Eddie Adrika Posted October 17 Report Share Posted October 17 Hey everyone, I wanted to share some thoughts on the stereotypes surrounding tops and bottoms in the LGBTQ+ community. It’s important to recognize that these stereotypes can be limiting and don’t reflect the diversity of real people’s experiences. Here are a few key points to consider: 1 Stereotypes Are Limiting: The idea that tops must be masculine and bottoms must be feminine is just a stereotype. People are complex and can’t be neatly categorized based on their sexual roles. 2 Gender Expression vs. Sexual Role: Gender expression (how someone presents themselves, like being masculine or feminine) is different from sexual roles (like being a top or bottom). A person’s mannerisms, voice, or appearance don’t determine their sexual preferences. 3 Individual Differences: There are many tops who might be more feminine and bottoms who are more masculine. These roles are about personal preference and comfort, not about fitting into a specific mold. 4 Breaking Down Stereotypes: It’s important to challenge these stereotypes by recognizing and respecting the individuality of each person. Encouraging open and honest conversations can help break down these harmful stereotypes and promote a more inclusive understanding of LGBTQ+ identities. Let’s all strive to understand and respect each other’s unique identities and preferences. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted October 17 Report Share Posted October 17 1 hour ago, Eddie Adrika said: Hey everyone, Let’s all strive to understand and respect each other’s unique identities and preferences. I second this. It goes without saying! I think that one false stereotyping is the idea that all gays are tops or bottoms, or both. This cannot be determined to begin with, since no one knows "all gays". There is a more silent type of gays who are neither tops nor bottoms, because they don't practice anal sex. I am one of them. This does not mean that we stay away from sex,... OH NO! It means that there are plenty of sexual acts between gays which are not anal. I am not even sure if a gay raised without knowledge of anal sex would ever come to the idea of a cock entering an anus..., and together with other gays ignorant of anal sex he would find satisfaction in a lot of non-anal sex. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eddie Adrika Posted October 17 Author Report Share Posted October 17 47 minutes ago, Steve5380 said: I second this. It goes without saying! I think that one false stereotyping is the idea that all gays are tops or bottoms, or both. This cannot be determined to begin with, since no one knows "all gays". There is a more silent type of gays who are neither tops nor bottoms, because they don't practice anal sex. I am one of them. This does not mean that we stay away from sex,... OH NO! It means that there are plenty of sexual acts between gays which are not anal. I am not even sure if a gay raised without knowledge of anal sex would ever come to the idea of a cock entering an anus..., and together with other gays ignorant of anal sex he would find satisfaction in a lot of non-anal sex. Thank you so much for your thoughtful response! I completely agree with you—it’s crucial to recognize that not all gay men fit into the categories of tops or bottoms, and that sexual roles are just one aspect of a person’s identity. Your point about the diversity of sexual practices within the gay community is so important. It’s a great reminder that intimacy and connection can take many forms beyond the stereotypes. It’s all about what feels right and comfortable for each individual. Let’s keep challenging these stereotypes and promoting a more inclusive understanding of LGBTQ+ identities. Your perspective adds so much value to this conversation. Steve5380 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seekolderguy Posted October 17 Report Share Posted October 17 Another point i guess, Tops always have to be dominant , bottoms always have to be submissive Some tops dont like to be in charge, some bottoms like to be in charge Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eddie Adrika Posted October 17 Author Report Share Posted October 17 1 hour ago, seekolderguy said: Another point i guess, Tops always have to be dominant , bottoms always have to be submissive Some tops dont like to be in charge, some bottoms like to be in charge Thank you for bringing that up! You’re absolutely right—another common stereotype is that tops must always be dominant and bottoms must always be submissive. This isn’t necessarily true and can be quite limiting. Just as you mentioned, some tops might not enjoy being in charge all the time, and some bottoms might prefer to take the lead. It’s all about personal preferences and what feels right for each individual. By acknowledging these nuances, we can further break down these stereotypes and promote a more inclusive and understanding community. Let’s continue to celebrate the diversity within our experiences and support each other’s unique identities. seekolderguy 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
feilyxnixx Posted October 17 Report Share Posted October 17 reminds me of 1 old twitter/X post that i did , and my caption was... Weird...i can be a dom btm and screw the tops updownleftrightcentre. 🤨 seekolderguy and Cube3 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eddie Adrika Posted October 17 Author Report Share Posted October 17 13 minutes ago, feilyxnixx said: reminds me of 1 old twitter/X post that i did , and my caption was... Weird...i can be a dom btm and screw the tops updownleftrightcentre. 🤨 Power lah you! 👌🏽 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MasterFitMalaySG4U Posted October 17 Report Share Posted October 17 No point....pink dot also divided haha tackle that first... People will still choose RACE, Physique, COCK, Education & Appearance (style) So yet again PREFERENCEs..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eddie Adrika Posted October 17 Author Report Share Posted October 17 1 hour ago, MasterFitMalaySG4U said: No point....pink dot also divided haha tackle that first... People will still choose RACE, Physique, COCK, Education & Appearance (style) So yet again PREFERENCEs..... Thank you for sharing your perspective. I understand that preferences and divisions can exist within any community, including the LGBTQ+ community. However, the goal of my post is to encourage a more inclusive and understanding approach to these topics. While preferences in race, physique, and other attributes are personal and valid, it’s important to recognize that stereotypes can still be harmful. By challenging these stereotypes, we can create a more accepting environment where everyone feels valued for who they are, beyond just their physical or social attributes. It’s also worth noting that communities like Pink Dot are working towards greater unity and acceptance, even if there are still divisions. Progress often comes in small steps, and every effort to promote understanding and inclusivity counts. Let’s continue to have these conversations and work towards a more inclusive community together. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leanmeat Posted October 18 Report Share Posted October 18 (edited) Stereotypes? Reminds me of a guy here whom I ask if he likes getting rim, the reply was he is top. Haaa... As if I got ask to fuck. Edited October 18 by Leanmeat Eddie Adrika 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seekolderguy Posted Friday at 05:07 PM Report Share Posted Friday at 05:07 PM 15 hours ago, Leanmeat said: Stereotypes? Reminds me of a guy here whom I ask if he likes getting rim, the reply was he is top. Haaa... As if I got ask to fuck. many tops love to be rimmed also hehe Eddie Adrika 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bluerunner Posted Saturday at 07:09 AM Report Share Posted Saturday at 07:09 AM 14 hours ago, seekolderguy said: many tops love to be rimmed also hehe Shhhhh!!!! Not so loud. Hehe HC-B, seekolderguy and doncoin 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seekolderguy Posted Saturday at 07:11 AM Report Share Posted Saturday at 07:11 AM 1 minute ago, bluerunner said: Shhhhh!!!! Not so loud. Hehe should be louder so the bottoms no need to feel shy to ask if the tops love to be rimmed also tops dont need to feel shy to get rimmed it is just preference matter bluerunner 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bluerunner Posted Saturday at 12:13 PM Report Share Posted Saturday at 12:13 PM 5 hours ago, seekolderguy said: should be louder so the bottoms no need to feel shy to ask if the tops love to be rimmed also tops dont need to feel shy to get rimmed it is just preference matter Agree. It’s all about ‘face’ issue. (面子的问题） seekolderguy 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seekolderguy Posted Saturday at 01:24 PM Report Share Posted Saturday at 01:24 PM 1 hour ago, bluerunner said: Agree. It’s all about ‘face’ issue. (面子的问题） yeah.. joking here- well bottom face will be buried and couldnt see the tops... so why still face issues?haha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doncoin Posted Saturday at 05:46 PM Report Share Posted Saturday at 05:46 PM 5 hours ago, bluerunner said: Agree. It’s all about ‘face’ issue. (面子的问题） Well, it is strange to think of it as a face issue, when I have the bottom guy sitting on my face while my tongue work his perky pink hole. I enjoy being a top, but it doesn't mean that i dont enjoy being rimmed every so often as it is an erogenous zone regardless of sexual roles. Quote Love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seekolderguy Posted Sunday at 12:39 AM Report Share Posted Sunday at 12:39 AM 6 hours ago, doncoin said: Well, it is strange to think of it as a face issue, when I have the bottom guy sitting on my face while my tongue work his perky pink hole. I enjoy being a top, but it doesn't mean that i dont enjoy being rimmed every so often as it is an erogenous zone regardless of sexual roles. yeah agree haha and i always think of this is a good way of converting a so called straight to gay and make them believe they are a bottom HAHA i believe most of the men love to be rimmed (not sure about women since i am gay LOL) so once they are being rimmed and enjoyed it.... thats the time of persuading haha (always have this in my thought- i know i sounds bad or maybe crazy or so but yeah hehe.... it is what it is) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leanmeat Posted Sunday at 02:49 AM Report Share Posted Sunday at 02:49 AM (edited) Most tops don't like getting rim Don't know how to simply say no when they don't like. Have to end w "I am top". Super boring reply. Edited Sunday at 02:53 AM by Leanmeat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iKneadyou Posted Sunday at 03:51 AM Report Share Posted Sunday at 03:51 AM One interesting topic 🫣 seekolderguy 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seekolderguy Posted Sunday at 06:11 AM Report Share Posted Sunday at 06:11 AM 3 hours ago, Leanmeat said: Most tops don't like getting rim Don't know how to simply say no when they don't like. Have to end w "I am top". Super boring reply. they should say i am pure top instead of top tho haha (only strictly/pure top wouldnt allow anyone/anything get close to the hole- from my observation and so called definition) top still okay with that as long as not getting penetrated Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leanmeat Posted Sunday at 06:56 AM Report Share Posted Sunday at 06:56 AM (edited) 3 hours ago, seekolderguy said: they should say i am pure top instead of top tho haha (only strictly/pure top wouldnt allow anyone/anything get close to the hole- from my observation and so called definition) top still okay with that as long as not getting penetrated Top or pure top all shouldnt be so rigid. Pure top also can get rim. Pure top therefore don't get rim is also a stupid reply. Edited Sunday at 09:47 AM by Leanmeat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
radiusulnar Posted Sunday at 09:51 AM Report Share Posted Sunday at 09:51 AM Let's all not get hung up over labels Starwal and seekolderguy 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seekolderguy Posted Sunday at 11:03 AM Report Share Posted Sunday at 11:03 AM 4 hours ago, Leanmeat said: Top or pure top all shouldnt be so rigid. Pure top also can get rim. Pure top therefore don't get rim is also a stupid reply. oh yeah thats for sure and fair enough easy and straight answer for that is... i dont like to be rimmed 😆 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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