MotherCat Posted January 18, 2015 Report Share Posted January 18, 2015 Think it is ridiculousI m here cos TG forums for locals are pathetic.And now hear gay men find it hard to make friends.We live in a world divided against itself, don't you think? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EasleyLim Posted January 18, 2015 Report Share Posted January 18, 2015 Unless your whole identity revolves around your sexual orientation, it isn't really that hard to find like-minded people. I'm sure there are plenty of people here who are writers, poets, engineers, gamers, scientists, food enthusiast, etc. Try using those as a basis to reach out to others who happens to be gay. At worst, you get a buddy to fanboy over your shared interest. At best, you get a buddy to fanboy over your shared interest AND talk about gay stuff.Honestly, if you didn't meet your hetero friends through their sexual orientation why would you think you would meet homo friends any differently? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Glyph Posted July 11, 2015 Report Share Posted July 11, 2015 The ones who post ads are guilty, in this case, benefit of the doubt is given for TS, but not for the ones who are obviously trying to solicit on the main forum. All of you (members) are getting a warning point each. Let this also be a reminder to all, that you should know better than to reply to such posts with "PM me" or your whatever chat ID. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Curiousmly96 Posted July 11, 2015 Report Share Posted July 11, 2015 This is my second thread. I believe i was misunderstood. I was not self advertising. I was merely asking for tips on how to like start the ball rolling for myself. Im really new to this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Curiousboy96 Posted July 11, 2015 Report Share Posted July 11, 2015 So i was misunderstood in my previous thread. I was not self advertising. Im merely asking for tips on how to meet with people and actually wanting to try. Ive been very curious and i dont know how to get the ball rolling? Any advise? Im new here. <stats remove by mod> ======GM Note. You might not be aware that you are posting ads. Even after you had been warned, You still post ad. Then you really need to be slapped. Go post in Personal folder if you are looking for sex. Anyone posting ads here in this post will be all given 1 week suspension. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SGRainbow Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 Hi there guys, It is alright to be afraid and unsure when it comes to meeting people face-to-face for the first time or exploring the community. There are many things to do and see as well besides going to the clubs, pubs and saunas. For a start, you could check out the community groups that are available here in Singapore. There are some which run programmes and events that cater to specific groups of people. Most of these events are private so if you are not out, it is a safe platform for you to meet new friends. SGRainbow is a non-profit community social group for GBQ men aged 18 to 35 in Singapore. You may email sgrainbow@gmail.com for queries on our programmes, or to be added into our mailing lists. Visit our website to find out more: http://linktr.ee/sgrainbow.2022 Like us: Facebook Copyright 2009 - 2016 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
benben Posted April 13, 2016 Report Share Posted April 13, 2016 How do i get to know more people ? why is it so difficult? Only the good lookings ones is worth more to be your friends? I tried hard to look for friends, always find people do not reply on the apps, so what for are u putting ur picture up there in all those apps, what are those people seeking?? pls advice. :((( Since people always love to be shy and waiting for others to approach, once approach you last seen it, no courtesy to even type (i am not interested). Are u selling smt ? and waiting for the best to come or are u here to make friends ? really confused !! do i have to look good just to find friends? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yoyo74 Posted April 13, 2016 Report Share Posted April 13, 2016 Some times people especially those seeking LTR also want good looking friends so that they will have a chance to develop further. If u really want to find friends, u should join an interest group. For me i join vegetarian group and jogging group and mix around. Its much more easier to make friends in a group setting than 1 on 1 meeting. 1 on 1 meeting normally got more expectations than making friends. benben 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cube3 Posted April 14, 2016 Report Share Posted April 14, 2016 15 hours ago, benben said: How do i get to know more people ? why is it so difficult? Only the good lookings ones is worth more to be your friends? I tried hard to look for friends, always find people do not reply on the apps, so what for are u putting ur picture up there in all those apps, what are those people seeking?? pls advice. :((( Since people always love to be shy and waiting for others to approach, once approach you last seen it, no courtesy to even type (i am not interested). Are u selling smt ? and waiting for the best to come or are u here to make friends ? really confused !! do i have to look good just to find friends? Try starting your own interest thread and have members join in? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kingbitch Posted April 14, 2016 Report Share Posted April 14, 2016 16 hours ago, benben said: How do i get to know more people ? why is it so difficult? Only the good lookings ones is worth more to be your friends? I tried hard to look for friends, always find people do not reply on the apps, so what for are u putting ur picture up there in all those apps, what are those people seeking?? pls advice. :((( Since people always love to be shy and waiting for others to approach, once approach you last seen it, no courtesy to even type (i am not interested). Are u selling smt ? and waiting for the best to come or are u here to make friends ? really confused !! do i have to look good just to find friends? Join yoyo74's running group on Sundays! I might turn up this Sunday (April 17) if I feel garang enough this Sunday morning. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
upshot Posted April 14, 2016 Report Share Posted April 14, 2016 (edited) I want ot have good friend. Full Stop. I don't really think anything sexuality is a pivotal point for good friendship..... unless your idea for doing so is if it might lead to sex as an option. I would never let sex ruin a good relationship. Edited April 14, 2016 by upshot jkltre 1 ** Comments are my opinions, same as yours. It's not a 'Be-All-and-End-All' view. Intent's to thought-provoke, validate, reiterate and yes, even correct. Opinion to consider but agree to disagree. I don't enjoy conflicted exchanges, empty bravado or egoistical chest pounding. It's never personal, tribalistic or with malice. Frank by nature, means, I never bend the truth. Views are to broaden understanding - Updated: Nov 2021. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted July 25, 2016 Report Share Posted July 25, 2016 Hi all, I'd like some advice regarding meeting other gay guys. I'm 24, and I can honestly say that I've never met another gay guy before (or more likely, I have, and I just didn't know they were gay). I'm not much of an outgoing person, and neither am I the type to use Grindr. I would like to explore my community, but I would like to do it gradually. A few of my female friends suggested volunteering with Oogachaga or SGRainbow. Does anyone have any experience with these 2 groups? What are the people like? Would you mind sharing your stories? What other groups would you recommend volunteering with? Also, which gay bar would you guys recommend for someone who has never been exposed to the Singapore gay scene yet? I am somewhat of a prude . Are there other good avenues to meet fellow gay guys? Thank you all! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slimboy Posted July 25, 2016 Report Share Posted July 25, 2016 I'm an adhoc volunteer for SGRainbow. You can always read their website and wait for the next window for their volunteer recruitment. I've also never been to any gay bar or gay scene before so I wouldn't rush on it. I would say just do small meet like perhaps one to one or in a small group. If you like jogging you can join me and like-minded guys who are into jogging to keep fit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest :-( Posted July 25, 2016 Report Share Posted July 25, 2016 Ts, you want to go gay bar to drink or hook up gays? Join a group to start with. Gays are just like any other guys but they prefer to meet dicks than pussies Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EQUINOXx Posted July 25, 2016 Report Share Posted July 25, 2016 omg yeah im in the same boat as you too! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovehandle Posted October 27, 2016 Report Share Posted October 27, 2016 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johny Ng Posted October 27, 2016 Report Share Posted October 27, 2016 I guess Loner are the same boat as me, have been wondering how gay people make friends with other as I see Sauna is more into fun and sex then knowing each other more(I'm kinda social akward). The struggle I have is that I live in a homophobic country(Malaysia is listed top 5 homophobic country), thus I have to always pretend I'm not interested in man but in truth I always admire any guy I find rather cute. So, is rather rare to find gay guy in this country nor any gay event is hosted in this town(Ipoh, Perak). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phewphew Posted October 27, 2016 Report Share Posted October 27, 2016 Even if there are events I will be too scared to show face xD, social anxiety problems T.T Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Astroboy69 Posted April 27, 2017 Report Share Posted April 27, 2017 Feeling alone at this stage in life - how do I get to meet more pple vpwest 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EasleyLim Posted April 28, 2017 Report Share Posted April 28, 2017 Interest group. Meet people based on common interests instead sexual orientation. Astroboy69 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Neh Neh Posted April 28, 2017 Report Share Posted April 28, 2017 Take a MRT ride round and round at peak hours. Sure can meet thousands in a day Astroboy69 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Astroboy69 Posted April 28, 2017 Report Share Posted April 28, 2017 Hahahah I wish life was soooooo simple Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kimochi Posted April 28, 2017 Report Share Posted April 28, 2017 Sauna ~ Astroboy69 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Astroboy69 Posted April 28, 2017 Report Share Posted April 28, 2017 Hahahha well Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Creevie Posted April 28, 2017 Report Share Posted April 28, 2017 I recently got feel to go gay bars and chillax. Saunas is for sex. Grindr and Jack'D maybe a little bit of chance la if u know how to market urself well by having a decent pic and an interesting profile. Interest groups sound effective too. I like piano, ktv, Japanese language and anime, gymming, etc. Try meeting ppl like that ba. Astroboy69 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Astroboy69 Posted April 28, 2017 Report Share Posted April 28, 2017 Thanks for the continued suggestions guys!:-))) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Hot Swimmer Posted April 28, 2017 Report Share Posted April 28, 2017 HypeRise clubbing at Altimate on sunday Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beefycub Posted April 28, 2017 Report Share Posted April 28, 2017 Here... I would say post your dick on the show-your-dick thread? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Creevie Posted April 28, 2017 Report Share Posted April 28, 2017 (edited) 1 hour ago, Guest Hot Swimmer said: HypeRise clubbing at Altimate on sunday Who u going with huh? Got clubbing nxt time can jio me again man. This Sun evening I have some tame activity: Teo Heng. Edited April 28, 2017 by Creevie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Bottomless Posted May 4, 2017 Report Share Posted May 4, 2017 Me too!!!!!! Do they bite? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Incredible! Posted May 4, 2017 Report Share Posted May 4, 2017 OMG you can talk to women about your secret but cannot face guys/gals of the same ilk? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
noswilnat90 Posted May 21, 2017 Report Share Posted May 21, 2017 Recently, I found that I have not been making new friends. Switching on Grindr, Jackd, etc and the messages were either "top/bottom" or "you have place?". What a disappointment! Just wondering how do you forge new AJ friendships? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Lol Posted May 21, 2017 Report Share Posted May 21, 2017 What's the point? If you're not rich and popular no one gives a damn about you. At 30's people will only want to know you for benefits or if you're rich, if you have neither they will run away. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
noswilnat90 Posted May 21, 2017 Report Share Posted May 21, 2017 (edited) 5 minutes ago, Guest Lol said: What's the point? If you're not rich and popular no one gives a damn about you. At 30's people will only want to know you for benefits or if you're rich, if you have neither they will run away. Thank you! You are not wrong. What I meant was though "friends who might not care about the above". Well if new friends come to me because they want to learn my skills or forge new business.. why not? Anyway, life and friendship aren't just about money and benefits. If so, what difference do they have (if they care) with those lust-seekers on grindr? Edited May 21, 2017 by noswilnat90 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Lol Posted May 21, 2017 Report Share Posted May 21, 2017 They are actually equal if not worse than the sluts in social apps. At least after the hookup you will not hear from them again. Fake friends will pretend to like and listen to you, sometimes they will be by your side for years pretending to be the listening ear. Then one day when you are down and can no longer benefit them, they will avoid you like a cockroach. In reality, true friends you can count only with one hand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThePineapple Posted May 21, 2017 Report Share Posted May 21, 2017 (edited) How... Do things you like... Offline that is... and be the one approach them to spark a conversation... Just like how i get to know 2 totally stranger from baseketball while playing friendly match with them... To maintain the friendship... it's up to you and them to continue le... as you can't hold a friendship alone (ie takes 2 hands to clap) Edited May 21, 2017 by ThePineapple amr94 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ArchDragon Posted May 21, 2017 Report Share Posted May 21, 2017 You have to be very lucky on social media/apps. I managed to find my bff on a dating app. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Javenhope Posted May 21, 2017 Report Share Posted May 21, 2017 32 minutes ago, ArchDragon said: You have to be very lucky on social media/apps. I managed to find my bff on a dating app. I am still trying.. wish me luck... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cirac Posted May 22, 2017 Report Share Posted May 22, 2017 Find some common thread besides sexual orientation - perhaps look for hobby groups or special interest groups and I'm sure it'll go well from there Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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