Understanding Love vs. Lust

[Eddie Adrika]

Hey everyone! I hope you’re all doing well! 

 

I wanted to share something important about understanding the difference between love and lust, especially when meeting new people.

 

Understanding Love vs. Lust

 

It’s important to recognize the difference between love and lust, especially when navigating new relationships. Lust is often driven by intense physical attraction and desire, which can feel overwhelming and exciting. However, these feelings are usually short-lived and may not lead to a deeper emotional connection.

 

 

Signs of Lust:

Strong physical attraction and desire.

Focus on immediate gratification.

Lack of deeper emotional connection.

 

Signs of Love:

Deep emotional bond and care for the person’s well-being.

Desire to build a future together.

Trust, support, and mutual respect.

 

When you meet someone new, it’s easy to get caught up in the excitement and mistake lust for love. However, true love takes time to develop and involves getting to know the person on a deeper level. It’s important to be cautious and not rush into intense emotions too quickly.

 

It’s okay to feel attracted to someone, but true love is built on a foundation of trust, respect, and emotional connection. Be mindful of your feelings and take care of your heart.

 

Take care, everyone! Remember, you deserve someone who truly values and respects you.

Edited October 13 by Eddie Adrika

[Naveyafluz]

Thanks for sharing 

[chris0452]

Interesting. Was chatting with someone in this. Would there be where U want to give some love affection to the person U lust? I mean all of us lust but I was thinking whether can some love be shared with no strings attached. Some of us have other commitments.

[egal]

other commitments sound so fwb, lol

 

 

[Eddie Adrika]

4 hours ago, chris0452 said:

Interesting. Was chatting with someone in this. Would there be where U want to give some love affection to the person U lust? I mean all of us lust but I was thinking whether can some love be shared with no strings attached. Some of us have other commitments.

That’s a really interesting point! It’s true that lust and love can sometimes overlap, and it’s totally possible to feel affection for someone you’re physically attracted to. The key is to be open and honest about your intentions and boundaries, especially if either of you have other commitments.

 

Sharing affection without strings attached can work for some people, but it’s super important to make sure both of you are on the same page and comfortable with it. Mutual respect and clear communication are essential for any kind of relationship, whether it’s casual or more serious.

 

Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

Edited October 13 by Eddie Adrika

[Eddie Adrika]

4 hours ago, egal said:

other commitments sound so fwb, lol

 

 

Haha, I see what you’re saying! It can definitely sound like that. I guess it all comes down to what both people are comfortable with and what they agree on. As long as there’s clear communication and mutual respect, different types of relationships can work for different people.

[Eddie Adrika]

4 hours ago, Naveyafluz said:

Thanks for sharing 

You’re welcome! I’m glad you found it interesting.

[cbm]

Not that I want to complicate things, but there's another category called romance.  I think what chris0452 is referring to is romance.  ChatGPT explains it better than I do. 

 

Output from ChatGPT:

Love is a deep emotional connection, care, and commitment that can be long-lasting. It involves trust, compassion, and mutual support, often growing over time and beyond physical attraction.

 

Romance is about the emotional excitement, passion, and actions that nurture a romantic relationship. It includes gestures that heighten emotional intimacy and attraction, often adding thrill and connection in the relationship.

 

Lust is primarily driven by physical attraction and sexual desire. It’s often more short-term and focused on fulfilling physical needs. While lust can be part of love or romance, it is usually more about the chemistry and desire for physical intimacy rather than emotional bonding.

To sum up:

Love = Deep emotional bond.

Romance = Passionate gestures and emotional excitement.

Lust = Physical attraction and sexual desire.

They can all overlap but serve different purposes in relationships.

[egal]

i suppose it wld be ideal if both parties r just goin for unattached fun etc

[Eddie Adrika]

8 hours ago, cbm said:

Not that I want to complicate things, but there's another category called romance.  I think what chris0452 is referring to is romance.  ChatGPT explains it better than I do. 

 

Output from ChatGPT:

Love is a deep emotional connection, care, and commitment that can be long-lasting. It involves trust, compassion, and mutual support, often growing over time and beyond physical attraction.

 

Romance is about the emotional excitement, passion, and actions that nurture a romantic relationship. It includes gestures that heighten emotional intimacy and attraction, often adding thrill and connection in the relationship.

 

Lust is primarily driven by physical attraction and sexual desire. It’s often more short-term and focused on fulfilling physical needs. While lust can be part of love or romance, it is usually more about the chemistry and desire for physical intimacy rather than emotional bonding.

To sum up:

Love = Deep emotional bond.

Romance = Passionate gestures and emotional excitement.

Lust = Physical attraction and sexual desire.

They can all overlap but serve different purposes in relationships.

Thank you for your insightful comment! You’re absolutely right—romance is another important aspect to consider.

 

Romance adds that special spark and emotional excitement to a relationship, often through passionate gestures and actions that nurture emotional intimacy. It’s like the bridge between love and lust, combining emotional connection with thrilling, passionate moments.

To sum up:

 

Love: Deep emotional bond, trust, and mutual support.

Romance: Passionate gestures and emotional excitement that enhance intimacy.

Lust: Physical attraction and sexual desire.

 

They can indeed overlap and complement each other, each playing a unique role in relationships. Thanks for highlighting this distinction!

[Eddie Adrika]

6 hours ago, egal said:

i suppose it wld be ideal if both parties r just goin for unattached fun etc

Absolutely, if both parties are on the same page and looking for unattached fun, then it can work out well. The key is clear communication and mutual understanding to ensure that both individuals are comfortable and aware of each other’s expectations. It’s all about respecting each other’s boundaries and being honest about what you’re looking for.

[lonelyglobe]

On 10/13/2024 at 10:52 PM, egal said:

other commitments sound so fwb, lol

A legally accepted wife,  children or even grandchildren to look after,  "well I love u but we cannot be together"

[Sweetie Pie]

We all know the different meaning between love and lust.  The definition is right in the middle of a dictionary.  

The question is which one,  you give priority into a relationship.   You cannot have one without the other for sure.  Yay!!!

[Steve5380]

13 hours ago, Sweetie Pie said:

We all know the different meaning between love and lust.  The definition is right in the middle of a dictionary.  

The question is which one,  you give priority into a relationship.   You cannot have one without the other for sure.  Yay!!!

 

Don't,  don't be so sure.  If one day you become so lucky to be an octogenarian, you will discover that you can have unlimited love... without lust!

[Sweetie Pie]

18 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

 

Don't,  don't be so sure.  If one day you become so lucky to be an octogenarian, you will discover that you can have unlimited love... without lust!

I am absolutely sure!!   Your current bandwith fails to connect to members at this moment, living in the presence (not 20 - 40 years ahead of time). They are still a hot and horny hunk, hungry for pleasure, with a pulsing cock driven by high testosterone desiring more than just love and a ton of semen that is ready to be released to their partner.  It cannot be achieved with LOVE alone.   Let's hope this pointer is useful to TS too. 

[chris0452]

We have alot of good thinkers here! Yeah. Actually it sounds like NSA. But I jus wan more then NSA yet I know I can't commit to a relationship. Y. Look at Singapore vs Bangkok or taiwan. Our social norms. 

 

Someone I can romance (correct term as pointed) and be bros or buddies. Just sharing our secrets and fun. 

[Eddie Adrika]

On 10/15/2024 at 12:06 PM, Sweetie Pie said:

We all know the different meaning between love and lust.  The definition is right in the middle of a dictionary.  

The question is which one,  you give priority into a relationship.   You cannot have one without the other for sure.  Yay!!!

Absolutely, the definitions are clear, but the real challenge lies in how we prioritize them in our relationships. It’s true that both love and lust play important roles, and finding a balance between the two can be key to a fulfilling relationship. Lust can spark the initial attraction, but love is what sustains and deepens the connection over time.

 

It’s fascinating to see how different people navigate this balance. What are your thoughts on how to maintain both in a healthy relationship?

[Eddie Adrika]

9 hours ago, chris0452 said:

We have alot of good thinkers here! Yeah. Actually it sounds like NSA. But I jus wan more then NSA yet I know I can't commit to a relationship. Y. Look at Singapore vs Bangkok or taiwan. Our social norms. 

 

Someone I can romance (correct term as pointed) and be bros or buddies. Just sharing our secrets and fun. 

It’s great to see so many insightful perspectives here! I totally get where you’re coming from. Navigating the balance between wanting more than just NSA (No Strings Attached) but not being ready for a full commitment can be tricky, especially considering the different social norms in places like Singapore, Bangkok, or Taiwan.

 

Finding someone you can romance and also be buddies with, sharing secrets and having fun, sounds like a wonderful balance. It’s all about finding that special connection where both parties are on the same page and respect each other’s boundaries and desires.

[MDZY]

cheater when kenna caught, they will say: " I was attracted by him but he meant nothing to me" = Lust
                                                                      : " You are the one I love and want to spend the rest of my life with" = Love

[Steve5380]

On 10/16/2024 at 7:31 AM, Sweetie Pie said:

I am absolutely sure!!   Your current bandwith fails to connect to members at this moment, living in the presence (not 20 - 40 years ahead of time). They are still a hot and horny hunk, hungry for pleasure, with a pulsing cock driven by high testosterone desiring more than just love and a ton of semen that is ready to be released to their partner.  It cannot be achieved with LOVE alone.   Let's hope this pointer is useful to TS too. 

 

No, I am broadband, with wide bandwidth.   LUST is very clear in my mind, if not necessarily all in my pants.  

 

Lust is the expression of a biological need which is not much different from the need for food.  Those members ( 20 - 40 years behind ) can take care of their lust like they care for their hunger.  And this does not need to interfere with their love.  And you could use some more love for your fellow humans... that does not exclude octogenarians. 

[auscent]

If you still like a guys company, after 50 non sexual dates, then it is love

[Sweetie Pie]

6 hours ago, auscent said:

If you still like a guys company, after 50 non sexual dates, then it is love

WRONG! WRONG!!!!!!   You can have guys company because you are afraid to be alone and you desire a listening ears, to rants about lives and simply just that and so it may not be love but CHEMISTRY!

[Steve5380]

6 minutes ago, Sweetie Pie said:

WRONG! WRONG!!!!!!   You can have guys company because you are afraid to be alone and you desire a listening ears, to rants about lives and simply just that and so it may not be love but CHEMISTRY!

 

You simply like the concept published here by @amuse.ed,  "SYMBIOSEXUALITY", a concept of CHEMICAL psychiatry. 

[iKneadyou]

Thanks for sharing

[Malabird]

On 10/25/2024 at 11:07 AM, MDZY said:

cheater when kenna caught, they will say: " I was attracted by him but he meant nothing to me" = Lust
                                                                      : " You are the one I love and want to spend the rest of my life with" = Love

Once my ex did just that 

 

and he opened up raw as a gesture of loyalty, but a cracked cup even glued back by elephant glue is still flawed. Then we became acquaintances for another year but no more staying over at my place.

 

Emotional security is hard to remedied once breached.

[Sweetie Pie]

In my opinion,  Lust can be both dangerous and exciting.  It was like going on a risky adventure and you constantly look for new destinations to add to your excitment.  

 

Can a person love another person like a mother loving her baby that she will willing to give up her life to protect the baby?  I have my doubt. 

I believe, you LIKE-ing someone  is mistaken as LOVE.   In the gay world, the latter is more likely a LIKING rather than LOVING.  

 

I see myself as someone who has stopped purusing lust, unless it was accidental, a surprise "treat", even then it will be temporary.   I don't believe in LOVE anymore either, because it sounds too "IDEAL" in an imperfect world.

 

I am happy as long as someone DON'T HATE ME, instead of trying to please others, in order to earn their elusive LOVE which I mentioned doesn't exist in an imperfect world. 

 

If you have a different opinion, then Good Luck!

[Eddie Adrika]

1 hour ago, Sweetie Pie said:

In my opinion,  Lust can be both dangerous and exciting.  It was like going on a risky adventure and you constantly look for new destinations to add to your excitment.  

 

Can a person love another person like a mother loving her baby that she will willing to give up her life to protect the baby?  I have my doubt. 

I believe, you LIKE-ing someone  is mistaken as LOVE.   In the gay world, the latter is more likely a LIKING rather than LOVING.  

 

I see myself as someone who has stopped purusing lust, unless it was accidental, a surprise "treat", even then it will be temporary.   I don't believe in LOVE anymore either, because it sounds too "IDEAL" in an imperfect world.

 

I am happy as long as someone DON'T HATE ME, instead of trying to please others, in order to earn their elusive LOVE which I mentioned doesn't exist in an imperfect world. 

 

If you have a different opinion, then Good Luck!

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate your honesty and the depth of your perspective. It’s true that lust can be both thrilling and risky, and it often drives us to seek new and exciting experiences. However, I believe that love, while it may seem idealistic, can still exist in our imperfect world.

 

Love, in its truest form, is about deep emotional connections, mutual respect, and a desire to support and care for one another. It’s not always easy to find, and it certainly requires effort and vulnerability. But I think it’s worth striving for, even if it feels elusive at times.

 

Regarding your point about liking versus loving, I agree that the lines can sometimes blur, especially in the early stages of a relationship. However, I believe that with time and genuine effort, what starts as liking can grow into a deeper, more meaningful love.

 

It’s also important to recognize that everyone’s experiences and definitions of love and lust can vary. What matters most is finding what works for you and what makes you happy. If you find contentment in avoiding the pursuit of love and focusing on mutual respect and understanding, that’s perfectly valid.

 

Thank you again for your thoughtful comment. It’s discussions like these that help us all reflect on our own experiences and beliefs.

[juzabishanguy]

Since alot of us gays are visual creatures...well..i duno how right i am by thinking this ba...maybe just a personal pov..

 

Lust = a feeling that drives you to want to get shiokness as soon as possible to cum and den zao liao.

 

Crush = a feeling that gives you butterflies in your stomach, when that person looks at you direct in your eyes you feel super um..shy...you kind of think of the person the whole day to an extent even dreaming of the person perhaps. When his hand ever touches yours you feel as if theres a sudden jolt of electricity that goes right through your body.

 

Love = a feeling that you have for someone you've known for maybe a long time...you wanna do your best to always make the person happy at the expense of your own happiness perhaps...even if the person has maybe gotten disfigured due to an accident perhaps you still find him attractive...

 

I duno i might be wrong....

[Steve5380]

On 11/14/2024 at 4:20 AM, Sweetie Pie said:

 

I am happy as long as someone DON'T HATE ME, instead of trying to please others, in order to earn their elusive LOVE which I mentioned doesn't exist in an imperfect world. 

 

If you have a different opinion, then Good Luck!

 

Be assured that NO ONE HATES YOU HERE.  We have disagreed on multiple occasions, but this didn't create any hate, instead often lead to amusement.  😄

 

Even if you don't try to please others,  when love arises without even trying,  you won't TRY to please the object of your love,  you will WANT to please him, and even enjoy doing it.