Was making a move on people by touching their nipples, don’t understand why they pushed my hands away so rudely

[Guest Jayden]

Went last Saturday Nude Night, was making a move on people by touching their nipples, don’t understand why some of them immediately pushed my hands away so rudely. Isn’t this what sauna is about? 

[mate69]

57 minutes ago, Guest Jayden said:

Went last Saturday Nude Night, was making a move on people by touching their nipples, don’t understand why some of them immediately pushed my hands away so rudely. Isn’t this what sauna is about? 

 

Avoid SG saunas entirely...they are full of rude, pretty entitled customers, mostly. Some are nice but most there just don't know how/don't want to reject in a civil and nice way. My take 

[Guest Tree]

1 hour ago, mate69 said:

 

Avoid SG saunas entirely...they are full of rude, pretty entitled customers, mostly. Some are nice but most there just don't know how/don't want to reject in a civil and nice way. My take 

 

On one hand, there are self-entitled chaps that get all violent body language wise when guys touch them, even in the most gentle manner.

On the other hand, there are aggressive uncles who go around, in the pretext of being blind, touch everyone and everyone, who is in his path.

 

After having been to many saunas in the world, I do conclude that people in Singapore has a BIG problem in comms skills, verbally or otherwise.  Weakest in humanties.

[youdoyou]

11 hours ago, Guest Tree said:

 

On one hand, there are self-entitled chaps that get all violent body language wise when guys touch them, even in the most gentle manner.

On the other hand, there are aggressive uncles who go around, in the pretext of being blind, touch everyone and everyone, who is in his path.

 

After having been to many saunas in the world, I do conclude that people in Singapore has a BIG problem in comms skills, verbally or otherwise.  Weakest in humanties.

Communication skills weren’t a prerequisite to advance in the school system here so most people didn’t care for it. 😛

[Guest Guest]

Just now, mate69 said:

 

Avoid SG saunas entirely...they are full of rude, pretty entitled customers, mostly. Some are nice but most there just don't know how/don't want to reject in a civil and nice way. My take 

By right he should stand beside him and try to touch the hand first, if no rejection then can touch the nipple and other part. I dont think he will get a rude response if he has done that.

[Guest Fuze]

Hello, just because it's nude night it doesn't mean you have free pass to anyhow touch others. Learn to respect other people's boundaries! 

[Guest Speak Out]

On 8/20/2024 at 8:28 AM, youdoyou said:

Communication skills weren’t a prerequisite to advance in the school system here so most people didn’t care for it. 😛

Depending on which faculty you choose.  If you are in the PR industry, it certainly is a prerequisite.  Here, in Suana, is where most of the PR skills took place.  It can be quite frustrating when someone who is not your cup of tea were persistently touching your skin despite you gesturing them to stay away.

[Guest Human are not items]

1 hour ago, Guest Fuze said:

Hello, just because it's nude night it doesn't mean you have free pass to anyhow touch others. Learn to respect other people's boundaries! 

Ya lor, he thought walking into a groceries department and can squeeze here and touch there like nobody business. 🤣

[Expired Btm Uncle]

On 8/19/2024 at 5:57 PM, Guest Jayden said:

Went last Saturday Nude Night, was making a move on people by touching their nipples, don’t understand why some of them immediately pushed my hands away so rudely. Isn’t this what sauna is about? 

I applause your courage to be proactive. But being proactive also mean u have to learn how to accept rejections in whatever format. As you gain more experience you will care less of how other reject u. For me i never dare approach people so i just steam pee shit repeat in kb.  

[Steve5380]

On 8/19/2024 at 5:57 AM, mate69 said:

 

Avoid SG saunas entirely...they are full of rude, pretty entitled customers, mostly. Some are nice but most there just don't know how/don't want to reject in a civil and nice way. My take 

 

Have things changed so much recently?  I went to SG saunas tens of times and had enjoyable experiences.  And I did touch statues,  not their nipples or cocks but other body parts less sensitive,  and didn't have violent reactions.  I guess experience is also a factor.

[youdoyou]

8 hours ago, Guest Speak Out said:

Depending on which faculty you choose.  If you are in the PR industry, it certainly is a prerequisite.  Here, in Suana, is where most of the PR skills took place.  It can be quite frustrating when someone who is not your cup of tea were persistently touching your skin despite you gesturing them to stay away.

I meant from much younger, not only when one reaches uni. Besides, communications skills are important for everyone. 

[Guest Killer Stares]

6 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

And I did touch statues,  not their nipples or cocks but other body parts less sensitive,  and didn't have violent reactions.  I guess experience is also a factor.

I guess, they didn't want to use violence on old man and that doesn't mean they are pleased with you touching them, whichever part that is.

[Steve5380]

1 hour ago, Guest Killer Stares said:

I guess, they didn't want to use violence on old man and that doesn't mean they are pleased with you touching them, whichever part that is.

 

You are right.  They didn't want to use violence.  Instead, they started to touch me.

[And then]

12 hours ago, Expired Btm Uncle said:

I applause your courage to be proactive. But being proactive also mean u have to learn how to accept rejections in whatever format. As you gain more experience you will care less of how other reject u. For me i never dare approach people so i just steam pee shit repeat in kb.  

Yeah rejection is simply a fact of life.
However the way some guys reject is really out of line.
As if they have seen a ghost or something 🤣

[singalion]

19 hours ago, Guest Fuze said:

Hello, just because it's nude night it doesn't mean you have free pass to anyhow touch others. Learn to respect other people's boundaries! 

 

But if the first touch is really very gentle, then no need to be very harsh.

There is a difference in touching directly the genitals and just touching the arm or even nipples.

 

Anyhow, in my personal experience it is  often also a lack to speak out. Instead of just pushing harshly away the hand, open your mouth and say :" hey, sorry, but..." I guess you don't even need to say much more. Even in quite rude HK guys in saunas just speak out by telling you off, if they reject any advance.

 

I think there is a point on communication skills here. It just boils down to the long time issue that people are never taught to speak out. So they stay mum and just harshly push the hand away. Often a bit of Talk makes the Walk!

 

All in all I would advise the TS to touch the arm or somewhere next to the nipple first... instead of reaching out to a quite for many sensitive part.

 

 

[Guest Can't say for sure]

3 hours ago, And then said:

As if they have seen a ghost or something 🤣

Never discount it in a dark room or maze.

[PlayersGroup]

They just dun want u to touch. Just move on. Nothing major. 

 

I usually ask before I touch, unless u can see they already let everyone touch without rejecting. Most guys are quite ok. Stay respectful even if you are not their type. You can control your response, you cannot control theirs.

 

 

[Copper2b]

I am welcome to touch me all over

[Guest guest]

4 hours ago, PlayersGroup said:

They just dun want u to touch. Just move on. Nothing major. 

 

I usually ask before I touch, unless u can see they already let everyone touch without rejecting. Most guys are quite ok. Stay respectful even if you are not their type. You can control your response, you cannot control theirs.

 

 

 

Key word: Stay respectful.  

This is something that Singapore sauna goers must learn.

In fact, this is something one should possess when dealing with people on a daily basis.  But unfortunately, many here do not practice this well.

[BubbaBear]

On 8/21/2024 at 9:45 PM, Guest Human are not items said:

Ya lor, he thought walking into a groceries department and can squeeze here and touch there like nobody business. 🤣

Yes Lor… u go fruit stall also cannot anyhow squeeze grapes ! 
Just touch the arm or hands la, if no resist you then slowly continue ya .. 😂

[Guest Guest]

Touch where also can if the person you have touched find you attractive and his type. If not surely immediately pushed your hands away.

[Guest Haha]

On 8/19/2024 at 5:57 PM, Guest Jayden said:

Went last Saturday Nude Night, was making a move on people by touching their nipples, don’t understand why some of them immediately pushed my hands away so rudely. Isn’t this what sauna is about? 

They are just not into you!  Move on.  You think their nipples are “Turn-On” light switches???

[NeitherHereNorThere]

Maybe try not touching? Hahaha.

 

Can just stand close to the person, make eye contact and see if he moves away. Most will move away if not interested, and that prevents the "violent" physical rejection.

[NeitherHereNorThere]

If in sauna, I usually just move closer to the guy, sit beside him even though there's plenty of space around. He should be the hint, and move away if he's not interested. Then I move on. No need to even touch.

 

I see that behaviour when someone is interested in me also. Come close first, no reaction, touch non sensitive part first. No reaction then we start to play.

[Kay Boy]

You're not his type lo

[Guest guest today]

some may get a shock when suddenly being touched. .so i think you need to approach slowly by looking at him and let him notice your presence first