Ryanmurray94 Posted December 4, 2023 Report Share Posted December 4, 2023 If you and your has been together for few years. Due to some reasons I.e excitement, curiosity, be more bonded, to hv more fun… will you accept to hv open relationship or getting 3some? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ignatius93 Posted December 4, 2023 Report Share Posted December 4, 2023 Normal Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyler Wong Posted December 5, 2023 Report Share Posted December 5, 2023 Exploring new dimensions can add spice to a relationship. Open communication, mutual agreement, and a solid understanding are key. It's all about enhancing the connection and having fun together. mate69, Ryanmurray94 and Chubby_1986 1 2 Quote Dive into the Sensual Flow, Discover Your Authentic Self Let's be friend: Facebook - Tyler Rabbit Wong Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
egal Posted December 5, 2023 Report Share Posted December 5, 2023 i think he is just getting bored Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Looking to rent Posted December 5, 2023 Report Share Posted December 5, 2023 If all 3 are open to the idea and click with each other, why not? And then 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sweetie Pie Posted December 5, 2023 Report Share Posted December 5, 2023 I have never liked sharing my spoon with someone over a meal. Hygiene is important to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aftereightme Posted December 5, 2023 Report Share Posted December 5, 2023 59 minutes ago, Looking to rent said: If all 3 are open to the idea and click with each other, why not? I have a friend who agreed 3some. Guess what, his bf fell in love with the 3rd party after 3some sex. They broke off 😢 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sweetie Pie Posted December 5, 2023 Report Share Posted December 5, 2023 4 minutes ago, aftereightme said: I have a friend who agreed 3some. Guess what, his bf fell in love with the 3rd party after 3some sex. They broke off 😢 So the 3rd party broke your spoon after he used it? I told you not to share your personal spoon over a meal. aftereightme 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aftereightme Posted December 5, 2023 Report Share Posted December 5, 2023 3 minutes ago, Sweetie Pie said: So the 3rd party broke your spoon after he used it? I told you not to share your personal spoon over a meal. spoons are everywhere - no big deal lah Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MasterFitMalaySG4U Posted December 5, 2023 Report Share Posted December 5, 2023 Haha for me never but I will use MB for our 3some or go overseas find someone (stranger or app or club/bar) If u choose open relationship, that is why u still single haha u just simply don't know what u want ..u still want your freedom yet u don't even BOTHER think about the future or long term...u really want to give up that mutual connections just for the sake of that pleasure really? REALLY? 😂 think 🤔 about it... What am gonna say is that loyalty honest n trust is everything once u have that u will know..... Btmbtm1069, Ryanmurray94 and budakmelayu 1 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sweetie Pie Posted December 5, 2023 Report Share Posted December 5, 2023 My personal thought on "Open Relationship" is as follows: Imagine that after spending almost a lifetime searching for a mate, you finally found someone who is ready and able to give you the love you need for the rest of your life, much to the envy and jealousy of those who involuntarily remain single. Then, out of the blue, in a not too distant future you decided to share your arduously acquired Soul Mate with others, either due to a sudden trend or influence. I can't seem to make sense of such a move unless the couple relationship is dirfting apart or the bond is no longer sturdy. "Open relationship" became a contingency plan out of a broken relationship. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
auscent Posted December 5, 2023 Report Share Posted December 5, 2023 (edited) On 12/5/2023 at 10:05 PM, Sweetie Pie said: My personal thought on "Open Relationship" is as follows: Imagine that after spending almost a lifetime searching for a mate, you finally found someone who is ready and able to give you the love you need for the rest of your life, much to the envy and jealousy of those who involuntarily remain single. Then, out of the blue, in a not too distant future you decided to share your arduously acquired Soul Mate with others, either due to a sudden trend or influence. I can't seem to make sense of such a move unless the couple relationship is dirfting apart or the bond is no longer sturdy. "Open I feel bit of sorry for those coupled who need to go through such questions on open relationship. Yes life is filled with situations that need problem solving. But I think singlehood deserves more credit. The view that another person is "able to give you the love you need for the rest of your life" is sad. What has this princess in distress been doing all his single life? Nothing that gives him one bit of love? He needs to evaluate his outlook on life. Edited December 17, 2023 by auscent Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Salt&Pepper Posted December 6, 2023 Report Share Posted December 6, 2023 Very surprised as it was more from the perspective of those who prefer open relationships and somewhat seems more the preferred choice by many. I think this is a very interesting discussion. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MDZY Posted December 6, 2023 Report Share Posted December 6, 2023 its a pandora box.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
horhorfun Posted December 6, 2023 Report Share Posted December 6, 2023 For me,if i got bf,i wont share my bf with anyone else,my bf is special to me,but if it is partner with benefits,maybe yes,can indugle with threesome Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cutejack Posted December 6, 2023 Report Share Posted December 6, 2023 19 hours ago, aftereightme said: I have a friend who agreed 3some. Guess what, his bf fell in love with the 3rd party after 3some sex. They broke off 😢 Expected. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cutejack Posted December 6, 2023 Report Share Posted December 6, 2023 19 hours ago, aftereightme said: spoons are everywhere - no big deal lah But when the person wanted my spoon how? No more deal leh. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Interesting Posted December 6, 2023 Report Share Posted December 6, 2023 Interesting that all the people answering so sure of themselves of what they will never do are also single and with limited or no experience of being in an actual relationship Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sweetie Pie Posted December 6, 2023 Report Share Posted December 6, 2023 (edited) 1 hour ago, Guest Interesting said: Interesting that all the people answering so sure of themselves of what they will never do are also single and with limited or no experience of being in an actual relationship Because it is not a difficult question to answer. 1+1 = 2. 1+(2+3+4) is not the same as 2 anymore and you do not know how much is going to add up infinitely. Edited December 6, 2023 by Sweetie Pie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Interesting Posted December 7, 2023 Report Share Posted December 7, 2023 19 hours ago, Sweetie Pie said: Because it is not a difficult question to answer. 1+1 = 2. 1+(2+3+4) is not the same as 2 anymore and you do not know how much is going to add up infinitely. thanks for proving my point! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Looking to rent Posted December 7, 2023 Report Share Posted December 7, 2023 On 12/5/2023 at 7:00 PM, aftereightme said: I have a friend who agreed 3some. Guess what, his bf fell in love with the 3rd party after 3some sex. They broke off 😢 Your friend is lucky, someone who is attached and can fall in love with another after sex is never ideal for long term companion unless they are in a throuple relationship then maybe loving pax A a little bit more than pax C is acceptable. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
evilR Posted December 7, 2023 Report Share Posted December 7, 2023 Currently in a relationship for 7 years. I guess can say we kinnddaaaa in an open relationship sort of. I mean I can just tell him that I’m going to sauna for fun and he’s be ok with it and vice versa. But surprisingly, we don’t do that often. We always inform each other if we were to have fun with others. we tried 3s a few times. Didn’t work out most of the time. It’s so hard to find someone that like both of us haha. mate69, PlayersGroup and Kenjikenji 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ryanmurray94 Posted December 18, 2023 Author Report Share Posted December 18, 2023 On 12/7/2023 at 6:08 PM, evilR said: Currently in a relationship for 7 years. I guess can say we kinnddaaaa in an open relationship sort of. I mean I can just tell him that I’m going to sauna for fun and he’s be ok with it and vice versa. But surprisingly, we don’t do that often. We always inform each other if we were to have fun with others. we tried 3s a few times. Didn’t work out most of the time. It’s so hard to find someone that like both of us haha. Hi Evir, what makes you think you both choose being open relationship? Not concerning on another one fall in love to third one? do you do protection when out for fun or sauna? how frequent you will having sex with your partner? how to say find someone tat like both of of you? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ryanmurray94 Posted December 18, 2023 Author Report Share Posted December 18, 2023 My partner and I been tried out engage 3some when oversea. to find some excitement As we wish to see other body, sex patterns, dick features and we both hv agreement we will hv 3some when oversea or we both is together We not allowing each other going alone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Standup Posted December 18, 2023 Report Share Posted December 18, 2023 On 12/4/2023 at 10:58 PM, Ryanmurray94 said: If you and your has been together for few years. Due to some reasons I.e excitement, curiosity, be more bonded, to hv more fun… will you accept to hv open relationship or getting 3some? Sorry no way, I’m too possessive for that. Cannot take it when my property being use by someone as they wish, just buay tahan. max001 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post PG40 Posted December 19, 2023 Popular Post Report Share Posted December 19, 2023 My partner and I are going into our 12th year together. From the start we've decided that an open relationship (with ground rules) is the best way for us. When we do go and play (on our own, not together), we must let the other person know. It must always be outside and not at home. And of course, no feelings involved, no exchange of numbers, no FWB/ FB. IMHO, it's all about honesty - being honest with myself that I cannot provide 100% of what my partner needs in the relationship, and being honest that we are sometimes governed by our carnal urges to go for fresh meat, as well as being desired by others. SubAL1, MadMan, Steve5380 and 3 others 4 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Errrr Posted December 19, 2023 Report Share Posted December 19, 2023 19 hours ago, Standup said: Sorry no way, I’m too possessive for that. Cannot take it when my property being use by someone as they wish, just buay tahan. errr, your partner is not your property Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted December 19, 2023 Report Share Posted December 19, 2023 On 12/5/2023 at 4:59 AM, Sweetie Pie said: I have never liked sharing my spoon with someone over a meal. Hygiene is important to me. How you know if the cook in the fine restaurant who prepared your dish didn't have to scratch his ass before he put his fingers onto your plate? Maybe he also involuntarily sneezed over it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted December 19, 2023 Report Share Posted December 19, 2023 On 12/6/2023 at 1:50 AM, Sweetie Pie said: Because it is not a difficult question to answer. 1+1 = 2. 1+(2+3+4) is not the same as 2 anymore and you do not know how much is going to add up infinitely. On 12/6/2023 at 9:17 PM, Guest Interesting said: thanks for proving my point! Proving WHAT? Is 2 a magic number? How can you gain an understanding in this topic... with math? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Errr also Posted December 20, 2023 Report Share Posted December 20, 2023 17 hours ago, Guest Errrr said: errr, your partner is not your property Errr how do you know? It's not for you to agree but for his partner to affirm. Back to the topic, I don’t like to share too. And I will agree to be someone’s property. To each his own, some prefer open relationship, I understand that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ryanmurray94 Posted December 21, 2023 Author Report Share Posted December 21, 2023 True also la if you love your partner, whether you really ok to see him being fuck by another guy and some more in different postures, what if your bf enjoy it, moan it loud, whether you be able to take it or you are fucking another guy, your bf is watching, how he feels in order to avoid this, ideally not to bring in the complexity relationship but recently I found a Taiwan gay couple they are triple, they travel together. wonder how they maintain this triple dating and ensure balance Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Oh well Posted December 21, 2023 Report Share Posted December 21, 2023 Decided to check in with this forum after some time, and, oh, it's still the same old, same old. This is one of those things about "the gay scene" that's such a turn off to me. The rampant promiscuity and degrading attitudes. I'll never truly get it. I've been wary of "the scene" since I realised I was gay, and now I'm so glad I made the right decision to stay away from it all. A bit of peace and quiet with a clear conscience - even if alone - is priceless. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Nojudgement Posted December 21, 2023 Report Share Posted December 21, 2023 A relationship between two persons is between the two, and the conditions set between them should be tailored to what they believe is the best for them. You may have different opinions, but the last you want to do is to judge others for their closeness or openness. How i view this is how much I treasure my partner. If he is utmost importance, i won't risk it with open relationship even though the risk is low. Those that say there is zero risk is hiding behind the facts and stories of many people who have had relationship broken due to bf falling for another sex partner. Then again there is another risk. The risk of breaking up because the relationship is too stale. The fact that we can't provide the ultimate sex all the time. There is risk in everything and yes ultimately everything is Risk management and seeing what's the lowest risk to the relationship. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ryanmurray94 Posted January 25, 2024 Author Report Share Posted January 25, 2024 Is not everyone can accept this weirdly thought. I myself been think through a year whether to open this to 3some, as in sex wise, I really a high sex drive type, I can really want to hv sex session everyday. Always arouse and getting hard. after engaged with my bf, we agreed to have 3some and only when we together, we are not allowing to personally look for sex buddies and we do tried and we found it excited we even more intimacy and bonded I do fucked him hard and love him more This is my personal experience doesn't apply to you I hope you don't find it offenced Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest fear Posted January 25, 2024 Report Share Posted January 25, 2024 Single at the moment, but my take is that most people have been wired or socialised to expect the 'special someone': we saw it in our parents, almost everyone around us... longing for, and finding that 'soul mate'. Even when we are attached, the intensity of the relationship comes from being focused on 1 recipient of our devotion, honesty, time, resources, loyalty, etc., a great concentration of our passion and our effort into 1 person. Its less instinctive (to me) to be able to pour out that same passion into 2 persons. My guess is even in a throuple relationship, there must be some mutual love between all 3, otherwise its 1 person left out or worse an ouroboros of a love triangle (most heartache, I feel) Even for 3some sex, often 1 is left out. I've had a 3some when one husband is really into me and the other is less so: he just wanted. End up the latter made it difficult for us to carry on. Don't agree to an open relationship just to keep your partner when you don't feel like it or ready for it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AskMeNot Posted January 26, 2024 Report Share Posted January 26, 2024 There is probably no correct answer to this. While there are public opinions, end of the day, it is how the both of you want to manage your relationship. ohyeahold 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
singalion Posted January 26, 2024 Report Share Posted January 26, 2024 (edited) 20 hours ago, Ryanmurray94 said: Is not everyone can accept this weirdly thought. I myself been think through a year whether to open this to 3some, as in sex wise, I really a high sex drive type, I can really want to hv sex session everyday. Always arouse and getting hard. after engaged with my bf, we agreed to have 3some and only when we together, we are not allowing to personally look for sex buddies and we do tried and we found it excited we even more intimacy and bonded I do fucked him hard and love him more This is my personal experience doesn't apply to you I hope you don't find it offenced I find your comments on relationships and 3somes, open relationships not very realistic. Relationships are nothing set in stone and black and white colour matters. Your bf might tell you this, but his dick or pussy may play otherwise. You don't have people in full control. That's not how it goes. The longer you are staying together, mutual sex will be less. While I wish you both mutual sex the longest possible, it won't be realistic. It is better to prepare for the time and learn how to handle such situations. And it is better to start for being able to compromise on such outside hanky panky. Also, partners change in their sexual attitudes. There are plenty of couples out there who started one as top the other as the bottom, but over time, one partner changed to bottom or top. Then, sex in between of you is limited. Sure, every relationship is different. I m not the one to make the choice, but can only comment from personal experience and what I get to know from my gay friends. Some of the comments here are a bit out of board. Not every relationship will break up with a 3some or open relationship. If the partner leaves you, then probably he just didn't find you as sexually or as a person sufficiently thrilling to stay together with you until one dies. Don't take it personal. Live with it. Often the break up is even much better than one or both suffering or being frustrated until you smash the cups at home or one becomes violent to the other. And in the end, those very long relationships: Ask them, it wasn't the sex that kept them together over the years! Please don't see my points as offensive, I m just trying to get you ready for the grey things to come along during your relationship. Edited January 26, 2024 by singalion Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest tops458 Posted January 28, 2024 Report Share Posted January 28, 2024 is it okay if i like to have 2 guys serving me but refusing to share my partner with anyone Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AskMeNot Posted January 30, 2024 Report Share Posted January 30, 2024 On 1/28/2024 at 10:59 AM, Guest tops458 said: is it okay if i like to have 2 guys serving me but refusing to share my partner with anyone Why not? Maybe your partner is not interested in the 2 guys? 😂 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swimmerr Posted January 30, 2024 Report Share Posted January 30, 2024 depends but no by me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
singalion Posted January 30, 2024 Report Share Posted January 30, 2024 On 1/28/2024 at 10:59 AM, Guest tops458 said: is it okay if i like to have 2 guys serving me but refusing to share my partner with anyone 4 hours ago, AskMeNot said: Why not? Maybe your partner is not interested in the 2 guys? 😂 That a bit selfish strategy will only lead to his partner to stray around sooner or later. It is a "lose lose" solution. Just realistic here. The partner will get a sense that his bf can enjoy on his fetishes but he can't. Long term perspective is split or both being in an open relationship (but unofficially). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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