Turning 30.. Why am I still confused?

[clapclapclap]

Im turning 30 this year and regrettably still in a phase of confusion and self discovery… I know I definitely like guys, but part of me is still wondering if I might have a chance at girls ie maybe Im actually bi? I kinda know how to find guys to test it out, but Idk where/how to find girls for the same. Thats two extremes here Im thinking - on one end trying out a relationship with a girl, and on the other going to Geylang lol?? Im not sure if they are the most ideal.Open to some serious suggestions. Thanks and cheers!

[fun72]

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Edited March 3, 2024 by fun72

[Sky894]

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Edited April 13, 2024 by Sky894

[Ticklemesm]

15 hours ago, clapclapclap said:

Im turning 30 this year and regrettably still in a phase of confusion and self discovery… I know I definitely like guys, but part of me is still wondering if I might have a chance at girls ie maybe Im actually bi? I kinda know how to find guys to test it out, but Idk where/how to find girls for the same. Thats two extremes here Im thinking - on one end trying out a relationship with a girl, and on the other going to Geylang lol?? Im not sure if they are the most ideal.Open to some serious suggestions. Thanks and cheers!

If you see sexy girl and handsome guys and you are aroused, perhaps you are. But love is another thing which builds after you know a person well. Something that only you can measure. Doesnt matter which direction as long as you are happy. Dont let your family or society pressure you into making decisions you may regret.

 

[Razorpin]

Was that way too for many years. But I would say that is the complication of bi ish life. Cos it’s more thrilling and fun with guys due to everyone is just horny.. but girls sometimes over think and over complicate. Plus, if going to be more to girls, you will surely consider married life and that comes with it’s own life path and responsibilities. The flip side is being playful with guys but aging and lack of kids may make people feel fearful of how they will be taken care of. So hopefully having family and a good partner is the best ultimately. But still hard to be there for each other as one may go first … 

[Ticklemesm]

On 3/5/2024 at 7:17 PM, Razorpin said:

Was that way too for many years. But I would say that is the complication of bi ish life. Cos it’s more thrilling and fun with guys due to everyone is just horny.. but girls sometimes over think and over complicate. Plus, if going to be more to girls, you will surely consider married life and that comes with it’s own life path and responsibilities. The flip side is being playful with guys but aging and lack of kids may make people feel fearful of how they will be taken care of. So hopefully having family and a good partner is the best ultimately. But still hard to be there for each other as one may go first … 

It is a fallacy to worry about whose gonna care for you in your golden years. Truth is you will never know whether you have to take care of them or not or will they care for you. It is a risk being married vs stay single be it straight or gay or bi. Don't be with someone just because you need to be taken care of. Be with someone whom you wish to take good care of.