sphere Posted February 26 Report Share Posted February 26 ‘Got aura & can get chicken rice auntie to give them more chicken’: Redditors share what makes a guy charismatic in S’pore One netizen says it boils down to confidence, humour, and being able to carry a conversation 'outside of NS and mobile games'. By Gary Yang - 25 Feb 2025, 11:41 am Redditors share what makes a guy charismatic in Singapore Charisma—some guys have it, some guys don’t, and some are still figuring out whether talking about National Service (NS) and mobile games counts as personality. “Is it confidence, humour, social skills, or something else?” the OP further asked, inviting others to chip in. Posted on 21 Feb, the thread quickly took off, drawing hundreds of responses from netizens debating what really makes someone stand out in a crowd—or at least, keep a conversation going for more than five minutes. Netizens say charisma comes down to talking the talk One of the top-voted comments highlighted conversational ability as a major factor, with a user writing: “Confidence, sense of humour, open mindedness, can carry a conversation outside of NS and mobile games.” Source: Reddit Another Redditor agreed, sharing a humorous personal anecdote about how his sister once dated a guy who struggled to make conversation with her Malaysian father—who had never served in National Service (NS). In an awkward attempt to connect, the guy opened the conversation with: “Uncle, last time you what unit one?” Source: Reddit However, some users defended younger guys who mostly talk about NS and gaming, with one commenter asking: “What else is an 18-year-old supposed to talk about? Politics, world views, or Build-To-Order (BTO) flats?” Source: Reddit “Aura” & wealth also play a role For some, charisma isn’t just about what you say, but rather an indefinable aura that naturally draws people in. One user summed it up perfectly: Looks have no value if a guy can’t carry a conversation. Source: Reddit Another playfully suggested that true charisma is when even chicken rice aunties find you charming! Source: Reddit Of course, money also made the list, with one Redditor joking that wealth instantly boosts charisma—especially when it comes with a Rolex and expensive gifts. Source: Reddit [source: here] Quote Happy - is what we should be, always. Notice: I DO NOT use the Chat Function in this Forum - this has always been written in my profile (and I don't read it too). {it is unfortunate that this new Chat Function does not allow users to turn/switch off in mobile phone} Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sphere Posted February 26 Author Report Share Posted February 26 I suppose this topic should be just each and everyone's own perspective of a charismatic guy. Personally, I think a charismatic guy is one who is socially aware (good EQ) and able to carry on a conversation with a certain degree of humour. He also displays confidence and shows respect for others (and self) without being seen as arrogance. [and in 'our circle', should have a certain degree of looks (not necessary super good looking kind), that exhibits that bit of manliness too, haha] How about you guys, what makes a charismatic guy in your eyes? Haha. ziurtis, anxiousfriedtofu, Leisure and 1 other 3 1 Quote Happy - is what we should be, always. Notice: I DO NOT use the Chat Function in this Forum - this has always been written in my profile (and I don't read it too). {it is unfortunate that this new Chat Function does not allow users to turn/switch off in mobile phone} Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
egal Posted February 26 Report Share Posted February 26 a sexy bod like urs, lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonelyglobe Posted February 27 Report Share Posted February 27 11 hours ago, egal said: a sexy bod like urs, lol Ya, that face and body don't need to talk or give more, give free also can 🤣 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Thatguy642 Posted February 27 Popular Post Report Share Posted February 27 I find that a lot of Singaporean guys shy away from speaking to foreigners, which is not super helpful to up anyone’s charisma. I think charisma is being worldly, looking beyond the meagre differences between them and other people, and treating everyone equally and with respect, not because they are subservient, but because they’re confident enough to believe in themselves and their own self-worth, while simultaneously also believing in the worth of everyone else and not being threatened by them. Truly charismatic people make you feel special, but really they make (almost) everyone they come across feel special. mate69, anxiousfriedtofu, youdoyou and 3 others 3 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Balestier Posted February 27 Report Share Posted February 27 Common on ... Food drinks they like, nearby places to visit , estates etc ... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
egal Posted February 27 Report Share Posted February 27 eighteen should have some world view think greta Thatguy642 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thatguy642 Posted February 28 Report Share Posted February 28 12 hours ago, egal said: eighteen should have some world view think greta Unfortunately from what I can see in SG’s case (and in the case of many people who grew up in cultures where grades were super important) a lot of teenagers/young adults spend so much time studying, and not educating themselves on global affairs or just on their own hobbies that we get a lot of adults who have nothing to say. I don’t fully blame them, but I’ve met 18 year olds both in SG and from other places who can hold an amazing conversation with people of any age. 18 is a lot of time to form opinions, etc. but sadly our education system doesn’t promote that, so you get a lot of people who didn’t get to ‘grow up’ normally. youdoyou 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
egal Posted February 28 Report Share Posted February 28 i think it depends on the school tht they go to n the company they mix with like u said, some r pretty good; a stressful system created by a stressful education system by stressful teachers n stressful parents creatig stressful kids who later become stressful teachers n stressful parents u see the pattern Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
radiusulnar Posted February 28 Report Share Posted February 28 It's hard to describe or explain. That's why it's often described as the X factor Balestier 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doncoin Posted Friday at 08:06 PM Report Share Posted Friday at 08:06 PM It's the whole package. Per RuPaul, Charisma Uniqueness Nerve Talent Quote Love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
youdoyou Posted Saturday at 11:03 PM Report Share Posted Saturday at 11:03 PM On 3/1/2025 at 12:25 AM, egal said: i think it depends on the school tht they go to n the company they mix with like u said, some r pretty good; a stressful system created by a stressful education system by stressful teachers n stressful parents creatig stressful kids who later become stressful teachers n stressful parents u see the pattern I wonder though if we use the environment we’re in as a punching bag for everything. I’m sure a stressful environment isn’t unique to Singapore. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Balestier Posted yesterday at 01:36 AM Report Share Posted yesterday at 01:36 AM 2 hours ago, youdoyou said: I wonder though if we use the environment we’re in as a punching bag for everything. I’m sure a stressful environment isn’t unique to Singapore. I think it's individual. Some ppl are just introvert. People are also into social media and use of icons and short forms that they forgot how to communicate on a casual setting. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Startup Posted 19 hours ago Report Share Posted 19 hours ago I think we don't need go too far to talk about charismatic guys in Singapore. Let's talk about charismatic gays in this forum here instead. It's closer to all of us here. Let's not even talk about being charismatic. It may be unattainable for most of us. Let's start by looking at qualities that are more achievable such as being kind, gracious or respectful. If you are one of those who chat around, it would not take you long to realize that graciousness is a scarce commodity here. Good conversations are rare here. And the ability to end a conversation graciously is even rarer. Of course I remember some of the nice conversations I have had recently. Like one guy who shared with me about intermittent fast and that actually got me started cos I agree that it's beneficial for my health. Now I am 52 so many people upon knowing my age either stop responding or just reply curtly saying they are not interested. I am always surprised when some young chap actually wanted to chat. And they are usually different from others in the sense that they are open and if it's not something they seek, we are still able to have a pleasant conversation. Like one young chap who just shared about his NS experiences. We talked about things we enjoy and some perspective on life. Not every chat has to be about seeking fun. Not every interaction has to have an agenda. Sometimes even when nothing much comes of the chat, you feel a sense of warmth having connected at a certain level. A charismatic guy is someone who knows how to smell the roses, not just plucking the roses to put in his vase. There has to be a certain openness towards life. But to get there, we need to learn to practice kindness, graciousness and even respect for one another. We don't always need to get something from another, such as sexual pleasure. We can start to think about how to enrich each other by becoming better people together. It doesn't have to be lofty. Start by not blocking someone who is not your type. Start by learning to end a conversation graciously. Start small and simple. Steve5380 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Why? Posted 19 hours ago Report Share Posted 19 hours ago (edited) I saw a Charismatic guy this morning, but he never brushed his teeth and when he yawned I entered into a fright and flight mode. Edited 19 hours ago by Why? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
murano Posted 18 hours ago Report Share Posted 18 hours ago Must also be able to talk about a certain religion, property, stocks, cars in Singaporean English Steve5380 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Why? Posted 14 hours ago Report Share Posted 14 hours ago 4 hours ago, murano said: Must also be able to talk about a certain religion, property, stocks, cars in Singaporean English I would rather have a loving gaze and a quiet whisper of nothingness than someone who talks nonstop about worldly news and verges on oversharing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
egal Posted 12 hours ago Report Share Posted 12 hours ago cars as in coe lol as for environment as punching bag, mayb here is a bit more extreme not as extreme as jp or kr or cn, but here it is like no good grades, u r a loser. not getting good job with high paying salary, loserr Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted 6 hours ago Report Share Posted 6 hours ago 12 hours ago, Why? said: I saw a Charismatic guy this morning, but he never brushed his teeth and when he yawned I entered into a fright and flight mode. You should not have any problem with charismatic gays at this site, because... because the Internet has trouble attaching odors to their messages. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
egal Posted 6 hours ago Report Share Posted 6 hours ago cosmopolitan site? lol, thts pathetic anyway back to the subject do yall find multilingual guys charismatic lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FattChoy Posted 5 hours ago Report Share Posted 5 hours ago https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1KetGmGo3z/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
youdoyou Posted 3 hours ago Report Share Posted 3 hours ago 8 hours ago, egal said: cars as in coe lol as for environment as punching bag, mayb here is a bit more extreme not as extreme as jp or kr or cn, but here it is like no good grades, u r a loser. not getting good job with high paying salary, loserr Maybe the national psyche has a role in this after all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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