stressed out jc student😞

[jcboy18]

hii, as many of yall know, im currently in jc2 right now and truthfully speaking, its been very tiring and stressful the past few weeks. and ive ended up falling behind all of my work and revision tht it has become very even more stressful and exhausting..... 

 

if there are any ex-JC students or current JC students willing to share some of their advice tht wld be alot of help🙏🙏

[MasterFitMalaySG4U]

I think there is few discreet JC or ex jc here...I think he online might pm u..I see if I can get few to pm u...not sure if they keen. Some already attached so not active here. 

 

Nevertheless do your best. Seek your school teachers even your homies or friends if u need some advice. And also pls balance your study like rest or destress a bit going for walk or swim or take a breath. 

 

Stay positivity yah? JIA Yu! 

[PlayersGroup]

1 hour ago, jcboy18 said:

hii, as many of yall know, im currently in jc2 right now and truthfully speaking, its been very tiring and stressful the past few weeks. and ive ended up falling behind all of my work and revision tht it has become very even more stressful and exhausting..... 

 

if there are any ex-JC students or current JC students willing to share some of their advice tht wld be alot of help🙏🙏

 

JC years can be a particularly stressful time for you and many of your peers because it's a lot curriculum crammed intoa very short time especially if u take away the holidays. You are not alone, I'm sure there are many going through similar stresses.

 

That said, there are a few useful and skilful things you can do.

 

1. One of the most important skills in life (they don't really teach this enough in class) is how to choose the more helpful way of thinking about your situation so that you feel better. This is different from lying to yourself to make yourself feel good. It requires you to see the strengths of your situation.

 

a. Take stock. Don't see it as All-or-Nothing. You Have done revision, not as much as you expected yourself to but you have done what you could, despite the difficulties you had.

 

b. See your strengths. You have the intellect to continue learn, that's why you have reached JC2. You also know to seek help when needed

 

c. Know your limits. Everyone wants to score well and revise work to perfection. Everyone has different abilities and capacity. If you cannot do 100%, how about 90%, 80%? Focus on the things you really don't understand or need to improve on. Get help. From experience, this is very helpful because even if u do 60%, it gives you motivation and you might reach more than 90% in the end rather than the state of worry and stress which gets you nowhere.

 

d. Focus on now. It's cliche but true. There is only Now. Past is gone so don't think about what should have could have. The future not here yet, focus on this moment. Take a deep breath, 10 deep breaths if u need. Do what you can do now.

 

2. Other than psychologically building yourself up in point 1. There are practical things you can do about your revision:

 

a. Prioritise Focus on the parts you really need work on and come back to the less important when you have extra time. 

 

b. Break it down Don't see it as this humongous task, it isn't one big thing. Break down into smaller achievable parts (10 pages each time? 1 chapter each time?)

 

3. Rest and Exercise No human body and mind can go full steam the whole time. Take pockets of time to destress. Power nap 15 min every 1 hour of study. Go for a walk, do some push ups, eat a fruit/chocolate etc. I wouldn't recommend destresses which involves screentime/porn. i think it just puts the mind in another kind of heightened state which is still not restful in a way. 

 

4. Review Do this when you have time, which presumably you don't now. You need to rethink how you fell behind in the first place. What were the causes, or environmental reasons (not just your own ability). Is it not enough sleep/ rest, too high expectations, not enough happiness/variety in life so you procrastinate? Need to give yourself more motivation? Be honest with yourself so you can adjust your lifestyle to be a better person/student.

 

5. Fuck it Last but not least, the ironic thing is the only way to perform the best is not to want to perform the best. Studies and exams is only a part of life, not everything. Just do your best, but don't forget about other important things in life. 10 20 years down the road, you are not going to care what grades you got for JC but what experiences you have in your life you remember. By all means do your best, but do not be afraid if you don't score well. I have friends who didn't do well in JC and went on to retake, went other avenues of study or do other things more suited for them and have a good happier life/family despite the initial stumbles.  

 

Ok that's all from me. All the best whatever you do!

[jcboy18]

thank you!!! 

7 minutes ago, PlayersGroup said:

 

JC years can be a particularly stressful time for you and many of your peers because it's a lot curriculum crammed intoa very short time especially if u take away the holidays. You are not alone, I'm sure there are many going through similar stresses.

 

That said, there are a few useful and skilful things you can do.

 

1. One of the most important skills in life (they don't really teach this enough in class) is how to choose the more helpful way of thinking about your situation so that you feel better. This is different from lying to yourself to make yourself feel good. It requires you to see the strengths of your situation.

 

a. Take stock. Don't see it as All-or-Nothing. You Have done revision, not as much as you expected yourself to but you have done what you could, despite the difficulties you had.

 

b. See your strengths. You have the intellect to continue learn, that's why you have reached JC2. You also know to seek help when needed

 

c. Know your limits. Everyone wants to score well and revise work to perfection. Everyone has different abilities and capacity. If you cannot do 100%, how about 90%, 80%? Focus on the things you really don't understand or need to improve on. Get help. From experience, this is very helpful because even if u do 60%, it gives you motivation and you might reach more than 90% in the end rather than the state of worry and stress which gets you nowhere.

 

d. Focus on now. It's cliche but true. There is only Now. Past is gone so don't think about what should have could have. The future not here yet, focus on this moment. Take a deep breath, 10 deep breaths if u need. Do what you can do now.

 

2. Other than psychologically building yourself up in point 1. There are practical things you can do about your revision:

 

a. Prioritise Focus on the parts you really need work on and come back to the less important when you have extra time. 

 

b. Break it down Don't see it as this humongous task, it isn't one big thing. Break down into smaller achievable parts (10 pages each time? 1 chapter each time?)

 

3. Rest and Exercise No human body and mind can go full steam the whole time. Take pockets of time to destress. Power nap 15 min every 1 hour of study. Go for a walk, do some push ups, eat a fruit/chocolate etc. I wouldn't recommend destresses which involves screentime/porn. i think it just puts the mind in another kind of heightened state which is still not restful in a way. 

 

4. Review Do this when you have time, which presumably you don't now. You need to rethink how you fell behind in the first place. What were the causes, or environmental reasons (not just your own ability). Is it not enough sleep/ rest, too high expectations, not enough happiness/variety in life so you procrastinate? Need to give yourself more motivation? Be honest with yourself so you can adjust your lifestyle to be a better person/student.

 

5. Fuck it Last but not least, the ironic thing is the only way to perform the best is not to want to perform the best. Studies and exams is only a part of life, not everything. Just do your best, but don't forget about other important things in life. 10 20 years down the road, you are not going to care what grades you got for JC but what experiences you have in your life you remember. By all means do your best, but do not be afraid if you don't score well. I have friends who didn't do well in JC and went on to retake, went other avenues of study or do other things more suited for them and have a good happier life/family despite the initial stumbles.  

 

Ok that's all from me. All the best whatever you do!

 

[jcboy18]

9 hours ago, MasterFitMalaySG4U said:

I think there is few discreet JC or ex jc here...I think he online might pm u..I see if I can get few to pm u...not sure if they keen. Some already attached so not active here. 

 

Nevertheless do your best. Seek your school teachers even your homies or friends if u need some advice. And also pls balance your study like rest or destress a bit going for walk or swim or take a breath. 

 

Stay positivity yah? JIA Yu! 

thank you for the kind words!! and wld be great if you cld get some discreet jc or ex jc ppl to hmu ehhe

 

thank you!!

[jcboy18]

thank you to everyone who sent me kind and encouraging words!!! will definitely be texting some of yall who sent me encouraging words if i need to vent or for advice :)) rlly appreciate the kind words guys :))

[Kentazmania]

Dude. I can feel your pressure and stress being in school. I won't asked which junior college u are from. But nevertheless don't give up hope. It maybe stressing and pressure for u now. But once u entered Uni things will be slightly better and u will feel good yourself. Don't give up hope. U can just follow the flow and things will look better ahead and u will be proud of yourself that what u have accomplished.