Dating Ideas - Where do couples go, What to do, Etc. (compiled)

[Guest Handsome Guy]

I also brought my bf to 观音庙 where we stood next to each other prayed for each other good health and long lasting relationship => While he closed his eyes and concentrated in his prayer. I took a small peep and it was sweet like that. Another sweet memory till now haha... ^^

[Guest MeGusta]

Hi -MeGusta-,

How about the following indoor activities?

- Watching videos/movies at home

- Experimenting with new recipes if you're both into cooking

- Making your own furniture / household items like a simple bookshelf, shoe cabinet etc

- Reading together on the couch with a hot beverage on a rainy day

If you have the budget for it, you could consider going for an overseas trip, could be somewhere nearby where the both of you could enjoy quality time together.

Hope this helps!

Oogachaga

very nice ideas, but shot down by age constraints. i shall not disclose our age, but lets keep it below 25 -- so we dont really have the freedom to do all these activities together as of yet. anyway, the idea of an overseas getaway sounds great! thankyou

[singchin]

Any body has suggestions on where we could go for dates?
Places where you can be comfortable with one another and be intimate perhaps?

Or ideal activities for two? Thanks!

[Butterscotch]

Are you looking specifically for quiet places, or "date-able" places in general?

[merlinkun]

Movie during non-crowded time, book 2 seats at the back.

[zwei]

Go singing if you're good, the bar for a chill time

[singchin]

just looking for places where we can be comfortable. like the cinemas? but it gets boring after awhile when there are no more movies to watch. hahaha

[darkflame]

Find a good quiet spot or if you guys are observant, you can also get touchy in a relatively public place with few people around.

 

Most of the time, people around you would have known you guys are dating.

 

I like Robertson Quay.

[lovehandle]

if u and partner is working near suntec/beach rd and u want a quick meal cum rest?
http://www.gv.com.sg/GVMovieDetails#/movie/0259/cinema/80

[Guest couple place]

Quite sick of town area - orchard or suntec. Any quiet places for couples to walk around or find private time to hold hands without seeking attention?

 

P.s. Not sucking or sex

[feedersmiracle]

"Ulu" heartland areas like those with low rise flats (say up to 10 storey only)

 

Or bring guy to home say playing game / watch movie together, chit chatting.

[Guest Guest]

I find straight couple holding hands or cuddling in public a nuisance , what more of straights seeing gays doing as such ! Also I have been seeing quite a few straight couple holding hands to work at the train station here in the morning peak hour rush , I do not see that often  in other modern city train station during work hour , what are these couple trying to prove here ?

[winking.rabbit]

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straight couple holding hands or cuddling in public a nuisance

 

Why is it a nuisance? How does it even affect you? Does it make you jealous to see them that way?

 

Unless... they're clogging up walkways or blocking people on escalators, but large groups of friends and colleagues are more of a nuisance in this aspect.

[EasleyLim]

16 minutes ago, winking.rabbit said:

 

Why is it a nuisance? How does it even affect you? Does it make you jealous to see them that way?

 

Unless... they're clogging up walkways or blocking people on escalators, but large groups of friends and colleagues are more of a nuisance in this aspect.

 

Paranoid guest is paranoid. When someone do something, it *must* mean they're trying to prove something to him. How else would everyone else know he's a salty cunt? 

[Guest Guest]

5 hours ago, winking.rabbit said:

 

Why is it a nuisance? How does it even affect you? Does it make you jealous to see them that way?

 

Unless... they're clogging up walkways or blocking people on escalators, but large groups of friends and colleagues are more of a nuisance in this aspect.

Travel to Japan and observe the considerate Japanese lah and learn from them instead of the stupid whites and  blacks ! 

[TheVisitors]

2 hours ago, Guest Guest said:

Travel to Japan and observe the considerate Japanese lah and learn from them instead of the stupid whites and  blacks ! 

Telling a lie.

Obviously you never went to Japan before.

Not only they do hold hands, , they even hug each other over the shoulders as they walk

[Guest Guest]

19 hours ago, TheVisitors said:

Telling a lie.

Obviously you never went to Japan before.

Not only they do hold hands, , they even hug each other over the shoulders as they walk

Next time take a picture and show us how many holding hands there on the streets or in the train station and we shall believe you ! 

[cutejack]

Y u bother?u love him n he loves u.juz hold hands lor.i dont mind even if get many stares.my life my cock n his asshole.i dont earn a living from the strangers who stare at us.

[Jimmy Lee]

hmm, i think Tanjong Pagar area is the best so far.. there're gay bars there. you can hold hands, kiss, hug. and instead of stares, its more of an 'Aww, that's so cute' (:

[str8biman]

1. Labrador park (late at night)

2. New waterfront path at Tanjong Pagar

3. Ocean Drive at Sentosa (u can only go in if u own a property there or visiting someone there). It's very nice and one of my favourites. As close to Pebble Beach in the US as it can get, in Singapore..

4. Upper and lower Pierce reservoir

5. Upper Seletar reservoir

6. Just go across to JB and walk on the waterfront

[Guest Orto]

orto.sg

[str8biman]

11 minutes ago, Guest Orto said:

orto.sg

Hmm....this place brings back a lot of memories for me....yes it's a nice place to chill 

[Guest Pink Dove]

On 10/29/2016 at 9:15 AM, Guest couple place said:

Quite sick of town area - orchard or suntec. Any quiet places for couples to walk around or find private time to hold hands without seeking attention?

 

P.s. Not sucking or sex

Fort Road with seaside, beaches and forest.....Oops, forgot that was decades ago.  Now, difficult to find such places anymore. 

 

1) Try Bukit Timah reserves, on weekday, non peak hour? 

 

2)  Or....deep inside machritchie forest, if you know your way in, and most importantly know your way out.

  

3)  Swimming pool, hold hands underwater with no swimmer around.  

 

4)  Cinema, choose the right seat, non peak, quiet.  

 

5)  Booked a cable car for two only?  

 

6)  Zoo, birdpark, some track are very quiet, non peak hour and tourist should be quite opened if you bumped into?  

 

7)  Haw Par Villa is extremely quiet and errie, but is a best place for holding hands.  I went there on weekday afternoon,

nobody, very much alone all by yourself, was huge by hectre of area. 

 

8)  Lim Chu Kang, those Tenga Tenaga area. 

 

9) Ivy Singh's farm?  I am sure she will be delighted to show gay couple her  huge vegetable farms and ended with home-cook meal there, you can request for candle-light if you wish.

 

 

[str8biman]

I am taking notes.....:)

 

Some years back I had a girlfriend who, like me, like more secluded and serene places like these. We both drive. So our challenge was to take turns bringing each other to a nice serene place every Fri night and spend time there till the early morning hours. We took turns every week to surprise each other with the place. If it was a place that I already know and have been to before, it wouldn't count as a point for her, and vice versa. I think the score stood at around 13-14 (I was leading) when we parted ways.....those were the days....some of the places are no longer there or is more crowded now.  There was this especially romantic and nice place somewhere within the vicinity of NTU which she brought me to....and I thought....wow....never would I have thought of that....

I also brought her to the water's edge of Lim Chu Kang and Sembawang, the black and white houses at Admiralty and Portsdown (this place has changed a lot and is much busier these days), the Japanese cemetery (go day time if u r afraid of other beings) at YCK....a lot....need to check up my notes

[Guest Guest]

A project by a Singaporean artist for men to hold hand in public spaces.

 

https://www.facebook.com/holdmyhand.mingpoon/?ref=page_internal

 

[cutejack]

2 hours ago, str8biman said:

I am taking notes.....:)

 

Some years back I had a girlfriend who, like me, like more secluded and serene places like these. We both drive. So our challenge was to take turns bringing each other to a nice serene place every Fri night and spend time there till the early morning hours. We took turns every week to surprise each other with the place. If it was a place that I already know and have been to before, it wouldn't count as a point for her, and vice versa. I think the score stood at around 13-14 (I was leading) when we parted ways.....those were the days....some of the places are no longer there or is more crowded now.  There was this especially romantic and nice place somewhere within the vicinity of NTU which she brought me to....and I thought....wow....never would I have thought of that....

I also brought her to the water's edge of Lim Chu Kang and Sembawang, the black and white houses at Admiralty and Portsdown (this place has changed a lot and is much busier these days), the Japanese cemetery (go day time if u r afraid of other beings) at YCK....a lot....need to check up my notes

Wow till next morning?u guyz had sex usually?shiok anot?

[Guest Ancient弯]

48 minutes ago, cutejack said:

Wow till next morning?u guyz had sex usually?shiok anot?

Believe is not shiok. He's Gay now.

[cutejack]

1 hour ago, Guest Ancient弯 said:

Believe is not shiok. He's Gay now.

Hehehe

[TheVisitors]

On 30/10/2016 at 1:55 PM, Guest Guest said:

Next time take a picture and show us how many holding hands there on the streets or in the train station and we shall believe you ! 

Then  why don't show your pictures taken in your Japan trip and prove to us they do not hold holds?

Isn't that easier?

Edited November 1, 2016 by TheVisitors

[go-geek]

Hey guys. With all the places to visit and promotions for entry tix and stuff, I was thinking we could have a thread that act as a compilation for such things.

 

That would help those who wanna hangout with friends or out for dates, but ran out of ideas.

[derryfawne]

1. Movie theatre, i.e. less visited ones like Downtown East - book late to select seats far from everyone else

 

2. Darker HDB area with seats - Bedok has plenty of these

 

3. Any nature reserves in Singapore

 

4. Singapore Southern Islands like Lazarus and especially Kusu

 

5. Changi Beach is a-ok too

 

6. Night Safari walking trails

[Guest Dating Ideas]

Come share some date ideas, please! Need some fresh ideas to help spice things up with bf after he left the country for 6 months!

 

[firefight]

Go macritchie bathe together after a walk in the forest

[Guest Blank]

Cannot share. Later the place too crowded then we lose the intimate dating scene

[Guest Fatty]

Hotel 81

[Guest Good idea]

Go to sauna to share your bf with others so that everyone can more ideas.

[cycle25]

Actually, there's already a compilation done before:

 

 

[Walter]

[Walter's thoughts] Dating ideas and Recommendations 

 

Hi guys, I am back with my second article since I am on my break now.

 

While it's fun to go on dates, doing the same thing over and over again (Dining at a cafe/Movie) can be pretty boring. 

 

I compiled a variety of things that has worked pretty well throughout the years. They are not groundbreaking, but I added more details with local context.  I am just an average gay guy with an average salary so my ideas are rather budget friendly as well.

I have excluded movies and dining here since they should be very well known among us already. I also excluded netflix and chill for the same reason.

I am not the most exciting person in the world so please do share your dating ideas as well!

 

HEADING OUT

1. Hiking & other outdoor sports

I love hiking or just strolling for a date. You get to explore new things while chatting, and it also allows space for 2 people to be comfortable in silence.

You also don't have to maintain constant eye contact, unlike when you are dining. 

 

Live footage of me on a meal date once

 

AND YOU GET TO OGLE AT CUTE GUYS  And it's good for your health to interact with nature!

 

I used to think that it's difficult for someone who have never hiked before to start doing so. But turns out it wasn't not so hard after all if you follow the map and the recommended route. Just remember to be properly geared and for god sake not wear flip flop for the hiking, and listen to your body and stop if you have to.

 

Some routes I have tried:

Bukit Timah Hill - Within the hill itself. About 3 hours?

Bukit Timah to Macritchie - about 4 hours

Southern ridges and Henderson Waves - 2-3 hours

 

Of course, there are kayaking, rock climbing and other adventures out there to do together. But hiking is FREE.

 

2. Museums

Make use of our SG/PR benefit to enter various museums for free. Our museums have up their games in recent years and the exhibitions can get rather interesting.

Keep a lookout and do your homework before deciding which museum and show you would want to head to and avoid following the crowd all the time!

 

For example, Night Festival is just so packed and there's nothing much about it for this year's edition really.

Me at the Annual Night Festival. I personally feel that it's getting stale and boring.

 

"BUT I ALSO NOT ART BUFF WHAT. I CANNOT APPRECIATE"

You really don't have to be an art buff to go to museum! You just need to be open minded.

But avoid just taking pretty photos and leaving quickly. Some people go to the museum and just take photos of various artworks without really understanding it. I have seen people caption "art" or irrelevant captions on a photo of an artwork.

 

Of course it's art. If not it's air is it. Do better than that.

 

You could learn to do some basic art appreciation and use the artworks to spark more conversations with your date. What does the artwork reminds you of or have each other guess what is it about? It's ok to have different opinions and views of the same thing.

We once went on a walk under Ng Yi Sheng's fantastic tour into the National Gallery Singapore where he talked about some of the queer artists' past. It was a refreshing trip that provides a different layer of history in our galleries. 

 

If you don't already know, the more well known museums and galleries in Singapore include:

• National Gallery Singapore
• Singapore Art Museum
• National Museum of Singapore
• Art Science Museum - Fee required
• Gillman Barrack (Cluster of galleries)

 

For people who are non locals or who are dating non locals, look out for certain dates or period where some museums offers free admission for all regardless of nationalities! This also includes the annual night festival.

 

3. Catching a Music/Theatre Performances

You could splurge to watch a music performance, musical or play once in a while. (Matilda's coming next year! And Pangdemonium is having yet another show soon)

 

But such plays or musicals don't come all the time.  

Places like Esplanade, Botanic garden (yay picnic) and Gardens by the Bay occasionally provides free concerts as well. For example, Singapore Symphony Orchestra will have a concert in GBTB in Mar 2019. 

 

Alternatively, you could soak up live band atmosphere at some night bars like Hood Bar and Cafe while grabbing some bites and booze.

 

4. Enter the world of each other's hobbies (& stories)

Take the time to know their hobbies and understand each other better! I love seeing guys talk about their hobbies and interest with passion, and they'll appreciate you trying to understand them as well. You both would have hobbies that are quite different. Even if u guys have the same hobbies, you guys would like different things about it.

 

Visit their favourite places related to their hobbies or where they do shopping for their hobbies. 

Do they go to Cafe to pick up coffee beans and equipment? Do they go to Art Friend to hunt their painting supplies. What books would you guys choose in a bookstore? What is their favourite cafe and food? Do they like going to Sim Lim Square to pick up IT parts? Join them and usually in such trips you will learn about about them and their personalities.

 

Taking a step further would be to dabble in their hobbies just for fun. Especially if it is something that you have never done before! Make coffee together, paint together, cook together. You could bond closer and appreciate something about the person. Of course it has to go both ways, and he could try to understand your hobby as well even if he may not like it. 

 

But take note not to be a snob just because you know more. How can you be a snob? EXAMPLE BELOW

 

 

 

5. Cat Safari

Cat cafes are very expensive, and it has always been very controversial about how cat cafes treat their cats. When I found out about Cat Safari at Bukit Timah, we made an appointment to head there.

It's not exactly accessible, and you have to walk a distance from the MRT if you don't drive. But I sure do like the space when I arrived. 

 

It is a very simple space that housed various cats that have been rescued. Basically you just sit down and a cat therapist will attend to you soon by crawling into your lap. It's fun to cuddle with the cats and having a chat in the meanwhile, and you can end it off by heading somewhere nearby to eat.

 

Entry is 5 dollars per hour only, and the $5 goes to helping the cats in the centre. They also help other causes such as kids with special needs by having them interact with the cats.  I would choose this over cat cafes any day (besides im not interested in the drinks and food usually when I'm touching animals)

 

As Cat Safari is a small space that is only open on the weekends,  it is by appointment only. Please do call before heading down! 

 

 

STAYING IN

 

1.Game together 

Coop multiplayers games

If you have a PC (or even consoles), there are a variety of games that you can play with 2 players that will just suck you in for many hours. I don't own a console, so as a PC master race the games I recommend include:

• Don't starve together - Harsh survival game where you have to survive as long as you can in a world full of monsters and hazards. Recommended for players who are patient. The Coop version allows players to roll back to the day before (Yea yea i know we are cheaters haha) if you caught yourself dying unexpectedly. 
• Raft - Survival game where you survive and fend off sharks 
• A way out - Adventure game where each of you control one character and have to work together. The plot is simple but the experience is an interesting one!
• Nine Parchments - Action adventure games as you play as one of the 9 wizards casting your spells through the stages
• Trine I and Trine II - Puzzle game where you partner with a player to advance the stages. You can probably give Trine III a pass
• Overcooked I and II - Wicked game. I have no idea how much we were yelling at once another while playing this game. 
• Borderlands - Shooter games
• MOBA games - Kick ass together or have your asses kicked together 
• Divinity Original Sin - RPG game
• Brothers - Puzzle adventure game
• Path of Exile - MMORPG

 

"You are supposed to JUST STAY THERE. NOW  WE ARE BOTH DEAD AND WE CANT MAKE THE TIMING"

"EVERYTHING IS ON FIRE AND I JUST WANNA QUIT"

"GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER"

-How we are when playing Overcooked

 

2.  DIY Massage

Yes games are good but we need to let our eyes and bodies rest too. Learn some basic massaging techniques and just massage one another at home after a long and tiring week.

It's tempting to turn it into a sex session but take time to check in with one another during this massage session as well. Is he stressed? What's on his mind right now?

 

To take it another level higher, you could diffuse some essential oil blend and play some music. Take it slowly rather than having a "CHOP CHOP THEN WE CAN HAVE SEX ALR" attitude that can do more harm than good.  

 

We all deserve days like this.

 

3. Planning a trip

For couples who don't usually have place, an oversea trip is like the best thing that could happen.

Plan together and split the workload however you want! I would usually look for all the food and attractions, while he calculate all the necessary expenses for the trip including transport and accommodation. It's a good way to find out how you guys work together and compromise one another.

I also find it less stressful to plan the trip in bits and pieces rather than at one go on my own.

 

4. Online Shopping

Well with the rise of e-shopping, it is inevitable this also become a regular part of stay in activities. We would scan through various deals to decide what to get and to find out the latest trends in various products. You get to shop different products without having to walk so much, ain't that perfect!

 

5. Create together

Create things together just for the fun of it. It can be painting together, singing and jamming together, taking photos together, cooking together. Anything that you do at home will be much cheaper than outside.

E.g An art jamming session cost $30-$40 outside per pax, but if you have the basic skills you could just get a canvas for a few dollars, and a basic acrylic tube set for less than $20.

You don't even need to collect every single colour, just learn the basic color mixing theory and you can create your own secondary colors (Orange, Green, Purple) from the primary colours (Red, Yellow, Blue)   

You both will feel like a god damn achiever at the end of the creation. Or couldn't stop laughing if it turns out to be really bad. Either way, it's a fun thing to try. 

 

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At the end of the day, there are superior activities for dating.

We just have to remember the purpose of dating is to bond closer and stories are an important part of bonding. Sure you can eat all you want or take pretty shots all you want for your instagram, but ask yourself at the end of the day: Do you really understand your date better?

Edited December 27, 2018 by Walter

[Peterjty]

Wow this was a very well thought through article! Thanks very much!!

[Crispy96]

loved every bit of this post. Thank you!

[meatybaer]

My boyfriend and I both love to nua and chill together but because our parents are home most of the time, that aint happening. I personally like riding long bus ride with my bf, purposely sitting at the back so we dont disturb people too much with our PDA.
 

any places you guys go with your other half to chill and what not and not worry about stares and stuff?

 

 

[Guest Pink Isopod]

5 hours ago, meatybaer said:

My boyfriend and I both love to nua and chill together but because our parents are home most of the time, that aint happening. I personally like riding long bus ride with my bf, purposely sitting at the back so we dont disturb people too much with our PDA.
 

any places you guys go with your other half to chill and what not and not worry about stares and stuff?

 

 

Work together to get your own home or rent a place/room together. So u Guy can do what u want without worrying too much. 

[Guest How]

how to date post CB?

[repressednerd]

Channel 8 drama always shows so many places. Can use that as a reference. From my watching of channel 8 dramas, they love re-using these places:

 

Empress Place

Sentosa Cove

HDB void deck

Some random park

[Guest Neh Neh]

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[LeGrad]

Hi everyone! 

I'm seeking help from the collective wisdom of BW-ers. I know there was a thread dated 2014 about dating ideas in SG, but since Covid-19 is putting a strange spin on the dating landscape. 

So... What can/do couples do on date night in the time of social distancing?

[wilfgene]

6 minutes ago, NtuLad15 said:

Hi everyone! 

I'm seeking help from the collective wisdom of BW-ers. I know there was a thread dated 2014 about dating ideas in SG, but since Covid-19 is putting a strange spin on the dating landscape. 

So... What can/do couples do on date night in the time of social distancing?

Virtual Dating as in Jap porn.

[LeGrad]

11 hours ago, wilfgene said:

Virtual Dating as in Jap porn.

what do you mean?

[Expired Btm Uncle]

2 minutes ago, NtuLad15 said:

what do you mean?

There's a series of jap porn called " virtual dating" . Draw your inspiration from there lol

[LeGrad]

Just now, Expired Btm Uncle said:

There's a series of jap porn called " virtual dating" . Draw your inspiration from there lol

lmao! 
 

But on a serious note, what can we do now in the time of social distancing?