Guest tryingnottomind Posted March 30, 2009 Report Share Posted March 30, 2009 I think it means a lot of trouble to be in the bad books of someone popular, especially someone who has almost the same passion with you. Imagine you being an avid gymmer, you trained hard to get a great physique, to keep a happy and healthy lifestyle, to look presentable in your clothes and of course, to shag bodies of similar physiques if possible. But when things turned sour after some misunderstanding, you get banished into the big hole. Everyone shuns you like you are a HIV carrier. Your ONS dates never response after one fxxk. Your online profile remains dormant for months. You get friends telling you rumours that you have a "bad reputation". You sleep with young impressionable hunks who cannot get over the guy.Does it mean that the "popular" guy is the best person to hang out with? What about some1 who is genuine, daring and straightforward? What has happened to the gracious society? God knows how much I try to avoid being associated with him. Whether it is his gym buddy or his bf(who asked for sex so many times) or his friends on his friendster profile.... is this the end of my lifestyle? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest whatisimportant Posted March 30, 2009 Report Share Posted March 30, 2009 It should always be tough to be in anyone's bad books, not just the "popular" guy.Yes, so you work out and hang with a crowd that has similar interests, you're proud of your physical appearance and you choose to associate with beefy bodies, you engage in ONS and you love hanging out with Mr. Popular - the chosen "lifestyle".Perhaps it may be wiser to look beyond the physical and choose friends based on who they are, like people for what they are. Depending on how you view the rest of the world and people in general, there are lots of popular people out there. People who are liked by many for the person that they have become or for the person that they aim to be.So don't see see it negatively as "an end to a lifestyle", see it as a positive change to a new life that is not just based on style! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest tryingnottomind Posted March 30, 2009 Report Share Posted March 30, 2009 I am glad to have down to earth friends who do not bother about such rumours and they take me for whom I am.But whenever I meet someone gorgeous and hot, I would hesitate in knowing him further because he might be in the end turned his back towards me after being in the "popular" circle...There are lots of gay people who are too impressionable.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest slayer Posted March 30, 2009 Report Share Posted March 30, 2009 Firstly, if your social life revolves around the gym like that, I think you are a very sad one who is frequently seeking for approval. Secondly, if your friends are like a switch who can turn themselves on and off JUST LIKE THAT with regards to frienship, then you should ask whether are they really your friends to begin with?Get a life because there is more to life than gym and shagging the next best thing to you that comes along. You sound like a shallow halle and worry about trivial stuff too much. Trivial to a point where it doesn't even register on the seismic scale. Pluck your head out of the sand and look at the bigger things in life. There is a reason I almost stopped socialising with the gay gym crowd is because of incidents like these. All that muah-muah ooh la la and the "look at him, why he dress like that" is just so sickeningly superficial it is revolting. If this doesn't give us gay people a bad rep, I don't kow what can. GET A LIFE. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest tryingnottomind Posted March 30, 2009 Report Share Posted March 30, 2009 Is this the only solution you can give? To change my training so that I can get a life?It has nothing to do with my training or time spent in the gym...It is a matter of changing the gossipy habits and naive nature of gay people... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Spiritual Posted March 30, 2009 Report Share Posted March 30, 2009 I think it means a lot of trouble to be in the bad books of someone popular, especially someone who has almost the same passion with you.My dearest thread starter, do not fret about losing popularity or being written in bad books or black book. Many people, in some way, were being blacklisted by others for convenient reason. This could also happen in the office, among our neighbours and at worst our own relatives. The deciding factor, is whether you are willing to come out of your dilemma and cast away your feelings of self-importance and avoid constantly think how other people will look or think at you. Why not put back the meaning of self-worth to reassess your capability, your virtue and what you can do for yourselves and not for others. The transient of popularity create fears for losing it and subsequent high price to pay to maintain it. So why worried when you are thrown out of the battle which may not necessarily be a bad things afterall, or more likely a blessing in disguise....As the chinese saying goes: 塞翁失马,焉知非福. :thumb: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest psychobitch Posted March 30, 2009 Report Share Posted March 30, 2009 why so drama Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jt8 Posted March 30, 2009 Report Share Posted March 30, 2009 Aiyo..stop being SHALOW.... be down to earth n truthful to yourself...be who you are... :clap: who cares what others say. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LupCheong Posted March 30, 2009 Report Share Posted March 30, 2009 It is impossible to make everyone happy with the choices we make. If you worry about getting everyone's approval, you'd never get anywhere. You'd be right where they some of them want you to be. If you're not following your heart and achieving your dreams, well, that would be just fine with them!What Others Think of You is None of Your Business! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Baddhu Posted March 30, 2009 Report Share Posted March 30, 2009 I think it means a lot of trouble to be in the bad books of someone popular, especially someone who has almost the same passion with you. Imagine you being an avid gymmer, you trained hard to get a great physique, to keep a happy and healthy lifestyle, to look presentable in your clothes and of course, to shag bodies of similar physiques if possible. But when things turned sour after some misunderstanding, you get banished into the big hole. Everyone shuns you like you are a HIV carrier. Your ONS dates never response after one fxxk. Your online profile remains dormant for months. You get friends telling you rumours that you have a "bad reputation". You sleep with young impressionable hunks who cannot get over the guy.Does it mean that the "popular" guy is the best person to hang out with? What about some1 who is genuine, daring and straightforward? What has happened to the gracious society? God knows how much I try to avoid being associated with him. Whether it is his gym buddy or his bf(who asked for sex so many times) or his friends on his friendster profile.... is this the end of my lifestyle? iIsn't this phenomena obvious to everybody, it is known in Buddhist circles as Pao ying or retribution. Karma catches up with you sooner or later , for some is later for you is now.It is good to work out your karma, better than to let it accumulate karmic points and come as a one nig tsunami of a retribution.You have rejected lesser mortals int the past, now it is karma showing you how it feels to be ostracised adn rejected.It hurts right.Take it in a positive way, everyone has to pay their Karmic dues. For some it is sooner than later. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
koolkai Posted March 30, 2009 Report Share Posted March 30, 2009 Does it mean that the "popular" guy is the best person to hang out with? What about some1 who is genuine, daring and straightforward? What has happened to the gracious society? God knows how much I try to avoid being associated with him. Whether it is his gym buddy or his bf(who asked for sex so many times) or his friends on his friendster profile.... is this the end of my lifestyle?Just start your life afresh. Such lifestyle is transient. It wont last. Better to hang out with normal looking guys and free from all these stress and pressure. What is so great about hanging with the most popular or glamorous guy? Life has to go on. Being gay is already not that easy, so just move on with your life Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alex10 Posted March 31, 2009 Report Share Posted March 31, 2009 Just start your life afresh. Such lifestyle is transient. It wont last. Better to hang out with normal looking guys and free from all these stress and pressure. What is so great about hanging with the most popular or glamorous guy? Life has to go on. Being gay is already not that easy, so just move on with your life Totally agree. As for me, I refrain myself from cultivating strong friendship with aj gymmers although I am myself one of them. However, my closest friends are those normal looks and bodies, who will be there for me rather than juz saying hello in gym. For most of the cases, people who look less gorgeous will have less attitude. However, I do treat everyone whole-hearted and so far, I receive positive response. cheers, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest tryingnottomind Posted March 31, 2009 Report Share Posted March 31, 2009 Thanks guys for reassuring me that it's not me, but them...You are right, not much loss either...Karma? Does writing such posts concerning karma add "points" to your life? Perhaps not.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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