Will you date a gamer?

[appboy]

I'm referring to the hobby level but with mild addiction, not the Pros.

 

Asking him out just for a meal is an uphill task. How to date like that?

 

I guess for gamers gaming is more important than anything else in their lives. Correct me if I'm wrong.

 

Edited September 29, 2024 by appboy

[Thatguy642]

I think it only works if you play games yourself, that's probably the best way to bond with him, but having lived with full-on gamer family members before you're better off just buying food for him. Of course, this depends on whether you really love him or not, you don't have to stay in a relationship you're unhappy with. 

[Gchn]

To me, it’s about priority. I game at my free time myself, n I would still place time with my partner before gaming. Granted, there could be times where there r urgent events/tasks to be done in the game, but that shouldn’t be the case most of the time. At worst, I’d game with the company of my partner 🤣 gaming used to be a huge part of my life but as I age, its priority has dropped n has become more of something that i do to pass time, so I couldn’t say the same for ur case lool. If ur situation frustrated u so much, perhaps u could have a serious talk with him. N if things didn’t get better, u might wanna reconsider if u guys really want the same things n r going at the same direction in life/relationship.

[Naveyafluz]

I am OK if he can manage the time well. If we spend time together yet he is still going to be obsessed about his game, then I think he should be attached to his game instead of me.

[Aikuchi]

Yes, although reliably it does depend on how many hours are committed to gaming every week or daily. I game as well, some games need a higher commitment than others. Also, as I get older its a strain for me to look at screens too long. 

[egal]

if he is hot, y not

[Steve5380]

7 hours ago, appboy said:

 

I'm referring to the hobby level but with mild addiction, not the Pros.

 

 

There is a wide variety in gaming as a hobby.  There can be addiction in everything that is pleasurable.  And what is a hobby, should not be a fundamental activity in a person.

 

Yet,  I would prefer a relationship with someone who has a more positive hobby than gaming, like gardening, cooking, or some art.  I would like to share the same hobby with him, and gaming is not my hobby.   However, some computer games can help to improve our reactions, speed of thinking.  And after all, CHESS is also a game.

[mate69]

Won't 

[GachiMuchi]

17 hours ago, appboy said:

I'm referring to the hobby level but with mild addiction, not the Pros.

 

Asking him out just for a meal is an uphill task. How to date like that?

 

I guess for gamers gaming is more important than anything else in their lives. Correct me if I'm wrong.

 

 

Firstly, if you guys are only statting to date, if he is spending more time with his game than you, then maybe he is not so keen with you.

If he is really keen, he will make effort.

 

Secondly, you need to manage your own expectations. It's not always about you. Why don't you ask him, what is a good date and time to meet? Set a day like, maybe weekends to meet, etc.

 

If all else method to connect fails, then as much as you are ready, he is not ready for a relationship. Then you should cut your losses and move on. Just treat him as a normal friend and not as potential partner.

[SazNura]

gamers are fun , sucking someone while they game is kind of hot.lol

[XanderS]

Honestly, when it comes to priorities, there needs to be a balance. While I do appreciate if someone else can give me the time and energy to do my other stuff, you need to make up for lost time by spending meaningful time with each other. 

 

If it becomes a pattern where they seem to prioritise their games and entertainment over trying to build a relationship with me and spending good time together, then I feel it won't work out and the relationship will end.

[repressednerd]

Dated a gamer previously. If he's really into you (whether romantically or sexually attracted to you), he will make some time for you even if this means he has got to sleep less.

[egal]

true, i suppose it applies to all hobbies

[feilyxnixx]

if he is gaming halfway and willing to put it down for u , yes hes a keeper.

[blueduck]

Gamer usually has higher fantasy about seg, I am half playing game half socialize so. No problem

[egal]

imagine if he was gaming n u r blowing him at the same time, lol

 

the excitement might be from  the game or suck, lol