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On 5/26/2022 at 11:13 PM, InBangkok said:

Another post clearly made in jest. How does @Steve5380 expect those living in a continent 16,000 kms from Houston, Texas and who do not have a clue what FLIT is to know that this unknown product contains DDT? That is just dumb! If he had mentioned DDT at the outset instead of assuming that Asian guys know what he knows, there would be no controversy. But as we have seen so often, he often expects readers merely to divine what is in his brain!

 

I don't expect YOU to divine what is in my brain, since your divinations are usually wrong and malicious.  

 

Yet, you KEEP MAKING dumb divinations,  evidenced by how silly your divinations are.  And since you make DIVINATIONS about my brain,  one can expect that whatever you write are divinations too,  some fantasies in a challenged mind.

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On 5/27/2022 at 11:22 AM, Steve5380 said:

 

I don't expect YOU to divine what is in my brain, since your divinations are usually wrong and malicious.  

 

Yet, you KEEP MAKING dumb divinations,  evidenced by how silly your divinations are.  And since you make DIVINATIONS about my brain,  one can expect that whatever you write are divinations too,  some fantasies in a challenged mind.

Once again you have never answered the question. How did you possibly expect readers in a Singapore-based forum to know what FLIT is? Fact is, you didn't. You just assumed. And as with many of your posts, what you assume becomes in your view fact. WRONG!

 

And your usual modus operandi is now well in play. Double-down and then trash the poster. Oops - the "I made that post in jest" didn't occur this time. Wahahaha!

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On 5/20/2022 at 3:00 PM, Steve5380 said:

 

Does anyone have a spreader of FLIT to scare this pesky bug away?  This will allow us to happily return to the subject of this thread.

 

Dear BW readers,  if you don't know what FLIT is,  you are welcomed to consider any other more modern bug killer,  but...  it has to be STRONG.  There are pests that are hard to exterminate.  Let's wish for a return to peace at BW!

 

 

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On 5/26/2022 at 11:37 PM, InBangkok said:

Once again you have never answered the question. How did you possibly expect readers in a Singapore-based forum to know what FLIT is? Fact is, you didn't. You just assumed. And as with many of your posts, what you assume becomes in your view fact. WRONG!

 

And your usual modus operandi is now well in play. Double-down and then trash the poster. Oops - the "I made that post in jest" didn't occur this time. Wahahaha!

 

I am under no obligation to answer any question.  But in particular,  the questions of a dumb ass who will distort and twist around any answer I might give,  have a low priority in my mind.  You would be surprised to know how low a priority you have for me.   It is close to the end of the list of 7.9 billion humans in existence today.

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On 5/28/2022 at 4:10 AM, Steve5380 said:

I am under no obligation to answer any question.  But in particular,  the questions of a dumb ass who will distort and twist around any answer I might give,  have a low priority in my mind.  You would be surprised to know how low a priority you have for me.   It is close to the end of the list of 7.9 billion humans in existence toda

Yet again, so stupid and so true to form. Why mention FLIT when no-one in most Asian countries has the faintest clue what FLIT is? It's the same as if you asked readers here about a diminished ninth chord! Exactly the same. But you, with your ridiculous attempts to justify an unjustifiable assumption, are never wrong - at least in your own mind. You are just so selfish you assume you must always be right. Wrong, old man! Do your research before posting.

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Guest Hideki

last year meets one mid 30s guy from jurong when he click he likes me, then inital very interested in me then suddenly ghost me


actually before meets him i already expects to be singles for life already so never actively dates people

then he come and make my heart flutter and make me feel like i want to find someone to share each other happiness so that happy can x2 and got someone for each other so that saddeness can divide 2

but he heartedlessly just suddenly say sorry find me not suitable, just find it so hard take, like also he like first, then suddenly dont like just disappear

feel like i been treated like a floor mat people wipe their feet on me finish then left even though i gived my heart into it.

 

make me feel like this year a part of my heart died and even warded for depression because of it

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On 6/13/2022 at 3:31 PM, Andrew240577 said:

45 still single haha🤣

 

79 still single, haha!  But not feeling bad about. I have been in two major relationships. They CAN work regardless of who we are, but there is no guarantee of how long they last. 

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On 6/13/2022 at 2:43 PM, Guest Hideki said:

last year meets one mid 30s guy from jurong when he click he likes me, then inital very interested in me then suddenly ghost me


actually before meets him i already expects to be singles for life already so never actively dates people

then he come and make my heart flutter and make me feel like i want to find someone to share each other happiness so that happy can x2 and got someone for each other so that saddeness can divide 2

but he heartedlessly just suddenly say sorry find me not suitable, just find it so hard take, like also he like first, then suddenly dont like just disappear

feel like i been treated like a floor mat people wipe their feet on me finish then left even though i gived my heart into it.

 

make me feel like this year a part of my heart died and even warded for depression because of it

 

Don't feel bad about being single.  It does not say anything bad about you.

 

Feel good about being attractive at 40 so that a 30s guy wanted to partner with you.  This is a FACT, you should not ignore.  If the relationship didn't last, you should NOT take blame for this.  There are many 30s guys around.  If this one didn't last, others may last.   We have practically no control over the actions of others.

 

But you should have control of yourself.  FIRST:  by cultivating self-confidence.  YOU are capable of attracting others.  You just had proof of this.

 

SECOND:  even if you expect to be single later in life, there is nothing wrong with having one, or several relationships in between.  And see that YOU benefit from it as well as HE benefits from it.   Therefore, try to achieve a relationship.   Not only when HE is interested in you, and HE thereafter ghosts you.    Much better is if YOU are interested in him,  and YOU have control of ghosting or not.    Therefore, YOU need to cultivate some skills of dating,  of going after he who attracts you.  

 

To be rejected happens to all of us.  But with practice we develop a thicker skin and don't feel too bad about it,  don't feel like people wipe their feet on us.  When you go to a shoe store to buy a new pair of shoes,  try on half a dozen until you find the one that fits best...   should the other 5 pairs feel like you wiped your feet with them?  NO.  Every foot is different, every shoe is different.   Overcome a shyness that only hurts you,  take some initiative in dating he who attracts you,  and if it does not work... keep trying. Eventually the right size will arrive.  Then, if it lasts 6 month or 1 year or 5 years or 10 years or.... life,  you cannot predict this exactly, and neither does he.

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Well, I can relate to OP. Before ever dating anyone I would think that I would be completely fine being alone, so I never tried. Then after everything is over, it does get a little sad that now you don't have someone to share a future with? (or more so that the future you thought you had with them is now gone) 

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On 6/14/2022 at 5:05 AM, Steve5380 said:

 

79 still single, haha!  But not feeling bad about. I have been in two major relationships. They CAN work regardless of who we are, but there is no guarantee of how long they last. 

I despised you for making that comment because it accurately reflects how gay people would be when they reach the age of 79.  Now, get out of here!!☹️
I'm in desperate need of some denial.

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Guest So what

All gay relationship is Singapore won't and can't last la. 

 

No binding things like marriage etc. 

 

You Date 10 years or 20 years eventually also go back to being single. 

 

Just accept it. 

 

Its by design. 

 

Government want you to be lonely. Alone. Without support. 

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