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11 minutes ago, gucici said:

Not exactly true.  After i watched cats documentary, they can interact with us. And they do stupid things which are quite cute 

Perhaps cats are not as interactive as dogs, even though they still do interact with us. But i like cats due to i no need to bring my cat out for walk everyday. Cats can survive staying 100% at home.

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Most gays are lonely. Not only they can't find love, they don't have anyone to love either. 

 

Keeping a pet at least solve half of the problem. To have someone to shower their love on.

 

 

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Having a pet, cat dog, or any other animal is a commitment. I adopted a rescue dog 6 years ago, and honestly, my life has revolved pretty much around him. Growing up I had cats, but never a dog, so I thought I gave it a switch. Dogs are great man magnates and they serve wonderfully as wingmen. Through my dog, I got to know several other gay dog dads at the park, hooked up with one of them and went on a date with another. Also because of my dog, one time, when I had a last-minute emergency work trip, I was able to travel on a private jet as I couldn't get a sitter last minute, and he had to come on the trip with me. 

 

Dogs are definitely more interactive and require a whole lot more attention and care. For gay men without kids, I supposed they are our fur babies, who don't care how we look, and loves us unconditionally. 

Love. 

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4 minutes ago, Guest Whywhy said:

Most gays are lonely. Not only they can't find love, they don't have anyone to love either. 

 

Keeping a pet at least solve half of the problem. To have someone to shower their love on.

 

 

During long periods of my life, like today, I have lived alone.  Alone but not lonely.  Somehow, I have never felt the need for a pet, cat or dog.

 

I believe that the best company we can have is ourselves. Busy with self-improvement goals and works.  A different love, but love for ourselves.  And online forums like this one are perfect complements for our solitude.  This does not preclude having social interactions, and good ones.  They can be there, ready to be done, we don't forget our social skills.

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10 hours ago, Guest guest said:

i beg to differ, i saw quite a large number of ig's, lots of gay men like cats, be it overseas or local gays, seems to me only minority like dogs.lol


you must be looking at the wrong igs or your sample size is not big enough

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dogs give gays a masc, fun/playful and 'extroverted' kind of image, whereas owning cats is more "melayu" (racism exists in malaysia). i myself have a cat and most gays i speak to are surprised (they would say "chinese rarely have cats"). i still know cat lover gays here tho. i know lots of lesbians who love dogs too.

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ladies and slightly more gays would prefer cats 

 

ducklings when i was small

1 hour ago, gucici said:

Anyone kept ducks as pets before? I know definitely not in sg. 

 

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11 hours ago, Guest Frenchie said:

So they can french kiss their dog?

 

<joking here...>

I am not sure about the french kiss when it comes to dogs, but dogs can lick better than cats - let your imagination run wild here.

Cats' tongues are naturally rough, that's why. 

Apologies, I hope the readers are not too grossed out.  😊

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27 minutes ago, yhtang said:

 

<joking here...>

I am not sure about the french kiss when it comes to dogs, but dogs can lick better than cats - let your imagination run wild here.

Cats' tongues are naturally rough, that's why. 

Apologies, I hope the readers are not too grossed out.  😊

I'm not into bestiality 😁

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There were various breeds of dogs. Each one has a distinct personality, and the demand for care varies accordingly. Some are more obedient than others, while others are difficult to tame and prone to bark incessantly.   Some require active outdoor activity and are thus unsuitable for HDB. Winter dogs are adorable, but our climate isn't conducive to them unless you blast your air conditioning every day.    Different dog species have different odors when they breathe or sweat. When you walk into a dog owner's home, you can tell.       Some people give up dogs not because they don't love them, but because they kept the wrong kind and messed up the owner's supposedly peaceful life. 

 

Cats, despite their small size, can be difficult to manage if they run wild in the house and endanger themselves if you live in a high-rise apartment.  You cannot demand anything from them, unlike the dog, because they regard you as their subordinate, whereas the dog regards you as master.   Dogs and cats are similar in that they will miss you if you leave the house and will wait at the door when they hear you coming.   Animals, like babies, become needy when they realize you love them too much but each pet will display a different trait to amuse you and that is the main reason people want pet.    If you have a cat, expect your house to be scratched left, right, and center.  Anyone suffering from common asthma or sinus problems, neither pet is your natural friend.  

 

I almost adopted a cat from a friend who found a stray cat at his workplace. It is a male orange cat with black stripes. You can guess where I'm going with the description that made me fall in love at first sight.     My friend saved it for me in case I needed it.    It took me weeks to think about it and even dream about it. I went to see the cat again, and when the cat saw me, it ran off to a nearby storeroom and gently closed the door to keep me from getting too close. His action caught me off guard, and my love grew stronger.   When I finally decided to pay my friend a third visit for the cat, it had already been adopted by someone else.  Do I have any regrets? Both yes and no. Yes, because it was the most adorable cat I'd ever seen.   No, because the commitment is high and I had OCD syndrome.  It can stay with me, but only if it understands certain house rules, which I doubt the cat will. 

 

Meanwhile,  until I've sufficiently loved myself first, I will want a loving guy instead of a pet.😝

 

 

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6 hours ago, chiPJ said:

dogs give gays a masc, fun/playful and 'extroverted' kind of image, whereas owning cats is more "melayu" (racism exists in malaysia). i myself have a cat and most gays i speak to are surprised (they would say "chinese rarely have cats"). i still know cat lover gays here tho. i know lots of lesbians who love dogs too.

 

 I don't think it has something to do with racism but with religion...

 

You can google and find out.

 

 

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3 minutes ago, singalion said:

 

 I don't think it has something to do with racism but with religion...

 

You can google and find out.

 

 

It's quite true

 

Malays/Muslims cannot touch dog. So they keep cats.

 

Chinese adopt a wide variety of pets eg aquarium fish seems a popular hobby.

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20 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

 

During long periods of my life, like today, I have lived alone.  Alone but not lonely.  Somehow, I have never felt the need for a pet, cat or dog.

 

I believe that the best company we can have is ourselves. Busy with self-improvement goals and works.  A different love, but love for ourselves.  And online forums like this one are perfect complements for our solitude.  This does not preclude having social interactions, and good ones.  They can be there, ready to be done, we don't forget our social skills.


OMG what relevance does this have to the topic? Please STFU 

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1 hour ago, Guest Drilla said:

It's quite true

 

Malays/Muslims cannot touch dog. So they keep cats.

 

Chinese adopt a wide variety of pets eg aquarium fish seems a popular hobby.

Plants as well. 

But yes dogs and cats and be communicated. Not plants/fish. Haha

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22 hours ago, Guest Whywhy said:

Most gays are lonely. Not only they can't find love, they don't have anyone to love either. 

 

Keeping a pet at least solve half of the problem. To have someone to shower their love on.

 

 

So sad and depressing. :(

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22 hours ago, doncoin said:

Having a pet, cat dog, or any other animal is a commitment. I adopted a rescue dog 6 years ago, and honestly, my life has revolved pretty much around him. Growing up I had cats, but never a dog, so I thought I gave it a switch. Dogs are great man magnates and they serve wonderfully as wingmen. Through my dog, I got to know several other gay dog dads at the park, hooked up with one of them and went on a date with another. Also because of my dog, one time, when I had a last-minute emergency work trip, I was able to travel on a private jet as I couldn't get a sitter last minute, and he had to come on the trip with me. 

 

Dogs are definitely more interactive and require a whole lot more attention and care. For gay men without kids, I supposed they are our fur babies, who don't care how we look, and loves us unconditionally. 

Do you still have pet now?

 

True that keeping a pet esp a dog, almost all your time is devoted to the dog. Really can keep you occupied and busy.

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Do cats care if you cry?
 
 
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Either way, there's evidence that cats comfort humans when sad. "When pet parents are depressed, cats rub against them more often. It's likely your cat is responding to your emotional state by trying to comfort you or draw your attention," McGowan says.22 Aug 2022
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4 hours ago, Sweetie Pie said:

There were various breeds of dogs. Each one has a distinct personality, and the demand for care varies accordingly. Some are more obedient than others, while others are difficult to tame and prone to bark incessantly.   Some require active outdoor activity and are thus unsuitable for HDB. Winter dogs are adorable, but our climate isn't conducive to them unless you blast your air conditioning every day.    Different dog species have different odors when they breathe or sweat. When you walk into a dog owner's home, you can tell.       Some people give up dogs not because they don't love them, but because they kept the wrong kind and messed up the owner's supposedly peaceful life. 

 

Cats, despite their small size, can be difficult to manage if they run wild in the house and endanger themselves if you live in a high-rise apartment.  You cannot demand anything from them, unlike the dog, because they regard you as their subordinate, whereas the dog regards you as master.   Dogs and cats are similar in that they will miss you if you leave the house and will wait at the door when they hear you coming.   Animals, like babies, become needy when they realize you love them too much but each pet will display a different trait to amuse you and that is the main reason people want pet.    If you have a cat, expect your house to be scratched left, right, and center.  Anyone suffering from common asthma or sinus problems, neither pet is your natural friend.  

 

I almost adopted a cat from a friend who found a stray cat at his workplace. It is a male orange cat with black stripes. You can guess where I'm going with the description that made me fall in love at first sight.     My friend saved it for me in case I needed it.    It took me weeks to think about it and even dream about it. I went to see the cat again, and when the cat saw me, it ran off to a nearby storeroom and gently closed the door to keep me from getting too close. His action caught me off guard, and my love grew stronger.   When I finally decided to pay my friend a third visit for the cat, it had already been adopted by someone else.  Do I have any regrets? Both yes and no. Yes, because it was the most adorable cat I'd ever seen.   No, because the commitment is high and I had OCD syndrome.  It can stay with me, but only if it understands certain house rules, which I doubt the cat will. 

 

Meanwhile,  until I've sufficiently loved myself first, I will want a loving guy instead of a pet.😝

 

 

If a person has OCD syndrome, quite difficult to keep pets lah. 

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22 hours ago, Guest Guest said:

Most gays have dogs as pets cos we share so many similar traits, like our love for holding hard rods in our mouths and our hate for pussies. 

 

Lol!

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1 hour ago, Guest guest said:

Do you still have pet now?

 

True that keeping a pet esp a dog, almost all your time is devoted to the dog. Really can keep you occupied and busy.

 

 

Yes, he is still around. Just much older, and the usual challenges that come with being a senior dog. The pandemic got him so used to having me 24/7 that he has mild separation anxiety. So if I have errands to run where I cannot bring him with me, thankfully I have a kind elderly neighbour who will keep him company and my dog sees her apartment as an extension of his territory. 

Love. 

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7 hours ago, Bobi said:

Plants as well. 

But yes dogs and cats and be communicated. Not plants/fish. Haha

Recall those Lo han fish craze? My dad had one. Quite friendly when you approach the tank. The fish get excited because it thinks it's feeding time 🤣

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6 hours ago, Sweetie Pie said:

Not entirely true.  One of my Muslim friends is a dog lover; if they see a lovely puppy, they will give it a hug and affection. 

My Malay friend also liked dogs but he wore a glove to pat the dog. And he explained they aren't suppose to touch.

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1 hour ago, mate69 said:

 

To be precise, it's the saliva of the dog that is haram, not the dog per se

Hmmm. Opinions seem to vary. Perhaps Malay/Muslims here would like to share?

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16 hours ago, Guest Drilla said:

Recall those Lo han fish craze? My dad had one. Quite friendly when you approach the tank. The fish get excited because it thinks it's feeding time 🤣

Regrettably, the fish that appears stunted has had a genetic mutation that makes it appear adorable but shorter life span. 

 

I do not encourage folks with average incomes to have pets as a pastime. It was very expensive. Regular medical visits are also necessary for dogs and cats, and feeding costs are high too.  Once you are bonded with these animals, their ultimate departure may mean another traumatic experience.  

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21 hours ago, doncoin said:

 

 

Yes, he is still around. Just much older, and the usual challenges that come with being a senior dog. The pandemic got him so used to having me 24/7 that he has mild separation anxiety. So if I have errands to run where I cannot bring him with me, thankfully I have a kind elderly neighbour who will keep him company and my dog sees her apartment as an extension of his territory. 

Good to hear that. Sometimes when dog gets too used to your company, really become a bit of problem. 😅 This is why at my parents' house, there is one dog in of the neighbour house always bark non-stop when no one is at home. That dog could have separation anxiety.

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4 minutes ago, Sweetie Pie said:

Regrettably, the fish that appears stunted has had a genetic mutation that makes it appear adorable but shorter life span. 

 

I do not encourage folks with average incomes to have pets as a pastime. It was very expensive. Regular medical visits are also necessary for dogs and cats, and feeding costs are high too.  Once you are bonded with these animals, their ultimate departure may mean another traumatic experience.  

Agreed, this is the reason why i would not keep a pet, cause maintenance of a dog not cheap and i cannot take it when the dog passed on. But i see many people have dog at home, looks like many people incomes quite high?

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31 minutes ago, Guest guest said:

Agreed, this is the reason why i would not keep a pet, cause maintenance of a dog not cheap and i cannot take it when the dog passed on. But i see many people have dog at home, looks like many people incomes quite high?

Adult pet owners often experience loneliness and need companionship to maintain a dynamic and active home. While some people find solace in talking to their dogs during difficult times, others find comfort in cuddling and playing with something warm.   Young child loses interest in a pet or when their dog grows too old and start to lost its cuteness, they end up becoming unwanted stray dogs because they view pets as toys, nothing more. 

 

Measuring the number of gay people who own dogs or cats is difficult. Among the gay people I've already met, I don't see any. They appear to favor exquisite artwork. prefer to prioritize and need these activities over getting a pet, such as cooking, working out, caring for their aging parents, spending more time upkeeping house, career, movies, window shopping  etc.

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11 minutes ago, Sweetie Pie said:

Adult pet owners often experience loneliness and need companionship to maintain a dynamic and active home. While some people find solace in talking to their dogs during difficult times, others find comfort in cuddling and playing with something warm.   Young child loses interest in a pet or when their dog grows too old and start to lost its cuteness, they end up becoming unwanted stray dogs because they view pets as toys, nothing more. 

 

Measuring the number of gay people who own dogs or cats is difficult. Among the gay people I've already met, I don't see any. They appear to favor exquisite artwork. prefer to prioritize and need these activities over getting a pet, such as cooking, working out, caring for their aging parents, spending more time upkeeping house, career, movies, window shopping  etc.

Having a pet is a huge commitment. Not only money but need time, effort and energy on caring for the dog. Think even more harder and difficult than raising a kid.

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i wouldn't know if gay loves cats or dogs. but according to my knowledge. dog is one of the first domesticated animal. pig is the second. dog is a social animal and recognize the "pack leader". cat does not work this way, so it might not be recognizing the owner as a pack leader. that said there is not right or wrong. 

if one wants a loyal companion then one can choose a dog. but if one wants a pet to play nice, then a cat will do. i would get a dog over a cat, maybe it is just me.

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18 minutes ago, Guest guest said:

Having a pet is a huge commitment. Not only money but need time, effort and energy on caring for the dog. Think even more harder and difficult than raising a kid.

Comparing kid with dog is not fair.  The former is indispensible and will most likely outlast you, thus considered a good investment. 

 

As for dog...hmmm....the cost depends on your hate love relationship with it.  Some people throw birthday party for their dog,  send it for dog masaage,  dress it up like a doll,  and even get maid to specifically care for it.   I once worked in a fctory and my boss adopted a stray dog and let it roam freely, fuck around, wherever the dog wishes,  as long as the dog knows when to return during meal time  and often fed leftover foods of factory workers.  Not much maintenance required, nothing fancy, and the dog still stays faithful and guard the surrounding territory well. 

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On 11/7/2023 at 7:26 PM, singalion said:

 

 I don't think it has something to do with racism but with religion...

 

You can google and find out

 

 

i mean, chinese people in malaysia are very anti-malay, so they see 'melayu'-associated things like cats = very unsexy or unfashionable. i've spoken to many pet owners here who say "yeee, why you got a cat, so malay" etc. 

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12 hours ago, Sweetie Pie said:

Regrettably, the fish that appears stunted has had a genetic mutation that makes it appear adorable but shorter life span. 

 

I do not encourage folks with average incomes to have pets as a pastime. It was very expensive. Regular medical visits are also necessary for dogs and cats, and feeding costs are high too.  Once you are bonded with these animals, their ultimate departure may mean another traumatic experience.  

Dogs and cats - their food and visit to the Vet costs more than your meals and doc  visits. 

 

I have met someone who charters a vehicle for her pet dog's visits to the vet. Also the maid said rather proudly, the owner lavished the dog with jewelry 

 

I have kept freshwater fish before as a kid. Relatively cheaper and easy to care for.  Marine fish are costly and more challenging to keep. But many are drawn to them because they are very striking in color and pattern. 

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Some of my relatives maintained dogs as pets to make their little prince and princess happy, but in the end, the maid did all the filthy chores, like walking the dog and picking up their waste.   My relatives were still in their 30s to 50s throughout those years.  As the majority of them are now in their 70s and 80s, health concerns have caused them to become minimalists and entirely lose interest in many things.  Their grown up children have also met with new set of adult problems and no longer show any interest in trend like dog keeping.    Less pet, less problem I guess   If pet helps a person avoid health issues like dermentia, PTSD or delay its progression, then by all mean keep a good and well trained dog instead.

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14 hours ago, chiPJ said:

 

i mean, chinese people in malaysia are very anti-malay, so they see 'melayu'-associated things like cats = very unsexy or unfashionable. i've spoken to many pet owners here who say "yeee, why you got a cat, so malay" etc. 

 

Maybe all ethnic groups in Malaysia should learn to live with each other, then eventually nobody requires to label people as this or that.

 

At least it would serve the country better instead of this segregation of ethnics.

 

I still recommend to your that you google a bit on the reasons why Malays don't have dogs as pets, I give you a hint that the background is religious but don't want to switch the topic here.

 

For me: I find holding any pet in Singapore that is not native more or less a torture. With the hot climate I m not sure if having a dog or cat is anything you should go for here.

 

I also feel pity for the dogs that are restraint in the most quite tiny apartments here.

 

If you have a dog, then best is, if you have at least some decent garden at your house.

 

Looking at the cat of one of our neighbours in the Condo, it is a interesting sight every second morning when you encounter dead birds or mice that their cat caught during the night or day and lays it in front of our neighbours flat...

 

The neighbours allow the cat to roam freely around...

Not sure this is right, but,...

 

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1 hour ago, singalion said:

 

Maybe all ethnic groups in Malaysia should learn to live with each other, then eventually nobody requires to label people as this or that.

 

At least it would serve the country better instead of this segregation of ethnics.

 

I still recommend to your that you google a bit on the reasons why Malays don't have dogs as pets, I give you a hint that the background is religious but don't want to switch the topic here.

 

 

hey thanks for the hint. i feel enlightened now. for the longest time, i thought malays in malaysia don't like dogs because dogs have noses that look like pigs and i know that pigs are considered impure to islam (/sarcasm).

(FYI my close friends are malay and they are pretty liberal in that they will touch dogs no problem. but 95% of malays here will consider dog saliva to be impure (najis) and will avoid contact with them so they don't have to perform ritualistic cleansing... some have even more ultra views but i digress. I am from Malaysia la and I know this since young.)

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