milodinosaur91 Posted Saturday at 03:42 PM Report Share Posted Saturday at 03:42 PM If your ex ask u not to message them after the breakup and they message u to ask how are u after a few months. Do u still reply? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jushiing Posted Saturday at 03:54 PM Report Share Posted Saturday at 03:54 PM depends on how the breakup went and how the rs was before I think Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kimochi Posted Saturday at 03:54 PM Report Share Posted Saturday at 03:54 PM You love him? Who started the breakup? Whose the one at fault? Do you want to reply? Do you deserve to reply? Do he deserve to be replied? Do you think can be salvaged? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted Saturday at 06:12 PM Report Share Posted Saturday at 06:12 PM On 4/12/2025 at 3:42 PM, milodinosaur91 said: If your ex ask u not to message them after the breakup and they message u to ask how are u after a few months. Do u still reply? Expand Strong feelings like anger, disillusion, need some time to abate. The good feelings that they temporarily replaced may still be there... and may surge again. This can happen when the strong anger of one of the partners is not addressed but it causes the anger of the other party. In a relationship, the anger of one of the parties should be recognized as valid and not dismissed as "you get angry for nothing", and the cause investigated and if possible corrected. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GachiMuchi Posted Saturday at 07:00 PM Report Share Posted Saturday at 07:00 PM On 4/12/2025 at 3:42 PM, milodinosaur91 said: If your ex ask u not to message them after the breakup and they message u to ask how are u after a few months. Do u still reply? Expand How many exes do you have and why all of them asked you to message them after they broke off with you? I presume you guys had amicable break offs? Not the drama break offs? I don't see any harm in replying them unless you still want to stay as friends with them. If you were hurt by the break off, then I would advise you, just close the chapter and move on. Quote http://gachimuchi2008.blogspot.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted Sunday at 01:09 AM Report Share Posted Sunday at 01:09 AM On 4/12/2025 at 7:00 PM, GachiMuchi said: How many exes do you have and why all of them asked you to message them after they broke off with you? I presume you guys had amicable break offs? Not the drama break offs? I don't see any harm in replying them unless you still want to stay as friends with them. If you were hurt by the break off, then I would advise you, just close the chapter and move on. Expand It could be that he uses the plural for "ex" not because he has many exes, but because he is addressing us, an audience of many gays, therefore our possible exes. He can ignore the message from his ex and move on, but there may not be any inconvenience in answering to him. Every case can be different. And one can give a second chance. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Why? Posted Sunday at 06:49 AM Report Share Posted Sunday at 06:49 AM On 4/12/2025 at 3:42 PM, milodinosaur91 said: If your ex ask u not to message him after the breakup and they message u. Do u still reply? Expand Abso-fucking-lutely NOT!!! Visiting Wombat and milodinosaur91 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
egal Posted Sunday at 10:51 AM Report Share Posted Sunday at 10:51 AM sur y not as friends milodinosaur91 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlifBttm Posted Sunday at 11:37 PM Report Share Posted Sunday at 11:37 PM On 4/12/2025 at 3:42 PM, milodinosaur91 said: If your ex ask u not to message them after the breakup and they message u to ask how are u after a few months. Do u still reply? Expand For me personally, yes the rules still applies. In the first place, you are the one who say not to message after breakup but afterall, decision is in your own hand. We can give you advice but the one who do it is you 👍 milodinosaur91 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sgwildfire18 Posted yesterday at 03:26 AM Report Share Posted yesterday at 03:26 AM On 4/12/2025 at 3:42 PM, milodinosaur91 said: If your ex ask u not to message them after the breakup and they message u to ask how are u after a few months. Do u still reply? Expand Yes .. 一夜夫妻百日恩 .. meaning .. a night of marriage (or in gay context .. a night of relationship), a 100 days of bond milodinosaur91 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
feilyxnixx Posted yesterday at 03:35 AM Report Share Posted yesterday at 03:35 AM still in frequent contact with my exes that asked me not to msg them but came back texting me. for context. amicably broke up after talking thru shits , and is they texted me first. its human nature to 旧情念念不忘 if the relationship had happy moments. just take it easy. if u feel like replying then reply , if not then just bluetick him. no need to involve hate or dislikes. 😃 milodinosaur91 and naked_boi 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
milodinosaur91 Posted 13 hours ago Author Report Share Posted 13 hours ago Thanks all for the advice. for context, I put “they” means 1 person not so much as all of them, wanted to seek general advice I think the relationship was okay until I feel disrespected by the action made by the other party. But I got dismissed by my own feelings. eventually got tired of speaking and it’s only when I mention break up then it kinda bring the attention to them that I am serious about what I mentioned I do understand that sometimes it’s hard to empathize the other person’s and they say they will change. deep down I know it’s hard for someone to change unless they understand the situation and not change for the seek of changing. I ended up angry and tired and left. However I also feel bad that the other person’s have to handle the aftermath as well. Texting them back helps them but I will have to open up my own “trama” again. Hence I’m a bit lost Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sgwildfire18 Posted 13 hours ago Report Share Posted 13 hours ago 13 hours ago, milodinosaur91 said: Thanks all for the advice. for context, I put “they” means 1 person not so much as all of them, wanted to seek general advice I think the relationship was okay until I feel disrespected by the action made by the other party. But I got dismissed by my own feelings. eventually got tired of speaking and it’s only when I mention break up then it kinda bring the attention to them that I am serious about what I mentioned I do understand that sometimes it’s hard to empathize the other person’s and they say they will change. deep down I know it’s hard for someone to change unless they understand the situation and not change for the seek of changing. I ended up angry and tired and left. However I also feel bad that the other person’s have to handle the aftermath as well. Texting them back helps them but I will have to open up my own “trama” again. Hence I’m a bit lost Expand What doesn't kill you makes you stronger Steve5380 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted 42 minutes ago Report Share Posted 42 minutes ago 13 hours ago, milodinosaur91 said: Thanks all for the advice. --- I ended up angry and tired and left. However I also feel bad that the other person’s have to handle the aftermath as well. Texting them back helps them but I will have to open up my own “trama” again. Hence I’m a bit lost Expand The previous post "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger" makes some sense. Have you evaluated if "opening up your own trauma" would be a loss or a gain? Could you at least end up with less of a trauma? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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