that and I am sure you know for a fact that you rather see him happy. If you are a possessive person, you would had possessed him long ago.

Loving someone is not holding on to them but to let them go and find their happiness.

 

I am sure, your friendship with him will stand the test of time. Who knows, you might be the godfather of his son.

 

Hope it helps.

Thank you for your kind reply and time taken to write a long advice. I can't put a label on him as to whether he is bi or straight but because he loves women and had plenty of them, I seriously doubt if he would want to be "together" with me. Besides he is only ever so loving while on bed. The rest of the time that we spend together he doesn't talk or seem to be loving in anyway. Don't think he has any emotions that can lead further but just that over the years he progressed from being totally passive to be more loving while in bed. So I never regretted not asking him to be mine. Just sad because I was happy to be his 2nd secret partner while he carried on with a gf or wife as he had so many times before. But times have changed and he has decided to stop. I am not actively looking to settle down with someone new, but have had several encounters with others. Perhaps one day I might find someone I truly can love instead of replacing him. Think I shall continue this way, if he comes back I'm going to tell him while I fuck him that I'm dishing all out at him for all the lost time and take it as a man! Otherwise life goes on and over time I hope I'll be less sad. Just have to find a new partner for holidiays also. Thanks again for your advice.

[Guest bornlikethat]

On 4/9/2021 at 12:07 PM, GachiMuchi said:

 

I think you are blessed. Blessed by the fact that someone is willing to give himself to you and to you one. Personally, I thought he might be bisexual and usually it is such people that confused the gays, because they play both camps and it's hard to know definitely if they are straight or gay? I thought if you had, at that time of him giving himself to you, asked him, if both of you can try to be together, I am sure the answer would have been yes. But after 25 years and now that he has found someone, it would be foolish to bring back the past as I think he might had moved on and are planning for the rest of his life to settle down and start a family at 45.

Moreover, his emotion is occupied by another. I am sure he will still enjoy sex with you for old time sake, but I doubt he will want to settle down with you. If it can happen, it would had happened years ago. If it is not going to happen it never will.

Yes, there will be regrets, but sometimes, such regrets are the sweetest because, one can reminiscence it as sweet memories. I think it's time to let go and move on with your life and find your own happiness. I am sure you are no longer young and should be about 45. Time waits for no one and I think, you should think about yourself now.

 

I felt you should not risk your friendship to pursue him because he had already made his choice and I think deep down inside you know that and I am sure you know for a fact that you rather see him happy. If you are a possessive person, you would had possessed him long ago.

Loving someone is not holding on to them but to let them go and find their happiness.

 

I am sure, your friendship with him will stand the test of time. Who knows, you might be the godfather of his son.

 

Hope it helps.

 

Homosexuality already exists and documented since Alexander the Great, homosexuality was everywhere. It was only later when a couple of guys decided it was wrong, then everyone started to hide or pretend they're not gay. Now we are entering the era of 'be yourself'. it's always been around and is natural. Just a matter of hide or don't hide. I don't think born straight attracted to men at all, it's not nature intended.

[fetish69]

On 4/8/2021 at 9:03 PM, Guest sadsadsad said:

For 25 years I was in love with a straight guy and still is. Its been so long I forgot how we started having sex. We were platoon mates initiailly but moved on to me sucking him off. Happened for like a year before all the rimming and fingering that he allow me to fuck him And each step took years but he progressed to sucking me too and then swallowing my cum and while we fucked for years with condom, one day he just sat on me and rode me without the condom. Eventually one day while we were doing missionary, he whispered in my ear, he wanted it. Took me awhile to realized what he meant and it was the sweetest thing and best climaxed ever! And for the first time, feeling my sperm shooting into him, he grabbed my head and kissed me. First kiss ever and it was straight to my mouth and tongue fight. I never imagined it would ever happen. It was almost like he's so in love. We snuggled to sleep with my sperm in him through the night.

 

He was a dashing guy, all manly and with girls clamoring all over him even though he's 45 now. One close female friend even told me how good he was in bed and he's slept with quite a few of her group of friends. He and me never talked about feelings, though through the years he got increasingly intimate and lovely while doing it. He's still single at 45 and had many on/off relationships with girls and I was always here for him. We made love almost weekly, sometimes 2 or 3 times a week. Gone on several holidays together just he and me. Even stayed at a gay airbnb once in perth and fucked in the presence of the host by the poolside when he unexpectantly came back. He didn't care and asked me to continue.

 

I never knew if he had any feelings for me or he was just using me for sex. Neither have I told him my feelings despite being "together" for 25 years. Even when at that perth airbnb the host asked if us if he could fuck him. I was ok with it but he said no, in his words, his hole belongs to me and only me. I couldn't have loved him more hearing that. Although he later said he was so horny he wanted to try sucking the host's impressive 8incher. Till today I've always been his only guy. Sometimes I suggest he could try another guy if he finds him interesting but he always says he's my exclusive. But should I be that kinky I want to watch him get fucked, then he said I choose the guy, whichever guy and he'll do it for me.

 

But now he is attached and it seems like he may settle down finally. I jokingly asked if we should stop and was surprised he said yes. I graciously agreed. I can't possibly force him to stay with me. Been feeling so heartbroken for the last 2 years. Masturbating to the thought of his lovely asshole and how he moans when we made love. I've since had other guys and the sad part is when I fucked the rest, I sometimes imagine its him I'm fucking. I was so desperate to forget him and start a new relationship I even tried bottoming for someone. 2 years already and he's not getting married yet, I don't know if I should wish he breaks up and come back to me or have the best wishes for his relationship. He had many relationships with girls but with the rest, he could fuck them and then still do it with me, allowing me to shoot inside him without him even coming. The first few times I ask why he's not horny to cum he would whisper in my ear.. "just for you"

 

Sad sad sad sad..I never told him my feelings though I think he suspect I'm gay cause I've never gone for any girls. Despite being together so many years, I never knew his true feelings either. Is he half gay? Can he convert to full gay? Seems like he had feelings for me, and until this current relationships, his past relationships were loose and mainly focused around sex. We still have lunch or dinner together, sometimes in intimate settings and he's just so sweet still. He accepts a peck on the cheek and a hug for goodbyes but didn't dare to try anything more since he never offered to kiss me back.

 

Should I confess and risk losing both sex and friendship? Can someone please advice??? Argh. I totally broken.

Interesting story seem he is bi btm or bì flex

Edited April 11, 2021 by fetish69

[Guest metro]

I hv a similar experience too, where I started to fall for a straight guy after hanging out with him over the years. I enjoy his company a lot but we don't text each other often. Sometimes, I hope he is one of us or that I will hv the courage to share my feelings with him. However, I am also afraid that it will ruin our friendship too. 

 

I guess they always say that a good friendship is better than a heartbreak or turning into strangers?

[Guest Gay]

If a gay guy never crush before on a straight guy through out his whole hetero life. 

 

That only means he's not gay la. 

[NSA chinese]

On 4/11/2021 at 2:06 AM, Guest sadsadsad said:

Thank you for your kind reply and time taken to write a long advice. I can't put a label on him as to whether he is bi or straight but because he loves women and had plenty of them, I seriously doubt if he would want to be "together" with me. Besides he is only ever so loving while on bed. The rest of the time that we spend together he doesn't talk or seem to be loving in anyway. Don't think he has any emotions that can lead further but just that over the years he progressed from being totally passive to be more loving while in bed. So I never regretted not asking him to be mine. Just sad because I was happy to be his 2nd secret partner while he carried on with a gf or wife as he had so many times before. But times have changed and he has decided to stop. I am not actively looking to settle down with someone new, but have had several encounters with others. Perhaps one day I might find someone I truly can love instead of replacing him. Think I shall continue this way, if he comes back I'm going to tell him while I fuck him that I'm dishing all out at him for all the lost time and take it as a man! Otherwise life goes on and over time I hope I'll be less sad. Just have to find a new partner for holidiays also. Thanks again for your advice.

I agree that you were/are very blessed to be in this “relationship” with him. Both of you obviously feel for each other, maybe in ways only you know. 
 

I think there can be happy endings but a relationship takes both parties to make it work. The fact that he kept saying he’s doing certain things only for you shows how much he cares about you and your feelings. 
 

But I see both of you just stops there at your display of feelings towards each other. You didn’t/don’t open up to express how you truly feel for each other. The opportunities are there but perhaps both of you are waiting for the other to suggest something more meaningful and long term. It could be the emotional fear of rejection that’s stopping you both, having been so physically close to each other. Maybe he has given up waiting for you to commit yourself or he’s still testing you with the current relationship. 
 

It’s sad when you see great opportunities pass by and envision what could have been days, months and years of happiness coupling together. This is not the movies when you can retake scenes. Don’t let regret consume you now or years later. Do what your heart tells you and at least even if it doesn’t work out, you tried your best. Life is short, don’t waste it on indecision. It would be over in a blink. 

[Guest]

The question I would like to know more is has a straight guy liked me before. 
 

I have liked a few straight guys before. They were my colleagues so I was afraid to express myself. Yet I would also like to know if it’s mutual. 

[Guest Straights Times]

Yes omg I do not wish for others to go through it

[Guest Handsome]

I have some very tall, muscular and good looking straight colleagues in 20s.  I'm considered reasonably good looking but I'm in 40s. 

 

I always find them extremely sexually appealing, but never once thought of getting into their pants.  Why?  

Firstly, they are straight - won't  reciprocate

Secondly, don't shit in one's backyard

Thirdly, risk of exposing myself.

Fourthly, they are too good looking. Too many choices for them.

Lastly, I never noticed anyone looking at me with interest...

[Guest guest]

6 hours ago, Guest Handsome said:

I have some very tall, muscular and good looking straight colleagues in 20s.  I'm considered reasonably good looking but I'm in 40s. 

 

I always find them extremely sexually appealing, but never once thought of getting into their pants.  Why?  

Firstly, they are straight - won't  reciprocate

Secondly, don't shit in one's backyard

Thirdly, risk of exposing myself.

Fourthly, they are too good looking. Too many choices for them.

Lastly, I never noticed anyone looking at me with interest...

Once a person reached 40s, no matter how well you maintain also not much use. Age is very important. Once you past it, you will never able to go back again.

[sgtwinkbottom_]

This happens back in 2015 during my sec sch days.

 

Bad boy in sch with tattoos and piercing. I MEAN - HOTTTT 🥵🥵🥵

 

He loves to tease me whenever we see each other.  Be it a hug or playing with my hair. 
 

We both were in the sch library. He was on the librarian's table doing his thing and I was on the computer doing my sch work. All of a sudden, I felt two arms reaching out for my waist and I was flabbergasted. I thought it was some other guy so I got annoyed and shouted "wtf are you doing"? I turned around and there he was looking all innocent with that puppy eyes of his. 🥺🥺🥺 He replied "it was me". The next moment, out of the blue I confessed that I have had feelings for him for quite a while now. His face was as red as a tomato and I exited the library. 
 

We did not spoke to each other since that day. 

[auscent]

Not worth it.

The joy of bromance with someone who can never reciprocate fully, will never surpass the pain.