How To Keep The Cock Hard And Up During Sex? (Compiled)

[Guest HIgh_but_Soft]

Just like to know if it's normal that my dick is soft even though I am turned on and enjoy the session ? I am flex , had my fair share of being top and btm b4 , but in the recent years , seems that I got a problem of topping others. Is it because of age ? I am 35 this year. Use to be able to get it real hard when i try to top others , but gets real soft when I am being topped. But recently when I try to top someone , although I am very turned on , but I just can't get it hard enough to enter him. Or sometimes it just got very hard but soft in a short while even b4 entering. Is it a sign of impotent ? Actually for the past 1 year , it have been like that , I will get soft when even I know I am very arouse ( but just do BJ or HJ only ). Any advices ? Or anyone with the same problem ?

[Guest Guest]

Just like to know if it's normal that my dick is soft even though I am turned on and enjoy the session ? I am flex , had my fair share of being top and btm b4 , but in the recent years , seems that I got a problem of topping others. Is it because of age ? I am 35 this year. Use to be able to get it real hard when i try to top others , but gets real soft when I am being topped. But recently when I try to top someone , although I am very turned on , but I just can't get it hard enough to enter him. Or sometimes it just got very hard but soft in a short while even b4 entering. Is it a sign of impotent ? Actually for the past 1 year , it have been like that , I will get soft when even I know I am very arouse ( but just do BJ or HJ only ). Any advices ? Or anyone with the same problem ?

Spoilt liao,

[GachiMuchi]

My take is that you have accustomed yourself as a btm for too long, so ur body responded by being soft when u r high. Well, since you are flex, the only way for u is to be a btm and still enjoy urself.

I dun think ur case has anything to do with ur age or being impotent. Anyway, impotent is about not able to conceive. What you are referring to is more of erectile dysfunction (ED).

[night listener]

when a man is impotent, he has ED. http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/impotent

[Guest hIgh_but_Soft]

My take is that you have accustomed yourself as a btm for too long, so ur body responded by being soft when u r high. Well, since you are flex, the only way for u is to be a btm and still enjoy urself.

I dun think ur case has anything to do with ur age or being impotent. Anyway, impotent is about not able to conceive. What you are referring to is more of erectile dysfunction (ED).

Hmm but the thing is the guy I am interested is pure bottom.

[GachiMuchi]

There are always Viagra or Double ended dildo.

[bigis4me]

I have always been flex but more btm and when i am being fxxked my dick is soft too but when i suck somebody i get hard back up again. There ared times when i like to be a top when i get to play with a big muscular guys ass and my dick gets so hard and just want to enter him. SO what i am saying is just find some erotic fun that interest you and who knows it may just be all in the mind...

[MarriedTop]

I have question here.

My btm(s) claimed that they were enjoyed and high but their cocks were soft.

Is that the case?

I thought for men - high = hard

[Guest Guest]

my cock is sensitive and hard when a top guy enter me, i prefer to sit on him to control the depth and pleasure, if he fxxk me good, i will usually auto-cum !! :oops:

[Guest Guest]

I have question here.

My btm(s) claimed that they were enjoyed and high but their cocks were soft.

Is that the case?

I thought for men - high = hard

Just take their word for it, they are enjoying your cock inside their ass, not all bottom can sport a super hard hardon when the dick is inside their ass maybe when they are 18-19 years old as age catches up the pleasure is there but the dickie may have other ideas on what it wants to do.

I once had a bottom who can auto cum even without his dick being hard he just tenses up and moans an his cum just flows out like a river of cum.

[beef4beef]

Just take their word for it, they are enjoying your cock inside their ass, not all bottom can sport a super hard hardon when the dick is inside their ass maybe when they are 18-19 years old as age catches up the pleasure is there but the dickie may have other ideas on what it wants to do.

I once had a bottom who can auto cum even without his dick being hard he just tenses up and moans an his cum just flows out like a river of cum.

Love it when bottom guys stay hard with a dick up the ass. Its a total turn on for me!

[Guest confuser]

The problem is , when I am being btm , my dick gets soft too. As many said , a true btm will gets rock hard when being entered. Wonder what is makes me then ? Cos I had been with guys who can be hard through the whole sex session, no anal , maybe just foreplay , sucking , etc ( like 30 min or more ) and even after they cum , it still hard. For me , I will get hard for a while , then get soft , then sometimes hard again or sometimes not but can never maintain that hard as those guys.

[punksiong]

Search for adrenal fatigue or Yang Defiency.

See if you have the symptoms.

Buy some tonic if needed

[Guest Guest]

Thats hot..... love to meet a btm that can autocum with a soft dick! To me thats freaky sexy! nice....

Just take their word for it, they are enjoying your cock inside their ass, not all bottom can sport a super hard hardon when the dick is inside their ass maybe when they are 18-19 years old as age catches up the pleasure is there but the dickie may have other ideas on what it wants to do.

I once had a bottom who can auto cum even without his dick being hard he just tenses up and moans an his cum just flows out like a river of cum.

[Guest surelyugessian]

Thats hot..... love to meet a btm that can autocum with a soft dick! To me thats freaky sexy! nice....

yes. one particular ah pek i had can come while being screwed.

all i need to do is press my body tightly against his balls while still going in and out of his hole.

when he comes, it gives me a special thril.

[sfguy123]

My penis would be hard as a rock if I was turned on... lol

[abang]

Sex is supposed to be enjoyed and not analysed.

Whether I bottomed for a hunky man or not, it is the mutual benefits that matters here.

I dont really care whether if he is 100% hard or 80% hard - as long as we both have a good time together.

[sfguy123]

Love it when bottom guys stay hard with a dick up the ass. Its a total turn on for me!

yeah my bf is in the same boat... when i'm taking it i'm so hard it makes him plow me harder and more

[Guest gorgeous]

Just take their word for it, they are enjoying your cock inside their ass, not all bottom can sport a super hard hardon when the dick is inside their ass maybe when they are 18-19 years old as age catches up the pleasure is there but the dickie may have other ideas on what it wants to do.

I once had a bottom who can auto cum even without his dick being hard he just tenses up and moans an his cum just flows out like a river of cum.

have u been fingered till auto-cum ? it is a different experience - want to try ;o)

[Guest alien]

Thats hot..... love to meet a btm that can autocum with a soft dick! To me thats freaky sexy! nice....

To cum not necessary dick must be rock hard. Even with soft dick, if u are horny enough, still can cum lor. But it is indeed a turn-on to see bottom guys stay hard while u top him!

[Guest disppointed]

met a guy at the sauna. was having some oral with him in the steam room but he keep covering his dick.reason he cannot get hard even if u bj him.for a guy whose dick cant function properly is meaniless to be a guy.Even Kumar can get erection.

[Guest Guest]

How did you know about Kumar??

U Got F by her?

[Guest LOL]

met a guy at the sauna. was having some oral with him in the steam room but he keep covering his dick.reason he cannot get hard even if u bj him.for a guy whose dick cant function properly is meaniless to be a guy.Even Kumar can get erection.

He might just have been kind to you by covering his dick and by saying that his dick cannot get hard even if you bj him, instead of telling you straight to your face that you are not his type, so much so that even if you bj him his dick would not be interested in you. :yuk:

[Guest anon1128]

met a guy at the sauna. was having some oral with him in the steam room but he keep covering his dick.reason he cannot get hard even if u bj him.for a guy whose dick cant function properly is meaniless to be a guy.Even Kumar can get erection.

maybe he got a sensitive dick head, i enjoy a good blow but sometime the other person is too rough or just doing it wrong,

instead of their tongue their teeth actually grinds on my dick head and that's not helping my dick to stand.

[delon]

met a guy at the sauna. was having some oral with him in the steam room but he keep covering his dick.reason he cannot get hard even if u bj him.for a guy whose dick cant function properly is meaniless to be a guy.Even Kumar can get erection.

Dat's a very mean thing 2 say.

[Guest yaan]

It's also exciting to have fun with a guy who cannot get hard easily, if he is cute looking and has nice bod. I will try my best to arouse him in whatever ways I can think of. I will feel very satisfied when I finally get him hard and shoot a load. You can play with his nipples, neck and hole.

[Guest Guest]

He might just have been kind to you by covering his dick and by saying that his dick cannot get hard even if you bj him, instead of telling you straight to your face that you are not his type, so much so that even if you bj him his dick would not be interested in you. :yuk:

i can still get hard naturally even if a guy not my type is sucking my dick or playing with me. however, the dick is not fully hard.

when the guy is totally my type, the dick will be fully hard and the hardon will remain for a long time.

[Guest Guest]

met a guy at the sauna. was having some oral with him in the steam room but he keep covering his dick.reason he cannot get hard even if u bj him.for a guy whose dick cant function properly is meaniless to be a guy.Even Kumar can get erection.

lol, your own sex skills damn poor la, blame people for not being aroused?

Your mouth too loose issit?

[Guest Guest]

maybe he jus cum and take time to get hard again

[Panadol]

I think some guys just don't get hard so easily ?

[BlowWindBlow]

Either. Too sensitive. Or not sensitive enough. XD

[schmuckisms]

maybe he knows you spell horribly on the internet-

[Guest guest]

when u on poppers or substance u just cant get hard

[Azorius]

when u on poppers or substance u just cant get hard

Same here, that's why I refuse to use them. The moment I catch a hint of it, it's downhill all the way for me. No fun =(

[Guest guest]

so is not the mouth too loose after all is the substance that make the guy cock small even u give yr best in blow job to him.

[Guest Popper Me]

Ya,,popper and smoking can soften the dick, agreed. Some men dicks are really very small, even when fully erected. All this is natural decided by GOD, you cannot do anything to it but you can choose a bigger dick but quite difficult to find.

[Guest Keepitup]

I know this is embarassing but I have trouble keeping it UP.

I can fxxk guys once or twice but that's about it. And once I change position, I start losing the hardness and sometimes I cannot even get it hard again when I have not even cummed.

Kinda feel rather erm... inept.

Is it coz I'm not sexually attracted to the guys or maybe I'm just lame....

Kinda admire those pple who can just fxxk endlessly and not lose their hardness regardless of what positions.

Appreciate any input.

[rr0879]

Theres a lot of factors tt can contribute to tt...maybe u r more comfortably erect in only a certain position, maybe u jus lost e feeling, maybe u think too much into it....

[Guest kimbap]

First, it could be you are simply not into them, not that you are lame.

Also, do you wear condoms? I find that wearing a condom really effects my ability to maintain an erection. The reduction in stimulation is just too great. So much so that it is not worth my bother or embarrassment. I also like to go deep, and my last partner couldn't take it. Half out doesn't do it for me either.

Of course one has to be safe. So best to save yourself for someone where you can both get tested and go for it uncovered.

[GachiMuchi]

Few things could have caused your predicament.

1. Performance Anxiety, - (Read previous discussion)- http://www.blowingwind.org/forum/index.php?showtopic=1652

2. Erectile dysfunction. - (Read previous discussion) - http://www.blowingwind.org/forum/index.php?showtopic=2081

3. Not sexually turned on

4. You are not in the mood

5. You had lower sexual libido

If this happens often, you might want to see a doctor and do something about it.

[Guest derektan70]

I sometimes have the same problem too, so don't worry too much it could be common.

Have a raging hardon so hard it hurts, but when partner is too tight, after a few tries, I grow soft.

Perhaps I'm not putting in enough effort, or not really into that guy?

[acidtongue]

one easy way is to improvise a cock ring by breaking a condom and putting it around your dick/balls

while i agree condoms do reduce the sensation, some btms have warm assholes which feel darn good even when u penetrate with a condom on.

[hardrod]

Yeah, me2...

No shame in admitting it though coz I realize I was not sexually attracted to the guys after all.

Usually happens with random guys whom I don't really know and never happens with guys whom I'm sexually attracted to.

I think it's all in our minds, some guys get turned on by any thing that moves and stay hard fxxking a lizard, while some prefer at least a certain level of chemistry either physically or mentally.

Making a cock-ring w a condom does help, if the other party really wan it that badly and u don wanna disappoint.

At least u know u r not alone now.

V brave of u to bring this UP though

[happy.99]

it could be the mood thing. when u are in the mood, you can top like a rabbit. sometime, you just want to get it off, just want to release it as quickly as possible, like get it done and over with. (to btms: no pun intended)

age could be a problem too. as your age, you can't hold your erection for long. so exercise comes a long way. for a healthy lifestyle, exercise!

[Guest 18 again]

one simple solution - stop masturbating or looking at pxxn. stop for at least one or two weeks. the try to fxxk. you'll feel like you're 18 again :-)

[Sinthai]

May be advisable to seek medical opinion instead.

Try doing more exercises and rest well and good.

Good health is still the fundamental of all physical activities.

Take care.

[Guest Erectus]

I have an embarassing prob, but here goes anyway

I have no problems getting hard but I have probs staying hard.

To be honest, I can fuck guys halfway and still lose erection.

It happens on occasions with certain guys.

Is it because I don't like the guy or I have some form of erectile dysfunction?

So far I have not heard any of my frens have dat prob though - they are fucking machines.

[Guest yaan]

I met a 22-yo SMU student on grindr and he invited me to his home in Queenstown for a session of hot fun because all his family members were at work.  He is cute looking and has a atheletic bod with deep merman lines.  Close to 1.8 m tall with trendy hairstyle and tight fitting clothes.  Every physical attribute about him is excellent.  The only let down (if I may call it so) was that he did not get hard for the entire 2 hours that we were on bed hugging, kissing, sucking, rimming, etc.  His dick remained small, soft and slim at about 5 cm.  I wanted very much for him to enter me but I could not get him hard.  So I entered him instead.  After riding me for about 15 mins, I told him that I was about to come, I then squeezed and twisted his nipples, and as I cummed into his hole (with condom of cos), a white stream of cum flowed out of his soft dick, to my surprise.  We rested for a while after that.  Then I started to suck his dick while fingering his hole, hoping to get him hard as my ass was itching to be abused by this hunk.  But it did not happen.  He asked me to penetrate him again.  This time I went on for another 20 mins but I told him that I wanted him to cum into my mouth.  He said alright but suggested that we should do a 69.  So I removed my condom, positioned myself properly on top of him and started pumping into his mouth.  At the same time, I encircled his dick with my mouth and gave him my best blow job ever.  After a while, as I shot my cum into his mouth, his dick filled my mouth with his second stream of cum.  I could not feel that his dick got hard and yet he managed to cum.  We swallowed each other's cum.  After that, we were so tired that we hugged each other to asleep.  He woke me up around 6 pm before his mother would return home.  We keep in contact and will meet up for a tryst again.

 

 

[Guest Cute Exec]

Use cock ring. It is very effective to keep your cock hard like steel for hours.

[Guest Guest]

yes, there are some people do have the problem staying hard, no worry, you are normal, just try to relax, the more you want to get hard, the more you can't