I Don't Need This Additional Stress

[xxxpartyboixxx]

Guys, hope this is not gonna be long winded. I try to cut it down at the best:

Me, moved back overseas after working and living there for many years. Joined my uncle's office. Things went well until they took on an intern (local uni student who is after work experience) As usual, I chat to any1 at work. This intern was extremely quiet and at times (slow) which makes me very irritated...but I still do my best to be professional and interact with every1 equally. Note that none of the colleagues know I am the boss' nephew.

One afternoon, my colleagues and myself were chatting and we touched on topics regarding gym and workout etc. This intern got interested and joined the conversation which lead to him blabbering non-stop til knock off time. Then, one fateful weekend, I had to print something which was under the care of this intern and it so happens that the file he left us with was corrupted. Because this was an urgent matter and that the intern do not come in everyday of the week, I was ordered to ring him with the office number and I asked him to resend the file. As the drama unfolds, I had to sit at a stupid workstation which had phone line issues, so I decided to just use my mobile phone and rang this intern telling him the file he resent was corrupted as well. So after all that, things were sorted and everything went well and fine. That night, at 11pm, the intern rang me on my mobile so I picked it up n he asked if I was free to chat, so I said sure...little did I know the conversation went on for almost 2 hours!!! He asked about gym, workout, nutrition etc and to all honesty, I felt I have taught him everything I have ever known about these topics. Even spoke about wanting to go to gym with me, be workout buddies and that he don't drive so hope I could give him a lift etc...hello? C'mon? I hardly know you...

Few days went by, the intern rang me again on my mobile at 11.40pm, I was asleep and usually turn my phone to silent mode. Then rang again one time when I was driving and another time when I was in the cinema watching movies with my friends. Then I texted him telling him that he caught me at bad times and what was the matter? No reply. Ok...then days went by, he again rang me at ungodly hours of the night when I was already asleep. So the next day, I texted him again saying missed your call, I was already asleep, what's up? After a few hours, a text reply came back as follows "you already cut off my calls so many times. nevermind, I will figure it out myself" I was dumbfounded and tempted to reply but decided to leave him with his own issues.

After that incident, I thought it would be peace until a call from him came at 12am on a Friday night/ Saturday morning. Although I was awake, I deliberately refused to answer a rude and inconsiderate call at that time. The following Monday, he appeared at work again after his 2 weeks off from work. The atmosphere was extremely awkward. He would sit with his back facing me although his workstation was just next to mine with the computer monitors facing the same direction. I thought, that's fine, if you wanna be childish, go ahead. The silence was broken around lunch time when he finally spoke to me. Both of us pretended nothing ever happened with the phone calls or sms.

Then, once in a while during work hours, he would turn and stare at me or when I am talking to the other colleagues. I find it very disturbing and annoying so I tilted my monitor to face as much away from him as possible so that my back would be facing him too. I realised also, that when he talks to me, he would speak extremely softly, stutter and mumble which makes me very irritated. I cannot stand people with no confidence or low self esteem or whatever. Even my other colleagues find this guy weird and feel that he is so quiet. This weirdo chooses only to talk to me and not the others. During lunch time, we would go out as a big group, I know he would like to sit next to me so I purposely planned my move and be seated in between 2 of my "normal" colleagues. During lunch, I would not look at him and only talk to my other colleagues. I mean, he has to learn to be more sociable cos the other colleagues and interns did try to talk to him as well but he die die choose to talk to me only. He is not young already 25 and almost finishing his studies. Another intern whom I got along with very well is only 20 and first year in uni, and yet this younger intern does not behave strangely or isolate himself etc. Then during work, the weirdo would try his best to find opportunities to talk to me, by asking me work related questions which any1 with common sense will know the answers...yet I kept a str8 face and answered his questions politely. My other colleagues also noticed that he kept turning his head staring at me during work hours. From time to time, this intern would ask me questions about his project which I totally have no idea of and I advised him to refer to the supervisors or the boss which he refused to for unknown reasons. I am not god, I do not know all the answers. I did tell him many times and clearly that I honestly have no idea of answers which he is seeking.

Last Thursday, I almost blew my top when he deliberately asked me a question and yet decided to resolve the matter his own way. I explained and told him this is the conventional way people resolve these matters and he was like, oh I know but I prefer to do it this way. So I said, if you wanna do it your way, do it your way... he was like oh but you said the conventional way is like so and so...I was this close to exploding. My other colleagues saw what happened and later told me that they have never seen such patience (referring to me) LOL. Time n time again, I clearly showed to him that I am very busy and have to time to chit chat or answer his silly questions but this guy just does not take the hint. Once he even saw me answering a phone call and running around doing printing etc and yet ask me, eh are you busy? Can I ask you something? I just snarled and said yes, can't you see? One time, out of the blue, he came and asked me for my facebook, I said no I don't have one. He said really? I thought it would be very popular in that country (where I was previously). I answered, yes, it is popular there but that does not mean I have to have one, right? Hence I made my stand not to give him my facebook LOL. Last Friday I took a day off from work due to flu. I was happily resting at home until I got a sms at around noon from this guy saying he was sorry for bothering me and misunderstand and hope I don't mind, signed with a smiley face. I was speechless..... here I am sick and almost dying and I still have to put up with this sh#t!!!!!!!

Guys, the bad news is, the colleague sitting on my left will be leaving the company soon and there will not be any1 to replace him for the time being (maybe 1 year or so) and I am left with this weirdo sitting on my right. I really do not want to have to face him everyday. It's bad enough that he behaves such a way, but me having no relief from him during work all 5 days in a week, it will be too unbearable. Oh yeah, who says I am free of disturbance during weekends or anytime since this sicko has my number and will abuse the right to reach me anytime with his "own fairy tale issues". I have not replied to any of his sms since but I really am tempted to say, hey man, there was no misunderstanding between us, just you and yourself in your dream world. Stop f#king contact me on my private number!!!

What should I do? I don't wanna sound thick skinned, I don't want to even think he likes me...ewww he is so not my cup of whatever...even if he is, with such personality / behavior, any1 would be turned off. I am already stressed out with my new environment, new job, new life etc...I don't need this additional stress!

[Guest Getting Laid]

What should I do? I don't wanna sound thick skinned, I don't want to even think he likes me...ewww he is so not my cup of whatever...even if he is, with such personality / behavior, any1 would be turned off. I am already stressed out with my new environment, new job, new life etc...I don't need this additional stress!

Aiya, he is the type of guy I used to be. All you need is to give him a good fxxk of his life and thereafter he will leave you alone or even quit his job. YOu must understand man can have menopause or hormone-strike anytime, anywhere. You need to satisfy him to avoid him going around the bush to get laid while you are clueless of his intention.

[slut]

sounds like a young cub is infatuated with you. and if you're going to treat him like the plague just because of this, then I think you're handling this the wrong way.

instead of griping online, shouldn't you just find a day and explain to him how you're feeling about the situation? That would help more.

[derryfawne]

I think he truly appreciated that you initiated to talk to him. Maybe he 'clicked' with you (not in the relationship sense, but maybe socially) and sort of want to talk to you more. But it's agreeable that whatever he's doing so far is a nuisance to you.

I echo slut's advice: find a time to talk to him personally on what you're thinking about this issue.

[Guest ohmygod]

i spent close to 10mins reading this and am gonna close it right after sending this.

[Guest Guest]

So I said, if you wanna do it your way, do it your way... he was like oh but you said the conventional way is like so and so...I was this close to exploding. My other colleagues saw what happened and later told me that they have never seen such patience (referring to me) LOL. Time n time again, I clearly showed to him that I am very busy and have to time to chit chat or answer his silly questions but this guy just does not take the hint.

no point talking to an immature young guy as he just wants your attention.

by giving him the attention when u dun like him, it can only get worse.

if he can ignore your colleagues except you, you can ignore him except your colleagues as well.

the best way to deal with such people is to ignore them and just get on with your own life.

by giving him any sort of attention, u are just bringing it upon yourself.... dun complain here then.

[Guest Over react]

both of you are just over react, simple thing what, talk less and do more...

come, lets read this sentence with me:"I m robot, I m robot, I m robot"...

so, remember, you are programmed to be a robot. so, you will only know replying 1 & 0, or “yes & no”... :whistle:

[gaycurious85]

drama queen + the annoying boy = long winded story.

why is it so hard to handle such cases? just ask him: what do you want? or tell him directly: dont call me after 9:30pm if unnecessary.

or if you're generous enough, just give him a fxxk to shut him up. If he likes you after that, use him as a slave. If he stops bothering you--> problem solved. : )

[winterboy]

i do have similar experience with u and i know it's really irritating to receive sms/ calls... wad i did is just ignore those sms/ calls and pretend i dint see them.. but since u're going to meet him everyday, it'll be better to ask him wad is it that he's looking for..

[Guest IanOh]

ur story very long,

:-)

but very interesting eh

haha

maybe he is in this forum also

so he may see ur post

haha

:-)

[Guest simple goes complicated]

drama queen + the annoying boy = long winded story.

why is it so hard to handle such cases? just ask him: what do you want? or tell him directly: dont call me after 9:30pm if unnecessary.

or if you're generous enough, just give him a fxxk to shut him up. If he likes you after that, use him as a slave. If he stops bothering you--> problem solved. : )

very mean hor...

[luke84]

had this kinda of guy in my office before.

just handle him professionally in work and refused to answer questions that is irrelevant to work

for sms wise, just tell him, sorry , i knock off after 7.

[Guest Beauty]

is it just me or are you bitches also tired of poor-me-so-attractive-get-unwanted-attention-all-the-time stories? Stop being so insecure that you have to keep telling yourselves you are damn hot, bitches! Haven't you bitches heard that it is those that has the least who spends the most time talking about it?

[xxxpartyboixxx]

I am asking for solutions honestly. Thank you to those who sincerely contributed. To those lame ass, why even bother replying when all you do is talk crap and make yourself look stupid.

[kennethhost]

Very obvious he like you looo..... Heheh.... Just tell him he is not your cup of tea/coffee/juice/beer, and you are attached, asked him don't disturb you in weekend. :thumb:

[Guest NiceFcuk]

I am asking for solutions honestly. Thank you to those who sincerely contributed. To those lame ass, why even bother replying when all you do is talk crap and make yourself look stupid.

aiyo aiyo. u've been in the scene for so long liao, still dunno what he wants meh? Or u pretend pretend come here how lian only? LOL. He just wants you to fcuk his bergin arse hard. Treat it as charity loh. Can get good karma leh. 日行一善 you know?

[Guest imseeker]

Very obvious he like you looo..... Heheh.... Just tell him he is not your cup of tea/coffee/juice/beer, and you are attached, asked him don't disturb you in weekend. :thumb:

I agree with this piece of advice, but xxxpartyboixxx, if you do it, please be tactful and don't hurt him.

People have long memories when it comes to others hurting them...

[Guest IanOh]

maybe next time when he call u again,

u can tell him that u are watching movie or having dinner with ur girlfriend

inconvenient to talk to him ah :-)