Popular Post Samuel Lim Posted September 24, 2021 Popular Post Report Share Posted September 24, 2021 Just came across this comic strip, which I can totally relate to.. anyone share the same sendiments? jljh88, Notti, SAKnight93 and 2 others 2 3 Quote Hit me up😁: Telegram/WeChat/Line: @limdaoyang Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jljh88 Posted September 24, 2021 Report Share Posted September 24, 2021 On 9/24/2021 at 1:25 PM, Samuel Lim said: Just came across this comic strip, which I can totally relate to.. anyone share the same sendiments? yes indeed. Looks may fade but a character will never Notti 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
purplegiraffe Posted September 24, 2021 Report Share Posted September 24, 2021 I feel like both are important leh... Should be good-looking (not asking for a lot, just as long as it's to my taste) and also caring at the same time. Definitely, 缺一不可, both characteristics are important. Maybe I'm too demanding lolz... Samuel Lim 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post fab Posted September 24, 2021 Popular Post Report Share Posted September 24, 2021 How about a caring handsome man? Anyway a hard man is good to find. Guapo, mate69, practease and 2 others 1 4 Quote 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
practease Posted September 24, 2021 Report Share Posted September 24, 2021 On 9/24/2021 at 1:36 PM, fab said: How about a caring handsome man? Anyway a hard man is good to find. I agree!!! fab 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Samuel Lim Posted September 24, 2021 Author Report Share Posted September 24, 2021 On 9/24/2021 at 1:58 PM, practease said: I agree!!! Hard or not there's such a thing called viagra. Even if its hard and small, a normal person has fucking ten fingers, and a tongue- Just need to use some imagination Quote Hit me up😁: Telegram/WeChat/Line: @limdaoyang Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BudakFit Posted September 24, 2021 Report Share Posted September 24, 2021 Disagree. Not all. Maybe you haven't meet the right one.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Can Posted September 24, 2021 Report Share Posted September 24, 2021 Don't have to look gorgeous or extremely handsome. As long as the person look neat, tidy, proper, smell nice and adorable to the eyes of its beholder can already. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Torrent Posted September 24, 2021 Report Share Posted September 24, 2021 Handsome is subjective anyway, but caring is universal Leanmeat, samdiggin, FyAfM and 1 other 3 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dart Posted September 24, 2021 Report Share Posted September 24, 2021 Handsome is an outward appearance. Caring is because he loves. I cannot deny we gays go for the looks but it doesn't last forever. If there's love, care will persist even when looks is fading. gtlife64, Kopitiam, fab and 1 other 1 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted September 24, 2021 Report Share Posted September 24, 2021 Caring or handsome depend on the purpose for which the man is evaluated. There are occasions of physical close contact where handsome is the primary factor, and he does not even need to be "hard", in my case. For lasting life sharing or just friendship, caring takes precedence, of course. auscent 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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auscent Posted September 25, 2021 Report Share Posted September 25, 2021 On 9/24/2021 at 11:10 PM, Steve5380 said: Caring or handsome depend on the purpose for which the man is evaluated.. For me, the physical part should spark some chemistry. When he is caring, the chemical reaction will kaboom - gives deeper meaning, more joy. And it's worth it. Steve5380 and mate69 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted September 25, 2021 Report Share Posted September 25, 2021 On 9/25/2021 at 9:07 AM, auscent said: For me, the physical part should spark some chemistry. When he is caring, the chemical reaction will kaboom - gives deeper meaning, more joy. And it's worth it. And handsome and caring can swap places. Usually the handsome is the attraction, and the caring becomes the catalyst that causes the relationship reaction. But in some cases the good heart and caring of a person is irresistible, and leads to the acceptance of his physical body. Same reaction, the difference is in which ingredient is in the pot first before the second is added. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Good Luck!! Posted September 25, 2021 Report Share Posted September 25, 2021 A caring man can mean many things. He cares about you going out and returning late a late. He cares about you eating unhealthily. He cares about you not exercising more. He cares about you not buying branded stuff. He cares about how you look. He cares about you spending too much on yourself....he simply cares a lot including how you sleep, eat and shit. A very "CARING" man indeed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted September 25, 2021 Report Share Posted September 25, 2021 On 9/25/2021 at 9:24 AM, Guest Good Luck!! said: A caring man can mean many things. He cares about you going out and returning late a late. He cares about you eating unhealthily. He cares about you not exercising more. He cares about you not buying branded stuff. He cares about how you look. He cares about you spending too much on yourself....he simply cares a lot including how you sleep, eat and shit. A very "CARING" man indeed. Caring does not have to be controlling, domineering. Caring is having a concern for the partner's well being. It is the wish for him to be happy, even when this means for him to have some freedom. Open relationships, for example, work well when there is mutual caring. And this can even function when there is not much mutual attraction. In a way, caring is a manifestation of love. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Yikes Posted September 26, 2021 Report Share Posted September 26, 2021 Handsome guys are mostly playboys, they just want to take advantage of their assets and poke as many virgin holes as they can. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Try and see Posted September 26, 2021 Report Share Posted September 26, 2021 I agree. In my lifetime, I met quite a lot of handsome jerks, both gay and straight. As others have said - not handsome is okay, as long as the person is generally well-groomed and hygienic. Sometimes, when your bf is very handsome, it can get stressful, because you may feel insecure about your own looks compared to him; or you worry that he will fool around since he knows he is hot; and you always worry about other guys trying to hit on him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Tony Chen Posted September 26, 2021 Report Share Posted September 26, 2021 Handsome … if you can match up to this handsome then good… if not you’ll likely be insecure always… unless you have trucks of money that keeps him glued to you . Like those couples you see who are one hot one not . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
egal Posted January 1 Report Share Posted January 1 i guess they go for the same species, rightfully so Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kantian Posted January 2 Report Share Posted January 2 Taiwanese celebrity 小S once said - 帅哥也劈腿，丑男也劈腿 - 所以选帅哥 😂(good looking guys cheat, the same for ugly guys too. Choose the good looking one) dilbert0987 and feilyxnixx 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leanmeat Posted January 2 Report Share Posted January 2 If a man is caring but not pleasant looking, will you be able to resist having fun w others while still w him? If you can't, then you are simply making use of his caring personality isn't it? GayNomad 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Why? Posted January 3 Report Share Posted January 3 (edited) A CARING person, can be CRINGEY and CONTROLLING. I prefer CHEMISTRY (Cool & Cute) and with big COCK. Edited January 3 by Why? funky beaver 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anon_cock Posted January 3 Report Share Posted January 3 I wan a caring handsome man. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted January 3 Report Share Posted January 3 So much about the other! How about some introspection? Am I caring? Am I handsome? Believe it or not, if the answers are not straight "yes", changes are possible with some dedication. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Why? Posted January 4 Report Share Posted January 4 Finding your kind of man in the gay community is difficult because most of them are quite dramatic, if not freaky (Side note) . I've looked everywhere, but I haven't been able to locate the right specimen.. Side Note In the stadium, I witnessed an old gay man sprinting in just his underwear. In the vicinity, a team of Gukhas was preparing for their 24km run around the stadium. It was clear that the older gay man was trying to draw attention to himself, which made the nearby trainers uncomfortable. Please treat others and yourself with respect if you happen to be a member in this forum. Now back to the topic. So far, the caring men I encountered to date are the straight ones. The reason is straightforward: straight people do not perceive homosexual people as a threat since, to them, we are not their love rivals in a relationship world, unlike gay people who see another gay people as their rivals for other men and thus tried to all means and efforts to make themselves stand out dramatically. Conclusion You are asking too much of the small gay community if you are still searching and hoping to find those elusive "caring handsome ones." Perhaps, that caring person has always been standing in front of your mirror already. Don't you think self-caring is more important? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GayNomad Posted January 4 Report Share Posted January 4 I think first impression still counts. No matter what, the gay community is superficial to some extend. Most people will only want to date/befriend guys that are pleasant to their eyes. Then from there evaluate the caring part. If caring, can develop further, if not caring, just be friends/fwb have ons. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
egal Posted January 4 Report Share Posted January 4 very true i mean if initially it was already a turn off, then the first step wld not happen my loss, of course but superficial, as mentioned above Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
egal Posted January 4 Report Share Posted January 4 a perfect two choose one post caring / handsome man Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Glyph Posted January 5 Report Share Posted January 5 On 9/24/2021 at 1:30 PM, purplegiraffe said: I feel like both are important leh... Should be good-looking (not asking for a lot, just as long as it's to my taste) and also caring at the same time. Definitely, 缺一不可, both characteristics are important. Maybe I'm too demanding lolz... Perhaps demanding but not entirely in a negative way. Too much handsome breeds insecurity, too much care and concern also creates an unhealthy dynamic in a relationship. There's this balance you'll need to strike, and that's one hella tough thing to do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
klekrie Posted January 9 Report Share Posted January 9 (edited) For me, a caring man is one who respects your decisions and is aware of the consequences of his own choices too, but in order for this to happen, you yourself must also take the time to communicate your own thoughts to him. Men who pamper you and treat you like a princess are caring, but it's not the only way that they can show their care to their partners. You're more likely expecting too much out of a man if you want someone who will worship you. I've never dated before, much less been in a relationship, but hypothetically if I were to be in one, I'd be lucky enough to date a caring man already. No matter how good you look, your heart should take precedence. Edited January 9 by klekrie Lover 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted January 11 Report Share Posted January 11 On 1/9/2025 at 9:11 AM, klekrie said: I've never dated before, much less been in a relationship, but hypothetically if I were to be in one, I'd be lucky enough to date a caring man already. No matter how good you look, your heart should take precedence. Caring is not a fixed magnitude. If you date a man that is not too caring, this can change with time if he develops some feelings for you, leading to true love. And it depends also in how much you care for him. Relationships are difficult to predict, and it may be wise to give them some "trial" time, not too short, not too long. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swimwithme Posted January 15 Report Share Posted January 15 Actually, what is "caring" in a rs? How the person notes the other party's needs; small gestures etc. Or, paying for dates/holidays? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted January 15 Report Share Posted January 15 On 1/9/2025 at 9:11 AM, klekrie said: For me, a caring man is one who respects your decisions and is aware of the consequences of his own choices too, but in order for this to happen, you yourself must also take the time to communicate your own thoughts to him. Men who pamper you and treat you like a princess are caring, but it's not the only way that they can show their care to their partners. You're more likely expecting too much out of a man if you want someone who will worship you. I've never dated before, much less been in a relationship, but hypothetically if I were to be in one, I'd be lucky enough to date a caring man already. No matter how good you look, your heart should take precedence. I think you are on the right track. In a relationship, caring is fundamental. But it needs to be MUTUAL caring. Unless you aim for older men who mostly worship your attraction, "worshipping" should be out of the question since this does not make sense between equals. But there can be some attribute of him that makes him worth of worship, like something valuable physically or intellectually, and then you hopefully get worshipped by him through your care and love. Or vice versa. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sweetie Pie Posted January 16 Report Share Posted January 16 I have been with someone for a while. He is the one and only son and his father has also accepted me. He didn't ask much from me, except to accept his love and he said it was a gift for trusting him. 😃 Don't be jealous. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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