milodinosaur91 Posted April 12 Report Share Posted April 12 If your ex ask u not to message them after the breakup and they message u to ask how are u after a few months. Do u still reply? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jushiing Posted April 12 Report Share Posted April 12 depends on how the breakup went and how the rs was before I think milodinosaur91 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kimochi Posted April 12 Report Share Posted April 12 You love him? Who started the breakup? Whose the one at fault? Do you want to reply? Do you deserve to reply? Do he deserve to be replied? Do you think can be salvaged? milodinosaur91 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted April 12 Report Share Posted April 12 On 4/12/2025 at 3:42 PM, milodinosaur91 said: If your ex ask u not to message them after the breakup and they message u to ask how are u after a few months. Do u still reply? Expand Strong feelings like anger, disillusion, need some time to abate. The good feelings that they temporarily replaced may still be there... and may surge again. This can happen when the strong anger of one of the partners is not addressed but it causes the anger of the other party. In a relationship, the anger of one of the parties should be recognized as valid and not dismissed as "you get angry for nothing", and the cause investigated and if possible corrected. milodinosaur91 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GachiMuchi Posted April 12 Report Share Posted April 12 On 4/12/2025 at 3:42 PM, milodinosaur91 said: If your ex ask u not to message them after the breakup and they message u to ask how are u after a few months. Do u still reply? Expand How many exes do you have and why all of them asked you to message them after they broke off with you? I presume you guys had amicable break offs? Not the drama break offs? I don't see any harm in replying them unless you still want to stay as friends with them. If you were hurt by the break off, then I would advise you, just close the chapter and move on. milodinosaur91 1 Quote http://gachimuchi2008.blogspot.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted April 13 Report Share Posted April 13 On 4/12/2025 at 7:00 PM, GachiMuchi said: How many exes do you have and why all of them asked you to message them after they broke off with you? I presume you guys had amicable break offs? Not the drama break offs? I don't see any harm in replying them unless you still want to stay as friends with them. If you were hurt by the break off, then I would advise you, just close the chapter and move on. Expand It could be that he uses the plural for "ex" not because he has many exes, but because he is addressing us, an audience of many gays, therefore our possible exes. He can ignore the message from his ex and move on, but there may not be any inconvenience in answering to him. Every case can be different. And one can give a second chance. milodinosaur91 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Why? Posted April 13 Report Share Posted April 13 On 4/12/2025 at 3:42 PM, milodinosaur91 said: If your ex ask u not to message him after the breakup and they message u. Do u still reply? Expand Abso-fucking-lutely NOT!!! milodinosaur91 and Visiting Wombat 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
egal Posted April 13 Report Share Posted April 13 sur y not as friends milodinosaur91 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlifBttm Posted April 13 Report Share Posted April 13 On 4/12/2025 at 3:42 PM, milodinosaur91 said: If your ex ask u not to message them after the breakup and they message u to ask how are u after a few months. Do u still reply? Expand For me personally, yes the rules still applies. In the first place, you are the one who say not to message after breakup but afterall, decision is in your own hand. We can give you advice but the one who do it is you 👍 milodinosaur91 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sgwildfire18 Posted April 14 Report Share Posted April 14 On 4/12/2025 at 3:42 PM, milodinosaur91 said: If your ex ask u not to message them after the breakup and they message u to ask how are u after a few months. Do u still reply? Expand Yes .. 一夜夫妻百日恩 .. meaning .. a night of marriage (or in gay context .. a night of relationship), a 100 days of bond milodinosaur91 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
feilyxnixx Posted April 14 Report Share Posted April 14 still in frequent contact with my exes that asked me not to msg them but came back texting me. for context. amicably broke up after talking thru shits , and is they texted me first. its human nature to 旧情念念不忘 if the relationship had happy moments. just take it easy. if u feel like replying then reply , if not then just bluetick him. no need to involve hate or dislikes. 😃 naked_boi and milodinosaur91 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
milodinosaur91 Posted April 15 Author Report Share Posted April 15 Thanks all for the advice. for context, I put “they” means 1 person not so much as all of them, wanted to seek general advice I think the relationship was okay until I feel disrespected by the action made by the other party. But I got dismissed by my own feelings. eventually got tired of speaking and it’s only when I mention break up then it kinda bring the attention to them that I am serious about what I mentioned I do understand that sometimes it’s hard to empathize the other person’s and they say they will change. deep down I know it’s hard for someone to change unless they understand the situation and not change for the seek of changing. I ended up angry and tired and left. However I also feel bad that the other person’s have to handle the aftermath as well. Texting them back helps them but I will have to open up my own “trama” again. Hence I’m a bit lost Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sgwildfire18 Posted April 15 Report Share Posted April 15 On 4/15/2025 at 5:50 AM, milodinosaur91 said: Thanks all for the advice. for context, I put “they” means 1 person not so much as all of them, wanted to seek general advice I think the relationship was okay until I feel disrespected by the action made by the other party. But I got dismissed by my own feelings. eventually got tired of speaking and it’s only when I mention break up then it kinda bring the attention to them that I am serious about what I mentioned I do understand that sometimes it’s hard to empathize the other person’s and they say they will change. deep down I know it’s hard for someone to change unless they understand the situation and not change for the seek of changing. I ended up angry and tired and left. However I also feel bad that the other person’s have to handle the aftermath as well. Texting them back helps them but I will have to open up my own “trama” again. Hence I’m a bit lost Expand What doesn't kill you makes you stronger Steve5380 and milodinosaur91 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted April 15 Report Share Posted April 15 On 4/15/2025 at 5:50 AM, milodinosaur91 said: Thanks all for the advice. --- I ended up angry and tired and left. However I also feel bad that the other person’s have to handle the aftermath as well. Texting them back helps them but I will have to open up my own “trama” again. Hence I’m a bit lost Expand The previous post "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger" makes some sense. Have you evaluated if "opening up your own trauma" would be a loss or a gain? Could you at least end up with less of a trauma? milodinosaur91 and sgwildfire18 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
milodinosaur91 Posted Wednesday at 12:34 PM Author Report Share Posted Wednesday at 12:34 PM That is true. Gain to face it but i forsee its gonna be a never ending pull and push and end goal is still to go separately kind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
innocense Posted Thursday at 01:43 AM Report Share Posted Thursday at 01:43 AM I'll reply if I'm still single and I still like him, me and my current bf on and off until lost count already. milodinosaur91 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kidster Posted Thursday at 03:21 PM Report Share Posted Thursday at 03:21 PM It's not easy for two persons to come together even though the relationship is short-lived. If no one has done each other wrong but broke up because of character differences, I would want to keep the friendship going. Who knows you both of you might fall for each other again years later after going through life. The same two persons but more mature in character and know what they want in a relationship. milodinosaur91 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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