Anal Bleeding After Sex + Painful Anal Sex + How To Enter Bottom So He Not Pain Or Bleed? + Side Effects of Anal Sex (compiled)

[Guest Guest]

24 minutes ago, Lester01 said:

No matter how I try to relax during anal, it still hurts as hell. Sadly, I just could not get pleasure in it. Finally decided to No anal fun. 

Lubricants not enough?

[Lester01]

Just now, Guest Guest said:

Lubricants not enough?

There were lubricants but it's painful when it's inside (More specially when there is thrusting) . The feeling when your going to poop. Not pleasurable for me. haha

[Guest Btmm]

21 hours ago, Guest Guest said:

Difficult to fake if really feel painful or feel shiok when got penetrated. Unless you are a porn actor then maybe can fake.

I did fake it before.

A few times after I was royally screwed till my hole is already gaping, the next fb called and I had to be fucked again within the next few hours.

I cleaned and dried myself but I'm still loose. Really had to keep reminding myself to keep squeezing my butts together while he's fingering me and preparing me for penetration. Then when he started penetrating, I whine and cry like a virgin.  Most times easily got away with it. Haha.

 

But twice I was caught acting. That's because the previously fucked me fb already told him about us. Then when I was acting like so painful, he stopped and pretend to sayang me. Then he rimmed my hole. I relax and let myself loose. He asked me why my hole is so swollen and puffy. I exaggerate and he lagi exaggerate. I of course denied and only admit that I'm a loose bottom. But nowadays with mobile phones so convenient, he called the fucker and they all laughed at my acting. I was played out. He said 2nd hand hole he don't mind but at least not so obvious. Got fucked until like that still want more sex so slutty. My hole so loose, he can call another top to double dragon fuck me. I was so angry, I told them to fuck themselves.

[Snapplejacked]

Make sure it's not early signs of hemorrhoids... If you're the kind that like to exert when taking a dump, you are going to experience discomfort like crazy. It's not necessarily because the tool is too big...

[Guest Paul21]

Until today, my hole is still sore. I met a this guy from sg that I met from here. His cock is so huge and it was my first time.

[Guest gabriel]

had two very painful anal that i refused to entertain any more. Both i sweated profusely and totally no enjoyment. my cock even became small and limp. First attempt was incomplete cos i told the guy not to move his body when he almost entered fully.  Second attempt was a rape because that guy refused to let go but kept pumping knowing that i was trapped in a no noise or you'd be caught environment. There''s bleeding even.  All these because i tried to please the two handsome hunks.  Then i found my solution.  Look for handsome but with slim small cocks. Huh..my cock erected while i was being fucked!  so nice!  However problem again -- not many small cocks around.

[Pause]

Yea, anyone has more tips? Why is there an excruciating pain when insert, it feels like nothing could move further in and its so cramped n painful. Anyone also feels this way but did it successfully?

[doncoin]

9 minutes ago, Pause said:

Yea, anyone has more tips? Why is there an excruciating pain when insert, it feels like nothing could move further in and its so cramped n painful. Anyone also feels this way but did it successfully?

 

Nope. You can pop a panadol or some pain reliver in before sex to help ease the pain. Every possible technique has already been discussed to death on how to relax and enjoy anal sex. However, sex is about pleasure, so if you're in pain, then you should stop and do something else. 

[cutejack]

On Friday, September 09, 2016 at 0:18 PM, Guest Btmm said:

I did fake it before.

A few times after I was royally screwed till my hole is already gaping, the next fb called and I had to be fucked again within the next few hours.

I cleaned and dried myself but I'm still loose. Really had to keep reminding myself to keep squeezing my butts together while he's fingering me and preparing me for penetration. Then when he started penetrating, I whine and cry like a virgin.  Most times easily got away with it. Haha.

 

But twice I was caught acting. That's because the previously fucked me fb already told him about us. Then when I was acting like so painful, he stopped and pretend to sayang me. Then he rimmed my hole. I relax and let myself loose. He asked me why my hole is so swollen and puffy. I exaggerate and he lagi exaggerate. I of course denied and only admit that I'm a loose bottom. But nowadays with mobile phones so convenient, he called the fucker and they all laughed at my acting. I was played out. He said 2nd hand hole he don't mind but at least not so obvious. Got fucked until like that still want more sex so slutty. My hole so loose, he can call another top to double dragon fuck me. I was so angry, I told them to fuck themselves.

Hahahaha.nice.n funny.

[cutejack]

6 hours ago, Pause said:

Yea, anyone has more tips? Why is there an excruciating pain when insert, it feels like nothing could move further in and its so cramped n painful. Anyone also feels this way but did it successfully?

Bcoz our asshole is meant for discharge n not to enter something thru it.hmmm.well u

can try as what doncoin mentioned.more lubes n more relax.try a few attempt b4 stabbing.lolxxx 

[Pause]

Thanks cutejack and doncoin!

[Guest Guest]

16 hours ago, Guest gabriel said:

had two very painful anal that i refused to entertain any more. Both i sweated profusely and totally no enjoyment. my cock even became small and limp. First attempt was incomplete cos i told the guy not to move his body when he almost entered fully.  Second attempt was a rape because that guy refused to let go but kept pumping knowing that i was trapped in a no noise or you'd be caught environment. There''s bleeding even.  All these because i tried to please the two handsome hunks.  Then i found my solution.  Look for handsome but with slim small cocks. Huh..my cock erected while i was being fucked!  so nice!  However problem again -- not many small cocks around.

Wah, you can still entertain 2 times.

i recently just had my first anal...freaking painful and poking at the wall inside...refused at first cos he has a big dick but the guy promised to be gentle and slow......rubbish!! Once the head is in, just ram the whole thing in...fuking idiot!!

didnt stop and ram in deep somemore until he cums...totally not enjoying at all..doubt I want to try another time.

[Guest West]

On September 27, 2016 at 5:59 AM, Guest Guest said:

Wah, you can still entertain 2 times. i recently just had my first anal...freaking painful and poking at the wall inside...refused at first cos he has a big dick but the guy promised to be gentle and slow......rubbish!! Once the head is in, just ram the whole thing in...fuking idiot!! didnt stop and ram in deep somemore until he cums...totally not enjoying at all..doubt I want to try another time.

 

If in your mind you like the idea of getting fucked, I would encourage you not to give up on the idea, but instead try to find an actual considerate partner. Somebody who is just a fuck buddy might not care about you, and will not consider your well being, as he may just want to pump and dump. Rather than rushing into the sex, get to know if a guy is a patient person, and make it clear that you are new, and tight, and need a lot of preparation. Find a guy who likes to rim and finger for a long time before penetrating you. Dick size doesn't matter but foreplay, lube, and patience matter supremely.

[cutejack]

17 hours ago, Guest West said:

 

If in your mind you like the idea of getting fucked, I would encourage you not to give up on the idea, but instead try to find an actual considerate partner. Somebody who is just a fuck buddy might not care about you, and will not consider your well being, as he may just want to pump and dump. Rather than rushing into the sex, get to know if a guy is a patient person, and make it clear that you are new, and tight, and need a lot of preparation. Find a guy who likes to rim and finger for a long time before penetrating you. Dick size doesn't matter but foreplay, lube, and patience matter supremely.

Supremely sia.hahaha

Anyway well said.dont give up.later tops like me got nothing to eat.

[Guest Guest]

If anal sex is not painful then it wouldn't be called anal sex.

[Guest West]

Preparing for the first time should probably include practicing with a dildo or vibrator for a few months before actually doing the act with somebody. If you are too shy about owning sex toys, or worry that your family may discover them, maybe explain to your partner that you want to go slow before actually being penetrated. Do a few sessions where you only do foreplay like hugging, caressing, kissing, rimming, and fingering. If he is skillful, you will get comfortable with the feeling of being fingered, and soon start to crave his cock in your ass instead. Finally you will be ready for the session where he takes your virginity.

 

Of course you should also learn how to give yourself a douche or enema before you get rimmed, fingered, or penetrated. You don't want to get any of your excess shit on his tongue, fingers, or cock. Although there are a very few guys who like such a situation, the vast majority will be disgusted or lose their mood, and that would ruin the experience for both of you. Don't go too crazy with the cleaning. Just fill your ass with water and expel it a couple of times as per the instructions on the douche or enema package. That should get your anus reasonably clean. Anything else depends on the chemistry between you guys.

[whitetiger]

I will suggest that you

1. Have sufficient hydration daily and regular bowel cleansing - this is to prevent constipation

2. emotional preparation - Emotionally if you are not ready, it may lead to IBS (irritation bowel syndrome). Start slow during the foreplay helps too. 

3. before any play, do proper flushing to ensure there is no residue - must remember to wash out the water as well.. otherwise you will wet the area during play

4. If you can take foreign objects (like dildo or vibrator), you may wish to see the others' comment.. because I cant so cannot suggest anything

 

[Guest Guest from 5.59pm]

On 4 October, 2016 at 3:25 PM, Guest West said:

 

If in your mind you like the idea of getting fucked, I would encourage you not to give up on the idea, but instead try to find an actual considerate partner. Somebody who is just a fuck buddy might not care about you, and will not consider your well being, as he may just want to pump and dump. Rather than rushing into the sex, get to know if a guy is a patient person, and make it clear that you are new, and tight, and need a lot of preparation. Find a guy who likes to rim and finger for a long time before penetrating you. Dick size doesn't matter but foreplay, lube, and patience matter supremely.

Hi guest west, 

actually i didn't plan to try anal, just happened in the moment....

if given a chance, wouldn't want to try it yet and maybe like you say...find someone who is willing to go slow....guess what's done is done....doubt I will want to try again unless someone that patience do appear...

[kaze]

its true first top taking away your virginity should be gentle top.

i had a bad btm experience but it shaped me into a gentle top. the guy who topped me, had a thin dick. but it still hurt like hell.

 

anyway, that said, you really need a top who knows when it's fine to penetrate. tops who foreplay well, will know that the timing for penetration is when your hole begins to pulsate (ie expands and contracts). but then again, its finger penetration first. while sliding his finger in, he's actively licking on your balls or your thighs to divert your attention away from the penetrating finger. working slowly on fingering till 3 fingers can enter your hole. that's ideally the size you need to be comfortable before dick penetration.

 

there was once where i spent 2 sessions then i get to take his virginity away without bleeding. told him on the first session if i penetrated in straight, he will definitely bleed.

[Guest Gentle]

17 hours ago, Guest Guest from 5.59pm said:

Hi guest west, actually i didn't plan to try anal, just happened in the moment.... if given a chance, wouldn't want to try it yet and maybe like you say...find someone who is willing to go slow....guess what's done is done....doubt I will want to try again unless someone that patience do appear...

 

So sorry you had such a horrible first bottoming experience. Perhaps you would have become an eager and regular bottom if that guy had been patient and considerate, but since you are now apparently a top, at least you know what not to do when you are fucking a bottom. When topping virgins or less experienced guys, we need to treat them with the utmost care, as they are graciously and willingly offering us the most delicate and sensitive part of their bodies.

[Guest willing]

8 minutes ago, Guest Gentle said:

 

So sorry you had such a horrible first bottoming experience. Perhaps you would have become an eager and regular bottom if that guy had been patient and considerate, but since you are now apparently a top, at least you know what not to do when you are fucking a bottom. When topping virgins or less experienced guys, we need to treat them with the utmost care, as they are graciously and willingly offering us the most delicate and sensitive part of their bodies.

I am a bottom but with no anal experience. I met a top who was nice and promised me that he will take it slow. After rimming and fingering me he proceeded to fuck me eventhough i was still not relaxed enough..told him to stop but the bastard kept on pushing it in and i was in a position which i couldnt move much coz i was fearful that if i moved he would enter deeper in. After a few days I have now developed external hemorrhoids. Its painful and I am so embarassed about it. Its been more than a week and the external hemorrhoids which is a size of a small grape is still there. I am so depressed!! Dr's prescribed some cream but the thing is still there!! Will it ever go away on its own or do i have to do a surgery to remove it?? 

 

Anyone out there with any advise or experienced this before??

 

Thanks 

[kaze]

Guest willing, it won't go away on its own. Cream can help to bring down the swelling down, but it won't remove it completely I believe. It prolly is caused by him going too hard on you, causing your current matter.

 

Good thing is, there are loads of causes for it. Not solely sex. A surgical procedure will be able to remove it completely.

 

Suggest you to, in future, find a guy who is really patient and gentle for sex. If during fingering, u're still not ready for sex, he has to stop and not proceed further. On your end, you shld nt allow him to penetrate you when u're not ready.

[Guest Guest]

Indeed painful.....I fainted a few times

[Guest Guest]

11 minutes ago, Guest Guest said:

Indeed painful.....I fainted a few times

You really fainted during the sex session?

[Guest Guest]

Yes......sent to A & E TTSH......

[Guest willing]

1 hour ago, kaze said:

Guest willing, it won't go away on its own. Cream can help to bring down the swelling down, but it won't remove it completely I believe. It prolly is caused by him going too hard on you, causing your current matter.

 

Good thing is, there are loads of causes for it. Not solely sex. A surgical procedure will be able to remove it completely.

 

Suggest you to, in future, find a guy who is really patient and gentle for sex. If during fingering, u're still not ready for sex, he has to stop and not proceed further. On your end, you shld nt allow him to penetrate you when u're not ready.

 Thanks Kaze. I feel very sad and depressed to know it wont go away without surgery...I am actually very upset about it. 

 

Thanks for replying.

[kaze]

1 hour ago, Guest willing said:

 Thanks Kaze. I feel very sad and depressed to know it wont go away without surgery...I am actually very upset about it. 

 

Thanks for replying.

 Let's just say, the glad thing is it isn't a STD. That in itself shld be good news.

[Guest willing]

28 minutes ago, kaze said:

 Let's just say, the glad thing is it isn't a STD. That in itself shld be good news.

Thanks again..did some research on the net..it says that it may take up to 4 weeks for it to heal and slowly disappear...really hoping coz am too shy to try anything with any top now..esp when they want to finger me i will be scared and shy.....4 to 5 weeks of no fun at all...

[kaze]

You're right.. you should avoid anal sex now. The cause of it lies in the pressure on the veins around the anus.. that's y u should avoid having thick objects entering your hole.

[cutejack]

3 hours ago, Guest Guest said:

Indeed painful.....I fainted a few times

Then how?rushed to a n e?lol

[cutejack]

2 hours ago, Coolguyjj said:

any manly gentle top here

Sudah la.when we do gently some btms say im too soft.want a dominant want n keep saying push in push in.difficult to satisfy a horny hole.lolx

[Guest willing]

21 minutes ago, kaze said:

You're right.. you should avoid anal sex now. The cause of it lies in the pressure on the veins around the anus.. that's y u should avoid having thick objects entering your hole.

Yup will avoid it for now..its just that having to tell the top not to finger me while i am blowing him is not going to be so easy..its like a natural tendency for top to want to finger me while i am sucking on his tool...i am more embarrassed he will discover the hideous thing on my ass..sigh..

[kaze]

Such things are agreed beforehand. That's what I think.

[Guest Guest 5.59pm]

18 hours ago, kaze said:

its true first top taking away your virginity should be gentle top.

i had a bad btm experience but it shaped me into a gentle top. the guy who topped me, had a thin dick. but it still hurt like hell.

 

anyway, that said, you really need a top who knows when it's fine to penetrate. tops who foreplay well, will know that the timing for penetration is when your hole begins to pulsate (ie expands and contracts). but then again, its finger penetration first. while sliding his finger in, he's actively licking on your balls or your thighs to divert your attention away from the penetrating finger. working slowly on fingering till 3 fingers can enter your hole. that's ideally the size you need to be comfortable before dick penetration.

 

there was once where i spent 2 sessions then i get to take his virginity away without bleeding. told him on the first session if i penetrated in straight, he will definitely bleed.

Wah, kaze so patient ...

[kaze]

some things cant be rushed.. that's what i think.

[Guest Splash]

17 hours ago, cutejack said:

Sudah la.when we do gently some btms say im too soft.want a dominant want n keep saying push in push in.difficult to satisfy a horny hole.lolx

 

I agree. My biggest priority as a top with a huge cock is to make sure not to hurt a bottom and I always tell them let me know immediately if they feel any pain. But many of them just moan. When asked if they are okay, they says yes, keep going. But afterward, some of them complain that they became sore, or feel pain. I ask why they didn't tell me. They say they didn't want to stop, or didn't believe I would stop, or thought I would be angry. It doesn't matter. Protecting a bottom's anus from harm is more important to me than a top's personal pleasure. Take a rest and then try to resume later. Most tops will understand, but less experienced bottoms who can't take the pain need to speak up quickly, to avoid problems later. Those more experienced bottoms who enjoy non-stop pounding should also make their preference clear at the beginning, so the top can focus on pleasuring their holes, and not worry too much about hurting their anuses.

[cutejack]

Well said.short to say

try to behave like a str8 couples n not like a pros.gays r nice human with heart too.lol

[Guest Hygiene]

Are there really lots of bottoms complaining about patient tops being too concerned about making sure not to hurt their precious asses?

[Guest willing]

On 10/6/2016 at 8:42 PM, kaze said:

some things cant be rushed.. that's what i think.

Hi kaze..just to let you know..its slowly shrinking. I have been sitting in a tub of warm..more to hot than warm actually for the last 5 days for about 20 minutes...feel so relived. Thanks for all the information..

 

[kaze]

Good for you =)

[Guest Two]

Hi Willing. Glad to read that your ass is getting better. I am worried that I might have turned a cute chubby flex off from bottoming forever. He was worried that my cock is too big, but I promised to be gentle, and I was for the most part. Guy had such a tight asshole so I rimmed him for about 30 minutes and then started fingering him. Could barely get my finger past the nail for about 10 minutes. More lube finally opened him up more. Eventually got two fingers in before he started moaning and asking for my cock. I went slow as promised, just the head for the first 20 minutes, before he started asking me to go deeper into his asshole.

 

I was careful about hurting him, but he said he wanted to bear the pain, and asked me not to stop. I did stop to lube him up some more but he didn't seem to get any looser. Nonetheless he begged me to thrust harder and deeper, saying there will be pain no matter what, so I should just give him a real manly fuck anyway. I did as he asked but felt reluctant about it. Normally my preference is to fuck at full thrust for at least 30 minutes, but I was worried about hurting him and cummed quickly by my standards. The tightness of his ass helped make my load bubble up faster as well. He said don't worry afterwards but I still feel guilty.

[Guest willing]

14 hours ago, Guest Two said:

Hi Willing. Glad to read that your ass is getting better. I am worried that I might have turned a cute chubby flex off from bottoming forever. He was worried that my cock is too big, but I promised to be gentle, and I was for the most part. Guy had such a tight asshole so I rimmed him for about 30 minutes and then started fingering him. Could barely get my finger past the nail for about 10 minutes. More lube finally opened him up more. Eventually got two fingers in before he started moaning and asking for my cock. I went slow as promised, just the head for the first 20 minutes, before he started asking me to go deeper into his asshole.

 

I was careful about hurting him, but he said he wanted to bear the pain, and asked me not to stop. I did stop to lube him up some more but he didn't seem to get any looser. Nonetheless he begged me to thrust harder and deeper, saying there will be pain no matter what, so I should just give him a real manly fuck anyway. I did as he asked but felt reluctant about it. Normally my preference is to fuck at full thrust for at least 30 minutes, but I was worried about hurting him and cummed quickly by my standards. The tightness of his ass helped make my load bubble up faster as well. He said don't worry afterwards but I still feel guilty.

Thats very nice of you to feel about your bottom. I think the bottom is willing to take the pain and so you should not worry too much about it. As for me I was not just relaxed enough and the top just wanted to get his dick in me. He was not that patient despite telling me that he will take it slow. He rimmed me but I guess i was still tensed so he should have continued or done something to make me relax..anyway dont feel too bad and am sure your bottom will come looking for u again..haha

[Guest big ass]

That's why I keep to a few fbs. After awhile they know body well. The initial penetration is still painful for me and they always say no pain no gain. They actually enjoy this tight entry and see me suffer. I don't blame them because that boosted their egos to watch me kpkb but still want him to carry on the penetration. As a big manly guy, this is humiliating submission to agree to this pain.

[Guest on Fire]

8 hours ago, Guest big ass said:

That's why I keep to a few fbs. After awhile they know body well. The initial penetration is still painful for me and they always say no pain no gain. They actually enjoy this tight entry and see me suffer. I don't blame them because that boosted their egos to watch me kpkb but still want him to carry on the penetration. As a big manly guy, this is humiliating submission to agree to this pain.

 

It is very selfless of you to endure so much pain in order to please those very lucky tops. I truly applaud you for placing their needs ahead of your own.

[conezeroconezero]

On ‎10‎/‎10‎/‎2016 at 7:00 PM, Guest Two said:

Hi Willing. Glad to read that your ass is getting better. I am worried that I might have turned a cute chubby flex off from bottoming forever. He was worried that my cock is too big, but I promised to be gentle, and I was for the most part. Guy had such a tight asshole so I rimmed him for about 30 minutes and then started fingering him. Could barely get my finger past the nail for about 10 minutes. More lube finally opened him up more. Eventually got two fingers in before he started moaning and asking for my cock. I went slow as promised, just the head for the first 20 minutes, before he started asking me to go deeper into his asshole.

 

I was careful about hurting him, but he said he wanted to bear the pain, and asked me not to stop. I did stop to lube him up some more but he didn't seem to get any looser. Nonetheless he begged me to thrust harder and deeper, saying there will be pain no matter what, so I should just give him a real manly fuck anyway. I did as he asked but felt reluctant about it. Normally my preference is to fuck at full thrust for at least 30 minutes, but I was worried about hurting him and cummed quickly by my standards. The tightness of his ass helped make my load bubble up faster as well. He said don't worry afterwards but I still feel guilty.

so thoughtful of u... keen? lol

[RYdetime]

http://www.thegailygrind.com/2015/08/08/the-secret-to-pain-free-bottoming-the-sexhalation-method/

 

 

Hope this helps.

[btmslut]

Despite on occasion being able to take 2 cocks at the same time, and also having experience with blacks (1 jamacan, 1 american and 1 french) with massive coke can girth, i do feel pain if the top is inexperienced. I do feel tight when i masturbate anally, and my spincter can clamp onto my finger so hard that i can feel the circulation on my finger cut off. Most recent pain i felt with a massuer in one of those chinatown joints, who possessed an average 5 incher, yet in his excitement after giving him a soft, silky blowjob, he just pushed it in. The pain was quite unbearable. Had to pull him out. Ended up sitting on his cock slowly, to control the speed.

[hornbird]

Any bottom can share experience of being gang banged ?

[Guest Sweet 18]

Can someone please help to recommend me a gay friendly clinic doctor. My ass is breeding little and painful after being penetrated by a thick and Long cock.

How to cure it?

[Guest Guest]

Try first using sanitary pad to hold the breeding. Change everytime the pad is full. Take two paracetamols for the pain 3 times a day.