Age matters

[Balestier]

  On 12/14/2023 at 1:40 AM, Guest guest said:

Age matters when you don't have a good bod or look.

But if you have a manly sex god look and bod, then they will forgot about the age matters.

Is the same like size matters in sauna.

If you have no look, you still can attract people if you have a big hung dick.

But if you are looking good with a gorgeous bod, people don't care about dick size. 

 

Just my observation...you all should get what I mean.

 

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When comes to sex, position, dick size and bods matter.

[singalion]

  On 12/14/2023 at 1:40 AM, Guest guest said:

Age matters when you don't have a good bod or look.

But if you have a manly sex god look and bod, then they will forgot about the age matters.

Is the same like size matters in sauna.

If you have no look, you still can attract people if you have a big hung dick.

But if you are looking good with a gorgeous bod, people don't care about dick size. 

 

Just my observation...you all should get what I mean.

 

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Not just body but character. Nobody would prefer a 60s with a hot bod but sulky, sour grape, jealous on others, full of negativity character. ...

 

[egal]

but once they hear 60s, they would shut off everything, for example

[Guest Hahaha]

Only gay guys obsess with age and appearances. Straight men don't bother so much

[egal]

not really, i do not think females would want to date an old guy too

[Steve5380]

  On 3/17/2024 at 1:24 PM, Guest Hahaha said:

Only gay guys obsess with age and appearances. Straight men don't bother so much

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Ohhh...  straight guys care about the age...  of women!   If they hear that a woman is 60, they will forget about her.  ( with more reason, since women at 60 are passed menopause, while we men at 60 can still make plenty of babies,  but not with other men.   )

[Guest Explained]

  On 3/17/2024 at 1:24 PM, Guest Hahaha said:

Only gay guys obsess with age and appearances. Straight men don't bother so much

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Because Straight men can either show off his wife or  his kids.  Gay men have nothing to show except their own appearances and as part of attracting another mate.

[mate69]

this is such a depressing topic eh

[Steve5380]

  On 3/18/2024 at 12:15 PM, Guest Explained said:

Because Straight men can either show off his wife or  his kids.  Gay men have nothing to show except their own appearances and as part of attracting another mate.

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Isn't it enough to have plenty to show off in yourself?   To "show off" is not smart anyway.  Like crummy old men showing off their flashy sports car...

 

  On 3/18/2024 at 1:15 PM, mate69 said:

this is such a depressing topic eh

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Why is it depressing that AGE MATTERS?   Adjust your lifestyle so that your biological age is much lesser than your number of years,  and you will find SATISFACTION in your age.   

[singalion]

  On 3/18/2024 at 1:15 PM, mate69 said:

this is such a depressing topic eh

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It is not depressing if you start to accept that you just naturally will age. You can reduce the impact by certain life styles but still aging won't stop.

[singalion]

  On 3/17/2024 at 1:24 PM, Guest Hahaha said:

Only gay guys obsess with age and appearances. Straight men don't bother so much

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Not true.

Why are horny straight old men flying to certain parts in certain South East Asia countries to have sex with younger girls (than they get in Singapore)...

 

While maybe looking attractive be a bit more present in gay guys, I don't think your point is valid.

 

The youth obsession applies also to straights.

 

Why would there be so many anti wrinkles products on the market when gay people just make 5 - 10 % of the population?

 

 

 

[Guest Guest]

  On 3/20/2024 at 5:50 AM, singalion said:

 

Not true.

Why are horny straight old men flying to certain parts in certain South East Asia countries to have sex with younger girls (than they get in Singapore)...

 

While maybe looking attractive be a bit more present in gay guys, I don't think your point is valid.

 

The youth obsession applies also to straights.

 

Why would there be so many anti wrinkles products on the market when gay people just make 5 - 10 % of the population?

 

 

 

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And isn't it just common sense that any company will still want to earn the money, even if it means to capitalize on only 5 - 10 % of the population??

 

And what has "horny straight old men flying to certain parts in certain South East Asia countries to have sex with younger girls" disprove a statement saying that straight men don't bother so much with age and appearances?

 

How stupid can some people get on this forum?

 

[Steve5380]

  On 3/20/2024 at 5:50 AM, singalion said:

 

Not true.

Why are horny straight old men flying to certain parts in certain South East Asia countries to have sex with younger girls (than they get in Singapore)...

 

While maybe looking attractive be a bit more present in gay guys, I don't think your point is valid.

 

The youth obsession applies also to straights.

 

Why would there be so many anti wrinkles products on the market when gay people just make 5 - 10 % of the population?

 

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Horny straight old men don{t get sex with younger girls in Singapore?  But an older gay man can find plenty of good sex with younger guys in Singapore! 

 

The youth obsession applies to all orientations as early as the 20s or 30s...

 

 

 

[earth_tone]

Don't ever lie about age online or in dating apps, that's the worst thing you can do. 

It is the same as lying about race, gender, height and educational level, get over your own inadequacy then you can become the best version of what you are.

[Balestier]

  On 3/26/2024 at 3:33 AM, earth_tone said:

Don't ever lie about age online or in dating apps, that's the worst thing you can do. 

It is the same as lying about race, gender, height and educational level, get over your own inadequacy then you can become the best version of what you are.

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Why not if both not going to meet. It's just virtual friendship anyway 

[earth_tone]

  On 3/26/2024 at 4:04 AM, Balestier said:

Why not if both not going to meet. It's just virtual friendship anyway 

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You can if you’ve good self control. The game you’re playing with your mind could be like vice, it will keep you hidden deeper into your habits.  Without sounding too bloomer, I’d say your friendship offline is more valuable so jus in case you could be chatting with your ideal crush, you want to be able to share your stats with your head held high someday if you do meet.  Don’t say uncle never remind you!

[Steve5380]

  On 3/26/2024 at 8:33 AM, earth_tone said:

You can if you’ve good self control. The game you’re playing with your mind could be like vice, it will keep you hidden deeper into your habits.  Without sounding too bloomer, I’d say your friendship offline is more valuable so jus in case you could be chatting with your ideal crush, you want to be able to share your stats with your head held high someday if you do meet.  Don’t say uncle never remind you!

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With your head held high,  this is right!   

 

I haven't met any BW-ers in person, that I know.  So I could pass on here as " beyond 30 ".  But... now it is too late!  Everyone knows that I am an octogenarian.  But with my head high, ha ha.    I cannot write that "life is the best after 30",  but I surely can say " life can be the best after 80 ",  and be truthful.

[TLC]

I'm honest with my age.  But I had been told off that I used old photos of myself, even the photos were latest or recent.

I always looked younger than my age.

One could never win with age disclosure.

[Guest Guest]

  On 5/12/2024 at 6:11 PM, TLC said:

I'm honest with my age.  But I had been told off that I used old photos of myself, even the photos were latest or recent.

I always looked younger than my age.

One could never win with age disclosure.

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You look younger than your actual age … because of genetic reason or you spent a lot on external products and/or surgery? 🤔

[Guest guest]

Everyone has an expiry date. 

[Guest Guest]

  On 5/13/2024 at 6:45 AM, Guest guest said:

Everyone has an expiry date. 

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You mean as in death bed / coffin .... ? 😥

[TLC]

  On 5/12/2024 at 10:45 PM, Guest Guest said:

You look younger than your actual age … because of genetic reason or you spent a lot on external products and/or surgery? 🤔

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I'm blessed with good genes from my parents.  My siblings are the same.

[Guest Guest]

  On 5/12/2024 at 6:11 PM, TLC said:

I'm honest with my age.  But I had been told off that I used old photos of myself, even the photos were latest or recent.

I always looked younger than my age.

One could never win with age disclosure.

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Look younger than age no use if your actual age is old. People might still get turned off when they know your actual age.

[kwongheng]

  On 5/21/2024 at 6:23 AM, Guest Guest said:

Look younger than age no use if your actual age is old. People might still get turned off when they know your actual age.

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That is the assumption that the person only interested in younger guys, so its never always a lose-lose. There are younger guys who only like older men even up to their 60s or 70s

[Steve5380]

  On 5/12/2024 at 10:45 PM, Guest Guest said:

You look younger than your actual age … because of genetic reason or you spent a lot on external products and/or surgery? 🤔

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Your either-or is incomplete. 

 

Genetics has a lot do do with your appearance, the kind of face and all its details.  But not so much in it looking younger or older.   This depends mostly on your lifestyle.   A Toyota hybrid looks different than a Ford pickup.  But how old they look depends on how they are cared for.  Back to the face, it is more important the internal products than the external ones,  and it is mostly the CARE.  A relaxed face protected from the sun and free of abscesses due to good health,  or an angry face wrinkled from lack of sleep, sunburned and with many spots on it.  

 

[TLC]

  On 5/21/2024 at 6:23 AM, Guest Guest said:

Look younger than age no use if your actual age is old. People might still get turned off when they know your actual age.

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I'm physically fit and active.  So, I'm not bothered by those people.  To me, it's their loss.

[egal]

honesty is the best policy

 

or mayb not, lol

[Guest whaaaahahahaha]

  On 5/26/2024 at 3:58 PM, TLC said:

I'm physically fit and active.  So, I'm not bothered by those people.  To me, it's their loss.

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Have you determined the exact amount of loss of those people?

[Guest Guest]

  On 5/21/2024 at 6:23 AM, Guest Guest said:

Look younger than age no use if your actual age is old. People might still get turned off when they know your actual age.

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Sad truth.

[TLC]

  On 5/27/2024 at 1:51 AM, Guest whaaaahahahaha said:

Have you determined the exact amount of loss of those people?

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Don't care ...

[Thatguy642]

Of course age matters especially when it comes to sexual stuff. I’m not even 30 yet but already feeling a little sad when guys I’m attracted to only go for boyish looking 22 year olds, especially since I’m not boyish looking at all! Guess I should’ve been more willing to try things when I was 22!

 

But regardless, as long as you have confidence and try to take care of yourself I’m sure you’ll find someone who is attracted to you. I feel like this forum can sometimes attract some people with a self-defeating mentality, which is understandable given how small and picky our community is, but all we can do is keep working on ourselves!

[Steve5380]

  On 5/27/2024 at 5:31 PM, Thatguy642 said:

Of course age matters especially when it comes to sexual stuff. I’m not even 30 yet but already feeling a little sad when guys I’m attracted to only go for boyish looking 22 year olds, especially since I’m not boyish looking at all! Guess I should’ve been more willing to try things when I was 22!

 

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When you were 22 you probably were more attracted to 18 year olds,  who in turn were attracted to even younger ones.  😀

[fitcubsg]

Honesty is the best policy but always take the pains to take care of your appearence.

Eat well, work out like shit, groom yourself. You can be 51 like me and still get to steal the hearts of men younger then me.

I really don't give a shit about ageism in the gay community, when I turn 35 I knew i am a has been.

None the less, happy to be a cougar. I am not afraid to go under the knife to look good but then again who is not vain?

[Guest Appalled]

https://mothership.sg/2024/05/married-man-53-sex-boy-13-jail/

 

Age does matter. 53 go jail. 

13 yo get to enjoy gay sex. And get away free. 

 

Imo the 13 yo should be punished as well. 

 

Its like when you are young, you can do whatever and get away for free. 

 

Again if you see someone deceptively young, even if he show you his nric, don't believe. It could be forged. 

 

There was a case many years the young child go on grindr and lied about his age and have gay sex with older man. 

 

Then the older man go jail but the young one got nothing. 

 

Singapore law is protecting who? The young will grow up as a sex abuser. Use people for sex. Cause so young already so daring to seek out gay sex. 

 

I only had my first gay sex when I'm an adult. Probably cause back then gay is still illegal. 

 

 

 

[Thatguy642]

  On 5/27/2024 at 11:33 PM, Steve5380 said:

 

When you were 22 you probably were more attracted to 18 year olds,  who in turn were attracted to even younger ones.  😀

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Hahaha nah, was always more into manlier dudes to be honest! Also kind of into meeting up with ‘uncles’ because some of them seem ‘hungrier’ over younger guys’ bodies (understandably!) which is very arousing to me. 

[Leoster]

  On 5/27/2024 at 5:31 PM, Thatguy642 said:

Of course age matters especially when it comes to sexual stuff. I’m not even 30 yet but already feeling a little sad when guys I’m attracted to only go for boyish looking 22 year olds, especially since I’m not boyish looking at all! Guess I should’ve been more willing to try things when I was 22!

 

But regardless, as long as you have confidence and try to take care of yourself I’m sure you’ll find someone who is attracted to you. I feel like this forum can sometimes attract some people with a self-defeating mentality, which is understandable given how small and picky our community is, but all we can do is keep working on ourselves!

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Jiayou

[singalion]

  On 5/28/2024 at 4:26 AM, Guest Appalled said:

https://mothership.sg/2024/05/married-man-53-sex-boy-13-jail/

 

Age does matter. 53 go jail. 

13 yo get to enjoy gay sex. And get away free. 

 

Imo the 13 yo should be punished as well. 

 

Its like when you are young, you can do whatever and get away for free. 

 

Again if you see someone deceptively young, even if he show you his nric, don't believe. It could be forged. 

 

There was a case many years the young child go on grindr and lied about his age and have gay sex with older man. 

 

Then the older man go jail but the young one got nothing. 

 

Singapore law is protecting who? The young will grow up as a sex abuser. Use people for sex. Cause so young already so daring to seek out gay sex. 

 

I only had my first gay sex when I'm an adult. Probably cause back then gay is still illegal. 

 

 

 

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It seems that you misunderstand the rationale of the law... (I assume you are the same as that Guest LOL in the other thread.

 

(We also don't know why the 13y old asked for the contact number of the 53y old guy, maybe he intended to extort monies from him later on)

 

The rationale is: Be careful with any approach by any boy below 16y because they are simply protected by law and can't consent to any consensual sex.

 

On your grindr case: The law says, any person being minor, you must assure yourself first that he isn't below the age of 16!

If he doesn't show his own IC, student pass etc, then keep your hands off. It is your duty as a adult to check the age prior to engaging in sex.

 

The law is not dumb. but maybe your point is.

 

The law simply protects all minors from sexual activity by an older person above 16y.

 

Read articles from top to end, then you wouldn't post any such things here!

Quote: "The judge emphasised that the law presumes that a minor lacks sufficient life experience and emotional and intellectual maturity to make appropriate sexual decisions for himself or herself. "

 

Quote from a website explaining the law:

Under Singapore's Penal Code, persons under the age of 16 are unable to give consent to any sexual activity. This means that even if a minor said “yes” to sexual acts, the law still sees it as non-consensual. If the minor is under the age of 14, the law carries a heavier punishment.

 

=> Keep your hands off from any person under the age of 16!

 

=> The law also means that if any minor approaches you, reject any sexual advance.

 

 

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[StockBottom]

Recently I got a chat meesage that went "Hi age"

 

Feel like telling him my nick is not age 🙄

[mate69]

  On 5/28/2024 at 2:17 PM, StockBottom said:

Recently I got a chat meesage that went "Hi age"

 

Feel like telling him my nick is not age 🙄

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At least there was a "Hi", and not just "Age"

[radiusulnar]

True. At least polite to say Hi and then go for the key question.

[Guest Rajesh]

My parents have accepted me already that I'm gay but they don't accept my partner to be a black man and twice my age.

 

His parents also not agreeing with him to marry an Indian gay but only to another black man.

 

To both of us, it doesn't matter. We love each other.

 

We are planning to get married in Las Vegas in December. What should we do to get our parents' blessings?

 

 

[Guest Happy Runaway Bride]

  On 6/2/2024 at 3:46 AM, Guest Rajesh said:

My parents have accepted me already that I'm gay but they don't accept my partner to be a black man and twice my age.

 

His parents also not agreeing with him to marry an Indian gay but only to another black man.

 

To both of us, it doesn't matter. We love each other.

 

We are planning to get married in Las Vegas in December. What should we do to get our parents' blessings?

 

 

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You do nothing.   The moment you are grown up and become independent, your parent's responsibility ended with it,  The rest of your life is under God's blessings, and no one else. 

[egal]

true that

 

anyway, most want to date people around their age

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[Steve5380]

  On 6/2/2024 at 11:21 AM, Guest Happy Runaway Bride said:

You do nothing.   The moment you are grown up and become independent, your parent's responsibility ended with it,  The rest of your life is under God's blessings, and no one else. 

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Very good answer.  Maybe it is God's blessing,  but it surely helps if it is each other's blessings.

 

For the families, the common way to get their blessings is to make a lot of money and become rich.  And for more intelligent family, the way is to become successful.

[MasterFitMalaySG4U]

Secret to youth is stay away from "chill" (dr*gs) effect your overall health system even IPPT. U rather throw away ah Kong $500 just for that addiction? Look old, panda eyes, skin also effected... testosterone also effected...imagine your hard swole bod go to waste haha...if u want to look young even in 30s-45s just say NO to Dr*ugs! 

[Expired Btm Uncle]

IF you believe age is just a number than you wouldnt be bothered with the other party's age. However sad to say this circle is all about numbers. Not uncommon to see "below 25 only" ard my age only. Even the personnel section most group set an age limit below 30. Hence i rather go sauna since what u see is what u get. No beating ard the bush.

[Steve5380]

  On 8/27/2024 at 2:32 PM, MasterFitMalaySG4U said:

Secret to youth is stay away from "chill" (dr*gs) effect your overall health system even IPPT. U rather throw away ah Kong $500 just for that addiction? Look old, panda eyes, skin also effected... testosterone also effected...imagine your hard swole bod go to waste haha...if u want to look young even in 30s-45s just say NO to Dr*ugs! 

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Very true.  Addictions are not natural,  and if we are smart we don't want to get into them not even for curiosity.  Some come from very natural sources, like alcohol and tobacco, which are very easy to create. Our bodies have no interest, no need for these, unless we start to use them.  (  I personally think that anal sex is another addiction that does not come from interest or need, but we hear about and see it, and if then we try it we can get hooked )

 

Later in life we should get rid of other addictions like sugars and excess tasty foods, that build up because of our all necessary eating.  Getting rid of these addictions is not difficult and it is a smart move to do on time, so that we can sail into a happy middle and old age still in good health and mentality.

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[egal]

interesting how it is linked to drugs and food etc

[Guest Misled Profiling]

  On 8/27/2024 at 4:48 PM, Expired Btm Uncle said:

IF you believe age is just a number than you wouldnt be bothered with the other party's age. However sad to say this circle is all about numbers. Not uncommon to see "below 25 only" ard my age only. Even the personnel section most group set an age limit below 30. Hence i rather go sauna since what u see is what u get. No beating ard the bush.

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I recall that someone wrapped a present with an extremely old piece of paper during the office Christmas celebration. After drawing lots, a coworker received this strange gift and lamented how awful it looked and how little it seemed. When he opened it, he discovered that it was the most costly gift he had ever received in addition to being the greatest he had ever received - the latest Iphone. The most exquisitely wrapped presents end up being ordinary books, chocolates, and toys for the recipients. Many people hope to achieve the later profile in the gay chat room, but they frequently miss out on the greatest "iphone" of their lives.

[Guest HappyMature]

  On 8/28/2024 at 1:51 AM, Guest Misled Profiling said:

I recall that someone wrapped a present with an extremely old piece of paper during the office Christmas celebration. After drawing lots, a coworker received this strange gift and lamented how awful it looked and how little it seemed. When he opened it, he discovered that it was the most costly gift he had ever received in addition to being the greatest he had ever received - the latest Iphone. The most exquisitely wrapped presents end up being ordinary books, chocolates, and toys for the recipients. Many people hope to achieve the later profile in the gay chat room, but they frequently miss out on the greatest "iphone" of their lives.

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I always thought this forum is meant for matured… when did all these youngish started invading? 😬 and some can be very rude after one reveals the age. Simply no more reply. 🥲