Orca888 And His 'straight' Boy

[orca888]

walao, after 4 mths he's still "str8" n "virgin"!?

*kidding hor*

....actually appreciate ur sharing ur private side of life! tis is turning out 2b a suspense "thriller" - is he or is he not...will u or will u not!?

here's hoping a beatuiful outcome in the end.....ganbatte (jia-u)!!!

Ya lor - epic phail or what?

Nah - he is like a good wine and has to be slowly appreciated

To be honest, I still don't know cos the signals are not getting any clearer...sigh

Anyway, we just went out for a nice dinner just now - quite last minute as he originally had other dinner plans

And of course, two guys having a nice cosy dinner would probably draw attention from others but do we care? Nah...hahah

Unconsciously, we seem to behave like a couple - we would wait for each other to finish before going to get food together...okay, I admit, I am the glutton and I always eat faster than him...hahah

Just kidding, he's eating slower cos he has just gotten his braces and he needs to take his time to chew his food

But it's okay, we would just chat until he is done and we go get our next round of food

Looking around, I don't see many guys waiting for their girlfriends to finish

Edited April 7, 2012 by orca888

[Guest kk]

Ya lor - epic phail or what? Nah - he is like a good wine and has to be slowly appreciated To be honest, I still don't know cos the signals are not getting any clearer...sigh Anyway, we just went out for a nice dinner just now - quite last minute as he originally had other dinner plans And of course, two guys having a nice cosy dinner would probably draw attention from others but do we care? Nah...hahah Unconsciously, we seem to behave like a couple - we would wait for each other to finish before going to get food together...okay, I admit, I am the glutton and I always eat faster than him...hahah Just kidding, he's eating slower cos he has just gotten his braces and he needs to take his time to chew his food But it's okay, we would just chat until he is done and we go get our next round of food Looking around, I don't see many guys waiting for their girlfriends to finish

Hey, dun waste time. Just get him straight into the bed and swallow him. Write us the story after that. All uncles and aunties can't wait to read.

[Guest chaichabo]

You are right - I am definitely not confident - after all, why would such a desirable young chap want anything to do with an old unker like me?

He needs fatherly love which he did not have since young. Did you ask him about his dad?

[orca888]

Hey, dun waste time. Just get him straight into the bed and swallow him. Write us the story after that. All uncles and aunties can't wait to read.

LOL - wouldn't that be a one-night stand? hahah

Nah - he's a keeper

[orca888]

He needs fatherly love which he did not have since young. Did you ask him about his dad?

I don't think so - his relationship with his dad is okay...hahah

But I did get a sense that he does have an overbearing mom...

Anyway, he doesn't treat me like a father figure - I am more like a big bro (literally)...hahah

[Guest Requiem552]

What would you do if in the end he turns out to be str8 and he is getting married ??

Wouldn't it be so heart breaking? Sorry to be a wet blanket

[orca888]

What would you do if in the end he turns out to be str8 and he is getting married ??

Wouldn't it be so heart breaking? Sorry to be a wet blanket

Nope, you are right - I have considered that before...

I am okay with just being his brother then - that was what we started out as...

Of course, it is best that he is not

[Guest Guest]

Nope, you are right - I have considered that before...

I am okay with just being his brother then - that was what we started out as...

Of course, it is best that he is not

Better dun hide under the bed & cry like a baby while your boy boy is fxxking his bride above you on his wedding nite.

[Guest old]

I think you should tell your friend that you are gay and like him. I am sure your frined will appreciate your honesty.

[Guest Ironrod]

Nope, you are right - I have considered that before...

I am okay with just being his brother then - that was what we started out as...

Of course, it is best that he is not

Wah, a 3 page thread on Uncle and his boy ;D

I am sure uncle is mentally prepared to be hurt if the boy finds a new gf and slowly drift off - but no pain no gain, no guts no glory right?

Good luck to you "Uncle" i am 40 but i call you uncle becos you seems to like it lol

[orca888]

Better dun hide under the bed & cry like a baby while your boy boy is fxxking his bride above you on his wedding nite.

Nah - I am made of stronger stuff than that...hahah

[orca888]

I think you should tell your friend that you are gay and like him. I am sure your frined will appreciate your honesty.

Hmm...I have considered that approach

Let see how it goes first - the truth is that I still don't know how he will react...

[orca888]

Wah, a 3 page thread on Uncle and his boy ;D I am sure uncle is mentally prepared to be hurt if the boy finds a new gf and slowly drift off - but no pain no gain, no guts no glory right? Good luck to you "Uncle" i am 40 but i call you uncle becos you seems to like it lol

Unker is more lor soh - sorry about that

I am already mentally prepared - I can't force him to do things against his will - nor will I want to...

Thanks for your well wishes

Let's see how bah - we are going for another holiday in Jun - maybe the time then may be right to raise the issue...

Well, it's not that I like that - it's the truth - I am an unker and have got no more market value mah

[Guest old]

Well, if he doesnt react favourably after hearing the truth, it means you are only living in a dream. Furthermore, you run the risk of hurting him or losing the friendhship if he cant accept gay friend. Tell you what , i was in a similar situation. the major difference was that my friend told me the truth.

[orca888]

Well, if he doesnt react favourably after hearing the truth, it means you are only living in a dream. Furthermore, you run the risk of hurting him or losing the friendhship if he cant accept gay friend. Tell you what , i was in a similar situation. the major difference was that my friend told me the truth.

Maybe we need to dream sometimes...hahah

I see - so you are the straight guy and your friend is gay?

In my case, I have already accepted that he is my brother and I will continue to treat him as such...

If our relationship does develop further, all well and good...

Otherwise, there is nothing wrong with the current status quo

[Guest old]

Thats true. Dream is good. Thats why we buy lottery ticket and hoping to win the jackpot one day.. haha

Yeb , you are correct.

I can understand. You seem to be a nice guy but you are still expecting something rite..

Hope everthing work out for you.

There is nothing wrong with your current status quo. Just think honesty is always the best policy and you were expereienced. Guess everyone situation is different. Anyway , good luck.

[Guest Guest]

Nah - I am made of stronger stuff than that...hahah

Superunker with iron teeth, that boy is your kryptonite!

[Guest Guest]

Maybe we need to dream sometimes...hahah

I see - so you are the straight guy and your friend is gay?

In my case, I have already accepted that he is my brother and I will continue to treat him as such...

If our relationship does develop further, all well and good...

Otherwise, there is nothing wrong with the current status quo

UNKER, u have been watching too many Muppets movies & listening to 'Rainbow Connection' too many times.

Whether friends or lovers, the boy will eventually break your heart & you will be back to being alone.

The more you drag, the deeper you will get hurt. If something should happened, it should have.

I think the boy is 'financially' attracted to you, too, right?

The boy is straight. period.

[Guest Guest]

Well, if he doesnt react favourably after hearing the truth, it means you are only living in a dream. Furthermore, you run the risk of hurting him or losing the friendhship if he cant accept gay friend. Tell you what , i was in a similar situation. the major difference was that my friend told me the truth.

Are both of u still friends?

[Guest REquiem552]

Haiz unker i understand u. it is like even if things dun work out u still happy to be his big brother and see him every once in a while right?

[orca888]

Haiz unker i understand u. it is like even if things dun work out u still happy to be his big brother and see him every once in a while right?

Yup, you are right

He's a keeper either way...hahah

We just met for gym just now and have a nice dinner together

My boy was pretty tired after waking up very early this morning and had a long day but he still made time for us to gym together and have dinner...

Can't ask for more can I?

And he just SMSed me goodnight before he went to bed

[orca888]

Thats true. Dream is good. Thats why we buy lottery ticket and hoping to win the jackpot one day.. haha Yeb , you are correct. I can understand. You seem to be a nice guy but you are still expecting something rite.. Hope everthing work out for you. There is nothing wrong with your current status quo. Just think honesty is always the best policy and you were expereienced. Guess everyone situation is different. Anyway , good luck.

Erm, I don't believe in buying lottery tickets

Well, to be honest, my expectations are quite low - I am just happy to be his brother and he treats me like one...

Of course, if he chooses to go further, then it's an added bonus (fark, it's the jackpot - who am I kidding)...hahah

But jokes aside, I already appreciate him setting aside time for me - he doesn't have to do it for someone he met just coming to 4 months ago...if we didn't click from the start, none of this would have happened

I admit I do take good care of him and I think he appreciates it too...but I have never asked for anything in return - just happy to be with him

I think it's a very "Taurean" thing to do - so blame it on my birth sign...hahah

[orca888]

Superunker with iron teeth, that boy is your kryptonite!

LOL - iron teeth - reminds me of Jaws from the old James Bond movies...hahah

Actually, my boy is really my heroin - I am addicted to him

[samsara]

exactly who is orca888?

[orca888]

UNKER, u have been watching too many Muppets movies & listening to 'Rainbow Connection' too many times. Whether friends or lovers, the boy will eventually break your heart & you will be back to being alone. The more you drag, the deeper you will get hurt. If something should happened, it should have. I think the boy is 'financially' attracted to you, too, right? The boy is straight. period.

Maybe - and just maybe, there is a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow

But wasn't it Andy Lau who said "it's not about eternity but really about having experienced it before"...

We are all destined to die alone anyway - but I appreciate having him in my life now...

And maybe I am not looking for a boyfriend but for a son? After all, I need a "heir" to inherit my stuff after I am gone - I am sure not going to will it to the government...hahah

So I guess it's a matter of setting my expectations right...

It's just been 3 months plus since we known each other and we are still getting to know each other better - so far so good

Nah, my boy is very independent and he would rather work for his own money...

Anyway, I have always assumed that my boy is straight

[Guest Guest]

uncle i salute you for willing to maintain the status quo. how long has it been and how did you meet him btw?

for me i will enjoy this kind of 'nothing being mentioned' feeling for at most weeks to a month. After that i will want a confirmation to benefit both of us and move on accordingly from there.

he has already moved ur heart. are u sure u won't be hurt if ur boy gives a negative response?

[orca888]

exactly who is orca888?

A delusional old unker

[Guest 2012]

What if one day he found a gal he wants to be with?

[orca888]

uncle i salute you for willing to maintain the status quo. how long has it been and how did you meet him btw? for me i will enjoy this kind of 'nothing being mentioned' feeling for at most weeks to a month. After that i will want a confirmation to benefit both of us and move on accordingly from there. he has already moved ur heart. are u sure u won't be hurt if ur boy gives a negative response?

Well, we met each other for just over 3 months but only started to get closer together after Christmas last year (it was our first solo outing together)...he actually chose to go out with me instead of a female friend that day...

We initially met over a casual dinner organized by a local forum with a group of guys and gals...I think we got off to a very good start - chatting and laughing almost from the moment we met...

Strange thing was he was quite insistent on knowing my age and even when I told him, he didn't quite believe me...hahah

And it was fortunate (fate) that we stay like 5 minutes apart

Ah, but I think we are approaching it from different perspectives - I am still assuming he's straight - so what sort of confirmation should I be getting? hahah

Yes, my heart is already moved by my boy - and would I be sad if I get a negative response? Probably and maybe that's why I prefer to leave things as status quo...

[Guest Requiem552]

Unker I am in the same predicament as you now actually. For me it has been 5 years already. Nothing was said between us, we enjoyed our time together going for late night movies, overseas trip, supper etc etc. Well he was never the most happening kind of person you can find but he touched my heart in every possible way. Too bad he got a gf already and is going to get married soon. But in the end, 开心过，就不要再要求什么了。。。

[orca888]

What if one day he found a gal he wants to be with?

I will still support him - I do love him like my own brother and maybe even like a son

[orca888]

Unker I am in the same predicament as you now actually. For me it has been 5 years already. Nothing was said between us, we enjoyed our time together going for late night movies, overseas trip, supper etc etc. Well he was never the most happening kind of person you can find but he touched my heart in every possible way. Too bad he got a gf already and is going to get married soon. But in the end, 开心过，就不要再要求什么了。。。

The last bit is so nice

I think I kinda share the same feeling - I appreciate him for being him and the time spent together...we share a bond that is quite hard to explain - our behavior together suggests that we have been together longer than the 3 months we knew each other...

Anyway, even committed couples can separate - I know cos I was with my ex for the last 18 years before we split up earlier last year...

[Guest Guest]

Unker I am in the same predicament as you now actually. For me it has been 5 years already. Nothing was said between us, we enjoyed our time together going for late night movies, overseas trip, supper etc etc. Well he was never the most happening kind of person you can find but he touched my heart in every possible way. Too bad he got a gf already and is going to get married soon. But in the end, 开心过，就不要再要求什么了。。。

i think ur friend treated u as a brother. to the straight guys, its brotherly love, care and concern. unfortunately for gays, as we are attracted to guys, our hearts get involved and we tend to think beyond that.

[orca888]

i think ur friend treated u as a brother. to the straight guys, its brotherly love, care and concern. unfortunately for gays, as we are attracted to guys, our hearts get involved and we tend to think beyond that.

Sure it's just the heart and not the other head? hahah

I admit, my boy is hot as hell :twisted:

[Guest Guest]

Haha no i dun have sexual thoughts towards him

[Guest Guest]

Anyway, even committed couples can separate - I know cos I was with my ex for the last 18 years before we split up earlier last year...

were u the older or younger one? that's really long. since this thread is about you, care to share more info?

[Exynos]

I used to be like this... when I was 16.

[Guest 2012]

Reminds me of the phase ＂自古空余恨的是我，千金换一笑的是我＂from the song 最爱。

把这首歌送给了痴情的你。

[Phil]

LOL - iron teeth - reminds me of Jaws from the old James Bond movies...hahah

Actually, my boy is really my heroin - I am addicted to him

Do you mean "heroin" or "heroine"?

Sorry, I'm not very good in English...

And at the end of some James Bond movie (can't remember which one...), Jaws was dropped among sharks, bited e few ones and escaped...

Just to stay in aquatic metaphors, any relationship with "Orca"?

[lct]

An orca is a killer whale.

[spiffy729]

Personally I find this thread really entertaining to read.

This and Orca's constant status updates.

It's like reality TV without the good looks, and put down in text~ ^^

justsaying

Sorry Orca, I mean, you've never showed your face anywhere anyway~~ ><

... although I'm really not one to comment XDDD

Edited April 9, 2012 by spiffy729

[orca888]

Do you mean "heroin" or "heroine"?

Sorry, I'm not very good in English...

And at the end of some James Bond movie (can't remember which one...), Jaws was dropped among sharks, bited e few ones and escaped...

Just to stay in aquatic metaphors, any relationship with "Orca"?

Hi Phil...hahah

Diacetylmorphine, in non-medical settings called heroin, is used as a recreational drug for thetranscendent relaxation and intense euphoria it induces.

So heroin is a drug cos I am addicted to my boy

Being in his presence brings me great joy

Not sure if there's any association with Jaws but Orcas have been known to kill sharks...hahah

http://www.gadling.com/2011/03/27/killer-whale-devours-great-white-shark/

[orca888]

Reminds me of the phase ＂自古空余恨的是我，千金换一笑的是我＂from the song 最爱。

把这首歌送给了痴情的你。

Thanks for the dedication I think...hahah

We got to be "silly" once in our lives right?

[orca888]

Personally I find this thread really entertaining to read.

This and Orca's constant status updates.

It's like reality TV without the good looks, and put down in text~ ^^

justsaying

Sorry Orca, I mean, you've never showed your face anywhere anyway~~ ><

... although I'm really not one to comment XDDD

It's okay - I rather remain faceless

Glad you found it entertaining

But jokes aside, I have never regretted knowing him and being with him

Guess my priorities are slightly different...getting old I am

[Phil]

An orca is a killer whale.

I see, thanks!

[Phil]

Hi Phil...hahah

Diacetylmorphine, in non-medical settings called heroin, is used as a recreational drug for thetranscendent relaxation and intense euphoria it induces.

So heroin is a drug cos I am addicted to my boy

Being in his presence brings me great joy

Not sure if there's any association with Jaws but Orcas have been known to kill sharks...hahah

http://www.gadling.c...at-white-shark/

Sorry, it seems that my pun about "heroine" was stupid and failed...

Thanks for taking the time to improve poor illiterate's culture...

[Guest Ironrod]

I think uncle just need a space to vent off abt his boy cos he can't tell anybody.

That's why I treat this thread as "talk cock" session so some of you relax lar give uncle a break if he wants attention at least he is not seeking sex from this forum.

[Guest old]

It is really a blessing one can find someone who is just happy to be with and laugh with all the time.

Maybe i am naive or inexperienced with gay relationship. I think if the physical intimcacy is not an issue, there are really not much difference in relationship betweent gay-gay and gay-straight.

Even if the physical intimacy is involved, straight can accept some form of sensuous behavior and can learn too. haha

A song for Orca:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j3QFI3CGBh8&feature=g-vrec&context=G299f706RVAAAAAAAAAw

....我這段情 你會發覺間隔著一點點距離 無言地愛 我偏不敢說 說一句...

[orca888]

Sorry, it seems that my pun about "heroine" was stupid and failed... Thanks for taking the time to improve poor illiterate's culture...

LOL - I appreciate your attempt but I am too slow to catch it...hahah

Plus my boy is anything but feminine

Surely you jest mon cher Phil...hahah

[orca888]

I think uncle just need a space to vent off abt his boy cos he can't tell anybody. That's why I treat this thread as "talk cock" session so some of you relax lar give uncle a break if he wants attention at least he is not seeking sex from this forum.

You hit the proverbial nail on its head...hahah

Since I am in the closet, there's really no one I can vent off my feelings for my boy...hahah

Yup, call me "old fashioned" but I only got my eyes on my boy

Anyway, don't think anyone here would fancy an old unker like me