instantnoodles Posted June 15, 2017 Report Share Posted June 15, 2017 Don't think it's just sex. You can spice it up as much as you want. But in most cases, couples eventually drift apart for many other reasons apart from sex. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted June 15, 2017 Report Share Posted June 15, 2017 Either the front or back itchy. Quote 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wantonmee Posted June 16, 2017 Report Share Posted June 16, 2017 (edited) maintaining a relationship takes work so sometimes it's just too much work to keep it going and hence the need to stray (either emotionally or sexually) but nonetheless, what seems unfathomable to you, may not be out of line for some others it could be a hypersexual couple relationship for all you know Edited June 16, 2017 by wantonmee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kenny7 Posted June 16, 2017 Report Share Posted June 16, 2017 (edited) Sex is just one of the many reasons why people stray, and for those who really stray apart, sex might not even be the problem in the first place. It could have been due to: - Financial issue/disagreement - Lack of Intellectual/Emotional stimulant - Feeling unwanted - Lack/breakdown of communications - Boredom in relationship (in or outside bed) etcetcetc. Cheating ain't exactly the product of 20th & 21st century, it's been around as long as recorded history, though myths, folklore and historical records. The real question should be, what should people do to minimize the damage of inevitable cheating of their spouse My view anyway.. Edited June 16, 2017 by kenny7 be Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted June 17, 2017 Report Share Posted June 17, 2017 On 5/2/2016 at 11:52 PM, Guest Alfred said: Don't be mislead by the title i wasn't victim of cheating relationship . Just suddenly curious why would people cheat in a relationship ? Don't they know that how lucky they're that they're in a relationship ? Which not many people have that kind of luck . Sigh. Ask yourself why having sex with other people besides the partner is "cheating" and has such a negative connotation. Don't we eat food prepared by other people than the bf? Don't we socialize with other people besides the bf? Why you think that a relationship makes people automatically happy? If it were so, the divorce rate would not be so high. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted June 17, 2017 Report Share Posted June 17, 2017 5 minutes ago, Steve5380 said: Ask yourself why having sex with other people besides the partner is "cheating" and has such a negative connotation. Don't we eat food prepared by other people than the bf? Don't we socialize with other people besides the bf? Why you think that a relationship makes people automatically happy? If it were so, the divorce rate would not be so high. .... so says the divorced slut... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Bonfire Posted June 18, 2017 Report Share Posted June 18, 2017 On 14/06/2017 at 8:20 AM, Guest Yada Yada said: Well I think, gay relationship seems always open as it is based only on sex and cannot be monogamous. I totally agree with this Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest duh Posted June 18, 2017 Report Share Posted June 18, 2017 U must be pathetic if u think relationships are all about SEX whether it is gay or str8. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doncoin Posted June 21, 2017 Report Share Posted June 21, 2017 This article may just help answer the question why men cheat. The most common reason why men are unfaithful is simple: The other person was just really hot. Mystery solved. https://onlinedoctor.superdrug.com/cheaters-on-cheating/index.html?awc=2026_1497925322_4faddbab1301837b29bd624db6fac936&utm_source=affiliatewindow&utm_campaign=Skimlinks&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_term=34784X1028065X1619e42784f0e4a4c79f4f0f32c3a6d5&utm_content=0 Quote Love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bluerunner Posted June 21, 2017 Report Share Posted June 21, 2017 Lust and temptation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest :-( Posted July 29, 2017 Report Share Posted July 29, 2017 My bf is always on the phone. Either playing or texting. I don't want to intrude as I'm still giving hom space for privacy. Sex is waning. He goes out more often without me. I think he is seeing someone else. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leroygoh Posted August 5, 2017 Report Share Posted August 5, 2017 (edited) Recently, I stumbled on some chat history of my other half with another guy. Apparently, he went to his place to massage some straight curious guy. So is this considered as cheating? I mean our relationship is not some open relationship and I do love him a lot so I am very confused right now... ;( Edited August 5, 2017 by leroygoh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted August 5, 2017 Report Share Posted August 5, 2017 牵手的时候太冷清 拥抱的时候不够靠近说话的时候不认真 沉默的时候又太用心他的眼神 说出他的心我看透了他的心 还有别人逗留的背影他的回忆清除得不够干净我看到了他的心 演的全是他和他的电影尽管如此 他还是赢走了我的心 Quote 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snowball Posted August 5, 2017 Report Share Posted August 5, 2017 if you know he is cheating, why should you catch him doing those act , take it or leave him if he keep on repeating, else join him, there are many guys around, the choice is in your hand Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest hmm Posted May 9, 2018 Report Share Posted May 9, 2018 What would you guys do if your partner is constantly saying he is busy with work? And one day you caught him going overseas with another guy with intention of hiding from you. I really love him a lot, but I feel that I’m loving him more than he is to me. The frequency of us having a conv or even meet up has been reduced tremendously due to his “busy with work”. I have been very accommodating towards him, and I still don’t know how he feel about me. I’m having so much mixed feeling, thinking about the positive and negative side while he is there with another guy. Like what is their intention of going overseas, maybe he hid the truth so that I won’t think too much? Etc. In the past, He has been treating me very well, and I don’t wish to hurt his feelings. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zackling Posted May 9, 2018 Report Share Posted May 9, 2018 Dump him Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Hearty Farty Posted May 9, 2018 Report Share Posted May 9, 2018 1 hour ago, Guest hmm said: What would you guys do if your partner is constantly saying he is busy with work? And one day you caught him going overseas with another guy with intention of hiding from you. I really love him a lot, but I feel that I’m loving him more than he is to me. The frequency of us having a conv or even meet up has been reduced tremendously due to his “busy with work”. I have been very accommodating towards him, and I still don’t know how he feel about me. I’m having so much mixed feeling, thinking about the positive and negative side while he is there with another guy. Like what is their intention of going overseas, maybe he hid the truth so that I won’t think too much? Etc. In the past, He has been treating me very well, and I don’t wish to hurt his feelings. Now that his heart is not with you, can you make do with his cock alone? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Sean Posted May 9, 2018 Report Share Posted May 9, 2018 38 minutes ago, Guest Hearty Farty said: Now that his heart is not with you, can you make do with his cock alone? Dont give sound and logical advice, To begin this, this topic wasn't rational. Just say do what you deem fit Listen to your heart. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest wiseadvice Posted May 9, 2018 Report Share Posted May 9, 2018 Dump him. You deserve better than him lol I used to be in the same situation as you. I'm now living a happier life without him, without all the suspicions and doubts, whether he is cheating behind me or not and all the sh1t Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
benedict5856 Posted May 10, 2018 Report Share Posted May 10, 2018 15 hours ago, Nightingale said: The past is the past. People can change. One thing is certain - he has his priorities but you are not one of them. what kinda rubbish advice are u giving?! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigdanbeam Posted May 10, 2018 Report Share Posted May 10, 2018 I dun think its rubbish. The truth hurts Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
benedict5856 Posted May 10, 2018 Report Share Posted May 10, 2018 30 minutes ago, bigdanbeam said: I dun think its rubbish. The truth hurts who is he to conclude that it is CERTAIN?! It has nothing to do with the truth hurts or not. i guess u are no better when ppl seek u for advice. U will instantly jumped into conclusion. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CloudySkies Posted May 10, 2018 Report Share Posted May 10, 2018 Go talk to him about it. Keep in mind that your own feelings are valid too, more so than thinking you would hurt his feelings. Takes 2 hands to clap in a relationship, doesn't it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robin Posted May 10, 2018 Report Share Posted May 10, 2018 Everyone is busy, it all boils down to what is your queue number in his life Hemnes 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NewToHere Posted May 10, 2018 Report Share Posted May 10, 2018 I believe you know what to do... If i was you, ill really demand him for a serious talk.. Find out what is going on.. Discuss the issues.. Solve the issues.. GO ON with your life.. Lack of two-way communication is the most common reason for all kind of issues... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest dumphim Posted May 10, 2018 Report Share Posted May 10, 2018 I advise is STAY AWAY from gay cheaters. Once a cheater always a cheater, just like shark taste blood. Whether he's ur bf, fuck buddy etc, just dump him if he can't keep his cock for u. Sooner or later, he will infect u with STDs from the fun he had with other guys. This kind of promiscuous gays who don't believe in faithfulness, will regret once they grow old and realise nobody wants to play with him and curse himself for not dedicating his heart for u. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lean n mean Posted May 10, 2018 Report Share Posted May 10, 2018 (edited) . Edited May 22, 2018 by lean n mean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snowball Posted May 10, 2018 Report Share Posted May 10, 2018 perhaps, he is not that into you now, when feeling is change, nothing you can do much, ask him directly and what he really wants Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Dumphim Posted May 10, 2018 Report Share Posted May 10, 2018 17 minutes ago, snowball said: perhaps, he is not that into you now, when feeling is change, nothing you can do much, ask him directly and what he really wants Yes, I find most gays have short attention span. After having sex with u, he got bored and discard u like a tissue paper. Finding faithful guys are like finding needles in a hay stack. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest hmm Posted May 10, 2018 Report Share Posted May 10, 2018 Thanks for all the advice. Initially when I first found out about it, I really lost trust in him. But after reflecting about it, I trust that he won’t fool around. However, a small segment of me still wonder, what are the chances of two person NOT having physical interaction when they are staying in the same room? Sometimes, I just hope that he would lie to me about it. I would definitely believe him, call me silly or gullible, but I really love him a lot. Btw I decided to meet him up when he is back and talk about it. It’s so upsetting to love someone who doesn’t love you as much as you do to him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted May 10, 2018 Report Share Posted May 10, 2018 5 hours ago, Guest hmm said: It’s so upsetting to love someone who doesn’t love you as much as you do to him. I don't think that fidelity is love, and lack of it is lack of love. Love is multidimensional. Yes, talk with him about it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marcoc Posted May 11, 2018 Report Share Posted May 11, 2018 On 5/9/2018 at 2:53 PM, Guest hmm said: What would you guys do if your partner is constantly saying he is busy with work? And one day you caught him going overseas with another guy with intention of hiding from you. I really love him a lot, but I feel that I’m loving him more than he is to me. The frequency of us having a conv or even meet up has been reduced tremendously due to his “busy with work”. I have been very accommodating towards him, and I still don’t know how he feel about me. I’m having so much mixed feeling, thinking about the positive and negative side while he is there with another guy. Like what is their intention of going overseas, maybe he hid the truth so that I won’t think too much? Etc. In the past, He has been treating me very well, and I don’t wish to hurt his feelings. What are you seeking from this relationship? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lightsmith32 Posted May 11, 2018 Report Share Posted May 11, 2018 Take it easy. Move on. There are good people around. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Where Posted May 11, 2018 Report Share Posted May 11, 2018 14 hours ago, lightsmith32 said: Take it easy. Move on. There are good people around. Where can I find him? Please direct me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nipoet Posted May 12, 2018 Report Share Posted May 12, 2018 On 5/9/2018 at 2:53 PM, Guest hmm said: What would you guys do if your partner is constantly saying he is busy with work? And one day you caught him going overseas with another guy with intention of hiding from you. I really love him a lot, but I feel that I’m loving him more than he is to me. The frequency of us having a conv or even meet up has been reduced tremendously due to his “busy with work”. I have been very accommodating towards him, and I still don’t know how he feel about me. I’m having so much mixed feeling, thinking about the positive and negative side while he is there with another guy. Like what is their intention of going overseas, maybe he hid the truth so that I won’t think too much? Etc. In the past, He has been treating me very well, and I don’t wish to hurt his feelings. Don't mind the Penguin. I was playing that game when I entered that phase, hence made the "meme" using it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
azimuth Posted May 12, 2018 Report Share Posted May 12, 2018 Nothing is permanent, even a relationship. Talk to him and if it does not goes well, just move on. Don't waste your own time looking for something that is not going to happen. :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eujiboo Posted May 12, 2018 Report Share Posted May 12, 2018 On 5/10/2018 at 11:16 AM, benedict5856 said: what kinda rubbish advice are u giving?! It's advice. You take it or leave it, he didn't force the guy to have to listen to him. People change, priorities change, feelings change. Even if it started off really well, it doesn't mean it will continue being like that forever. Listen to your gut feeling, if you know he's cheating, or you feel like he's hiding something from you (and he avoids talking to you about it even if you ask) then end the relationship. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
auscent Posted May 12, 2018 Report Share Posted May 12, 2018 Move on. My fren met a guy in sauna who initiated they meet up again, for dinner sex etc. On the first date they had dinner n he suggested they spent the night in sauna. The guy disappeared twice fr room, for abt 30 min. Obviously cruising. My fren didnt keep in touch aft that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Next please. Posted May 19, 2018 Report Share Posted May 19, 2018 Actually your rational mind already knows the truth but you are swayed by your emotional attachment to deny the reality. He's no longer into you, honey. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Rebel Posted August 23, 2018 Report Share Posted August 23, 2018 On 5/18/2017 at 3:09 PM, TopChinese said: Why do people assume that all relationships are monogamous? It is ultimately up to the two of you to set your own rules. And no one else should impose their views on what terms you two should decide to be together. And for the rest of us, please leave your value judgments at the door. Don't call us sluts because you don't understand how two of us are in an open relationship. True. Especially in a gay relationship, you can’t guarantee fidelity. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kiloKilo Posted August 24, 2018 Report Share Posted August 24, 2018 (edited) I have been in a relationship for 6 years and I learn that nothing last. If love die, it dies. No matter how faithful you are, how forgving you are, when there is no more love or feelings, your partner will eventually cut u off from his world as if nothing ever happened, like you have never existed. Being gay is a curse. You will never have happily ever after. Ps: I dont believe in open relationship Edited August 24, 2018 by kiloKilo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
qsefthu78 Posted August 24, 2018 Report Share Posted August 24, 2018 In short - it's just sex. Open relationship/ fun with other guys = no respect, no commitment? There's more to that in a relationship than sex. He respects my choice to have fun with other guys, and I respect him by not lying to him and sharing with him some of the fun I had. We are committed to not let this be an issue, but the most difficult part about commitment is not on the sex part but on other nitty gritty things that could break a relationship like lack of empathy, miscommunication and temper. At the end of the day, he is the one whom you are sharing your life with. That's what matters in a relationship. There's nothing fairy tale- like or perfection in a relationship. It's not that you don't believe in relationships - it is that you haven't found the guy who have the same belief as you. Steve5380, auri and milky6547 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LeanMature Posted August 24, 2018 Report Share Posted August 24, 2018 Sex is the physical pillar that hold your relationship together with the emotional pillar. If either of the pillar crumple, your home crumpled. Quote Don't read and response to guests' post Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
qsefthu78 Posted August 24, 2018 Report Share Posted August 24, 2018 13 minutes ago, LeanMature said: Sex is the physical pillar that hold your relationship together with the emotional pillar. If either of the pillar crumple, your home crumpled. And if you grow old, and no longer be able to have sex as much or not at all, your relationship crumbles? auri 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted August 24, 2018 Report Share Posted August 24, 2018 Of course sex is only part of relationship. But if u truly love another person, it is strange that there's no jealousy if u were to know he's having sex with someone else. Love is possessive. On the other hand, if i truly love another person, the last thing I want to do to hurt him by having sex with another person. Quote 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snowball Posted August 24, 2018 Report Share Posted August 24, 2018 I love I care and afraid to hurt my partner. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guestsober Posted August 24, 2018 Report Share Posted August 24, 2018 The same olf members sprouting and well written like scholar with head high degree. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snowball Posted August 24, 2018 Report Share Posted August 24, 2018 to be honest, why need to care about what people do for their relationship, just focus on yours will do, no? Peterjty 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Relationship Posted August 24, 2018 Report Share Posted August 24, 2018 In my opinion, if you truly love that person wouldn’t that feeling make u kind of possessive ? I can’t imagine that person I love having sex with others guy during our relationship? Is this wrong ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted August 24, 2018 Report Share Posted August 24, 2018 7 hours ago, LeanMature said: Sex is the physical pillar that hold your relationship together with the emotional pillar. If either of the pillar crumple, your home crumpled. An original analogy of a relationship. But isn't it kind of arbitrary? Why are there two pillars and not three, or six, or twelve? Three pillars is usually the minimum to support any structure. But why pillars? Cannot a relationship have a slab as foundation? The emotional seems to be the single essential component of a relationship. Love is emotion. Many relationships successfully exist without any sex. Peterjty 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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