When Did You Know That You Are A Gay? + The Day When I Knew I'm Gay (complied)

[sumblue2003]

Most of us are not born to be PLU. You may want to share your experience/encounter here that make you realise that U r a PLU.

[oralb]

please support your statement on "Most of us are not born to be PLU."

[Guest Gogo]

During my Pri 6 time, I waited every evening just to see a guy (age early 20s) to ride his bicycle in the neighbourhood. He was often without his shirt on. I love to see his bushy arm pit hair and his leg. Wank myself quietly in the toilet every night -- thinking of him. But, I did not realise I am PLU until in the army where me and my officer became one item. A bit late hor ... compare to ppl now whom 13/14 yo already so open. Scary !

[Buaya]

I tend to think that most are born PLU.

But I agree that there are some people who MIGHT encounter something major and changed their sexual orientation, eg. sexual abuse, bad relationship with father etc...

But I also wanna say that I strongly believe these are the minority though religions and governments are playing this card and trying to change the 'mindset' of 'gay people'...

I did not choose a lifestyle, I was born this way...

Anyway, I digressed...sumblue2003 was asking HOW we realised that we are PLUs... Hmm... from young, I just realised I have a penile fetish... I love to play with my penis and see others' and as I became sexually mature by 10-12yo, I began to notice the guys around me and naked/half naked male bodies and pictures etc... I bacame interested in topics on circumcision of muslim boys etc... So, for me, I guess it is gradual and natural and I realised that I am different from as early as 11yo when I realised I like to see the guys around me and are attracted to them...

[Guest Guest_Shaberu]

Before puberty, we know what hard-on is. The feeling is just good and full of energy. Whenever I see a person not better looking than me but attractive, I get jealous, and both try to show faces. It is the short attraction and see who is stronger (or who can seduce who? )! As I grow older, I know what I am I getting into.

Don’t know if it helps? My first encounter (69) was with my neighbor of same age (below 12 yo but didn’t cum and felt good below) whenever we wanted to do it we said “Leaf” (as in leave! ). Unfortunately, caught by my younger bro and his mum on 2 diff occasions. Later incidents were a disaster. Were molested (sec school) 1ce at a swimming pool by an air force guy, 2ce on the buses and an Indian guy tried to seduced me but all failed. You may say not my type or something isn’t right! At working age was seduced by a handsome and attractive married guy but nothing happened and disaster again (cover blew, do I have it?)! What am I going thru’ to deny? I go on just to live my own life as long as I can live. I did try gay sex ( not so often and only 2 I liked; 1 with passions in dogs and cooking, 1 is into nipple play I liked but hurt so much. I know I am somehow attractive to them but sure not in the long term. Till now I still haven’t contact them and so do they.

We don’t fight to be not gay but fight to live our own life in a responsible way. Just 1 word, gay is nothing to be mentioned but in your heart. Don’t know if it is the correct place you wrote to this forum. Not too late to find your own world as long as you are living. So are we born PLU?

Actually, whenever I wrote I feared bombast! Well, let just say we speak our hearts.

[coleebrooker]

When Did You Know That You Are A Gay?

[Guest slimbtm]

i actually found out when i was in the secondary school ( guess is a little late)

i and my friend were in the toilet using the urinal and i started looking at his penis =) and the next thing i found out was i had a hard-on

and I naturally kneel down and blow for him although he did not requested me to do so but that incident make me what i am today

it was my first blow-job and it was his first time getting blown too so its really very nice

and it is really exciting to do it for the first time and somemore in a school...

[Guest alien]

When i knew and confirm i am gay, when i looked back my grow-ups phase, from pri sch and throughout all my school days, i remembered i like to look at guys, and had many "memories" on cute guys, even now i still remember their face! And i dun have any impression on which girls i have beo before! During tht time, i dun know this means gay! Now then i know, hahah!

And when i first started to surf gay website, i enjoy looking at guy fit body, and got hardon, so this when i am confirm i am gay liao!

[Guest darkflame]

I don't know but when I first learnt what 'gay' meant, I didn't feel disgusted or anything. Up to now I can't understand how some straight guys find the word 'gay' disgusting but I try to imagine two girls getting it on and I think I sort of get the picture. Sorry.

I had a slight crush on my teacher in primary 5 (he was the tanned, fit type) and I sort of had a crush on a classmate in secondary school for 3 years so I guess I concluded I was gay. To add to that, in jc, I changed with my classmate for PE and I found out he was extremely hairy (legs, stomach, arms; he's Chinese) and he changed very slowly, guess cuz it was the guys' toilet after all and he didn't know someone so near him was viewing him as eye-candy. After that, I decided 100% I was gay.

I have some sort of curse for falling for straight guys. :yuk:

[Guest Guest]

Sec 4 when we went to someone's house to watch pxxn video. They enjoyed watching the video, I enjoyed seeing their "tentage" and later, when they jo and cummed. :oops:

[Guest Guest]

I was 23 and I worked in a night club, I'd had loads of girl friends and was dating this girl who i did think I would end up marrying, then I girl I worked with came into the club with her gay brother (I had never met him before) and from the moment I seen him I knew that I wanted him, it took about another month of meeting up before we got together but alas we only lasted a year, after that I was BI for a few years then decided that gay was the way for me and iv not looked back

[Guest hunk who wants a hunk]

A few years back when I was in secondary school, that was when boys start to mature and I did my first blowjob on a close friend whom I eventually had a LTR with.

I guess it's all the raging hormones but it all happened really quickly. It happened when we were both in Sec 3, I was waiting for him to finish his training (he was in the swimming team), and as usual was at the pool watching him (secretly admiring his tanned muscular body), since we always go back home together. Then he and his team mates went to toilet to bathe, waited for him but everyone else had already left the toilet.

Being a really impatient person, I went in and BOOM, there he was, standing naked. He said there were not enough cubicles to bathe as some of the showers were spoilt, so he had to wait. He had already bathe and was drying himself with a towel, I could remember smelling the fresh manly scent wafting from his body, and his semi erect cock wobbling between his legs. Maybe it was because the toilet was empty, but hormones got the better of me. I went straight towards him, grab him and went into one of the cubicles. Then I told him about my secret infatuations with him since sec 1 and he looked a little shock at first.

We stood in the cubicle face to face, and there was an awkward silence as we look each other in the eye. Then he took me in his arms and I learnt what it was like to kiss, to feel the warmth of a close hard and muscular body rubbing and thrusting against me, and the sweet taste of a cock in my mouth. Hence started my first secret relationshop.

[Guest I am a Butterfly]

When I first meddled with my mom's lipstick and her faked diamond stud at the age of 6. I remembered when she brought me to pasar malam in olden days, while she was selecting her jewellery stud, I will "give suggestion" which one is more beautiful and she heeded my advice. Actually it was me that likes it, not her...hehehe. She just didn't know until today.

[Guest Guest]

I was 23 and I worked in a night club, I'd had loads of girl friends and was dating this girl who i did think I would end up marrying, then I girl I worked with came into the club with her gay brother (I had never met him before) and from the moment I seen him I knew that I wanted him, it took about another month of meeting up before we got together but alas we only lasted a year, after that I was BI for a few years then decided that gay was the way for me and iv not looked back

wo..if u nver met him, you would still be straight now??

it is believed that there are guys who are straight until they meet "the one"

[stupidmunk]

Its been 4 or 5 years. It feels good to looks at smart and slim good and innocent looking boys. I even feel hardening. But never had gay relationships...

Edited November 7, 2010 by stupidmunk

[Sporty81]

I felt this could be another topic that a lot of us would love to share. The day we realized we are different from other boys around us.

 

For me, I felt it during my kindergarten days, when i enjoyed being with my favourite classmate, feel happy when he's giving me his attention. Ha ha...

 

So how about yours? Let's share!! =)

[fab]

Before kindergarten, I already had a deep crush with a very handsome neighbour gorgor  2 years my senior.

[glowingember]

I had an infatuation over my older cousin when I was about 9...

Then the more serious crush happened when I was 16-ish.

I guess that's the time when I honestly admitted to myself that I am gay.

[Guest Guest]

I knew it about 2 or 3 years old when my father was looking at a variety show on tv. There were men and women dancing and my attention was on the men.

[Guest LONEly NIGht]

When I was in prim one, this fav bollywood movie "bobby" was talk of the town than . All the fantastic songs, story line and the actor ; Rishi kapoor by then only 16. There was his nude scene

full few from the back uncensored! I kind a fascinated on his nude scene while the adults dazzled on the songs and dance move. I have been following adults watched the movie few times though I am chinese not understanding the story at all. U may google for Bobby u know what I mean.

[zwei]

What does plu means?

Anyway knew it when I realise all my attention was on the cute guys in school while my friends talk about the girls when I was in secondary school

[darkflame]

When I was 3, my father had lots of fitness magazines showcasing American men. After that, I learnt where my father put the magazines, I'd take a look at them.

I have quite a long obsession with fit, strong white men. 

[leibniz]

In 1999, I stripped a two-page full poster of Hideaki Takizawa off a tabloid, folded it and kept it secret between pages of a textbook.

[merlinkun]

Why I crawl out from the gates of hell, my deamon friends held a farewell party for me with a oversize billboard with the words "Good bye fag". That is the day I knew I wasn't the same as the other deamons.

 

Funny, I wonder how they knew in the first place.

[smokey]

Why I crawl out from the gates of hell, my deamon friends held a farewell party for me with a oversize billboard with the words "Good bye fag". That is the day I knew I wasn't the same as the other deamons.

Funny, I wonder how they knew in the first place.

LOl !

When I like primary 4 . A chinese boy used to stay with his mum at my place . There wad once we was playing and when he stood up , cant remembet why but I pulled his pants down and his "dang" was huge . At pri 4 . I was like OMG so huge . But well didnt think much of it till I went to secondary school and a counsellor asked the million dollar question . Ever since I have been questioning myself and well . I got the answer .

[leibniz]

Why I crawl out from the gates of hell, my deamon friends held a farewell party for me with a oversize billboard with the words "Good bye fag". That is the day I knew I wasn't the same as the other deamons.

 

Funny, I wonder how they knew in the first place.

 

That's not funny.

[merlinkun]

That's not funny.

 

I don't know, it could go either way.

 

[EasleyLim]

I don't know, it could go either way.

 

 

I knew you were suspicious when you walked in.

[Silveriot]

i still harboured the thought of getting into a relationship with girls at jc1. but then my friends started to talk abt sgboy and all hell broke loose for me.

 

yeah but before that i was already wanking to images to topless man already. and secondary school i actually experimented with some of my friends.

 

so i guess i knew i was gay but tired to be bi until jc1 when i decided enough? lol

 

just sharing.

[merlinkun]

I knew you were suspicious when you walked in.

 

[EasleyLim]

Sloth

 

Am disappointed you didn't get the Taylor Swift reference. 

[jason]

realised that i was different when i was in pri 1

[Guest youngdays]

when I was in sec 2, had a crush over one of my senior in school. Try ways and means to know him, eventually acknowledge him as my big bro, then start spending night at his house often, start follow his hairstyle, acting the way he does, trying to be like him. Learn smoking and Hj from him, but he just show me how to and I did it myself. The most daring thing I did was to sniff his underwear which he left in his bath room, while mastabating.

Nothing else happen between us then, purely brothership. Don't dare to let him know I been doing those things behind his back, scare he look down on me, but he is indeed my Ido, someone I hope to see daily, and even willingly to defend him when he is in trouble. That is when I know, I like men.

[Madhan86]

I can't remember exactly when i was into guys, but for now the memory that I can think of when I was in sec 4. A guy from sec 3 came to our class looking for something or someone (can't seem to remember) and when I saw he him I was startruck (or should I say guystruck?). Eversince then I was keeping my eyes open to catch a glimpse of him. He was sssooo handsome...haiz.

Edited April 2, 2013 by Madhan86

[Guest pacer91]

Hi guys,

 

I have no idea whether I'm into men or women. I do look at both most of the times. What made you realised you were gay? 

[Dorkable]

Perhaps you are Bi. Don't be too caught up with tags. You might swing to different camps at different phases of your life. It's what you fancy in your heart that matters. Accept that and live your life loving instead of worrying and being perplexed.

[Guest Married]

Perhaps you are Bi. Don't be too caught up with tags. You might swing to different camps at different phases of your life. It's what you fancy in your heart that matters. Accept that and live your life loving instead of worrying and being perplexed.

The problem is when you discover your other inclination after you get married and your wife may not accept it....

[Brocklm]

I guess for my case. I have no interest with women. Since young when my parents bring

me to swimming pool, last time still open concept toilet so u will see all the guys naked

and bathing side by side one another. I quite like to see all the different shape and size

of those dicks. Then when grow up in my teens, the idea still sticks in my mind. When the

Internet is on, happen to see more of those straight sites and see how those guys fuck the women

simply makes me amaze to see more dicks and realized the term gay. I think that is how I went this

direction. By the way, I stay at amk. YCK pool is opposite my house. Lol~

[fab]

My heart told me so.

[Dorkable]

The problem is when you discover your other inclination after you get married and your wife may not accept it....

 

When you get married, you already ought to be of a mature age to be able to discern your orientation. It would be your own fault to succumb to family or society pressure if you should regret your marriage. If one is unsure, he shouldn't even be getting married with the likelihood of hurting the wife.

[forbidd3n]

Hi guys,

 

I have no idea whether I'm into men or women. I do look at both most of the times. What made you realised you were gay? 

I face a somewhat similar situation. I feel more attracted to guys than girls in that I tend to check out guys more. I dunno whether its sexual desire or just being envious of their good looks. As for girls, sometimes I can sense some form of attraction but it does not seem strong enough to sustain a relationship. Either way, I have not felt the need to get into a r/s yet, unlike many of my friends (both straight and gay).

[EasleyLim]

I face a somewhat similar situation. I feel more attracted to guys than girls in that I tend to check out guys more. I dunno whether its sexual desire or just being envious of their good looks. As for girls, sometimes I can sense some form of attraction but it does not seem strong enough to sustain a relationship. Either way, I have not felt the need to get into a r/s yet, unlike many of my friends (both straight and gay).

 

There's a very noticeable difference between "Damn, s/he is hot" vs "Damn, I want that in my bed tonight"

[fly360]

I used to stay at a very old neighbourhood, pretty much kampong style.

I remember I was like 6 years old and used to hang out at the community center with the other neighbourhood kids.

There was a guy in the neighbourhood, around 21 years old who went to the community center toilet to shower, probably cos the communal bathroom was beiing used in his house.

He looked like Sammi Cheng's BF Xu Zhi An. Tall, slim, Andy Kwok hairstyle.

 

My eyes tracked him as he walked across the basketball court carrying his shower stuff.

 

I deliberately waited for a couple of minutes before "innocently" entering the toilet.

I recall him fully naked with a bush, body full of shower foam.

 

He hastily went to close the door after me because he did not want others to see him naked.

I did not have a hardon at that time, but I was immensely excited and I really liked what I saw.

[Guest pacer91]

I face a somewhat similar situation. I feel more attracted to guys than girls in that I tend to check out guys more. I dunno whether its sexual desire or just being envious of their good looks. As for girls, sometimes I can sense some form of attraction but it does not seem strong enough to sustain a relationship. Either way, I have not felt the need to get into a r/s yet, unlike many of my friends (both straight and gay).

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Edited August 17, 2014 by pacer91

[Guest Guest]

I was molested by a neighbor when I was 12. I was innocent enough to ask him, a married man, why I had pubic hair and he led me to his room and JO for me till I came. I remembered being so scare of the white stuff coming out of my kuku. From that incident, I went back for more and he slowly taught me to suck him off but he never did suck me though I was really curious to try. This went on for about a year and I don't remember why I stopped going back, but I became addicted to JO a few times a day since. My next encounter was when I went yo KL Taylor's where I shared a room with an ex school mate. One night, we JO in front of each other, and one thing led to another, we then progressed to him lying on top of me and simulate fucking rubbing our dicks together until we cum. While all these were happening, we had our own girlfriends and except for heavy patting, I didn't experience sex with my gf though I wanted to.

I got married, and then started a family. I admire and look at good looking guys, I would steal a glance on my male colleagues dicks when we shower after gym, when I am overseas I go to sauna and get sucked off and mutual JO, but when I am home, I still enjoy sex with my wife. This has been going on for many years now and my interest in having sex and fun with guys and my wife have not changed. I guess I am a true bi. I used to question myself why I was like that and tried hard to stop having sexual fun with guys, but I couldn't stop. So the only thing I could do was to play safe to make sure I don't bring anything home. Do I feel guilty to my family, yes absolutely. But for whatever reason, I just can't stop having the occasional fling with guys......

[alien]

Dun really know until only when i am very 'old'! Now when i look back in my diff phase of life, from pri sch throughout all my sch days, i had never have any deep impression on any girls in my sch, only boys! And then i know why liao. Last time dun rem my dick will get hard, maybe still young? But i got quite excited to see the type of guys i like in sch, and wld purposely walked past his classrm to take a peek on him!

[Guest whatever]

I dont know what to say.

 

I am straight but i am also a dicklover. Whatever.

[swallow]

For me it was at a male cousin's stag party. We had the usual porn films and this blonde was really working this guy's cock. I was hard but soon realized I was getting turned on not by thinking of getting sucked off but but thinking I was the blonde girl doing the sucking. My mouth watered. That is when I knew...

[EasleyLim]

Can't remember. Prolly saw someone I thought was quite hot, lol. 

[RinTinTin]

Mine's similar to TS' experience.

Went to friend's place for project and he showed some straight porn after we were done.

Realised I kept staring at the guy's tool :oops: