lonelyglobe Posted February 28, 2016 Report Share Posted February 28, 2016 Be as ugly as u can....... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oopiess Posted February 29, 2016 Report Share Posted February 29, 2016 i would say that you have to conform social norms like behaving "like a guy" and acting "masculine" is the best way if you want to look straight. so no acting "feminine" because that is very readily associated with being "sissy or gay" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Gay??? Posted August 28, 2016 Report Share Posted August 28, 2016 What does a gay look like in the first place? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Compromised Posted August 28, 2016 Report Share Posted August 28, 2016 I've noticed that in singapore if you are openly gay you have to dress in muted tones whereas if you are innately gay but married to the opposite sex you can dress as loud, colorful and gay as you want. This 潜规则 also applies in malaysia. You can't have it both ways and be too expressive here. This rule doesn't apply to tourists - especially the rich ones - in both lands. They are wanted for their tourism dollars. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovehandle Posted August 28, 2016 Report Share Posted August 28, 2016 openly gay yet muted? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest 壯漢0號 Posted November 19, 2016 Report Share Posted November 19, 2016 On 28/08/2016 at 4:20 PM, Guest Gay??? said: What does a gay look like in the first place? High eyebrows, pouty lips, swaying hips, point pinky, wearing very tight clothes with vibrant colors, laughing out loud, fixated look at other male bulge. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cutejack Posted November 19, 2016 Report Share Posted November 19, 2016 The last two describe me.okok.i shall try not to do that. lovehandle 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guesty Posted November 20, 2016 Report Share Posted November 20, 2016 tight clothing is very picha lobang Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovehandle Posted November 20, 2016 Report Share Posted November 20, 2016 13 hours ago, cutejack said: The last two describe me.okok.i shall try not to do that. lol! laughing out loud is a very gayish behaviour?? What is high eyebrow?? boy20s 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Fuwar Posted November 20, 2016 Report Share Posted November 20, 2016 It is 2016. Humans has never been more technologically advanced. But we still care about how we are and who we are to others... Instead of celebrating diversity, we hide ourselves in pursuit of heteronormativity. I sometimes wonder when one conforms, are we able to perform at our very best? If we become so generic, what is our unique selling point? Why should someone pay us well or look to us for new ideas when we are overly concerned about doing things or act in ways as the majority. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guesty Posted November 20, 2016 Report Share Posted November 20, 2016 27 minutes ago, Guest Fuwar said: It is 2016. Humans has never been more technologically advanced. But we still care about how we are and who we are to others... Instead of celebrating diversity, we hide ourselves in pursuit of heteronormativity. I sometimes wonder when one conforms, are we able to perform at our very best? If we become so generic, what is our unique selling point? Why should someone pay us well or look to us for new ideas when we are overly concerned about doing things or act in ways as the majority. meaning? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doncoin Posted November 20, 2016 Report Share Posted November 20, 2016 It is my hope that everyone will be free to express themselves as who they are. I think for too long, some boys have been disciplined for being "sissy" or "effeminate" by their parents, particularly fathers. They were told such behaviours are unacceptable for boys, and they were never told why. Instead, most boys grew up associating such behaviours as being shameful and unmanly, thinking that any sign of "softness" needs to be squashed. For gay men, some overcompensate by bulking up, going to the gym, giving the appearance ultra masculinity, others struggle with shame by conforming to what is expected. There was even one gay man who documented his experience in a documentary, Do I Sound Gay? and went for speech therapy etc. to change the way he speaks. Accept yourself. If you cannot accept yourself first, others won't. Yanto 1 Love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chocolateabs Posted November 20, 2016 Report Share Posted November 20, 2016 This i may can or cannot help you as i don't look or act like one. But some says more to Ah beng Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
emojess Posted November 20, 2016 Report Share Posted November 20, 2016 Just act straight la. Easy peasy Proud Sabahan Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 20, 2016 Report Share Posted November 20, 2016 look at brian wong, kumar, dick lee, chong ching,vincent ng, desmond koh, desmond tan, romea tan,hussan leong,david gan Wonder do they look gay? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
biLanjiao Posted November 20, 2016 Report Share Posted November 20, 2016 (edited) vincent Ng gay and desmond tan ? no they dun look like! both of them quite charming Edited November 20, 2016 by biLanjiao fab 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Fuwar Posted November 20, 2016 Report Share Posted November 20, 2016 7 hours ago, Guest guesty said: meaning? It is a question on whether trying to be straight acting is good or not. After all, it is about suppressing oneself as doncoin have shared. I find that the most successful people in the world assert their own identity or are at least comfortable with it rather than suppress it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cutejack Posted November 21, 2016 Report Share Posted November 21, 2016 10 hours ago, -Ignored- said: lol! laughing out loud is a very gayish behaviour?? What is high eyebrow?? High eyebrow?no idea.i mean staring at the crotch.hehe Tight clothing ok wat.gayish meh.i wear tight clothes n my frens n colleagues say i look young.hahaha.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovehandle Posted November 21, 2016 Report Share Posted November 21, 2016 8 minutes ago, cutejack said: High eyebrow?no idea.i mean staring at the crotch.hehe Tight clothing ok wat.gayish meh.i wear tight clothes n my frens n colleagues say i look young.hahaha.. oh, I rem u saying the "last two" items including laughing loudly I think generally straight men, don't like it too tight...metrosexuals probably yes but most of those I have seen, dont Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cutejack Posted November 21, 2016 Report Share Posted November 21, 2016 Aiyah generally , usually hor thru my experience n observation gays r more into fashion n stylish.those str8 after got married they neglect or simply dont bother to keep themselves looking good. Bochap one. I mean mostly.hahaha.. lovehandle 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hellopanda Posted November 21, 2016 Report Share Posted November 21, 2016 Easy. Be straight. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted November 21, 2016 Report Share Posted November 21, 2016 3 hours ago, Guest guest said: look at brian wong, kumar, dick lee, chong ching,vincent ng, desmond koh, desmond tan, romea tan,hussan leong,david gan Wonder do they look gay? Are all of them confirmed gay in the first place or not? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mate69 Posted November 21, 2016 Report Share Posted November 21, 2016 Dress like an uncle. Short sleeved shirts, preferably with check patterns, and tucked out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted November 21, 2016 Report Share Posted November 21, 2016 43 minutes ago, mate69 said: Dress like an uncle. Short sleeved shirts, preferably with check patterns, and tucked out. Dress like an uncle don't looks like gay? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted November 21, 2016 Report Share Posted November 21, 2016 3 hours ago, mate69 said: Dress like an uncle. Short sleeved shirts, preferably with check patterns, and tucked out. Wear black plastic nerdy spec Side parting hair with cream Loose pants with pleats 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovehandle Posted November 21, 2016 Report Share Posted November 21, 2016 12 hours ago, cutejack said: Aiyah generally , usually hor thru my experience n observation gays r more into fashion n stylish.those str8 after got married they neglect or simply dont bother to keep themselves looking good. Bochap one. I mean mostly.hahaha.. Cutejk So u can be quite stylish lah? general comments about gay and testing, I can imagine how many of us will fail the test in: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cutejack Posted November 21, 2016 Report Share Posted November 21, 2016 haha yes.i am lovehandle 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest FattChoy88 Posted November 21, 2016 Report Share Posted November 21, 2016 If you have a manly body and mannerism, you could wear anything from pink thongs to plunging v neck tight blouses and even bicycle tights and not look sissy or gay. For example Brock Lesnar and Kurt Angle locking lips (go YouTube that), Brad Pitt as Archilles and Tom Cruise as Lestat. On the other hand if you have the mannerism of an ah gua, you will still look gay in anything from an army uniform to a manual labour's overall. You can even look gay in a surgeon's uniform, gloves and behind a mask and cap. If I have a top 5 list of loud non-sissy but gay clothes, imo it would be 1/ t-shirts like superdry, af and holister as well as clothes with bears or bear paws plus rugby shirts. 2/ white shorts / cargo pants / long pants 3/ anklet socks with loud coloured shoes 4/ tank tops with unsubtle patterns esp worn to non sporting places like malls 5/ tight anything. If you see more than one guy wearing one of the above walking together, they're 300% gay. If you want to look ungay, wear anything uniqlo. Or have your biological dad pick out some clothes for himself and you wear them. tedjay 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovehandle Posted November 22, 2016 Report Share Posted November 22, 2016 14 hours ago, cutejack said: haha yes.i am wow!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest FattChoy88 Posted November 22, 2016 Report Share Posted November 22, 2016 Oh dear, I can't hide it. I walk like Elsa while singing Let it go, Let it go!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wantonmee Posted November 23, 2016 Report Share Posted November 23, 2016 just wear it proudly and declare it then... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest NannyState Posted November 23, 2016 Report Share Posted November 23, 2016 18 minutes ago, hannibalism said: it's depressing that we are behaving like juvenile teenagers right here, right now. Born on a silver spoon, and worst when the gahmen made every decision for these people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leanmeat Posted November 23, 2016 Report Share Posted November 23, 2016 Shouldnt u just be yrself? You mean if ppl think you are, then you gonna change yrself to what other ppl think is better? And start wearing clothes that you dun like? 2AM 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Neh Neh Posted November 23, 2016 Report Share Posted November 23, 2016 Saw an ang mo with big ass in tight jean walking with swaying ass. So gay... i thought but he looks straight. Confused. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wilfgene Posted November 24, 2016 Report Share Posted November 24, 2016 I was walking down the street. A wife exclaimed "So handsome." Her husband quipped "Sissy." Probably did not occur to him water may run dry over her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted November 24, 2016 Report Share Posted November 24, 2016 12 hours ago, Guest Neh Neh said: Saw an ang mo with big ass in tight jean walking with swaying ass. So gay... i thought but he looks straight. Confused. Swaying ass equal gay? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EasleyLim Posted November 24, 2016 Report Share Posted November 24, 2016 (edited) just start protesting loudly about how gays disgusts you and do everything in your power to demean gays all the time. liddat confirm nobody will think you're gay. remember, everyone around you need to know how un-gay you are at all times. if they don't hear you, they'll think you're gay. Edited November 24, 2016 by EasleyLim Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FattChoy Posted November 24, 2016 Report Share Posted November 24, 2016 (edited) On Tuesday, November 22, 2016 at 9:50 PM, Guest FattChoy88 said: Oh dear, I can't hide it. I walk like Elsa while singing Let it go, Let it go!!! Looks like I hit a raw nerve, and hv someone phish my account. It's OK to be sissy, not your fault your parents made u that way. Haha..... try again next life. Edited November 24, 2016 by FattChoy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted November 24, 2016 Report Share Posted November 24, 2016 Dont be gay Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chocolateabs Posted November 24, 2016 Report Share Posted November 24, 2016 One way is to change with the people you mix with who are straight acting and do not dress loud. In this way you can learn from them how they dress, act, behavior etc. Like me. Cos I don't look like one. Many surprise I am cos I too straight and dont act like one. mate69 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chocolateabs Posted November 24, 2016 Report Share Posted November 24, 2016 Cos I personally quite concern about the way I dress, bahave, action as I don't realli like to recognise as one. Especially in my work place place. Sometime when going out, never know who familiar you will meet like your colleagues or relatives or your straight friends Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest David Loo Posted July 1, 2017 Report Share Posted July 1, 2017 While going back to my place this evening, auntie asked me if I went to Pink Dot. Actually I did not, I watched movie. I'm also discreet gay and haven't come out yet but it seems that I look gay for some. Should I grow moustache or have more squarish jaw to make me look more manly? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted July 1, 2017 Report Share Posted July 1, 2017 Auntie as in neighbor? How old r u? Ever brought gals home? 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest good jack Posted July 2, 2017 Report Share Posted July 2, 2017 i remember used to get those name calling during kids (especially from my family, they really hard on me, even call me sissy for using man facial wash foam, that year of 1993-1994. man product toiletries still such a weird thing i guess Maybe due to this name calling punishment, i changed myself become manly and nvr look back and i also dont feel its a thing that i hide or suppress inside that i will go flamboyant the moment nobody see me. those bit of sissy-ness just disappear as i grown up. how not to look gay, for me dont wear too loud, colorful top n bottom at the same time, end of you look like clown. dont be too particular with stuff, easy going dont wear too many blings especially those THIN silver or gold necklace. dont cross your leg like it wont squeeze your balls lol youknow the one like sharon stone in the movie dont wear shorts that too short Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Hunk Posted July 2, 2017 Report Share Posted July 2, 2017 Train the body way too much but mannerism is female like. Always in the company of "sisters" as above. I would choose a unfit straight act over a fit guniang haha. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest hitthegym Posted July 2, 2017 Report Share Posted July 2, 2017 4 hours ago, Guest Hunk said: Train the body way too much but mannerism is female like. I would choose a unfit straight act over a fit guniang haha. I gym so much to look manly. Also alter my standing posture to split my legs and hip and crotch protrude slightly forward. Yet whenever I wear a fitting low cut tanktop I get mixed confusing comments. Some say 'wahh very sexy' some say 'huhh so gay'. Different flower appeal to different eyes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Hardy Posted July 5, 2017 Report Share Posted July 5, 2017 Is Plucking eyebrows could make you look gay? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doncoin Posted July 5, 2017 Report Share Posted July 5, 2017 3 hours ago, Guest Hardy said: Is Plucking eyebrows could make you look gay? No. It means you're well-groomed. Basically I think many people confused being well-groomed with being gay. Has anyone ever had an issue of looking straight? So why is looking gay such an issue? You're gay. Accept yourself for everything that makes you unique. If anyone tells you to tone it down, and how "not to look gay" the problem is with them. Not you. They are the ones having problems with you the way you are. Hemnes 1 Love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovehandle Posted July 7, 2017 Report Share Posted July 7, 2017 On 2/7/2017 at 3:32 PM, Guest hitthegym said: I gym so much to look manly. Also alter my standing posture to split my legs and hip and crotch protrude slightly forward. Yet whenever I wear a fitting low cut tanktop I get mixed confusing comments. Some say 'wahh very sexy' some say 'huhh so gay'. Different flower appeal to different eyes. gym itself means having one possibility of being gay (didn't u read the saunas of what prawns and all the muscular mary standing at the walls awaiting for their runway show?) a married man who have child likely will not be bothered w gym (married man doesn't mean old uncle , some get married at 20 something) a man is himself a man without the need to build extra muscles to define himself further I agree with this: to hit the bulleyes, I will pick some unfit (not too large size lah)for sure they are straights, but quite a high % of a perky butt, or a gym goer that is constantly into muscles-bulking, very likely are....look at some of the instagram or FB photos of such gym pics, and from some of their dialogues/content sharing, it all give away that they are very likely to be gay I never like Generalising , I agree there are VERY rare exception nevertheless tomcat 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tomcat Posted July 7, 2017 Report Share Posted July 7, 2017 what's wrong with looking gay? that's what you are, you are a gay man. so look gay - can be gay feminine, gay masculine, any which gay, any which way. those who have comments, they are only comments. just words and noise. you don't need to respond or care. you are a strong gay man, and strength does not yield to nonsense. lovehandle and max001 2 🌑🌒🌓🌔🌕🌖🌗🌘🌑 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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