How do you cope with loss/disappointment

[Guest mrjuicetiger]

Just curious

 

how do you cope with loss of a date or a loved one

or a close kin

or even like the loss of something desired like a job, ability to function normally body wise

 

I hope some of you can share some advice

[Guest Haha]

Accept that we have no control over what happened. Then imagine and replay that incident happening to someone else. Eg. Your brother lost his job and feel sad. 

 

Or your friend lost his mother. 

Imagine them coming to you asking you what to do. And you think and feel and imagine what you'll say to them to comfort them.. 

 

That same words you going to tell the is basically for you to hear it yourself.

 

Then imagine like you can fast forward life, like it's a movie. And you'll see that many more things will come in the future. Good and bad. 

 

If you live a full life, you'll get to experience the full range of emotions. From. Happiness. To sadness. To lost. To hope. To dreams. To despair. 

 

Because such is life. A play list of emotions. You won't stay happy all the time, just like you won't be sad all the time. 

 

Then imagine that everyone else, including yourself suddenly perish from a cataclysmic event like meteor strike. 

 

Then in the grand scheme of things, nothing really matters. Other than right now. 

[Guest mrjuicetiger]

 

Accept that we have no control over what happened. Then imagine and replay that incident happening to someone else. Eg. Your brother lost his job and feel sad. 

 

Or your friend lost his mother. 

Imagine them coming to you asking you what to do. And you think and feel and imagine what you'll say to them to comfort them.. 

 

That same words you going to tell the is basically for you to hear it yourself.

 

Then imagine like you can fast forward life, like it's a movie. And you'll see that many more things will come in the future. Good and bad. 

 

If you live a full life, you'll get to experience the full range of emotions. From. Happiness. To sadness. To lost. To hope. To dreams. To despair. 

 

Because such is life. A play list of emotions. You won't stay happy all the time, just like you won't be sad all the time. 

 

Then imagine that everyone else, including yourself suddenly perish from a cataclysmic event like meteor strike. 

 

Then in the grand scheme of things, nothing really matters. Other than right now. 

Thank you so much for this wisdom that I truly need right now ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

 

[JyT]

Totally my took 6 months to heal max out until tdy I still thinking of getting back my date because I want him knw hw I felt first.

[Guest mrjuicetiger]

 

Totally my took 6 months to heal max out until tdy I still thinking of getting back my date because I want him knw hw I felt first.

go for it u nv know if it will work out well for u

[JyT]

 

go for it u nv know if it will work out well for u

It's a office romance well because of his rank no choice 

[Guest Austguy]

The most important thing is to acknowledge your pain and give yourself time to grieve and whatever you do, do not try and rush this process or pretend that everything is okay. Seek the company of your family, friends or even your religion and over time, the pain will lessen. Time heals all wounds and while it might never go away completely, it will get better. Hugs to you mrjuicetiger. 

[Guest mrjuicetiger]

 

The most important thing is to acknowledge your pain and give yourself time to grieve and whatever you do, do not try and rush this process or pretend that everything is okay. Seek the company of your family, friends or even your religion and over time, the pain will lessen. Time heals all wounds and while it might never go away completely, it will get better. Hugs to you mrjuicetiger. 

Hey how have u been

ty appreciate it lots

[Guest mrjuicetiger]

On 8/20/2023 at 3:22 PM, Guest Austguy said:

The most important thing is to acknowledge your pain and give yourself time to grieve and whatever you do, do not try and rush this process or pretend that everything is okay. Seek the company of your family, friends or even your religion and over time, the pain will lessen. Time heals all wounds and while it might never go away completely, it will get better. Hugs to you mrjuicetiger. 

how have u been

[NeitherHereNorThere]

On 8/18/2023 at 9:41 PM, mrjuicetiger said:

Just curious

 

how do you cope with loss of a date or a loved one

or a close kin

or even like the loss of something desired like a job, ability to function normally body wise

 

I hope some of you can share some advice

I recently "lost" my job. The team was taken over by someone that me and many colleagues don't want to work with. Within 3 months, many of us have plans or moved on to other places/projects.

 

TBH, I loved what I was doing, very comfortable with the people that I worked with, so it's kinda tough to move on after many years working together.

 

Not sure what kinda pain you are going through, but take your time to grieve.. then only can you accept and later move on.. it's a journey..

[cutejack]

If u realise that nothing is permanent in life n everyone has to leave the world, u won't feel sad or even grieve. 

Always be thankful( not think positive coz that's bullshit act) ,be thankful with what u have in hands now n let go what not belong to u anymore. 

Eg. No guy/son is as close my mother n myself on earth. Very close till she left us 6 years ago. There's when I realise how stupid m I to be soooo close with someone which won't last in life. Now still breathing and enjoy eating ,holidaying n everything getting back to normal slowly. Yes, i was down n frustrated but then God must be laughing at me now, coz he must be telling ,this guy like can't live without his mother by his side, but now still enjoying life n fucking guys like nobody's business. 

So, tell yrself nothing is permanent n u will die one day leaving all ( work, money, food, loved ones etc etc) behind. Take care.

[Guest mrjuicetiger]

5 hours ago, NeitherHereNorThere said:

I recently "lost" my job. The team was taken over by someone that me and many colleagues don't want to work with. Within 3 months, many of us have plans or moved on to other places/projects.

 

TBH, I loved what I was doing, very comfortable with the people that I worked with, so it's kinda tough to move on after many years working together.

 

Not sure what kinda pain you are going through, but take your time to grieve.. then only can you accept and later move on.. it's a journey..

i hope you will find somewhere you will like with good peers and bosses in your next stop.

 

thank you. still taking time to heal and figure out what i need

[Guest mrjuicetiger]

4 hours ago, cutejack said:

If u realise that nothing is permanent in life n everyone has to leave the world, u won't feel sad or even grieve. 

Always be thankful( not think positive coz that's bullshit act) ,be thankful with what u have in hands now n let go what not belong to u anymore. 

Eg. No guy/son is as close my mother n myself on earth. Very close till she left us 6 years ago. There's when I realise how stupid m I to be soooo close with someone which won't last in life. Now still breathing and enjoy eating ,holidaying n everything getting back to normal slowly. Yes, i was down n frustrated but then God must be laughing at me now, coz he must be telling ,this guy like can't live without his mother by his side, but now still enjoying life n fucking guys like nobody's business. 

So, tell yrself nothing is permanent n u will die one day leaving all ( work, money, food, loved ones etc etc) behind. Take care.

thank you... sorry to hear about your loss of your mom. treasure our loved ones and hold them close always. the small things in life truly matter

 

[cutejack]

4 hours ago, mrjuicetiger said:

thank you... sorry to hear about your loss of your mom. treasure our loved ones and hold them close always. the small things in life truly matter

 

Thanks. Yes ,hold it closely with a mindset that u can't hold it too long. It will go from u one day. That's life. Stay happy n be practical..

Edited February 27, 2024 by cutejack

[Steve5380]

On 8/18/2023 at 8:58 AM, Guest Haha said:

Accept that we have no control over what happened. Then imagine and replay that incident happening to someone else. Eg. Your brother lost his job and feel sad. 

 

Or your friend lost his mother. 

Imagine them coming to you asking you what to do. And you think and feel and imagine what you'll say to them to comfort them.. 

 

That same words you going to tell the is basically for you to hear it yourself.

 

Then imagine like you can fast forward life, like it's a movie. And you'll see that many more things will come in the future. Good and bad. 

 

If you live a full life, you'll get to experience the full range of emotions. From. Happiness. To sadness. To lost. To hope. To dreams. To despair. 

 

Because such is life. A play list of emotions. You won't stay happy all the time, just like you won't be sad all the time. 

 

Then imagine that everyone else, including yourself suddenly perish from a cataclysmic event like meteor strike. 

 

Then in the grand scheme of things, nothing really matters. Other than right now. 

 

I like your way of thinking, Haha.

 

The state of grieving,  like I have been for the last five years since my bf passed away,  is an opportunity in life to do a lot of introspection and redefine our values.  The pain may never go away, but it becomes less frequent and easier to endure.  

 

We need to be able to experience a drastic fall in our value that hopefully our good self-esteem may have set very high.  Hopefully we can do this with humility and a sense of peace in that our newly discovered insignificance will not justify too much preoccupations over ourselves. Then we can continue living unencumbered day by day, and the prospect that one day will be the last will not scare us. 

[ToughGuy]

On 8/20/2023 at 3:22 PM, Guest Austguy said:

The most important thing is to acknowledge your pain and give yourself time to grieve and whatever you do, do not try and rush this process or pretend that everything is okay. Seek the company of your family, friends or even your religion and over time, the pain will lessen. Time heals all wounds and while it might never go away completely, it will get better. Hugs to you mrjuicetiger. 

Very well said.

 

Only time can heal the pain, the grieve, the sorrow

[auscent]

It is true that acknowleging pain helps.

 

But I find keeping busy with something non destructive helps. Channel inward facing energy to outside. Eg: exercise, explore new places/ interests within budget, start some sensible bucketlist.