Why do Married Men Like to Act Straight?

[Ignatius93]

Hi guys I wan to know isit a normal to have married men like to cover up things that you straight and not married isit cause of the wife or isit cause is a nature thing that guys like to pa.chu Cheng I don't get it eventually... discreet please share ✌️some knowledge cause knowledge is key to understand this ..

[doncoin]

I assume that married men like to act straight because they got to serve hetero realness. 

[Ignatius93]

Like to act they like girls but sometimes they like ply guys 

[Ignatius93]

33 minutes ago, doncoin said:

I assume that married men like to act straight because they got to serve hetero realness. 

I know wht u mean 

[egal]

do u expect them to act gay

[cbm]

I think you need to rephrase your question. In Singapore context, only hetero couples can get married. That means that in general,  married men are straight; they don't need to act. 

 

If you are referring to married men who play with other men, they like both women and men. They are bisexual. They don't need to act straight. They are both straight and gay.

 

If you are referring to situation where gay men who are married to women, there must be alot going on inside their minds that they decided to do this. Acting straight is probably something they have been doing all their whole lives, a facade that they feel that they must keep up. There might not be a switch than they can just turn off and start acting gay instead of acting straight.

[Ignatius93]

Ops thanks fr the rephrase 

 

 

[Sweetie Pie]

There are many straight sissy-acting men out there.  Be careful, and don't assume every sissy-acting man is gay.   My colleague is one of them, my ex-boss is another, and so is my sissy school lecturer who are all married and have children.   In fact, most people don't need to act "straight" or act "sissy", unless you are a loud, colorful and bitchy drama queen yearning for world attention.

Edited November 23 by Sweetie Pie

[IcarusCQC]

10 minutes ago, Sweetie Pie said:

There are many straight sissy-acting men out there.  Be careful, and don't assume every sissy-acting man is gay.   My colleague is one of them, my ex-boss is another, and so is my sissy school lecturer who are all married and have children.   In fact, most people don't need to act "straight" or act "sissy", unless you are a loud, colorful and bitchy drama queen yearning for world attention.

Actually, I wouldn't call these straight men, sissy. More like soft. Indeed, that soft demeanor don't always mean gay. Especially if that's how they have been behaving growing up.

[Steve5380]

On 11/22/2024 at 8:35 AM, Ignatius93 said:

Hi guys I wan to know isit a normal to have married men like to cover up things that you straight and not married isit cause of the wife or isit cause is a nature thing that guys like to pa.chu Cheng I don't get it eventually... discreet please share ✌️some knowledge cause knowledge is key to understand this ..

 

Our sexual orientation does not necessarily have to reflect in our attitudes.   At least not in adulthood.  We gays can be shy as children, but we can overcome this as an adult. Same with being sissy, this is more easily correctable if we want to.  So, a gay does not need to look and act "gay".  In the same way, a straight can be aggressive, bullying as a child, also able to change in adulthood.  A real manly man won't have any problem behaving in a kind way. 

 

The ideal for us men is to act in a neutral way,  not too soft, not too hard, so our orientation is not revealed until we go for sex.    And for us gays, it is favorable to learn a martial art, so that we avoid getting intimidated but we have and show self esteem. 

[Sweetie Pie]

On 11/23/2024 at 11:08 PM, Steve5380 said:

 

The ideal for us men is to act in a neutral way,

I'm not an actor. I would rather live a harmless and polite normal existence and I don't need others approval. 

Edited November 25 by Sweetie Pie

[GachiMuchi]

On 11/22/2024 at 10:35 PM, Ignatius93 said:

Hi guys I wan to know isit a normal to have married men like to cover up things that you straight and not married isit cause of the wife or isit cause is a nature thing that guys like to pa.chu Cheng I don't get it eventually... discreet please share ✌️some knowledge cause knowledge is key to understand this ..

 

Most gay men (including Bi/married) living in Asia, would be very cautious about behaving very gayish, because many are brough up in str8 families who may or may not accept that their son is gay.  For those fortunate few with more accepting families who can accept their sons who are gay, They are the lucky one.

For those who are in the closet and who knows they are gay at a young age and did not want to get married. They will have to hide their gayness from their familes/friends, etc. So they are very cautious to let people know they are gay.
As for those who only realsed that they are gay after they got married will behave differently that those who knows they are gay when they are younger. They have to continue to play the str8 acting role in front of their families / friends / colleagues, etc. and lead double lives.

 

I had shared that I once met a guy in Shogun that told me after sex, that he had to go back to Indonesia to get married for his family. I met him agan a year later and he was married and had a kid. Which he left in Indonesia.  

I also met a ex school mate who was married in the sauna who told me that the was there to explore his other side which was kept hidden.

Then I also met this married man, who did not know that he liked men until he after he had a family.

 

All these men, be it bi or gay, likes men, but cannot let the str8 family knows that they are gay, otherwise their world would collapse around them.

I also know married men who had divored their wifes and are now living with their partners.

 

 

So the answer your the question. Why do married men like to act str8.
They have a lot to lose if those married gay men are caught to have gay sex or that they are found out to be gay in disguise as str8 with a family.

So, like it or not, they will have to "ACT" behave like a str8 (no effeminate mannerism) no matter what. It is a defense mechanism. They don't want to be redicue by others or be put under the microscope and gets all kind of gossip or bullied by people. etc.

 

 

 

Edited November 25 by GachiMuchi

[Steve5380]

14 hours ago, Sweetie Pie said:

I'm not an actor. I would rather live a harmless and polite normal existence and I don't need others approval. 

 

When we are integrated into society we learn to act in many different ways, and this is how we become potty trained,  walk straight, stop fighting, show respect, etc. 

 

9 hours ago, GachiMuchi said:

 

So the answer you the question. Why do married men like to act str8.
They have a lot to lose if those married gay men are caught to have gay sex or that they are found out to be gay in disguise as str8 with a family.

So, like it or not, they will have to "ACT" behave like a str8 (no effeminate mannerism) no matter what. It is a defense mechanism. They don't want to be redicue by others or be put under the microscope and gets all kind of gossip or bullied by people. etc.

 

 

Is there a need to act str8 or gay?  Aside from our sexual life, can we just act "normal", like any male is supposed to act?  If we are not immersed in the "gay scene", what would force us to act with effeminate mannerism?  And even if this is the case,  cannot we act "normal" when we are outside this scene?

[cutejack]

Refer to the topic, don't say married men la..even singles act str8 too. I don't mind if they act str8 but the most annoying n irritating is when these guys toooooo discreet and keep shhhh to keep their identity in closet..whatever we ask the reply is all secret n don't tell anyone. Somehow when they swirl n twirl, the entire world can see la. What is there to hide. Just be yourself n die peacefully.

[cutejack]

15 hours ago, GachiMuchi said:

 

Most gay men (including Bi/married) living in Asia, would be very cautious about behaving very gayish, because many are brough up in str8 families who may or may not accept that their son is gay.  For those fortunate few with more accepting families who can accept their sons who are gay, They are the lucky one.

For those who are in the closet and who knows they are gay at a young age and did not want to get married. They will have to hide their gayness from their familes/friends, etc. So they are very cautious to let people know they are gay.
As for those who only realsed that they are gay after they got married will behave differently that those who knows they are gay when they are younger. They have to continue to play the str8 acting role in front of their families / friends / colleagues, etc. and lead double lives.

 

I had shared that I once met a guy in Shogun that told me after sex, that he had to go back to Indonesia to get married for his family. I met him agan a year later and he was married and had a kid. Which he left in Indonesia.  

I also met a ex school mate who was married in the sauna who told me that the was there to explore his other side which was kept hidden.

Then I also met this married man, who did not know that he liked men until he after he had a family.

 

All these men, be it bi or gay, likes men, but cannot let the str8 family knows that they are gay, otherwise their world would collapse around them.

I also know married men who had divored their wifes and are now living with their partners.

 

 

So the answer your the question. Why do married men like to act str8.
They have a lot to lose if those married gay men are caught to have gay sex or that they are found out to be gay in disguise as str8 with a family.

So, like it or not, they will have to "ACT" behave like a str8 (no effeminate mannerism) no matter what. It is a defense mechanism. They don't want to be redicue by others or be put under the microscope and gets all kind of gossip or bullied by people. etc.

 

 

 

U lucky lor, GM.

So , u get to fuck the married Indonesian man again after a year?

 

[Gobal100]

Need to be careful not to let other found out double life. 

[Sweetie Pie]

8 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

 

When we are integrated into society we learn to act in many different ways, and this is how we become potty trained,  walk straight, stop fighting, show respect, etc. 

 

Here, we are discussing sexually gendered practices.  Nothing to do with the society basic manners that can be taught in the classroom.

8 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

 

Is there a need to act str8 or gay? 

Absolutely not,  unless you are a openly and offensively "DRAMA".

 

 

[Steve5380]

11 hours ago, Sweetie Pie said:

Here, we are discussing sexually gendered practices.  Nothing to do with the society basic manners that can be taught in the classroom.

Absolutely not,  unless you are a openly and offensively "DRAMA".

 

 

 

Shouldn't the gay scene deal also with "society basic manners"?    A society that is open minded?   Maybe one day including a course in homosexuality??

 

And why should openly and offensive DRAMA be a necessity ever?