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On 4/16/2025 at 8:50 PM, Derren said:

What are good fields to enter in mid career? 

 

To answer your question would exceed the storage capacity of BW.   In general, at mid career we should benefit from experience before losing value to obsolescence and loss of functionality.

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Haha, doesn't have to be an exhaustive list of answers, some suggestions will be enough.


with such a (possibly) long life ahead of us, we really need to think and plan how we want to spend it, lest it becomes a living torture. 
 

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21 hours ago, Derren said:


with such a (possibly) long life ahead of us, we really need to think and plan how we want to spend it, lest it becomes a living torture. 
 

 

No matter how we plan to live our possibly long life,  life IS a living torture for all living creatures, and we are no exception.  We just need to have strong shoulders to support the tortures of life and let the blessings of life come through.  :) 

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1 minute ago, Steve5380 said:

 

No matter how we plan to live our possibly long life,  life IS a living torture for all living creatures, and we are no exception.  We just need to have strong shoulders to support the tortures of life and let the blessings of life come through.  :) 


Some tortures are worse than others. Let's do what we can to alleviate the suffering.

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13 minutes ago, Derren said:

I am also seeking a new direction for mid life. So far, no fresh insight has turned up and the feeling of being stuck can feel like a black hole with no end in sight.

 

Think of those Buddhist monks who spend their lives meditating and cultivating detachment.  Their lives are no less well lived!  In mid life we can be open to new intellectual directions if we keep our brain sharp with a good lifestyle.  And we can also be open to new physical directions if we cultivate and exercise the body to remain fully functional.  If so, we can let time pass and don't need to despair if new directions trickle in slowly. 

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1 hour ago, Steve5380 said:

 

Think of those Buddhist monks who spend their lives meditating and cultivating detachment.  Their lives are no less well lived!  In mid life we can be open to new intellectual directions if we keep our brain sharp with a good lifestyle.  And we can also be open to new physical directions if we cultivate and exercise the body to remain fully functional.  If so, we can let time pass and don't need to despair if new directions trickle in slowly. 

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Indeed, the mind is the source of the unnecessary suffering. Need to cultivate the mind. 

Yes, I will continue to work towards a healthier and functional body. 

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4 hours ago, Derren said:

 

that's good to know. i thought hospital healthcare to be very long hours, tedious work and low pay. 


I supposed everyone’s expectations of pay for mid-career change jobs are different. What surprises me is that all have stayed & seem to enjoy it.  Maybe it is because the work of helping others seek recovery improves the mental health & brought a new meaning to work. And I believe we know the hours of work & job satisfaction do not come hand in hand.

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14 hours ago, Derren said:

 

need to acquire the skill, many years of experience to fine tune it too.

 

And for f&b,  the best sector is our own nutrition, for our best health.   To work in f&b and other service sectors is fine to make a living.  But it could be better to apply our mind to more skillful undertakings to create, to make, to produce something useful.

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I was going through mid-life & mid-career crisis some years back. Having been in the same industry for 24 years, I was sick of it. I spent quite some time thinking what to do, not wanting to take too big a paycut & not wanting something that is too stressful or long hours.
Unconsciously, 2-years just went by & during the Covid lockdown period, I sank into depression. In the end, I just randomly applied for a job that is in the same industry but different domain.  Thankfully, I got the job with a 3% paycut.  I have stayed in my current company for 2-years. It is not what I  am seeking but it has helped to keep me mentally challenged & pay the bills while considering other options.

Sometimes, if we do not know what we want,  it may be better to just jump into it & find out, else we never know. 

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