bluerunner Posted December 28, 2023 Report Share Posted December 28, 2023 Leave the married men alone. Go create havoc elsewhere. Earn some brownie points. Peace. Balestier, minkle and EastChat 1 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Samuel Lim Posted December 30, 2023 Report Share Posted December 30, 2023 In all seriousness, happiness post-marriage is as diverse as the colors in a bag of M&M's. Some men find absolute joy in the companionship and shared experiences, while others... well, they find happiness in remembering to put the toilet seat down penislife and yhtang 2 Quote Hit me up😁: Telegram/WeChat/Line: @limdaoyang Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
singalion Posted February 20, 2024 Report Share Posted February 20, 2024 What a nice attitude to think about straight men. But what's the purpose? Wouldn't it be better to ask: If married gay men are happy after marriage. I guess some are, others aren't. People can change in their attitude, having personal issues, such as depression or there are other reasons how a marriage to someone can turn into a nightmare. ADHD kids can turn into a marriage also into troubles, when both parents start disputing on it... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted May 12, 2024 Report Share Posted May 12, 2024 On 2/20/2024 at 7:06 AM, singalion said: What a nice attitude to think about straight men. But what's the purpose? Wouldn't it be better to ask: If married gay men are happy after marriage. I guess some are, others aren't. People can change in their attitude, having personal issues, such as depression or there are other reasons how a marriage to someone can turn into a nightmare. ADHD kids can turn into a marriage also into troubles, when both parents start disputing on it... Yes, some married gays are happy, others are not. Some married straights are happy, others don't. Some single men are happy, others don't. Let's see... what is left? We need to recognize that happiness is mostly our own responsibility, and unless some unfortunate circumstances arise, we should make the effort to find our happiness and not blame the lack of it on this-and-that. goldenveins 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldenveins Posted May 13, 2024 Report Share Posted May 13, 2024 I hooked up with a couple of married guys before - if I recall correctly, in almost all cases I only found out they were married AFTER they had cum in me. I might spy a photo of their kids in the wallet, or they might get a phonecall from the wife. I the case I once saw one of them carried a photo of his daughter & wife, so I asked him if he was happy, seeing that he had sought me out even though he had his commitments... ...he paused and then said, "that is a different type of happiness". And as far as I could tell, he had said it with genuine affection. I felt that was a reasonable way to say it; if sexual tastes are like food preferences, no one in their right mind would consider a pasta lover to be committing betrayal just because they occasionally eat chicken rice - though of course on the other hand, family and sexual relations do come with baggage, responsibilities & consequences that food does not 🤔 Hole4use, Steve5380 and friskyfright 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Terrible gay slut Posted May 13, 2024 Report Share Posted May 13, 2024 2 hours ago, goldenveins said: I hooked up with a couple of married guys before - if I recall correctly, in almost all cases I only found out they were married AFTER they had cum in me. I might spy a photo of their kids in the wallet, or they might get a phonecall from the wife. You have tasted a married guy, but please leave his family alone and leave him also, for goodness sake. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted May 13, 2024 Report Share Posted May 13, 2024 (edited) 18 minutes ago, Guest Terrible gay slut said: You have tasted a married guy, but please leave his family alone and leave him also, for goodness sake. @goldenveins does not give the impression to be the kind of person who exposes the sex with his married men to their families. Instead, he has a very wise, very positive understanding of his married men and the morality of their acts. I KNOW because I was also a married man with children and was happy with this, even while being gay. Sex and love are two very different things, and you could try to reflect on the validities of some fabricated false moralities. I like his example of sexual tastes not being too different than food preferences. Even if a man eats the food cooked by his wife or his boyfriend every day, if sometimes he has a meal with someone else or eats at a fancy restaurant, this should not be a crime. And this does not mean that he is unhappy with his wife or boyfriend. . Edited May 13, 2024 by Steve5380 goldenveins and Hole4use 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldenveins Posted May 13, 2024 Report Share Posted May 13, 2024 (edited) 1 hour ago, Guest Terrible gay slut said: You have tasted a married guy, but please leave his family alone and leave him also, for goodness sake. I did the moment I found out. I do not judge the ways they compartmentalize their love lives - every human being does that to some extent and not just with regards to sex & intimacy - but it was the dishonesty (or at least attempting to hide such crucial information) that turned me off, and even though I parted amicably, I did not entertain requests for a follow-up tryst. What people like is one thing - how they go about pursuing it is another thing, entirely. I can respect people's tastes, but I am perturbed by lack of integrity. I have no doubt that these sort of men would have just as readily thrown me under the bus to save face with their family & protect their social status - surely they are just as willing to paint me as the 'bad guy' and 'the homewrecker', when it was them who first led me on, kept pestering me after I learnt the truth and kept my distance (to the point that they may even try to circumvent my blocking them). If you could lie to me so casually just for the sake of getting in my pants, you'd probably just as soon lie to your wife and family to save your skin. If on the other hand a man was direct with me about being married, I can at least hear him out and cross-examine him; "If you're married, why do you still seek me out?"; "Does your wife know AND is she comfortable with your pursuits?" (some claim that they are swingers or in open relationships, which IS a possibility); "Do you have any children?"; "How do you intend to protect yourself from unforeseen consequences? Do you intend to honour my request to use protection, or are you going to try and 'stealth' me?" Some men anticipate my 'interview' and are willing to be go through the motions because they 'get' that I only want to know where we stand on things and be fair to everyone; others find it tedious and try to dodge, lie, or maybe just quit while they are ahead. In the latter case it's no loss on my part if they high-tail it out of my life. They MAY want me, but they obviously don't want me enough, and also they apparently do not respect me, their wives or even themselves. Edited May 13, 2024 by goldenveins Added details for clarity Hole4use 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Terrible gay slut Posted May 13, 2024 Report Share Posted May 13, 2024 1 hour ago, Steve5380 said: And this does not mean that he is unhappy with his wife or boyfriend. The married man is not unhappy does not mean the wife will be HAPPY if they knew. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
singalion Posted May 13, 2024 Report Share Posted May 13, 2024 14 hours ago, goldenveins said: I hooked up with a couple of married guys before - if I recall correctly, in almost all cases I only found out they were married AFTER they had cum in me. I might spy a photo of their kids in the wallet, or they might get a phonecall from the wife. I the case I once saw one of them carried a photo of his daughter & wife, so I asked him if he was happy, seeing that he had sought me out even though he had his commitments... ...he paused and then said, "that is a different type of happiness". And as far as I could tell, he had said it with genuine affection. I felt that was a reasonable way to say it; if sexual tastes are like food preferences, no one in their right mind would consider a pasta lover to be committing betrayal just because they occasionally eat chicken rice - though of course on the other hand, family and sexual relations do come with baggage, responsibilities & consequences that food does not 🤔 Unhealthy food comes with baggage also... Excessive weight, diabetes, heart issues... less sexual attraction, less sex... goldenveins 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldenveins Posted May 13, 2024 Report Share Posted May 13, 2024 16 minutes ago, singalion said: Unhealthy food comes with baggage also... Excessive weight, diabetes, heart issues... less sexual attraction, less sex... Touché...! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
horhorfun Posted May 14, 2024 Report Share Posted May 14, 2024 Not really,some straight guy might not be happy after martiage cause they have many responsibilities to carry and to also endure a naggng wife Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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