Very "好臉" (Love to Boast)

[Why?]

Is 好臉 a normal human trait?  People love to 好臉 about who they are not.  My neighbour is one of them,  to the extend we have decided to stop listening to their lies everytime we hit a conversation, despite trying to avoid them daily.  No harm keeping silent if one has nothing to boast about, instead of trying to make up stories to elevate their status.  My 70yo uncle 好臉 about the massive amount of money he spend on eyesight lasering, only to be humbled by near blindness many years later.    好臉 is not in my family genes, and I seldom see my parent or siblings talking down on other people because we are quiet people.  Why do people love to 好臉?

 

It is also not uncommon in the Gay circle, right?  Especially in the chat room, sauna or gay apps.  People 好臉 about having this and that and seeking "similar" folk to spend "meaningful" time together. 

 

As for me,  I have no private condo, no expensive car, no credit card, no resort membership card.   I only have a debit card, MRT card and Watson discount card in my wallet.  I wanted to 好臉 also cannot, except being good looking but even then the good looking part was in the past.   

 

Let's be honest,  when was the last time you guys PUBLICLY 好臉 (about something you are not)?

Edited May 29, 2024 by Why?

[Guest Depressed gay]

14 minutes ago, Why? said:

Is 好臉 a normal human trait?  People love to 好臉 about who they are not.  My neighbour is one of them,  to the extend we have decided to stop listening to their lies everytime we hit a conversation, despite trying to avoid them daily.  No harm keeping silent if one has nothing to boast about, instead of trying to make up stories to elevate their status.  My 70yo uncle 好臉 about the massive amount of money he spend on eyesight lasering, only to be humbled by near blindness many years later.    好臉 is not in my family genes, and I seldom see my parent or siblings talking down on other people because we are quiet people.  Why do people love to 好臉?

 

It is also not uncommon in the Gay circle, right?  Especially in the chat room, sauna or gay apps.  People 好臉 about having this and that and seeking "similar" folk to spend "meaningful" time together. 

 

As for me,  I have no private condo, no expensive car, no credit card, no resort membership card.   I only have a debit card, MRT card and Watson discount card in my wallet.  I wanted to 好臉 also cannot, except being good looking but even then the good looking part was in the past.   

 

Let's be honest,  when was the last time you guys PUBLICLY 好臉 (about something you are not)?

 

Everyday I feel like I'm living a lie, hiding my gay self. I'm never proud of who I am. So nothing to boast. 

[wanton_mee]

No need to kaypoh abt their 好练

[GachiMuchi]

3 hours ago, Why? said:

Is 好臉 a normal human trait?  People love to 好臉 about who they are not.  My neighbour is one of them,  to the extend we have decided to stop listening to their lies everytime we hit a conversation, despite trying to avoid them daily.  No harm keeping silent if one has nothing to boast about, instead of trying to make up stories to elevate their status.  My 70yo uncle 好臉 about the massive amount of money he spend on eyesight lasering, only to be humbled by near blindness many years later.    好臉 is not in my family genes, and I seldom see my parent or siblings talking down on other people because we are quiet people.  Why do people love to 好臉?

 

It is also not uncommon in the Gay circle, right?  Especially in the chat room, sauna or gay apps.  People 好臉 about having this and that and seeking "similar" folk to spend "meaningful" time together. 

 

As for me,  I have no private condo, no expensive car, no credit card, no resort membership card.   I only have a debit card, MRT card and Watson discount card in my wallet.  I wanted to 好臉 also cannot, except being good looking but even then the good looking part was in the past.   

 

Let's be honest,  when was the last time you guys PUBLICLY 好臉 (about something you are not)?

 

“好脸” is a very "Chinese" thing. It's in most Asian countries where there are Chinese; from China, Malaysia, Singapore, Taiwan, Thailand, Indonesia, etc...

Those show-off wants people to know that they are successful, rich, famous, etc... be it real or a lie.

Parents will compare their kid's results and show off to their friends and neighbours, etc.

Guys will show off their cars, watches, the girls they hookup..etc...

Gays will show off how many guys they "eaten."  Which "Sky Vegetable"(天菜) they slept with, etc...

There is no need to get "upset" or be bothered by these show-offs. 

Just have less contacts with these people if you can't fit in with them.

Nothing to shout about. Live and let live.

You go about your lives and they theirs.

Don't need to sound annoyed and disillusion as that is them and not you. 

 

I don't need to show-off, people will eventually spread words around that I got big fat 6" cock and fuck them, left-right-center and will make them autocum in ecstasy.

Oops.. I am 好脸 showing off!

I am Chinese lor. Hahaha

 

Edited May 29, 2024 by GachiMuchi

[doncoin]

The need to “好脸” to me indicates insecurities within oneself, and you use external things, i.e. designer items, to prop yourself up as you cannot stand on your own two feet. People who openly boast do it so that they can make themselves feel better about themselves, by putting others down, especially with wealth. 

 

So the next time someone boasts about their wealth or any other topic, just know that it comes from a place of insecurity. If you observe what they normally boast about, you know that is the aspect of themselves or their lives they are most insecure about. Also, such people are the most dissatisfied with their lives. 

 

There is a difference between stating a fact versus boasting. For example, a person can be rich, and go buys an expensive designer bag and says nothing about it. He uses the bag as it is and makes no big deal about it nor draw attention from others that he is using a designer bag. Someone who is boastful will be more likely to draw attention to himself by stating something along the lines of "check out my bag! I spent so much buying it." they tend to flaunt it more. 

Edited May 30, 2024 by doncoin

[Guest 280]

On 5/29/2024 at 3:39 PM, Why? said:

Is 好臉 a normal human trait?  People love to 好臉 about who they are not.  My neighbour is one of them,  to the extend we have decided to stop listening to their lies everytime we hit a conversation, despite trying to avoid them daily.  No harm keeping silent if one has nothing to boast about, instead of trying to make up stories to elevate their status.  My 70yo uncle 好臉 about the massive amount of money he spend on eyesight lasering, only to be humbled by near blindness many years later.    好臉 is not in my family genes, and I seldom see my parent or siblings talking down on other people because we are quiet people.  Why do people love to 好臉?

 

It is also not uncommon in the Gay circle, right?  Especially in the chat room, sauna or gay apps.  People 好臉 about having this and that and seeking "similar" folk to spend "meaningful" time together. 

 

As for me,  I have no private condo, no expensive car, no credit card, no resort membership card.   I only have a debit card, MRT card and Watson discount card in my wallet.  I wanted to 好臉 also cannot, except being good looking but even then the good looking part was in the past.   

 

Let's be honest,  when was the last time you guys PUBLICLY 好臉 (about something you are not)?

 

Heng. I got condo, got car, got credit card and got own business. Is that haolian ? Nah, just sheer grit, tenacity, hardworking and being smart.

[yhtang]

8 hours ago, Guest 280 said:

 

Heng. I got condo, got car, got credit card and got own business. Is that haolian ? Nah, just sheer grit, tenacity, hardworking and being smart.

 

I agree, it is not haolian, and I respect that you worked hard to make your life comfortable for yourself.

I think haolian is more like when one boasts about their possessions, actual or imaginary.  So no, you are not haolian.  

 

[Guest Human are hao lians]

It's like people doing charity, must take video, go viral, go on news. 

 

If a tree falls in the forest, and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound? 

 

If you are successful, and no one knows about, are you really successful? 

 

If you are struggling, and no one can see or feel it, are you really? Or just self inflicted. 

 

 

[auscent]

Showing off is for the insecure folks who need the approval of others.

[Guest Superiority syndrome]

20 hours ago, auscent said:

Showing off is for the insecure folks who need the approval of others.

People who 好臉 all the time don't think it that way   They gain nourishment from it and enjoy the "injury" inflicted on others thru their 好臉 .