All talk no action?

[greg01greg]

Why do most guys here want to hook up but talk way too much, as if preparing to script-write the scenario? Endless talk - like “mate.. why don’t you get on a porn site and bloody jerk off”

or some with plenty of questions back and forth - like why don’t you just get a rent boy pay whatever amount and at least they’ll do what you want.
hooking here in Singapore is like pulling teeth.
worry too much about this and that 

even worse, can’t afford transport and ask if the guy willing to pay..  

oh another thing why most guys here prefer the host to live near mrt 

And MANLY DOES NOT MEAN MUSCLES. 

WHAT GOOD IF YOU HAVE MUSCLES BUT YOU PLUCK YOUR BROWS, FILTER YOUR PICTURES AND TALK LIKE A SISTER.. 

please. Lol

[MarriedBiTop]

Hahahaaha   

 

I have seen super muscled men... 

From the rear, when he turned around... 

 

Wapiang

 

Tatoo eye brow... super thick double eye lids.. ( went for surgery) 

 

I got pretty turned off  

[BudakFit]

Many muscle marys out there...even trans who work at some gym centers feel disgusted haha 

 

And this people whether you muscle mary or manly love to judge people want...

 

Most muscle mary are obviously btm...all got bodyfats also...my body even better then them...at least I no need to go surgery....and most also small package haha...but they do have big bubble butts can't deny that...

 

Just ignore them...I love to take purposely naked selfie in front of them....judge that assholes! 

 

For the hook up thing most kena catfish so that is why they kinda picky....and if you wanna host hotel pls meet them before hand...coz exchange pic no point they can use other people pics...VC ok. if not once they agree to meet endup catfish then you already register before check in or waste your trip  doesn't matter hourly or overnight...so at least you can have others on standby if the person is catfish. 

[bluerunner]

On 12/14/2021 at 10:42 PM, MarriedBiTop said:

Tatoo eye brow... super thick double eye lids.. ( went for surgery) 

I got pretty turned off  

Tattooed/embroidered eye brows for man does not work for me too. It’s too obvious. Too 娘 for me. 

[yuquidam]

On 12/14/2021 at 10:42 PM, MarriedBiTop said:

Hahahaaha   

 

I have seen super muscled men... 

From the rear, when he turned around... 

 

Wapiang

 

Tatoo eye brow... super thick double eye lids.. ( went for surgery) 

 

I got pretty turned off  

 

On 12/15/2021 at 9:37 AM, bluerunner said:

Tattooed/embroidered eye brows for man does not work for me too. It’s too obvious. Too 娘 for me. 

Hahaha also not for me. In fact, even ladies with tattooed eye brows are not for me too. LOL 

[greg01greg]

On 12/14/2021 at 10:42 PM, MarriedBiTop said:

Hahahaaha   

 

I have seen super muscled men... 

From the rear, when he turned around... 

 

Wapiang

 

Tatoo eye brow... super thick double eye lids.. ( went for surgery) 

 

I got pretty turned off  

 

Trust me.. I've seen way too many guys now having make up on.. I guess its that Korean trend? 

I mean to whatever float their boat.. but what happened to the definition "MANLY"

nothing against feminine guys.. but honestly we are running out of "men" and (no offence to you) @MarriedBiTop most straight married men now having "man sex" some don't want to call it "gay sex" because its a "no homo" thing 

 

with all this non binary gender fluid thing - it does my head in

so where are the straight up normal all natural gay men who doesn't need all the fixtures to look good?

 

 

 

Edited December 15, 2021 by greg01greg

[yuquidam]

A toned bod, nice light tan is very attractive already yo. 😍

Edited December 15, 2021 by yuquidam

[greg01greg]

On 12/15/2021 at 2:18 AM, BudakFit said:

Many muscle marys out there...even trans who work at some gym centers feel disgusted haha 

 

And this people whether you muscle mary or manly love to judge people want...

 

Most muscle mary are obviously btm...all got bodyfats also...my body even better then them...at least I no need to go surgery....and most also small package haha...but they do have big bubble butts can't deny that...

 

Just ignore them...I love to take purposely naked selfie in front of them....judge that assholes! 

 

For the hook up thing most kena catfish so that is why they kinda picky....and if you wanna host hotel pls meet them before hand...coz exchange pic no point they can use other people pics...VC ok. if not once they agree to meet endup catfish then you already register before check in or waste your trip  doesn't matter hourly or overnight...so at least you can have others on standby if the person is catfish. 

 

I simply blame all this TikTok trend, social influencers turning our boys into self obsessed narcissist. 

last night I was on Grindr, some guy no header on profile, but his profile description - NSA Chinese MANLY - the manly in caps..

he just sent me a picture of this hairy dong, and asked me if I liked it.. 

now im not that person who likes to spend hours on end to chat with a person for hook up.. im pretty much straightforward. 

so I asked him if he want to come over to my place and all I asked for simple yes or no but this fella give me a back story.. like a novel and then he said he was working and he will get back to me..

so he replied again - STILL UNDECIDED!  and said he's a noob etc.. scared cause he got tricked before... I mean FFS he's a noob but brazenly able to send his nudes... go figure.. 

after all that I still didn't get the YES OR NO answer.. I got bored simply told him off... "you should drop that MANLY description on your profile because nothing so far you have that trait in you - you should just put GIRLY because youre so wishy washy indecisive like an auntie!" 

the twat blocked me.. thank god 

 

so define manly??  haha

 

[greg01greg]

On 12/15/2021 at 9:37 AM, bluerunner said:

Tattooed/embroidered eye brows for man does not work for me too. It’s too obvious. Too 娘 for me. 

to me those with really light brows and they think they need to fill it up its ok.. its just when they overdo it...

still I blame social media tiktok trend etc 

[MarriedBiTop]

Just make sure not those cheap ones that turn Green overtl time

[123ZZZ]

Turn green

funny la

[greg01greg]

On 12/15/2021 at 3:33 PM, MarriedBiTop said:

Just make sure not those cheap ones that turn Green overtl time

thats where there will be a need for touching up.. theres a lot of work to be pretty...

[tic-toc]

On 12/15/2021 at 4:00 AM, greg01greg said:

 

this fella give me a back story.... and then he said he was working and he will get back to me..

so he replied again - STILL UNDECIDED!  and said he's a noob etc.. scared cause he got tricked before... I mean FFS he's a noob but brazenly able to send his nudes... 

... I still didn't get the YES OR NO answer.. I got bored simply told him off... "you should drop that MANLY description on your profile because nothing so far you have that trait in you - you should just put GIRLY because youre so wishy washy indecisive like an auntie!" 

the twat blocked me.. thank god 

 

so define manly??  haha

 

😁🤣👍

[greg01greg]

Today a married fella made plans with me to hook up but he messaged me 15 min before the supposed time to meet to say he had to have lunch with his wife, asking me to push back to 5 hrs later… 

 

so what the hell these married guys think we are? We sit around our arse for hook ups? 
 

dear married men.. you are not the centre of the world. The world does not revolve around you. 
learn how to respect ppls time. And stop making excuses that you’re married. 
you want dick - go ahead have it all but don’t be a bloody dick 

[Steve5380]

On 12/14/2021 at 8:40 PM, greg01greg said:

 

Trust me.. I've seen way too many guys now having make up on.. I guess its that Korean trend? 

I mean to whatever float their boat.. but what happened to the definition "MANLY"

nothing against feminine guys.. but honestly we are running out of "men" and (no offence to you) @MarriedBiTop most straight married men now having "man sex" some don't want to call it "gay sex" because its a "no homo" thing 

 

with all this non binary gender fluid thing - it does my head in

so where are the straight up normal all natural gay men who doesn't need all the fixtures to look good?

 

 

Yes, what has happened with the traditional roles?   Manly => straight,  girly => gay.

 

I think that we can only blame it on the fact that in these times more reality is coming out.  Sexual orientation is a continuum, and so are attitudes.  I sympathize with you having this making things more difficult for you to find the ideal MAN,  but I also sympathize with the fact that men and women are increasingly able to act like they are.  Less faking and more honesty.  

[greg01greg]

On 12/20/2021 at 12:02 PM, Steve5380 said:

 

Yes, what has happened with the traditional roles?   Manly => straight,  girly => gay.

 

I think that we can only blame it on the fact that in these times more reality is coming out.  Sexual orientation is a continuum, and so are attitudes.  I sympathize with you having this making things more difficult for you to find the ideal MAN,  but I also sympathize with the fact that men and women are increasingly able to act like they are.  Less faking and more honesty.  

but these days - "the ideal man" does not exist..  

but the real question is - this new generation refuse to acknowledge the difference between a MAN AND A WOMAN. 

[Steve5380]

On 12/19/2021 at 10:26 PM, greg01greg said:

but these days - "the ideal man" does not exist..  

but the real question is - this new generation refuse to acknowledge the difference between a MAN AND A WOMAN. 

 

Yes, today "the ideal man" is increasingly replaced by the REAL man.

 

Have you known the late Rock Hudson, the Hollywood actor who broke so many woman's hearts?   He was a suave macho man in so many movies...  until he died of AIDS and the truth came out that he was gay!

 

We can still see the big difference between a man and a woman if we go for example to Saudi Arabia:  the men dressed in white sheets and the woman covered in black ones. But in the progressive countries the artificial differences are being dropped.  However, society still maintains artificial differences between straight men and gay men. Some people are so upset about same-sex marriage!   But we should be happy that these differences are coming down!

[doncoin]

I think it is a Singapore thing. Guys are more shy I supposed, and so many are closeted, hence the need to hide behind the veil of an app. I noticed this pattern about all talk no action after having wasted time chatting with a few guys and it led to nowhere.  I mean I will use Grindr just to keep options open but if I am looking to get laid, I probably will just go to the sauna. At least you are not wasting time back and forth exchanging life stories. 

 

Where I am based in the US, guys will chat for a bit and make a decision to come over or not. At least you are not wasting too much time and you know enough of the other guy or guys to decide if you want to hook up or not. 

[morphymonster]

Who are more fussy? The Tops or the bottoms. 😂😂😂

[greg01greg]

On 12/20/2021 at 11:38 PM, doncoin said:

I think it is a Singapore thing. Guys are more shy I supposed, and so many are closeted, hence the need to hide behind the veil of an app. I noticed this pattern about all talk no action after having wasted time chatting with a few guys and it led to nowhere.  I mean I will use Grindr just to keep options open but if I am looking to get laid, I probably will just go to the sauna. At least you are not wasting time back and forth exchanging life stories. 

 

Where I am based in the US, guys will chat for a bit and make a decision to come over or not. At least you are not wasting too much time and you know enough of the other guy or guys to decide if you want to hook up or not. 

true enough it’s really a Singaporean thing here. 
I don’t have any issue hooking up overseas. They’re upfront, to the point and they know what they want. 
here….. my god.. it’s like they need an approval from their mother to get their arse fucked.. sorry for my language but it’s true. 
 

For me I get to the point I don’t muck around and I say like how it is. Most guys here just get too sensitive.. “ oh you don’t have to be so rude about it” 

honey I’m not here to marry your arse. I just want a hook up. I don’t need your back story about your wives, your parents, your pets.. And I’m certainly not here to be your credit card for your transport. 
if you don’t have coin to charter yourself to fuck, stay home and be a good son to your parents 

 

really. The list can go on. 
 

at the end of the day I’m the bad guy for being honest 
 

 

[fitcubsg]

I totally agree, sex happens at a spur of the moment, Singaporeans like to shop or window shop for that perfect fuck.......or they just keep messenging you on apps when you express no interest what so ever. As a fellow Singapore, yup they are all closeted and not out and not purely adulting. i lived in US for college and short work assignment, so I guess I am well travelled. Sad to say if you are freaking horny, you are not going to get laid in the next 2 hours as oppose to other citites in the world. Saunas.....lol same, they shop till the lights go out.  but I conquer with the notion. Sometimes, I also want to fuck and not see you again, is that selfish, manybe for a lot Singaporeans but its me.

[greg01greg]

On 12/22/2021 at 2:59 PM, fitcubsg said:

I totally agree, sex happens at a spur of the moment, Singaporeans like to shop or window shop for that perfect fuck.......or they just keep messenging you on apps when you express no interest what so ever. As a fellow Singapore, yup they are all closeted and not out and not purely adulting. i lived in US for college and short work assignment, so I guess I am well travelled. Sad to say if you are freaking horny, you are not going to get laid in the next 2 hours as oppose to other citites in the world. Saunas.....lol same, they shop till the lights go out.  but I conquer with the notion. Sometimes, I also want to fuck and not see you again, is that selfish, manybe for a lot Singaporeans but its me.

 

 

let's just say its purely attitude and culture. I have been to saunas here and overseas.. here they can be a tad bit picky, the ones not into you will swat your hand away when you touch them.. these are the "beautiful boys".. some just try to avoid you like a leper.. 

back in Sydney I had nothing of the sort. 

[fitcubsg]

On 12/24/2021 at 11:10 AM, greg01greg said:

 

 

let's just say its purely attitude and culture. I have been to saunas here and overseas.. here they can be a tad bit picky, the ones not into you will swat your hand away when you touch them.. these are the "beautiful boys".. some just try to avoid you like a leper.. 

back in Sydney I had nothing of the sort. 

Yup in my younger days, it’s those nuances you get with the the sauna culture here. Boils down to the “kiasu” culture in Singapore, you have to pick the right cherry always and not loose out. If you want a quick fix, it doesn’t happen here I think. So I gave the whole sauna and cruising habit because you will go home empty handed 🙂 

[wantonmee]

So much for diversity in LGBTQ+...

Everyone has a place whether u are trans, bi, twinks, fems... macho marys.

Just becoz he/she doesn't appeal to a person's preference, does not give us the right to proliferate additional prejudices.

Isn't that kind of like how the conventional straight society is viewing and treating gays with prejudice?

If nothing else, I do admire the fact that some members of the LGBTQ+ are brave to be who they really are.

Just sayin'

 

[greg01greg]

On 12/24/2021 at 2:31 PM, wantonmee said:

So much for diversity in LGBTQ+...

Everyone has a place whether u are trans, bi, twinks, fems... macho marys.

Just becoz he/she doesn't appeal to a person's preference, does not give us the right to proliferate additional prejudices.

Isn't that kind of like how the conventional straight society is viewing and treating gays with prejudice?

If nothing else, I do admire the fact that some members of the LGBTQ+ are brave to be who they really are.

Just sayin'

 

 

 

of course everyone got their own identity, this is not about alienating a particular group
 

[greg01greg]

On 12/24/2021 at 12:51 PM, fitcubsg said:

Yup in my younger days, it’s those nuances you get with the the sauna culture here. Boils down to the “kiasu” culture in Singapore, you have to pick the right cherry always and not loose out. If you want a quick fix, it doesn’t happen here I think. So I gave the whole sauna and cruising habit because you will go home empty handed 🙂 

 

for me its all about knowing what you want rather than going back and forth. at the end of the day its the culture here - yes the KIASUISM mentality

oh and I forgot to mention, once I approached a guy at the sauna, and he swatted me away, yes he swatted me like a im a child trying to touch an expensive glass. 

yes, I got the message.. I walked away, moments later walked past me and guess what he did....

he walked past me but avoided me like im some sex fiend trying to touch him.. 

I had no choice but just to tell him off - "sweetheart.. stop being a drama queen.. im not going to bloody touch you" he walked away and he said sorry...

so boys just stop the theatrics.. its a fucking sauna not a bloody runway you can strut like a peacock.. 

 

its just like boys wearing a scarf around their neck going to a bar trying to tell the patrons he worked in designer house. 

 

 

Edited December 25, 2021 by greg01greg
typo

[doncoin]

On 12/24/2021 at 10:19 PM, greg01greg said:

 

for me its all about knowing what you want rather than going back and forth. at the end of the day its the culture here - yes the KIASUISM mentality

oh and I forgot to mention, once I approached a guy at the sauna, and he swatted me away, yes he swatted me like a im a child trying to touch an expensive glass. 

yes, I got the message.. I walked away, moments later walked past me and guess what he did....

he walked past me but avoided me like im some sex fiend trying to touch him.. 

I had no choice but just to tell him off - "sweetheart.. stop being a drama queen.. im not going to bloody touch you" he walked away and he said sorry...

so boys just stop the theatrics.. its a fucking sauna not a bloody runway you can strut like a peacock.. 

 

its just like boys wearing a scarf around their neck going to a bar trying to tell the patrons he worked in designer house. 

 

 

 

 

Most guys, particularly the younger ones (below 35 in general) fall into the do not know what they want category for me, especially when I am in Singapore. It is the culture. We are raised a certain way, and it is pervasive and enabled by one another. It is frustrating. Sure, I would love to know you better if I find you interesting and intriguing enough. I am on Grindr or some other app/platform for a specific purpose, to get laid. A little chit-chat is fine, but not 2 hours. 

 

Singapore is a little too hot to wear a scarf. 

 

 

 

 

[lean n mean]

They start the convo asking whether you can do certain stuff for/with them and when u say ok they will meander off to other stuff lol

[egal]

lol, true