Guest bf Seeker Posted February 2, 2011 Report Share Posted February 2, 2011 I think the above topic has not been discussed or brought up before, but a very important and decisive factor that may bind a potential relationship.If you suddently click with someone you hardly know and you both know there is potential of going foward together. Other than sex, what topic will you guys like to discuss?I do know of someone who immediately dig out his personal history what he likes and dislikes and how he got into being gay and his journey. It was impressive and flattering to be trusted with all these informations but somehow it came a little too much to be absorbed.I also know someone who bragged about what he has or has not while trying to use them to impress you. Ended up making me feeling more inferior than himself.Personally, I will tell the potential partner, on our first meet, my persnalities. As in what kind of books that I find inspiring, the type of movie I enjoyed most and the preference for certain foods and what I usually do in my past time.What would you guys like to share to your new found bf, and what would you like to hear from your potential bf when you guys FIRST MET.I am curious about individual preference which could affect or leave negative impression. What are the topics to avoid and what is unncessary to start with in a conversion? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted February 2, 2011 Report Share Posted February 2, 2011 one thing i realised...just be yrself...often we try to impress but if we cant keep up with the impression and back to our usual self, the other party will say we have changed and he might even say u r not what he is looking for. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
samurai Posted February 2, 2011 Report Share Posted February 2, 2011 haha this is a very interesting topic! im facing this problem right now too.see im trying to make firends with this hot guy i got to know form trevvy but I dont know how to make things right so than our friednship can be developed.i had a bad experience of wooing a guy before and it became so bad, he ignored me..so I really don't know what to do...but i guess i learnt that:1. you should not appear too enthusiastic or wanting to know more and more2. you should not talk about masturbation, pxxn, your penis...etc.3. take your time ...experienced guys, pls share more!Like right now Im trying to make friends with this guy whom i saw on trevvy. he's a bisexual and not too sure of his gay identity. i already made a mistake by asking for his number and for him to add me on fb, both of which were rejected by him coz obviously its too soon and we chatted on msn for less than an hour.so like what topics should we be talking about? and should i ask him out? and when shld all of these happen? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doncoin Posted February 2, 2011 Report Share Posted February 2, 2011 Just be yourself and relax. The thing that impresses me most is when the guy wants to know me better. I.e. what makes me tick, my favourite foods, wines, movies etc. The demonstration of genuine interest to who I am is what wins my heart in general. So rather than focusing on your own accomplishments to impress, I much rather the guy endears himself to me, which is not very difficult. Plus what you think may be impressive, might not translate the same to the new bf. Love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
steppenwolf Posted February 3, 2011 Report Share Posted February 3, 2011 This reminds me of the movie, Love In A Puff.In the movie, Miriam Yeung did some real silly things that almost frightened off Shawn Yue, a guy she had barely met and knew through a common outdoor smoking area.Simple story line that strikes a cord with many of us in one way or another.If I'm not wrong, one of our local free-to-air channels will be screening it soon,do keep a lookout, I strongly recommend it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest faynic Posted February 3, 2011 Report Share Posted February 3, 2011 I also think just be yourself is the correct way...Your bf loves who you are and not the masks you wear. Maybe you can try to pretend once, but are you going to pretend all the time?Can't write much cos I am single Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest papaya Posted February 3, 2011 Report Share Posted February 3, 2011 The thing that impresses me most is when the guy wants to know me better. I much rather the guy endears himself to me, which is not very difficult. So you are the self centered person that always tell someone "IT IS FOR YOU TO KNOW AND FOR ME TO FIND OUT" when being posted a question? This is equivallent to someone who regularly used the word "whatever", as both symtoms showed a lack of interest in the other party. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doncoin Posted February 3, 2011 Report Share Posted February 3, 2011 So you are the self centered person that always tell someone "IT IS FOR YOU TO KNOW AND FOR ME TO FIND OUT" when being posted a question? This is equivallent to someone who regularly used the word "whatever", as both symtoms showed a lack of interest in the other party.What I meant in response to the topic of impressing new found bf is by demonstrating a genuine interest to know the other person better and not some "self centered" mentality. I disagree about the "it is for you to know and for me to find out" part of your statement. I believe more in ask and you shall receive. Frankly, as I get older, I find it less important to impress people nor is it a priority in my life. If someone wants to impress me, I am all for it, as long as the guy is being himself. Love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted February 3, 2011 Report Share Posted February 3, 2011 it's quite a silly topic actually. just be yourself and dun try to impress. yes maybe you wanna leave a good impression but its better if he like what he sees/feels based on the real you.if he's eventually your bf, you guys will spend a great deal of time together. why put on a mask in the first place? it will be tiring. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest bf Seeker Posted February 3, 2011 Report Share Posted February 3, 2011 I think the topic is about personal presentation and making correct conversation and not to be misunderstood with wearing mask or being yourself. Just like you walk into an interview room with proper attire and talk appropriately instead of being in your casual slippers or singlets and asked irrelevant questions. I guess people missed the point here. samurai 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zonnieboy Posted February 5, 2011 Report Share Posted February 5, 2011 I also think just be yourself is the correct way...i think the best things happen when least expected Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest gaysingaporean Posted February 5, 2011 Report Share Posted February 5, 2011 Oh dear! If you have to do or say things just to impress someone, boyfriends or even friends... Then there's a BIG problem!Unless you have low self-esteem or some complex about yourself, there's really no need to say or do things just to impress!!!Just relax, be yourself, be natural and your true personality will show. If you think that you have no personality, then work on it! Read more, be aware of what's happening around you, be interested in all aspect, have a passion for life... Make yourself interesting FOR YOURSELF and not just to impress others! LOL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2011 Report Share Posted February 6, 2011 I have seen friends that were loggerheads but eventually becomes bfs. I have seen friends looking for ONS and it turns out into a LTR..etc So anything can happen. LIke some wise guy says, if it is yours, it is yours. Don't force it.During your first meeting, you should find out about the other party. Likewise, you should let the other party discover you too. If the other party is too self absorbed, then do you still want to have him as your bf??? When he asked about you, be honest. However, u don't have to reveal everything if you are not being asked. take small steps at a time. Allow for more meetings (i.e. slow steps to discover each other). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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