Is There True Love? + How Does One Know It Is (True) Love? (Compiled)

[Guest TrueLove]

Is there true love?

[waterballoon]

No, there is no true love.

[maturemedium]

Is there true love?

True love?

We all tried , yes, its difficult. We are not perfect. We are all tainted bro!!

[Guest faynic]

Is there true love?

I still believe there is true love, but I dun think it existed in AJ circle.

Too much temptations here. Even if u r in r/s, ur bf may be flirting ard.

[TheVisitors]

Yes there is much a thing called true love.

Just because we are gay or bisexual, that doesnt mean we cannot experience true love , or is denied the right to love

Having being through 11 relationships before, of which 3 were really true to my heart when I look back in quiet retrospection.

I have matured to realize who was true , who was false, who contributed to my growth, and where I did right or wrong.

Many people will think -" 11 is a bit too much , whats wrong with you ? " or the cynical ones will remark that I am such a slut, without knowing the real reason why sometimes a relationship can no longer continue on.

Sometimes death, or personal situation which is beyond our control, reluctantly force two people to part, even thought they still love each other very deeply.

This is more painful than betrayal.

The latter has at least a closure to end, with answers that satisfy your quiries.

The former has no symbolism or some kind of ritual for any closure, leaving you to face your own sorrows, all alone with many unanswered questions.

Its like a solitude, being locked up by the Gods, and being punished for being true to yourself and others.

But its is not necessary a reality, because many people cannot seem handle such 'failure'. The bitterness , the dramas they display, and cynicism are the mask and facade they put on , just to numb the pain inside of them just because they can't handle themselves or get what they want.

If you ask me , if there any positive about what I went through, I think it just makes me appreciate myself and life even more.

If you were able to see and gain some wisdom from all your wounds, you will be able to see some light at the end of the tunnel.

Till today, I still keep the shirt, shorts , the watch, that ring, and pieces of poems they wrote for me on pieces of scrap papers.

Not becuase I am living in a painful past, but they serve as reminders to me what was once true and real.

And i appreciate them for coming into my life, even things didnt work out as planned.

And yes, I still believe in true love.

Edited October 31, 2010 by TheVisitors

[Joeng]

In our circle of Man2Man relationship, the perception is that we are mostly attracted to the physical aspects of M2M relationship - our physical attraction, the raw sex, etc. I wonder how important is the emotional support aspects in the M2M relationship ?

There are too many heart-breaking stories that we hear in this circle, and it's quite disheartening, especially for one venturing into it.

Hopefully this poll will shed more light into our psyche ?

Feel free to comment, and we all learn from one another.

[GachiMuchi]

The Player - Totally agree, Raw Lust is all it counts ! True Love is passé !

The Newly gay and the Closeted - Absurd ! True Love reigns above everything else !

Those who have been around long enough - Who cares ! Raw Lust or True Love, as long as we two enjoy our M2M companionship.

Nothing is cast in stone. Different folks, different strokes.

[Joeng]

The Player - Totally agree, Raw Lust is all it counts ! True Love is passé !

The Newly gay and the Closeted - Absurd ! True Love reigns above everything else !

Those who have been around long enough - Who cares ! Raw Lust or True Love, as long as we two enjoy our M2M companionship.

Nothing is cast in stone. Different folks, different strokes.

Thanks GachiMuchi, you've quite aptly grouped and classified them.

While I do agree with your view of "diiferent folks, different strokes", I tend to believe that there are many more Players and 'Long Timers' in this circle, and it's the Newly Gays and Closeted, who have very different sets of expectations, and are often the ones who got hurt in the process.

Many more are looking for raw lust than true love, and if one is not careful in choosing your partner, it will be a very painful learning experience !

Does any one care to share your past learnings - happy or sad ?

Is it important to have the expectations correctly set upfront with your Man before you really get entwined in your M2M relationship ?

[Guest TrueLove]

Yes there is much a thing called true love.

Just because we are gay or bisexual, that doesnt mean we cannot experience true love , or is denied the right to love

Having being through 11 relationships before, of which 3 were really true to my heart when I look back in quiet retrospection.

I have matured to realize who was true , who was false, who contributed to my growth, and where I did right or wrong.

Many people will think -" 11 is a bit too much , whats wrong with you ? " or the cynical ones will remark that I am such a slut, without knowing the real reason why sometimes a relationship can no longer continue on.

Sometimes death, or personal situation which is beyond our control, reluctantly force two people to part, even thought they still love each other very deeply.

This is more painful than betrayal.

The latter has at least a closure to end, with answers that satisfy your quiries.

The former has no symbolism or some kind of ritual for any closure, leaving you to face your own sorrows, all alone with many unanswered questions.

Its like a solitude, being locked up by the Gods, and being punished for being true to yourself and others.

But its is not necessary a reality, because many people cannot seem handle such 'failure'. The bitterness , the dramas they display, and cynicism are the mask and facade they put on , just to numb the pain inside of them just because they can't handle themselves or get what they want.

If you ask me , if there any positive about what I went through, I think it just makes me appreciate myself and life even more.

If you were able to see and gain some wisdom from all your wounds, you will be able to see some light at the end of the tunnel.

Till today, I still keep the shirt, shorts , the watch, that ring, and pieces of poems they wrote for me on pieces of scrap papers.

Not becuase I am living in a painful past, but they serve as reminders to me what was once true and real.

And i appreciate them for coming into my life, even things didnt work out as planned.

And yes, I still believe in true love.

Thank you for your sharing. True or not... hardly have a gay relationship that lasts a lifetime. No gay seems to willing to take up commitment. True only for a short moment. Maybe not totally true afterall.

[Guest Love]

In my entire love, love usually comes stronger through your best friend than your lover. Am I the only one feeling it?

[Guest Guest]

In my entire love, love usually comes stronger through your best friend than your lover. Am I the only one feeling it?

You are not alone. Less expectation from friends, hence friendship lasts and one can share more in such area.

[Joeng]

Can you have True Love if you are involved with a few buddies ?

If so, what then is True Love ?

Are we then purely driven by Raw Lust ?

Where does Raw Lust lead us to eventually ?

I guess, it will not be easily answered ...

[Boya]

Can you have True Love if you are involved with a few buddies ?

If so, what then is True Love ?

Are we then purely driven by Raw Lust ?

Where does Raw Lust lead us to eventually ?

I guess, it will not be easily answered ...

At first, for most men couples, they really do need raw lust to start something. But for me, I'd rather start with frendship. If I can maintain that friendship long enough to know this person better, then, I'd consier having a romantic relationship with him. It's mor sustainable tha way. Call me old-fashion, but sometimes, old-fashion and down-to-earth methods do have their own merits...

[luke84]

hmm after 2 failed relationship... i'm also starting to get cynical over true love.

i believe in keeping my virginity for 24years, saving it only for the one i love.

give it to my ex 2yrs ago, thinking that he was the 'right' one and ya.. 'ex'

anyway, to me maybe not so much of virginity. just that i believe in

'making love', not 'having sex'.

i am too waiting of the right one..

believes in 'monogamy' not 'open relationship'

believes in true love and finding someone as a lifetime companion.

[Guest im In]

Yeah, Let the Right One "IN" !!!

[snowball]

Keeping Virginity & giving it to the right one really is a big deal to most people? is that just one sided thinking?

Do they ever really know the main reason why they failed the relationahip? always the other party fault? what make it so?

Love is not just about saying i love you you love me, is easy to fall in love & attach with someone you feel comfortable, but how you maintain it is a " profound art ", are you worth it in the first place?

when love failed, don't keep thinking that your are always the right one, you are victim, there is always a reason behind for you to learn & be a better man.

do remember, True Love is not about " believe " & " wait ", is the way how you going to put in real act, how you going to send this massage to the person & make him feel secure & bring him into your world too, love is between two person & not what you " thought ".

[Guest darkflame]

If there is something to blame, just blame the testosterone surging through our bodies since we're biologically males. In the case of the gay man, the biological instinct is telling him that he can procreate by mating with other men. Which is why we have so many cases of people just having sex for the sake of having sex. It's natural in the animal kingdom as well.

I try to adhere to true love but sometimes I do admit I feel weak in the flesh when I see some hotbod like I wish I could just get a quickie with him or such. It's just what nature programs us to do. And besides, the cost of cheating with gay men is much lower than straight men fooling around.

What I can just determine myself is that if I don't feel anything for my partner after the climax, it means there isn't any true love in that relationship.

[Joeng]

There is a fundamental difference in our psyche when we are dealing with Man-Man Relationship versus Man-Woman Relationship.

In Man-Woman Relationship, courtship generally begins with true love feeling for each other, before it leads to sexual relationship.

However, in Man-Man Relationship, both men are generally attracted to the sexual experience, before they decide whether they will stay on to develop a true love relationship.

Let me qualify myself ... I said this seems to be the GENERAL OBSERVATION , but I may be wrong.

The question is : why the difference in attitude ?

Edited November 7, 2010 by Joeng

[Joeng]

Is it fair to say that between Man-and-Man, we can afford to be more frivolous and 'trigger-happy' in our sexual adventures, since there is very little to lose for each of us ?

We can afford to experiment amongst ourselves, and the "cost of cheating" is lower for gay men than for straights ?

I wonder who gets hurt in the process ? or is it mostly a win-win situation ?

I doubt in reality, it's win-win situation most of the time - someone always seems to be hurt.

[fab]

NOt sure if he's the right one, but 18 yrs ago, he took my first time and I m still with him now.

[Boya]

Is it fair to say that between Man-and-Man, we can afford to be more frivolous and 'trigger-happy' in our sexual adventures, since there is very little to lose for each of us ?

We can afford to experiment amongst ourselves, and the "cost of cheating" is lower for gay men than for straights ?

I wonder who gets hurt in the process ? or is it mostly a win-win situation ?

I doubt in reality, it's win-win situation most of the time - someone always seems to be hurt.

I supposed gay sex is designed to be 'frivolous' - why? when the man you lust for came inside you, he gave you his best, his 'essence' - but both of you know that what was deposited will be expelled very soon as excreta ! But with a woman, what is deposited will turn into a baby ! That's why men-men sex can and should be frivolous because if you can deposit your precious essence and be expelled away so easily, then why restrict yourself to depositing it in only one man?

[Joeng]

... That's why men-men sex can and should be frivolous because if you can deposit your precious essence and be expelled away so easily, then why restrict yourself to depositing it in only one man?

While biologically it is true that in men-men sex, he can afford to deposit his 'essence' in any men he lusts for (and costs him nothing .. forget about the STD, HIV), what happens to the emotional and psychological aspects of the involved parties ?

They can't be very different for men-men sex and men-women sex, because we humans do have a very strong attachment to our love objects, once we fall for them, regardless men or women ?

Any views ?

[luke84]

Keeping Virginity & giving it to the right one really is a big deal to most people? is that just one sided thinking?

Do they ever really know the main reason why they failed the relationahip? always the other party fault? what make it so?

Love is not just about saying i love you you love me, is easy to fall in love & attach with someone you feel comfortable, but how you maintain it is a " profound art ", are you worth it in the first place?

when love failed, don't keep thinking that your are always the right one, you are victim, there is always a reason behind for you to learn & be a better man.

do remember, True Love is not about " believe " & " wait ", is the way how you going to put in real act, how you going to send this massage to the person & make him feel secure & bring him into your world too, love is between two person & not what you " thought ".

wow snowball!

totally agree with you.

I am also learning to be more active in the searching, hence i'm here. trying to know more people around! not going to 'wait' and 'see'

through the past failed relationship, i get to see what i want and how i can love others better.

and of course, understand that it really takes 2 hands to clap when it come to a relationship.

so yea...

i never think it's others' party fault when a relationship fails, haha usually i put all the blame to myself for loving the other party the wrong way. hopefully will grow from it:)

[Boya]

While biologically it is true that in men-men sex, he can afford to deposit his 'essence' in any men he lusts for (and costs him nothing .. forget about the STD, HIV), what happens to the emotional and psychological aspects of the involved parties ?

They can't be very different for men-men sex and men-women sex, because we humans do have a very strong attachment to our love objects, once we fall for them, regardless men or women ?

Any views ?

Your "strong attachment" also, like all things, comes wth an expiry date. I might be very excited everytime he puts his perfectly shaped and harden rod in my hole or vice versa, but after a while, I might gt tired of that familiar feeling of "fit" in my hole, or mine in his hole. Then I'd start to wonder what if another shape or size would fill me up, or down? How would it feel? In this way, my attachment breaks away and I start looking for another attachments....

[Joeng]

Your "strong attachment" also, like all things, comes wth an expiry date. I might be very excited everytime he puts his perfectly shaped and harden rod in my hole or vice versa, but after a while, I might gt tired of that familiar feeling of "fit" in my hole, or mine in his hole. Then I'd start to wonder what if another shape or size would fill me up, or down? How would it feel? In this way, my attachment breaks away and I start looking for another attachments....

We, men, are generally weak when it comes to lust. The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak.

On the one hand, we long for a True Love, and on the other, we often stray for love of fresh flesh or Raw Lust.

We will never be contented, because we tend to love diversity - experiential love-making with different partners excite most of us ? !

Hence, the question of Raw Lust over True Love is true in most men - gay, straight or bi ?

[waterballoon]

This whole thread doesn't make sense at all.

Seriously, there are people out there only look for fun and that's fine. I think as long as both parties state what they're expecting from this particular interaction, it should be fine. I'm strongly against fun (although I've done it before & reli regretted it) but I would respect someone's preference for fun to say friendship/LTR.

The thing that bugs me is... people cheating when they're already in a relationship. If you're single I say it's fine to gawk at the hod bod passing by & thinking of "having fun" with that guy. But hello? When you have a bf already? How acceptable is that? Just because it's "okay" to cheat in a gay relationship? Oh, give me a break. If he cheats, he doesn't love you enough; that is same for all kinds of romantic relationships.

I don't care if others laugh that the idea of true love and a real LTR in the gay community doesn't exist, because I feel most people who say a LTR doesn't exist here simply don't believe in it anymore because they were hurt before or couldn't believe in "forever" anymore.

"Even if it's the end of the world

Even if people say with laughter that we are trying in vain

Let's go together

Because nothing is as fearful as giving up"

Pride - ayumi hamasaki

[Joeng]

Does it make sense if we equate :

Raw Lust = flesh over emotional commitment = fun for fun sake = one night stand = no obligation to each other

True Love = emotional commitment with fun sex with a loved partner = loved relationship with shared dream

With the simple definition, it applies equally both for men-men sex and men-women sex, isn't it ?

The supposition is that, in general, :

in Man-Man sexual relationship = Raw Lust > True Love

while in Man-Woman sexual relationship = True Love > Raw Lust

[Guest Guest]

Does it make sense if we equate :

Raw Lust = flesh over emotional commitment = fun for fun sake = one night stand = no obligation to each other

True Love = emotional commitment with fun sex with a loved partner = loved relationship with shared dream

With the simple definition, it applies equally both for men-men sex and men-women sex, isn't it ?

The supposition is that, in general, :

in Man-Man sexual relationship = Raw Lust > True Love

while in Man-Woman sexual relationship = True Love > Raw Lust

in Man-Woman sexual relationship = woman know men will stray hence they demand commitment because her market value will drop the more men she have sex with.

Man-Man sexual relationship = both men will stray so who commits to who? The btm's market value will also drop if he is a wanton but he's also usually able to earn his own money hence he don't worry about that.

The same is now happening to women in the west and advanced Asian countries where women with high earning power are very independent and sexually active like those in Sex and the City.

The reverse is also true for gay men depending on the other partner. He will be chaise as the btm. I know of someone very handsome who depended on his partner and though he was being tempted by others he refused. But unfortunately one year later his partner strayed and threw him out. He went crazy and had orgies and ons with all those admirers. But after that his market value dropped and even they also only used him for sex.

[thorzguy]

Does it make sense if we equate :

Raw Lust = flesh over emotional commitment = fun for fun sake = one night stand = no obligation to each other

True Love = emotional commitment with fun sex with a loved partner = loved relationship with shared dream

I like your above 2 equations.

Edited November 9, 2010 by thorzguy

[Guest Guest]

The reverse is also true for gay men depending on the other partner. He will be chaise as the btm. I know of someone very handsome who depended on his partner and though he was being tempted by others he refused. But unfortunately one year later his partner strayed and threw him out. He went crazy and had orgies and ons with all those admirers. But after that his market value dropped and even they also only used him for sex.

Ur friend is too rash and foolish.

My first bf who is a top strayed after a year plus we got together. In between, i got several hook up requests and invitations but i rejected them all. We call it off when he not only slept behind my back but was not truthful as well. That was when i first stepped into the circle.

Unfortunately my 2nd relationship lasted less than a year and it was also because my ex slept behind my back but he was truthful. He wanted an open relationship and even told me that with my looks, i can get alot of guys. I declined as i did not want this kind of relationship. was quite disappointed and depressed after that as i wondered whether was it foolish to stay faithful. And whether are there any faithful and decent top guys out there. I did not sleep around even when im single but began to question whether is it worth it?

The current bf came along and he was the one that made me not lose faith in my believes. We have been going strong for 5 years now and i am really lucky because he is not only gorgeous , nice but is decent and faithful as well. Funny enough, i did not harbour much expectations when we got together but everything work out well. I cherish him alot as he is the type of guy that im looking for and i believe the two exs i have had were just that i have not met the right guys then. Stay on to ur believes and hold on to your values!

Also I advise guys not to be too dependent on your partner as well. I was somewhat dependent on my first bf financially as i was fresh out of uni then and came from a poor family. However, after that i learn to be more financially independent and work hard for my own money. Emotional wise, both parties need to rely on each other but over-reliance can be a problem as well and hence we need to have some gd close friends for support.

The circle is small but there are all types of guys around. Believe that there will be someone that u are looking for out there - but u gonna mk the effort to go look around and not just sit there like a princess. the kind of relationship that u want also requires effort from ur part.

[partnership]

Ur friend is too rash and foolish.

My first bf who is a top strayed after a year plus we got together. In between, i got several hook up requests and invitations but i rejected them all. We call it off when he not only slept behind my back but was not truthful as well. That was when i first stepped into the circle.

Unfortunately my 2nd relationship lasted less than a year and it was also because my ex slept behind my back but he was truthful. He wanted an open relationship and even told me that with my looks, i can get alot of guys. I declined as i did not want this kind of relationship. was quite disappointed and depressed after that as i wondered whether was it foolish to stay faithful. And whether are there any faithful and decent top guys out there. I did not sleep around even when im single but began to question whether is it worth it?

The current bf came along and he was the one that made me not lose faith in my believes. We have been going strong for 5 years now and i am really lucky because he is not only gorgeous , nice but is decent and faithful as well. Funny enough, i did not harbour much expectations when we got together but everything work out well. I cherish him alot as he is the type of guy that im looking for and i believe the two exs i have had were just that i have not met the right guys then. Stay on to ur believes and hold on to your values!

Also I advise guys not to be too dependent on your partner as well. I was somewhat dependent on my first bf financially as i was fresh out of uni then and came from a poor family. However, after that i learn to be more financially independent and work hard for my own money. Emotional wise, both parties need to rely on each other but over-reliance can be a problem as well and hence we need to have some gd close friends for support.

The circle is small but there are all types of guys around. Believe that there will be someone that u are looking for out there - but u gonna mk the effort to go look around and not just sit there like a princess. the kind of relationship that u want also requires effort from ur part.

Love your sharing!!

[derryfawne]

A little bit of both keeps the relationship going. Voted for third option, but if die die can choose only one, I'll go for the emotional connection.

[onlylonely]

 ***Who cares ! Raw Lust or True Love, as long as we two enjoy our M2M companionship***

A good balance of both. be open abt ur needs and the relationship will go a long way

[Yas1950]

I have voted for Raw Lust; I have my reasons.

Since I am more bisexual and basically a bottom, I find that I have the urge mainly when I am

feeling lonely and "unloved".

I either go to find some like-minded friends just to get off.

I used to be fawning over single lovers who were available to me when I myself was also single.

These lovers were good to me  until one or both of us started to feel we were bored (for want

of a better word)with each other.

Its not that we were slutty, its just that we felt it was high time for a change.

Nowadays, already being a Senior Citizen, the sexual urges are not that urgent and therefore

whenever the 'itch' strikes, I might just drop into a regular Sauna and look out for people I am

familiar with or people whom I've had 'fleeting affairs' with and hook-up. BUT I am not insistent

nor am I jealous nor upset if I am turned down.

So what does that make me? Category 1, 2 or 3?

If I have voted for the wrong category, how do I change?

Thanks for listening.

[acem69]

Please I need love

[Guest Cute Exec]

My bf and I have been in relationship coming 5 years. This year we moved into a house together. I think no. 3 is more fit into us. A bit of true love and raw sex factors involve but I would say the main factor is we indeed enjoy everyday life together and the caring for each other is so heart warming. Ya we're still going strong in love with each other.

[sky1985]

My bf and I have been in relationship coming 5 years. This year we moved into a house together. I think no. 3 is more fit into us. A bit of true love and raw sex factors involve but I would say the main factor is we indeed enjoy everyday life together and the caring for each other is so heart warming. Ya we're still going strong in love with each other.

Thats great. Really happy for u to find a good companion that can support one another.

[Guest boyish]

The best way to make up after a fight is to have my man dominate me and shoot his seed inside me. Makes me remember all over again why I am truly his, and why I need his big cock deep inside me. Been with my man for 7 years.

[Clickclock]

I don't think it is wise to generalize a certain attitude simply because its man on man or woman on man or woman on woman. Different people have different desires and needs to satisfy and it is complicated further with their belief systems and attitude. I know that men are mostly thinking about lust and sex, however, that is not a good enough reason to say that all men for men take lust over love.

[Guest Guest]

In life, you get what you want.

It's not about other people, what their values and beliefs are.

If there is no one who shares your values, are you then going to give up?

If you give up your own values, do you then blame others?

It boils down to what you want in life.

[Exynos]

sadly I think what you project as a guideline to your relationship is what your relationship will end up to be. if you don't believe in love, and you think raw lust triumphs love then your relationships are gonna be... well like that. 

[onlylonely]

My bf and I have been in relationship coming 5 years. This year we moved into a house together. I think no. 3 is more fit into us. A bit of true love and raw sex factors involve but I would say the main factor is we indeed enjoy everyday life together and the caring for each other is so heart warming. Ya we're still going strong in love with each other.

That's really sweet

[Guest Cute Exec]

My bf and I are in love deeply. We like to kiss each other always in the house. When outing for foods, we usually share some foods. Sometimes he will feed me and that i feel very sweet of him. somehow when being together with him I always feel like i am in a good dream and I've completely sunk into it. On the other hand, I'm very much aware that one day we may be parted due to family pressures. I am indeed very much loving him and he loves me trully too. Our story is like Romeo and Juliet. I wish this good dream can last long long. At the moment I always tell myself just don't think too much about our life in future. All we need to do is to cherish our relationship together right now every minutes every days. Life does not always work according to your wish. But since god has brought us together, we should cherish this love for the time being. The least, even may one day we no longer together, we had all the sweet memories to remember of.

[Guest LostBoy]

My bf and I have been in relationship coming 5 years. This year we moved into a house together. I think no. 3 is more fit into us. A bit of true love and raw sex factors involve but I would say the main factor is we indeed enjoy everyday life together and the caring for each other is so heart warming. Ya we're still going strong in love with each other.

 

 

The best way to make up after a fight is to have my man dominate me and shoot his seed inside me. Makes me remember all over again why I am truly his, and why I need his big cock deep inside me. Been with my man for 7 years.

 

I wonder what are you looking for in the relationship? Mind to share? I always look for affirmation, that your partner is your ideal and you want to be like him. Are we all looking for the same thing?

[KnightParis]

In this section I would like to open a debate.

In any loving relationship, how does one know he or she is the one?

 

I ponder on this question a lot lately. How can we be sure we are with the right one?

 

Is there a check list? Can one be objective? Is there such thing as happily ever after as in the fairy tales?

 

What is love? For such things as abstract as love, how do we know we found love? Is love fleeting or long lasting? Coz I heard from somewhere that says love is eternal. What does that mean?

 

Would be great if someone could shed light into these... And may be share their experience(s)

 

 

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Peace and Harmony

[Guest Handsome Guy]

In any loving relationship, how does one know he or she is the one?

After a few dates, both of you will feel each other if you two are right for one another. You two will keep thinking about each other. Care about each other's everything in life.

I ponder on this question a lot lately. How can we be sure we are with the right one?

Close your eyes and think about anything happy. If he is what you thinking. He is the right one. It happened to me.

Is there a check list? Can one be objective? Is there such thing as happily ever after as in the fairy tales?

I dont think there is any check list.

I dont believe in happily ever after fairy tales. Love needs both of you to put in efforts consistantly to maintain abd keep it alive.

What is love? For such things as abstract as love, how do we know we found love? Is love fleeting or long lasting? Coz I heard from somewhere that says love is eternal. What does that mean?

Love is eternal aka it never dies. Love is everywhere. One can have many loves. One love ceases another pops out.

These are my 2 cents of understanding about Luve

[NielKlient]

When you are in one, you will know instinctively. However, if you are in one and constantly asking yourself this question or if this question would constantly/randomly pops into your head, then maybe it isnt the right one.

 

A relationship is like nurturing a pot of plant. You need to give it alot of attention and TLC to 'stabilize' it while it grows.

If you choose to put in what you think is sufficient, your plant/relationship will die.

 

Simple words... Give it all you've got. Don't worry/expect how it may turn out.

If you put in your best and still fail, at least you learn and grow from it for the next relationship.

[gummibear]

Sadly when guys harp on the highly elusive individual also known as "The One", but what they are really referring to is "The Want." A person who fits to a standard set of prerequisites they have already formed for their ideal partner.

"The One" does actually exists but only if it works both ways in the relationship where both people are putting in mutual effort in sustaining it for the long haul and being aware that there are always differences and things that are hard to see eye to eye with occasionally.

Nothing in life comes in a bed of roses that leads to fairy tale love making. But that's where the challenge is.

[bluerunner]

The most hurting part is A thinks A lot about B and feels B is the one but B has no vibes at all. Cry sia.

[Guest guest]

Well.... there is no check list for this phenomena " the right one" . It is intuitive for me. We been more than a year now and though we are both busy at work and our daily lives, we make sure we are in constant contact with one another. We meet about three times in a month , maybe even less , but there is an unexplained attachment for one another. Each time i receive his sms or call, i feel good physically and emotionally. Remember even the "right one" may not work at all if both parties concerned take no effort to nuture the relationship. It is a continous but rewarding work in sustaining it though at times we do need to give and take. The result is nirvana and you know that both of you belong to one another.