Help! I Cum Too Fast! + Premature Ejaculation & Treatments Discussion (Compiled)

[Guest Guest]

Find a regular buddy and train.

Soon you can control more longer times.

[Guest I cum in seconds]

I cum in 2 to 3 mins before. But now I can cum within 20 seconds by just touching my dick with one finger. Sometimes my dick even  not fully erected but cum already. I can also auto cum while being fucked or even just fantasizing being fucked. There are many times I cum inside my underwear during foreplay. It was so embarrassing. So I’m a pure btm. Any by the way, I dun mind tops that cum fast. Find it very hot too. 

[Guest Xyz]

Other day jo with a guy, after less than 2 mins he pulled my hand aside, started cumming. Haha quite hot

[untried]

Ever I cum while sucking someone without stimulation. Does this happen to anyone?

Edited December 26, 2023 by untried

[Der79]

And There are another group of guys that took forever to cum.. no matter how you jerk him or he jerk himself… he just cannot cum even though he is horny and hard and want more..

[QinWei]

Isnt longer is better?? Just a fw mins s too rushy!!!

[XanderS]

I'm embarrassed by the fact that I once had anal at the sauna, but I barely got a few pumps in before I filled the condom. His ass really felt good and I wanted to fuck longer, but I couldn't. It's even worse cause I'm younger, cause there's the expectation that I can fuck like a horse.

 

Got any recommendations or solutions to fix this? I want to be a better top for my bottoms, PM me.

[thatsamore]

7 hours ago, XanderS said:

Got any recommendations or solutions to fix this? I want to be a better top for my bottoms, PM me.

I think everyone is different and how fast you cum can depend on the bottom as well. If the bottom is too loose you will not feel much sensation. Too tight is uncomfortable too. But when its just nice you might cum faster. And if the bottom does alot of squeezing, it can escalate the cuming sensation too.

 

Most of the control is in your mind. I think it takes experience to master the control but if you are really hopeless in mind control there are condoms that claim to slow down the sensation but I personally have never tried them.

[singalion]

22 hours ago, XanderS said:

I'm embarrassed by the fact that I once had anal at the sauna, but I barely got a few pumps in before I filled the condom. His ass really felt good and I wanted to fuck longer, but I couldn't. It's even worse cause I'm younger, cause there's the expectation that I can fuck like a horse.

 

Got any recommendations or solutions to fix this? I want to be a better top for my bottoms, PM me.

 

In saunas it's a bit the excitement and sensation that might make you come faster. 

 

But thatsamore is right to point out the mind and the experience to control your dick. Slow down, think of something different, make your mind go somewhere else than the fuck. It might help. 

 

 

[XanderS]

On 10/24/2024 at 10:00 AM, thatsamore said:

I think everyone is different and how fast you cum can depend on the bottom as well. If the bottom is too loose you will not feel much sensation. Too tight is uncomfortable too. But when its just nice you might cum faster. And if the bottom does alot of squeezing, it can escalate the cuming sensation too.

 

Most of the control is in your mind. I think it takes experience to master the control but if you are really hopeless in mind control there are condoms that claim to slow down the sensation but I personally have never tried them.

 

I've had past experiences where I can last much longer when I wear a condom on and fuck someone. But if I lose focus, it's really easy for me to get soft. I don't really want to try anal raw until I know we are both clean. Would fucking slower and deeper work? I heard that it usually feels nicer that way for the bottom, going slower and deeper that is.

 

20 hours ago, singalion said:

 

In saunas it's a bit the excitement and sensation that might make you come faster. 

 

But thatsamore is right to point out the mind and the experience to control your dick. Slow down, think of something different, make your mind go somewhere else than the fuck. It might help. 

 

 

 

How would you stay hard though if you are thinking of something else haha. I will admit that hearing other guys moaning and getting fucked does make me way more horny, and I usually play with multiple guys at the sauna.

[thatsamore]

4 hours ago, XanderS said:

 

I've had past experiences where I can last much longer when I wear a condom on and fuck someone. But if I lose focus, it's really easy for me to get soft. I don't really want to try anal raw until I know we are both clean. Would fucking slower and deeper work? I heard that it usually feels nicer that way for the bottom, going slower and deeper that is.

 

 

Raw? That will make you cum even faster.
 

Condoms like Durex Performa are supposedly designed to delay the sensation of an orgasm. But even when the bottom is clean it’s never a good idea to do raw as bacteria can enter your urethra and give you an infection.

 

Anyway, many men can relate to getting soft midway. It’s common. Only Viagra can help in that case 🤣. They say even young men are taking viagra these days because men’s sexual health have been dipping due to all the rubbish food we consume in our diet - sends our sperm count, testosterone and libido down the drain 😅. So sad…

[QinWei]

9 hours ago, thatsamore said:

They say even young men are taking viagra these days because men’s sexual health have been dipping due to all the rubbish food we consume

that is so true but that aside
The younger tops are taking jelly or medications to pound it harder , how fortunate Bottoms nowadays

my usual bottom will pass me his viagra
his country can get aplenty of such medication cheaply!!!!

I said I dont need one, but he pass me half of his (he bottom hence wont need to)I chipped off a bit to try my first viagra at this age of close to 50yo!!! 
oooh it take days to subside!! and I only bit a chip from his half pill, so as not to waste it (I kept the remaining in my bag) 

Told him that he wont need as he is a bottom but he liked staying hard for his top , not sure why though

He qn why I didnt cum ? I  felt once i have those pills , it is harder to cum! It is his fault too for asking me to try!!!!


Tried cialis before when my straight bro wanna try , he said he cum easily so I told him try Cialis , taladafil ?  (as I was seeing a doctor then i can ask to get a box) 
Sadly he still cum it fast with his wife!! either wife is too hot to handle or he really cum fast?Sorry i cannot help much then and yes, i didt even use a quarter of that cialis too , i rem it was 20mg?
my first attempt with Cialis many yrs ago , again, proven maybe just for me, slow down the cumming process
(compared to when I didnt even consume any)

 

but the viagra with my btm was 100mg if i m not wrong(anyway i took only a bit from a quarter) 

[singalion]

On 10/26/2024 at 2:21 AM, thatsamore said:

 

Raw? That will make you cum even faster.
 

Condoms like Durex Performa are supposedly designed to delay the sensation of an orgasm. But even when the bottom is clean it’s never a good idea to do raw as bacteria can enter your urethra and give you an infection.

 

Anyway, many men can relate to getting soft midway. It’s common. Only Viagra can help in that case 🤣. They say even young men are taking viagra these days because men’s sexual health have been dipping due to all the rubbish food we consume in our diet - sends our sperm count, testosterone and libido down the drain 😅. So sad…

 

On 10/25/2024 at 9:04 PM, XanderS said:

How would you stay hard though if you are thinking of something else haha. I will admit that hearing other guys moaning and getting fucked does make me way more horny, and I usually play with multiple guys at the sauna.

 

Too fast cummers are mostly having a psychological issue. With time you can learn to control better. As I said, focus on something else. It works. If you get soft so fast in young age, hm...

 

For me it is dangerous if a bottom starts squeezing his ass tight, then often I just need to let go.

 

Many straight guys who plan to visit a brothel jerk some hours before they go with the intention of then being able to fuck the lady longer. Maybe that helps for XanderS also.

 

In his case I would just slowly pull out and rest some minute, distract the bottom, play his nipples or finger. then start over again. Many bottoms like the initial penetration also. Or just rest inside without moving.

 

 

[XanderS]

11 hours ago, singalion said:

 

 

Too fast cummers are mostly having a psychological issue. With time you can learn to control better. As I said, focus on something else. It works. If you get soft so fast in young age, hm...

 

For me it is dangerous if a bottom starts squeezing his ass tight, then often I just need to let go.

 

Many straight guys who plan to visit a brothel jerk some hours before they go with the intention of then being able to fuck the lady longer. Maybe that helps for XanderS also.

 

In his case I would just slowly pull out and rest some minute, distract the bottom, play his nipples or finger. then start over again. Many bottoms like the initial penetration also. Or just rest inside without moving.

 

 

 

I do want to try the jerk off technique before having sex, but sometimes it's hard to do that, especially if the hook up or sauna trip was unplanned. And I know myself well, my cock is a one-shot wonder Wouldn't be easy to get horny again if I cum once already.

 

But for the fingering and playing with the bottom's body, I don't know why I didn't think of that. Maybe too inexperienced. I do like fingering, cause I got thick fingers, and really makes the stretch feel so good.

[GachiMuchi]

On 10/24/2024 at 1:59 AM, XanderS said:

I'm embarrassed by the fact that I once had anal at the sauna, but I barely got a few pumps in before I filled the condom. His ass really felt good and I wanted to fuck longer, but I couldn't. It's even worse cause I'm younger, cause there's the expectation that I can fuck like a horse.

 

Got any recommendations or solutions to fix this? I want to be a better top for my bottoms, PM me.

 

Nothing to be embarrassed about. That can happen to any top. 

Some bottom knows how to use the "squeeze" technique during sex, as if you are fucking a virgin. 

Especially for older bottom who had mastered the "squueze" technique. 

Since you are younger, I presume your cock head is pretty sensitive when the foreskin is pulled back when you wear the condom. 

I remember that there is such a product called desensitise spray which might help you.

Google for it.

Hope it helps.  

[singalion]

16 hours ago, XanderS said:

 

I do want to try the jerk off technique before having sex, but sometimes it's hard to do that, especially if the hook up or sauna trip was unplanned. And I know myself well, my cock is a one-shot wonder Wouldn't be easy to get horny again if I cum once already.

 

But for the fingering and playing with the bottom's body, I don't know why I didn't think of that. Maybe too inexperienced. I do like fingering, cause I got thick fingers, and really makes the stretch feel so good.

 

Don't jerk in the morning but latest 2 hours before you go sauna.

Mostly the atmosphere and the hot guys around will just make your tool stand up straight again, when it is required (ha ha).

 

On the fingering, make sure you cut your nails very well, best also to use a nail file.

Some guys are very sensitive when it comes to fingering...

 

 

[kantian]

Had fun with someone with PE today. He has a nice thick man meat, muscular and hairy built. i tugged a few times and he had to stop and explained that was “pre-cum shooting out”, and the second time it was the same, and finally at the third time he couldn’t control and came into the tissue. All over in 2 mins. 

[cutejack]

12 hours ago, kantian said:

Had fun with someone with PE today. He has a nice thick man meat, muscular and hairy built. i tugged a few times and he had to stop and explained that was “pre-cum shooting out”, and the second time it was the same, and finally at the third time he couldn’t control and came into the tissue. All over in 2 mins. 

U felt like u ate Maggie huh? Cook in 2mins.

[iKneadyou]

4 hours ago, cutejack said:

U felt like u ate Maggie huh? Cook in 2mins.

Hahaahhahahaha

[Dirtyme]

On 10/29/2024 at 1:18 AM, XanderS said:

 

I do want to try the jerk off technique before having sex, but sometimes it's hard to do that, especially if the hook up or sauna trip was unplanned. And I know myself well, my cock is a one-shot wonder Wouldn't be easy to get horny again if I cum once already.

 

But for the fingering and playing with the bottom's body, I don't know why I didn't think of that. Maybe too inexperienced. I do like fingering, cause I got thick fingers, and really makes the stretch feel so good.

I tried it once, it did take quite a bit of effort from the btm to make me hard again. But once it is, comes round 2 and it did last longer 🤭

[singalion]

On 12/1/2024 at 7:40 PM, Dirtyme said:

I tried it once, it did take quite a bit of effort from the btm to make me hard again. But once it is, comes round 2 and it did last longer 🤭

 

The best would be surely to tell the partner, what arouses you a lot. For some it might be nipples, others the view of the anus... etc etc.

 

 

[whatareulookinfor]

My issue is the reverse, hard to cum and can have sex for more than 1 hrs with no cum (but rest in between) ._.