kidster Posted yesterday at 02:58 AM Report Share Posted yesterday at 02:58 AM (edited) Have you ever missed getting into a relationship with someone whom you deeply regretted till today? It could you were not ready yet or still want to have fun? He was close to your ideal but has a few minor shortcomings that you chose to mind. Eg. A bit fat or having body hair or accent... On hind sight, things that you shouldn't have said or done and should have said or done. Right person, wrong timing... Edited yesterday at 05:40 AM by kidster Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
friskyfright Posted yesterday at 03:52 AM Report Share Posted yesterday at 03:52 AM i wouldnt say i deeply regretted but i do think of the what ifs, i think back then i wasnt that serious. im ngl he was someone i could vibe and talk to, tall dark masculine humorous but at that point in time i dk why i rejected him, maybe it was some sort of punishment for him leaving me in the dark for a while. i shouldve communicated that about it but maybe it's for the best Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
repressednerd Posted yesterday at 04:50 AM Report Share Posted yesterday at 04:50 AM As ChatGPT quoted me, "right person, wrong timing is still the wrong person", so no regrets! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SunPlaza Posted yesterday at 05:21 AM Report Share Posted yesterday at 05:21 AM Lots of time is about we imagine or hope what that person is but they were never that person I painted him to be (vice versa). Slowly conflict will surface out of no where and we make rush decisions ran away from it. Yes, “what if” I reacted differently will it have the outcome I dream of? To carrying on our life, we have to tell ourself Right person Wrong timing…. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yhtang Posted yesterday at 05:24 AM Report Share Posted yesterday at 05:24 AM 33 minutes ago, repressednerd said: As ChatGPT quoted me, "right person, wrong timing is still the wrong person", so no regrets! ChatGPT has a point there. I am totally and shamelessly stealing that line. 😁 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
notd Posted yesterday at 05:48 AM Report Share Posted yesterday at 05:48 AM Likewise. Don't think I've met anyone that's made me gone "The one that got away," but there were two connections I regret passing up on, for valid reasons. First is a Canadian French daddy I met 2 years back on Grindr. Met at his AirBnB that year, had great conversations, got physical. Foreplay was amazing. He made me feel safe, and it was definitely one the best sexual chemistries I've ever had. He dropped hints about fucking the next time I came around, but I never did, and he was respectful about it. He returned to Vietnam after spending 3 months in KL, and we're still in close touch with one another to this day. Occasionally, we'll text each other to let the other know we're thinking about them. Very average-looking Joe, but incredibly charming and self-assured. No-frills, just a man leading an average who happens to be gay. The other times he was in town, he was too sick to get physical. Outside sexual compatibility, our personalities seem to go well. He understands my need for freedom and personal space, respects and validates my choices without question, is supportive of my life decisions that having deep conversations with him always feels incredibly light and easy. I did confess that I think about us in a relationship a few times, and he reciprocated by saying he felt the same, but was quick to maintain his stance on LDR. Second dude is someone I met here who had the decency of planning a foreplay session 3-5 months ahead. Private messaged me and very respectfully asked if I was keen to hook up when he's in town. I said let's discuss the possibility when he gets here. He never forgot his promise, and we did meet up. Things didn't get physical however, and we spent the night chatting in his hotel suite instead. Realized we have a lot in common, and we're still chatting to this day. We were both physically attracted to one another though I was going through some personal issues that prevented me from exploring any sexual connections with anyone else. But it was nice to be in his arms. He's incredibly demure and reserved, but makes his attraction to me known. Also rather established and stable as an individual. He's definitely someone I see myself dating long-term and entering a relationship. Alas, he's in SG and I have no plans to uproot my life, no matter the distance. Interestingly enough, both are, or will be in town soon. I'm meeting the second guy soon, while the daddy has recently extended his stay in KL by 2 additional months. I guess a meet up is underway. mate69 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thatguy642 Posted yesterday at 06:11 AM Report Share Posted yesterday at 06:11 AM Honestly I think if I meet someone and it all makes sense, I would be ready to go further. But as it stands right now, I unfortunately haven’t met a gay/bi man I could see myself spending my life with. I’m also quite introverted frankly and I’ve always preferred to do things alone, save for some friends who I truly love, but who are straight. If I meet someone with the same type of chemistry + sexual chemistry who I’m very attracted to then I’d be fully open to it, but I also don’t really believe in monogamy so… jcboy18 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Why? Posted yesterday at 06:59 AM Report Share Posted yesterday at 06:59 AM (edited) I am still figuring out my new found religion, so I am not ready for sex, even if I met the right person at the right time. I waited until eventually other priorities took over, such as concentrating on improving my health, which is neither sexual or religious, and I forgot all about relationships. The right person couldn't wait any longer and then ran away. I feel him but there is always new priorities in life that tend to destract me, but was it my fault? Edited yesterday at 07:01 AM by Why? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wanton_mee Posted 5 hours ago Report Share Posted 5 hours ago I am always the one who knocks on person's door. Well...face slammed by the door.😁 Maybe I am just plain ugly, no built no height, no talent. 🤣 Quote 风没有形状，风骚才有！💋 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
feilyxnixx Posted 5 hours ago Report Share Posted 5 hours ago 15 minutes ago, wanton_mee said: I am always the one who knocks on person's door. Well...face slammed by the door.😁 Maybe I am just plain ugly, no built no height, no talent. 🤣 yay im also in the 2nd sentence! hi-5! 🤩 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wanton_mee Posted 5 hours ago Report Share Posted 5 hours ago 17 minutes ago, feilyxnixx said: yay im also in the 2nd sentence! hi-5! 🤩 From pain to numb liao huh? Haha Quote 风没有形状，风骚才有！💋 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
feilyxnixx Posted 4 hours ago Report Share Posted 4 hours ago 1 minute ago, wanton_mee said: From pain to numb liao huh? Haha yea numb liao. actually for me...来来去去 , its actually a ridiculously simple cycle. 1. improve urself. next few points , just ask urself yes or no. dont need explain , just strictly yes or no. 2. are u ok (not good ah , just ok only) with ur present situation? if no , go back step 1. if yes , proceed. 3. do u think u have the conditions (regardless of whatever it is) to even try and attract guys? if no , go back step 1. if yes , proceed. 4. do u get occasional compliments (regardless of whatever it is) from REAL LIFE ppl anywhere? if no , go back step 1. if yes , proceed. 5. do u have guys that comes up to u and saying ur actually not that bad? (regardless of whatever it is). if no , go back step 1. if yes , then ur actually fine. simple eh? 🤭😇 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wanton_mee Posted 4 hours ago Report Share Posted 4 hours ago I am always on step 1. Non stop and slowly improving myself, more for my own good. Quote 风没有形状，风骚才有！💋 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
feilyxnixx Posted 4 hours ago Report Share Posted 4 hours ago at step 1 nvm but cannot be permenantly there what. got move downwards anot? if have then still ok la 😉 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wanton_mee Posted 4 hours ago Report Share Posted 4 hours ago Downwards? I think ..not significant😁 Quote 风没有形状，风骚才有！💋 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
feilyxnixx Posted 4 hours ago Report Share Posted 4 hours ago ....u dont kns 🤣 but u get what i mean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wanton_mee Posted 3 hours ago Report Share Posted 3 hours ago 😶🌫️ Quote 风没有形状，风骚才有！💋 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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