Doraemon69 Posted October 23 Report Share Posted October 23 I’m not sure if there was a similar thread around but…maybe just a rant. i get that everyone has a preference but it’s really kinda rude to agree to an exchange, then ghost the other party when you first see his photos…. I mean you can really just fulfill the exchange then reject the person. i get that some people are discreet but what makes them think that the other party is not? It is common on apps but such behaviour is one of the toxic behaviour really makes our community felt unfriendly? ….what are your thoughts? gtlife64, BbtChiBoi, cycle25 and 1 other 2 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sensnip Posted October 23 Report Share Posted October 23 And that is precisely why nowadays I made it very clear in all my profile pages that I’m not exchanging or providing any face pics. Take it or leave it, non negotiable. Anybody who can’t accept that, go ahead and block me. No loss to me as far as I’m concerned. JusteMoi and Eddie Adrika 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eddie Adrika Posted October 23 Report Share Posted October 23 (edited) I completely understand your frustration. It’s really disheartening when someone agrees to exchange photos and then disappears without a word. This kind of behavior can indeed feel very rude and dismissive. You’re right that everyone has their preferences, but there’s a respectful way to handle things. If someone isn’t interested after seeing a photo, they could at least have the courtesy to communicate that instead of ghosting. It’s about basic respect and decency. I also get your point about discretion. Just because someone is discreet doesn’t mean they should assume the other person isn’t. Mutual respect and understanding are key, especially in our community where trust and safety are so important. Edited October 23 by Eddie Adrika calvt and gtlife64 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eddie Adrika Posted October 23 Report Share Posted October 23 47 minutes ago, sensnip said: And that is precisely why nowadays I made it very clear in all my profile pages that I’m not exchanging or providing any face pics. Take it or leave it, non negotiable. Anybody who can’t accept that, go ahead and block me. No loss to me as far as I’m concerned. It’s great that you’ve set clear boundaries on your profile. Being upfront about not exchanging face pics is a good way to filter out those who might not respect your preferences. It’s their loss if they can’t accept that. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. It’s important to talk about these issues and support each other in creating a more respectful and friendly community. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cutejack Posted October 23 Report Share Posted October 23 I wonder why gays has to be discreet as though we r criminals. Then why request for pic n go missing when each and every gay prefer to be discreet. In the first place, I notice the person who says this play u out too when coming to exchange pic. Everyone is doing it to me. So no point starting this topic in the first place. My point of view. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eddie Adrika Posted October 23 Report Share Posted October 23 5 minutes ago, cutejack said: I wonder why gays has to be discreet as though we r criminals. Then why request for pic n go missing when each and every gay prefer to be discreet. In the first place, I notice the person who says this play u out too when coming to exchange pic. Everyone is doing it to me. So no point starting this topic in the first place. My point of view. I understand your frustration. It’s unfortunate that many people in the LGBTQ+ community feel the need to be discreet due to societal pressures and fear of judgment. This often leads to situations where people request pictures but then disappear, which can be very disheartening. However, it’s important to remember that everyone has their own reasons for being discreet, and it might not always be about playing someone out. Some might be dealing with their own fears and insecurities. That said, it’s definitely frustrating when someone doesn’t reciprocate after asking for something. It might help to set clear boundaries and communicate your expectations upfront. If someone isn’t willing to meet those expectations, it might be best to move on and find connections that respect your needs and boundaries. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yoyo74 Posted November 4 Report Share Posted November 4 Ghosting itself is a fail personality. Be grateful that he ghost you so you wont have to deal with his fail personality later. I have no time to play with hide and seek personality. I show my face and body pic in my profile so that those who dont like it dont need to waste my time talking to me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
egal Posted November 10 Report Share Posted November 10 i find it rude n uncalled for karma will hit them Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ManlyBearBtm Posted November 18 Report Share Posted November 18 Guys if you share and they don’t, I take it that they are freaking ugly or are liars or don’t have confidence in themselves to show their face . Count ourselves lucky . Better than showing a fake pic right ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doncoin Posted November 24 Report Share Posted November 24 Part of it is the closet mentality. Everyone is so afraid to be outed. BbtChiBoi and GKS 2 Quote Love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doraemon69 Posted December 15 Author Report Share Posted December 15 On 11/25/2024 at 3:03 AM, doncoin said: Part of it is the closet mentality. Everyone is so afraid to be outed. I can understand that part and i am sure most of us are still in the closet that is why the hidden face pic. but if one agrees to exchange, shouldn’t the other have the mutual trust to keep each others secrecy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doncoin Posted December 16 Report Share Posted December 16 On 12/15/2024 at 2:28 AM, Doraemon69 said: I can understand that part and i am sure most of us are still in the closet that is why the hidden face pic. but if one agrees to exchange, shouldn’t the other have the mutual trust to keep each others secrecy. Yes, however, some people don't respect a gentlemen's agreement, due to some imagined fear that by revealing themselves, their lives are going to become their worst case scenario. Quote Love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GayNomad Posted Saturday at 02:00 PM Report Share Posted Saturday at 02:00 PM This is common. Happen to me all the time. But it's ok. What goes around, comes around. I consider it a blessing that these type of ppl disappear from my life. I rather date someone who has good manners and are considerate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EastSgDad Posted Sunday at 01:03 AM Report Share Posted Sunday at 01:03 AM (edited) On 10/23/2024 at 1:12 PM, Doraemon69 said: I’m not sure if there was a similar thread around but…maybe just a rant. i get that everyone has a preference but it’s really kinda rude to agree to an exchange, then ghost the other party when you first see his photos…. I mean you can really just fulfill the exchange then reject the person. i get that some people are discreet but what makes them think that the other party is not? It is common on apps but such behaviour is one of the toxic behaviour really makes our community felt unfriendly? ….what are your thoughts? Totally agree. That's why I always don't encourage pic exchange in the first few chats. If he is unhappy and very insistent, then I would politely end the conversation. (so be it) If the other guy is genuine in making friends / LTR / NSA regular, he should be able to understand my principle. If otherwise, then there no point sustaining such chat (further). Genuine sincere guys will not be pushy insisting on exchanging pic. If other party requests to exchange pic, he should make the initial move (and not say, you are older and you should send first.) it does not work for me. Tol bad! In the event there is a mutual exchange in pic, if each party is NOT interested, just drop a text. Don't GHOST! (basic courtesy ... being an an adult guy.) No time-wasting. Life goes on! That's my 2-cent worth of sharing. 😄 Edited Sunday at 01:08 AM by EastSgDad Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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