Finally, an end to exy wedding banquets

[FattChoy]

For decades couples have blindly paid for obscenely expensive wedding banquets.  These only benefits restaurant operators as they persuade people to join and continue the hype.  Recently there's news Chinese couples are having wedding banquets in hotpot restaurants and fast food chains.  I'm glad people finally come to their senses and stop paying so much for something which should be joyous. 

 

*People are also smarting up about the highly unnecessarily, elaborate and costly funeral ceremonies are these days.  These types of service industries needs a kick up their behinds.

 

https://www.scmp.com/news/people-culture/article/3282277/cash-conscious-china-couples-host-fast-food-nuptials-mcdonalds-and-haidilao-hotpot-chain

[Steve5380]

I am totally in agreement!  Two more industries that profit from the pride of individuals TO BE something in society.. for a day!   Shouldn't a wedding be a private event, instead of satisfying a wasteful urge of attention?  And we all know perfectly well that a splendid funeral does NOTHING for the diseased!

[egal]

will couples here do the same or will they save face

[FattChoy]

9 hours ago, egal said:

will couples here do the same or will they save face

Just to get it done at the registrar and announce on social media will do.  

[Thegreatestshowman]

It should be a meal with close friends or relatives. To be honest I wouldn’t know 90% of the relatives if I ever had a normal wedding dinner.

[FattChoy]

Do you think wedding banquets =  scam by wedding related businesses?  

Used to hear friends with, "haiz this month have 4 weddings to go to.  Pokai liow"

[Strange Fruit]

All the recent Chinese weddings I have been to have been boring affairs, with the exception of one which was saved by the fact the bride knew almost my entire close gay circle of friends here so really it was like our usual hangout but we were all nicely dressed. Everything else was basically the predictable insufficient starter of appetisers and ending with mediocre ee fu noodles and Chinese dessert. And total amnesia for Whatever happened in between. Malay and Indian weddings by contrast at least have some life to them, that sense of occasion and ‘re nao’ that the Chinese population seems to have lost entirely. The problem is most Chinese pay so much for their wedding package that they are forced to recoup the initial outlay by inviting an extended list of people they don’t care to see and haven’t seen for years. The couple looks stressed, the in-laws look stressed, the flowers are poorly-chosen, the younger female cousins are sitting at the reception table instructed to open the angpows discreetly to tally up the collection. It’s almost indistinguishable from going to Singapore Casket, and I suppose in a way, something has definitely died that day. I welcome the day I can pay twenty dollars to attend a Chinese wedding. 

Edited Saturday at 11:49 PM by Strange Fruit

[radiusulnar]

It is indeed very expensive nowadays. Always have heart palpitations if invited.

[benedict5856]

If its expensive, do it at void deck.

 

To each their own.

After all, its only once a lifetime.

 

If getting married can be legalised, i would wanna invite many ppl to my wedding at expensive hotel.

[FattChoy]

8 hours ago, benedict5856 said:

If its expensive, do it at void deck.

 

To each their own.

After all, its only once a lifetime.

 

If getting married can be legalised, i would wanna invite many ppl to my wedding at expensive hotel.

 

That's good to hear.  Better if you can tell guests they don't have to pay or gift anything.  And don't bore them.  Wondering how u keep 200 ppl engaged in your wedding.

[Steve5380]

8 hours ago, FattChoy said:

 

That's good to hear.  Better if you can tell guests they don't have to pay or gift anything.  And don't bore them.  Wondering how u keep 200 ppl engaged in your wedding.

 

This is a good idea.  To invite desirable guests, specifying that they should not bring any gifts or pay, to celebrate the wedding in a modest place with good food.

[Thegreatestshowman]

The worst thing is some friends I have think wedding dinner is a chance to earn money. Ridiculous. 

[IcarusCQC]

It is like that. Wedding planners like to sell those expensive packages that goes over your means and expect those in attendance will be able to cover that expense and maybe earn back a tidy sum in the process. So they just go all out and throw those red bombs to everyone, regardless of if they are friends or not. They don't understand however that, that red bomb don't guarantee attendance nor money. I would therefore advise, red bomb or no, if the person giving that red bomb isn't even a close friend, don't go and don't even give ang pow.

[singalion]

In Malaysia for many years already weddings took place at homes or maybe with some catering on tents built up on the street at the house of the family.

Only few super rich celebrated lavishly at 5 star hotels in KL or other cities.

 

The new trend could be also a sign of the huge unemployment with young people in China. A lot of the 20s are having difficulties in finding suitable jobs, therefore

money might not be as affluent as previously. And without any job, who wants to get into huge debts for a wedding celebration.

 

Taking up a loan for celebrating a wedding has never been a good idea. But it is maybe in Asia something of this "not losing face" thing as you don't want to look awkward in front of your friends and relatives. The show must go on.

 

Anyhow, for attending such wedding banquets the invited paid with money (5 star hotel in Singapore 200 - 300 as red packet content) is common.

 

Even in Singapore there are alternatives in rented places outside of hotels or some restaurant banquet rooms.

However, I am not sure whether there are caterers who specialise for wedding celebrations in such locations.

 

But McDonalds or fast food chains?  No way, if this is the value you apply to the wedding...

 

There was never any need to get into debts if you were smart and rejected this putting on a show to your relatives or friends.

 

 

[IcarusCQC]

it's usually the parents that wants these dog and pony shows. The brides just goes along and want everything to be "perfect" and beautify so they go for the fanciest of places and then go through all the hoo haa to get it down to a T and couple bears the blunt of the financial hit for years to come.

 

And then a few years later, you attend their weddings with their new partners in a more scaled down ceremony.

Edited 23 hours ago by IcarusCQC

[auscent]

I empower myself: I stopped going to all weddings 10 years ago unless both are such close friends who know Im gay.